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101 Reasons to Stay Single

The Big List Of The Benefits Of Bachelorism

Author’s Note:

Thank you all for your support! When I originally published this article years ago, I never expected it to become so popular! Now that I'm happily engaged and this article has been optioned to be adapted into a TV series, I've created a new list called 101 Reasons to Get (and Stay!) Married. Enjoy, and whether you're single or married, remember: it's your life. Live it however you want to live it.

1. Everything in your house is yours.

2. You don't have to hide gifts, receipts, and other purchase records in ridiculous places.

3. If you buy something "yummy", you don't have to buy twice as much.

4. The only person you have to dress up for is your boss.

5. Your late nights are all yours.

6. Less stuff to move when you do move

7. One bedroom apartments feel more spacious with only one person

8. You never have to ask for permission to orgasm.

9. Only the doctor can tell you what to eat

10. You decide what to shave and when

11. Valentine's Day costs less

12. No anniversaries to remember

13. No extra birthdays to remember

14. No extra family to shop for during the holidays

15. No irritating in-laws to deal with

16. You can walk around naked whenever you want.

17. Only your sense of decency has any say about where you leave your dirty clothes.

18. You don't have to share

19. You don't have to change your life because someone else has jealousy issues.

20. The only insecurities you have to deal with are your own.

21. Getting that out-of-state job doesn't hinge on what someone else wants or thinks.

22. The only people complaining about music volume are the neighbors.

23. You can fall asleep anywhere without getting any guff for it in the morning.

24. You don't have to use the "headache" excuse anymore.

25. You don't have to worry as much about the "oops, I'm pregnant" factor.

26. The only person who goes through your stuff is you.

27. The only person who sees your inbox is you.

28. More time to spend with friends.

29. You don't have to live with someone who can't stand your parents.

30. If you want to go for pizza at 3am, no one stops you or asks you why.

31. You can date more freely.

32. The cute secretary is fair game.

33. The whole wedding mess? Yeah, none of that to deal with.

34. You don't have to share your closet with anyone else.

35. You always get to watch what you want.

36. You always get to read what you want.

37. You decide when to crawl into bed.

38. You can throw yourself into bed and snore without dire consequences.

39. No one else's annoying (or disgusting) habits to deal with at home.

40. The only fetishes you have to deal with are your own.

41. You can talk to yourself without people saying "what?" or worrying about your sanity.

42. There are religious benefits, if you're into that kind of thing.

43. Single people can still adopt, if you're into that kind of thing.

44. The only annoying friends you have to deal with are your own.

45. You don't ever have to wonder if you really love the person you live with.

46. There's only one way to do things- your way.

47. You are the master of the thermostat.

48. The only messes you have to clean up are your own.

49. The only disasters you have to fix are your own.

50. If an argument starts, you can walk away... forever.

51. You don't have to make excuses for yourself.

52. The whole "old maid" thing is so last century.

53. Dinner can be as simple as a frozen burrito.

54. When you eat, you buy and cook for one.

55. No one else is going to eat your leftovers.

56. No one else is going to raid your stash of sweets (you don't even have to hide it!)

57. You don't have to share your bed with anyone.

58. You can even eat in bed if you want to.

59. You can decorate the entire house according to your taste.

60. The only person spending your money is you.

61. Three words: Marriage Tax Penalty.

62. The only debts you have to pay off are your own.

63. Kids with single parents can get more financial aid.

64. Bickering couples are at best a relieving reminder and at worst hilarious.

65. Less pressure about body weight.

66. Married people are fatter on average anyway.

67. Suddenly, it's okay to look (and flirt).

68. It's easier to focus on your career and your dreams.

69. You're the only person who gets to decide if you "need to make more money."

70. The only mood swings you have to deal with are your own.

71. There are a lot of lonely and violently psychopathic people out there.

72. You don't have to change your religious beliefs one bit.

73. There are 6.5 Billion other fish in the sea. That's 6,500 x 1 million. Yeah.

74. Porn is cheaper, easier, and comes in more varieties.

75. The toilet seat only moves when you move it.

76. Cohabitation is legal, fun, and less of a hassle than marriage.

77. You don't have to deal with someone else's kids all the time.

78. Divorce is pricey.

79. You don't have to deal with "compliment fishing."

