MsDora, former teacher and Christian counselor presents practical Scriptural principles for joyful everyday living.
Christian singles groups offer heaps of social benefits whether or not the individuals are looking for marriage.
- They foster a sense of belonging and lessen the sense of loneliness.
- They provide opportunity for connections and more intimate connectedness.
- They make it easy to see how individuals relate to different people.
- For those not interested in marriage, the groups meet the communal need for places to go, people to see, and things to do.
In order for the group to thrive, the activities must provide opportunity for the members to (1) learn something new, (2) do something helpful and (3) have fun. People Bingo is a favorite first activity, and there are ten other sharing projects–both religious and secular–which altogether meet the criteria mentioned.
(1) - People Bingo
Before the meeting, the host compiles a list of descriptions--making sure there is a description for each person present. It may mean calling invitees for information. From the list of unknown or little-known facts, guests try to identify each other.
(2) Share Stories
Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story (Psalm 107:2).
Reflecting on situations or events in your life, you can recall opportunities that come with adult singleness. For personal as well as group encouragement, take turns illustrating opportunities you received (1) just because you’re single; (2) despite the fact that you’re single (3) that you could not have received if you were not single.
(3) Share Promises
Your promise preserves my life (Psalm 119:50).
Conduct a Bible search and add a selected number of Bible promises appropriate for each category below. Share why the promise you choose is suitable for that category.
|Young Unmarried||Adult Never Married||Single Parent||Divorced||Widowed|
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord," plans to prosper you . . . and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
For the eyes of the Lord range . . . to strengthen those . . . fully committed to him. 2 Chronicles 16:9
I'm the one who's on your side, defending your cause, rescuing your children. Isaiah 49:25 TM
He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Deuteronomy 31:8
For I am the Lord . . . who takes hold of your right hand and sys to you, Do not fear; I will help you. Isaiah 41:3
(4) Share Kindness
Be kind and compassionate to one another (Ephesians 4:32).
Choose one or more homes where two to four hours of free baby-sitting would be appreciated. Have a fun day in the park with the children. For the rest of the week, you’ll find yourself giving thanks for opportunities which you usually take for granted.
(5) Share Connection
Encourage one another and build each other up (1 Thessalonians 5:11).
Plan a convenient time to reach out to a previous member of the group who moved away or has temporarily relocated for work or for study. Make his/her day with a teleconference or video call. Even though personal contacts have been made, the group effort will certainly feed his/her sense of belonging.
(6) Share Skills
Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others (1Peter 4:10).
Some of your friends in the group perform certain tasks better than most people you know. It may be decorating a room, cooking a specific recipe, laying out a newsletter, or negotiating a buyer's deal. Make space in your program to listen and learn from each other. Be generous (but honest) with your compliments to the sharer; people who live alone do not regularly hear compliments.
(7) Share Love
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God (1 John 4:7).
Have your brand of Valentine's Day celebration any time of year. Share poems and cards to affirm each other and appreciate your friendships. Make original poetry optional and limit to four or six lines. Also suggest optional additions of flowers, teddy bears, angel figurines etc. Plan ahead to make the occasion tasteful and touching --including appropriate hugs in full view of the entire group.
(8) Share Inspiration
Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones Proverbs 16:24)
Search for quotations on singleness, friendship, or beauty or whatever topic the group considers important. Ask for submissions from your email friends or friends in your social network like Facebook and Twitter. Organize a session for judging and voting for the top five (or ten) quotes. Don't be influenced by who submits the quote. You're judging the popularity of the quote, not the popularity of the group member. Your choices could generate content for future meetings.
(9) Share Marriage Humor
A cheerful heart is good medicine (Proverbs 17:22).
Invite three or four married couples to one of your meetings and have fun with them. Tell them your plan beforehand to make sure that they are willing. Put them in the hot seat and play games in which they reveal humorous answers to questions which are somewhat personal but definitely not private. Announce that the events of this meeting will not be discussed-- not even with group members who are absent. Information easily takes on different meaning when reported outside the moment.
|Four Service Ideas for Singles|
(1) mentoring youth who need guidance
(2) helping divorcees and children adjust
(3) comforting widows and children in grief
(4) providing fellowship for new church visitors
(10) Share a Ministry
Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many (1 Corinthians 12:14).
Based on the experiences and talents of the group, organize or participate in a ministry of service. Individual members of the group may already be involved in church and community projects. Still nothing will make your group bond in spirit and unite in purpose, like serving together. You will learn that loving one another within the group makes it easier to work together in sharing your love with others.
(11) Share A Prayer
Pray one for another (James 5:16).
The weight of life's circumstances causes some individuals to bend lower than others. The burden seems to lift, however, when someone comes along who cares enough to hold up a friend in prayer. Have prayer sessions in which members are honest about their concerns and pray for each other with passion and perseverance. The result will be new moral and spiritual strength, and a new, exciting sense of community.
Christian single adults who connect with other Christian single adults create family-like relationships with people they choose; and the more they get together, the happier they will be.
All Bible quotations are from the New International Version unless noted otherwise.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on February 13, 2016:
Yemi, thanks for your feedback. I've also noticed the second-class citizen treatment of singles in some churches; however, usually among the singles, there are enough talent to improve the situation for themselves. Blessings on you, too.
Yemi on February 13, 2016:
This is a great idea, it was only just be brought to my attention the way singles are treated as Churches celebrate family and marriages. Thank you so much for this, may God continue to bless you.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on July 06, 2015:
Thanks, Serenity. Yes, we need to pay attention to our singles. Your kind comment encourages me.
Serenity Miller from Brookings, SD on July 05, 2015:
Good thoughts and solid suggestions. Singles often tend to get lost in the family focus of the church. These are some good recommendations to bring to the planning table. :) Thanks for sharing!
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on March 18, 2014:
Raffaella, would you like to start a group, or have some of your friends start one with you? I am presently not affiliated with a singles group, but I encourage you to consider starting one and I am willing to offer you some long-distance help.
Raffaella on March 18, 2014:
Hi, do you have a group in Swindon?
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 23, 2012:
Glad you approve, teacherjoe52. Thank you.
teacherjoe52 on January 22, 2012:
These are great ideas.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 21, 2011:
How could I have forgotten to respond to you, Paradise 7 and Saboni. Now, with the spirit of thanksgiving in the air, please accept my thanks for reading and commenting.
Saboni on July 19, 2011:
Thanks for these wonderful suggestions. I especially like Share Promises and Share Inspiration, bu they're all interesting.
Paradise7 from Upstate New York on July 15, 2011:
Excellent way for the single believer to mix socially and get out. Great hub, thank you!