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Quotes and Encouragement for Single Christians
Some singles appear lonely and desperate while others are admired for seeming fully satisfied. Self-worth and purpose are some of the factors which make singleness look attractive on a person. Lack of these virtues makes the single individual look underprivileged. Singleness adapts to the mental shape of the wearer.
The following six verses* empower happy singles to maximize the joy of singleness and encourage other singles to surrender their unhappy perspectives for the possibility of complete joy (John 15:11). There is good news in each category.
The Young Adult Single
(1) The Lord says, “I will guide you along the best pathway for your life.” —Psalm 32:8
For some, but not for all, the best pathway leads to the married life. There is no Bible verse which promises marriage to everyone; but there are many which promise to all a life of joy; and joy is particularly attractive to the young.
The young person needs guidance—to choose friends wisely, and to build healthy relationships. Some are blessed with godly parents and mentors, and that gives them an advantage; but God provides guidance to the less advantaged as well.
Through a vine-branch connection (John 15:3) with God, young adults can hear Him talk to their consciences. He also speaks through the study of Bible principles on relationships, and through counsel from godly people. They can seek advice on how to conduct themselves on dates, what qualities to look for in a possible spouse, and whatever other issues may call for guidance.
Developing an early trust in God’s guidance will help prepare the young for acceptance of His leading into marriage or singleness.
The Mature Adult Single
(2) "For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord, “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope." —Jeremiah 29:11
When mature individuals find themselves single, they may need encouragement to wait.
They may be disappointed over failed relationships. Perhaps they never met anyone they could consider a marriage candidate. They may have penciled in marriage on their schedule, after other goals which are taking more time than expected. No matter the reason, it helps to accept that the God who controls life’s circumstances also has their interest at heart.
For those who get lonely, Mandy Hale advises:
“A season of loneliness and isolation is when the caterpillar gets its wings. Remember that next time you feel alone.”
While waiting, they can grow virtues like patience and wisdom. They can learn relationship and job skills. They can search for insight about the plans which God has designed to bring them into a bright future.
The Single Parent
(3) For I will fight those who fight you, and I will save your children. —Isaiah 49:25
No one can doubt the difficulty of single parenting. With the various kinds of pressure placed on a parent who might also belong to other single categories, the responsibility of parenting is a full time job.
In addition to providing for their needs, the children need continual protection from online predators, neighborhood sex offenders, drug pushers and many other kinds of criminals. Two parents can hardly keep up with the task, let alone a single parent.
God made this promise to the Israelites after their captivity and exploitation by the Babylonians. He promised that His intervention would regain for them all they had lost.
Whether the children have already turned delinquent, or still in their stages of innocence, God promises the single parent that He will take on the battle of saving their children; they just have to work alongside Him and believe.
The Divorced Single
(4) Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you. —Deuteronomy 31:8
Married people intend to spend their lives together until death interrupts them. When the marriage ends in divorce, they feel hopeless, helpless and lifeless.
God tells them to trust Him for their complete healing. No more fear of abandonment because He is always there. No more doubt concerning the future because He personally leads the way. No more broken promises because He keeps His Word.
The scars may still show, and some pressures will hurt the wound, but there will always be the kind of support from Someone stronger than a human spouse.
The Widowed Single
(5) Father to the fatherless, defender of widows—this is God, whose dwelling is holy. —Psalm 68:5
During the initial stage of grief, widows and widowers experience a complexity of emotions— sorrow at the loss, guilt over something they neglected to do, anger at the condition that caused the demise. Later, they face loneliness, helplessness and fear. These emotions can render them incapable of managing their lives—unless they have a more-than-human support. This is where the Holy God proves Himself to them.
The Hebrew word translated defender is also translated judge, champion, and advocate. For themselves and their fatherless children, God offers to stand up for them, making the way for them to access the blessings which they may have expected to come through the late spouse and parent.
God puts His foot down and declares that regardless of their loss, they will have the abundant life which is the right of every believer.
Singles Facts and Statistics
The Single by Choice
(6) Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another. —1 Corinthians 7:7
Individuals have the right to determine their social status. Some call it a choice while others accepting it as a calling, or a gift —to remain unmarried while pursuing and fulfilling their life’s mission.
Consider the cases of people who get married against their better judgment. Eventually, they lead miserable lives or they end the relationship by divorce or abandonment. It becomes clear then, that it is better to remain single if marriage does not suit the individual’s purpose.
John Piper affirms:
"To be single in Christ is not a falling short of God's best, but a path of covenant-keeping obedience that many are called to walk."
However, the apostle added to his advice for singles: “But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry” (verse 9). The gift of singleness comes with the responsibility to remain sexually abstinent. Since sexual urges are natural, believers who choose to be single are choosing to rely on God to uphold them with His supernatural strength.
God who is able to maintain the gifts He gives. Singleness, like all other gifts, is to be cherished and enjoyed.
*Bible verses are quoted from the New Living Translation.
© 2011 Dora Weithers