How to Pretend to Be a Couple at a Party

Updated on June 18, 2018
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I have suffered through some terrible and hilarious dating and friend experiences, and came away with some advice that I'm happy to share.

If you expect this to work, you will need a few things: a “date”, a sense of humor, a modicum of acting ability, and some serious cojones. Your date will require the same. Are you two up for it? If so, read on.

Sometimes you just need to show off your dance moves, at any cost.
Sometimes you just need to show off your dance moves, at any cost. | Source

A Fake Couple? Why?

There are a few reasons why you may want to be part of a pretend couple for a night:

  • You’ve received an invitation to an affair that requires a +1 and you’re not currently dating anyone
  • Your real girlfriend or boyfriend is unavailable for the night
  • You want to practice the dance moves you paid for
  • You are afraid of not knowing anyone at the party
  • You want to make an ex or potential mate jealous. (Personally, I don’t think jealousy is a valid reason to attempt this charade, but it seems to work on television…)

So pick a friend (or a friend of a friend) and have a blast! But tv isn’t real life, so in order to make it believable, here are some things to remember.

Pick Someone You Find Attractive

If you’re already pretending to be a couple, why not have someone nice to look at?

Also, choose someone with whom you enjoy hanging out (you will be together for several hours, after all) and consider the qualities you appreciate in a real date, so your interactions don’t feel forced: for example, someone charming, intelligent, funny, or articulate.

This is too much affection...
This is too much affection... | Source

If you were to invent a fake relationship, why would you do it?

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Lay Out Some Ground Rules

This is especially important if you have engaged a friend who “plays for the other team”. Need suggestions?

  • No flirting with other men or women
  • No mention of embarrassing escapades
  • Open doors for your date and generally be attentive
  • Offer to bring your date something to drink
  • Talk up your date to remind others how great they are, and provide reasons

Whisper Sweet Nothings

Be sure to “tease” your date occasionally. All couples do this, and it will seem natural.

Don’t hang on him or her too much as overly demonstrative public displays of affection may turn the stomachs of other attendees… but intermittent, affectionate snuggles are completely appropriate.

Use a pet name you two have previously agreed upon.

Secret whispers from your “date” will make you smile… so what if they are only telling you the weather forecast?

Also, try not to go out of your way to "overact" -- even strangers can tell when someone close to them physically is acting in an unusual manner.

Example: You met at work in real life. Make it interesting by explaining where you worked together or remembering what he or she was wearing.

Example: You met online in real life. Choose a niche chat room or forum (be ready with the topic, in case anyone asks!) or name an obscure site. This is ideal because unless you are at a niche party, no one will be likely to know it.

... but this is probably not quite enough.
... but this is probably not quite enough. | Source

Remember the Backstory

Have a back story ready… in other words, how did you meet? Stick with a true story, then employ misdirection to change the subject. Keep it believable, a little unusual, and always charming (quick sidelong, loving, appreciative glances at each other will work wonders).

Examples of misdirection include:

  • Steering the conversation away from the two of you by exclaiming about a mutual boss or bringing up the bar down the street, then letting the topic expand organically and mingling with other guests
  • Explaining that your date’s handle attracted you to them or rattling off a list of topics you remember chatting about... then asking the other person how they met their date.

Embellishing a story is acceptable, but keep it to a minimum. You don’t want to be caught in the act!

Avoid Bald-Faced Lies

Slight exaggeration makes sense (this is a party after all, and no one wants to be a boring guest) but inventing an alter ego with an education you do not have, friends you do not know, or a job you do not hold can be foolish. Remember Seinfeld's George Costanza’s posing as a marine biologist to impress a woman? Not everyone will be as lucky as that whale.

Finally, Get Out of There!

Don’t stay at the party too long. The longer you keep up the simulation, the greater the chance of your fake relationship taking a wrong turn.

What to Do if a Friend Asks You for This Favor

If you are approached by a friend and asked to be part of their fake couple scheme, you have options – you can either accept or graciously decline.

This may be one of the most awkward compliments you will ever receive, but why not go for it? At the very least, you’ll enjoy some food, and the two of you will share a funny secret (and a funny story!) to tell your other friends.

Or, Just Go to the Party Alone

But before you take the plunge into a fake relationship, ask yourself why you don’t want to go to the party alone:

  • If you’re concerned that you won’t know anyone, think again. At the minimum, you know the host(s). Otherwise, why would you even be invited?
  • So your main squeeze is unavailable? How will arriving with a fake squeeze improve the relationship with your main squeeze?
  • If you are not currently dating anyone and the invitation demands you bring someone, rethink your relationship with the persons who sent such an invitation. I have heard of this senseless situation (who makes these rules anyway, the Couples Police?), but have never been in it personally. If you must bring someone, consider a platonic friend instead.
  • As for making an ex jealous, you would do well to remove yourself from that situation. Anyone who falls for a trick like a make-believe boyfriend is not worth your time, let alone the time of your fake boyfriend.

Would you ever invent a boyfriend or girlfriend?

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    • SieberSounds profile image

      Ellie Shields 

      4 years ago from USA

      I saw the title of this hub and my first thought was 'I'm not the only one who does this then'. Some of these points hit home- thank you for writing this!

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      Rachel Vega 

      7 years ago from Massachusetts

      Thanks so much, Ken! It's a "date"! ;^) And happy holidays right back atcha.

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      Ken Taub 

      7 years ago from Long Island, NY

      Clever concept. One of my fave How To articles yet. If one of us gets invited to a Conn, upstate NY or far Western Mass party, let's try it! Happy holidays Cat. Ken

    • theclevercat profile imageAUTHOR

      Rachel Vega 

      7 years ago from Massachusetts

      Lol, Teaches! In theory, it should work; however, real life is real life and there are no scripts!

      No, not everyone does this, but for the people who do, this will be a good guide. ;^) My personal choice is simply to schlep along a platonic friend instead :-).

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      Dianna Mendez 

      7 years ago

      This should be a TV sitcom! How interesting but I can see the humor written within the content. Do people really do this? How fascinating.

    • theclevercat profile imageAUTHOR

      Rachel Vega 

      7 years ago from Massachusetts

      Sharkye11, that is a great idea! Thanks so much for the suggestion and comment. :-)

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      Jayme Kinsey 

      7 years ago from Oklahoma

      That is definitely interesting. I don't think I could act that well, but I could see it coming in handy for those family get-togethers where single people are pestered about their dating status!


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