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Every Adult Should Live Alone at Some Point in Life
There is so much awesomeness in living by yourself! I have been living by myself for about 10 years now. I really enjoy it most of the time. Yes, sometimes I think I enjoy it a little too much and that perhaps it would be difficult for me to live with someone else, but hey—I can adapt. Anyone can adapt to living with someone else or adapt to living alone. I personally believe you should try both options at least once in your life to decide which you prefer.
Pros of Living Alone
Some of the great things you can do when you live by yourself are:
- Dance like no one is watching...because no one is watching! Go crazy!
- Walk around half-dressed or nude anytime you want.
- Watch terrible reality shows all weekend and never admit it to anyone.
- Talk to yourself (and answer your own questions, if you like.)
- Read without anyone annoying you.
- Sleep whenever you want.
- Stay awake as late as you'd like.
- Come and go whenever you want.
- Sing in the shower at the top of your lungs.
- Decorate your home entirely the way you want it.
- Adopt as many pets as you want and name them whatever you'd like.
- Eat cereal for dinner and pizza for breakfast.
- Be a slob.
- Be as neat as humanly possible, if that's what makes you happy.
- Sleep on whatever side of the bed you choose.
- Don't bother sharing any of your food.
- Be the all-mighty ruler of the remote control!
- There is no need to explain any of your actions.
- Snore, fart, or burp anytime you want without worrying about it.
- Make as much noise as humanly possible until your neighbors complain.
- Have anyone over at any time, day or night.
- Never clean up after anyone else!
Cons of Living Alone
In all fairness, there are certainly downsides to living by yourself. Not every day is a picnic, and that is why some of us who love being single eventually look for a companion. Although each day can be a learning experience living alone, you only have to experience some things once before you decide that you'd never like to do that again. There are valuable lessons to be learned from difficult times. Each adult should experience these character-building moments, but they can be painful.
Some of the negative aspects of living alone that make you a stronger, better person are:
- Crying yourself to sleep alone because of a difficult experience that day.
- Killing a spider on your own, or dealing with the mouse infestation in the kitchen without help.
- Learning the hard way that sometimes you must call the repairperson instead of fixing it yourself.
- Deciding whether you are going to pay your phone bill for the month or have enough food to eat since you can't afford both.
- Trying to figure out how to make yourself chicken noodle soup while you are sick.
- Having to get up and investigate that scary sound in the middle of the night on your own.
- Accidentally setting something on fire in the kitchen and then desperately trying to get the fire alarm to shut off before any of your neighbors notice.
- Finding nice ways to get rid of unwanted house guests without someone there to fake an emergency.
- Having to use duct tape to fix pretty much anything because there's no one to ask for help.
- Becoming that is "set in your ways" so that it becomes challenging to ever adapt to the habits of significant others, roommates, or family members who eventually move in.
Living Alone Will Teach You About Yourself
The bottom line is that everyone should have the opportunity to live alone at some point in their life. You discover things about yourself that you maybe didn't realize before. For instance, you might find out that you sleep much better without anyone else around. . .or that you can't sleep at all alone! Either way, you'll learn a valuable life lesson.
I am not trying to mock the people who don't live alone in any way—I am, however, pointing out that everyone should at least try to live alone at some point in life, if circumstances permit. Though you might think to try it temporarily—for, say, six weeks or so—living alone has to be a way of life for a while before you can really appreciate it. Even the worst aspects of living alone get easier over time, but without actually experiencing it for a while, one may never know that.
So, if you live with your parents or roommates but you can afford to move out on your own, give it a try. If you are unhappily married but don't have the nerve to leave your spouse because you've never lived alone, don't let fear be the only reason you stay.
It is a great learning experience to be single and live alone for a while, and you will grow as a person. If you've lived alone for years, but you no longer enjoy it, find someone else to live with for a while. Having a roommate can save you money! Or maybe a family member needs some live-in help. Basically, try living life more than one way and you might be pleasantly surprised at what you learn.