80. Fewer minutes spent with a phone attached to your ear.

81. No endless nagging.

82. You never have to answer the phone "right now!"

83. You can drink what you want, where you want, and as much as you want.

84. No doubts or worries about someone sleeping around.

85. Things stay where you put them.

86. You can meditate and have your quiet time when you need it.

87. The only thing whining about not being fed is your cat.

88. You can take out the trash when you feel like it.

89. You can shower or bathe when you want, as often as you want, for as long as you want.

90. You can even leave the door open when you shower.

91. The longer you wait, the better you know yourself, instead of someone else.

92. Children learn how to treat themselves by watching how you treat yourself.

93. A bad relationship is like a lingering knife wound- it continues to ruin your whole day.

94. You can be as eccentric as you want.

95. Your car can be as dirty or unusual or artistic as you want.

96. You decide how long it takes to get ready.

97. Say goodbye to heartache, dumping, and being dumped.

98. You get your weekends for you and your projects.

99. You can be the wild friend with all the really juicy stories.

100. You can still get laid. Maybe even more often. Certainly with more variety.

101. Being single and staying single isn't selfish. It should be seen as putting your happiness first (Where it should be.)

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  • 101 Reasons to Get (and Stay!) Married
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    Due to the success of 101 Reasons to Stay Single years after it was published (and now that I am, in fact, happily engaged,) I decided to put together a new list– 101 reasons to get (and stay!) Married. Enjoy. :)


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marcofratelli 7 years ago from Australia

"You never have to ask for permission to orgasm." ahahahah - great hub!


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trish1048 7 years ago

This screams it's 'all about me'.  Nothing wrong with that if if it makes someone happy.

Quite a list!  I imagine there are probably another hundred reasons to stay single.  I've remained single after losing my hubby, and at first it was hard.  But as more and more years have gone by, I'm quite accustomed to it.  It does have all the perks you mention above, but it does get old sometimes.

Thanks for sharing.


Withheld 7 years ago

Coming from a guy who is about to end a rather long relationship, I can say that this is list is truly inspiring and an excellent look at what lies ahead. I can't wait.


sundae 7 years ago

although I feel better having a boyfriend the things you say are so true extremely true and I think it is good to share with the one you love


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SKlocinski 7 years ago from Toledo Ohio

I am happily married. Still, I sometimes yearn to be able to go where I want and do what I want when I want without having to tell anyone else or clear shedules etc. I guess I am at heart a loner. I love my husband, but should anything happen to him I don't believe I would get married again.


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Mr Nice 7 years ago from North America

If you want to stay single then why stay as a single parent. You will be still married with the children & their father or mother too.

Here are few more.

Wife is a knife, that cuts a man's life.

Staying single, you will avoid being a kitchen queen.

Some disadvantages of being single.

Also, remember if you stay single then no free sex on demand, no one to cook for you. You end up eating junk food. Some other disadvantages too.

If you change, your mind & think to get married then do not wait too long. In case of a female after 35 chances of getting married are less & after 35 making children are risky too. 

Very interesting hub & I really enjoyed.:) :)


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BeCreative 7 years ago from Pacific Northwest

Nice hub. It made me laugh!


Yell 7 years ago

While I appreciate the list and think it's funny/inspiring, and I agreed with most of it...you also loose out on a lot when you're single. I happily give all of that up by being able to:

-Have someone by my side. If something awful happens at work or I got hit with massive medical bills randomly, I have someone to rub my back and just tell me it'll all be ok.

-Be pampered. There's something to be said about a nice, homecooked meal, or a hot bath being run for you. Had a long day at the office? Let your loved one spoil you a bit.

-You have someone for those moments when it's "expected:" office parties, weddings, reunions, etc.

-You learn patience. You have to be patient when you're dealing with an entirely different person on a regular basis - you learn to respect and understand other humans.

-Affection. Humans are an affectionate bunch, and even if you don't like to be touched 95% of the time...that 5% when you do want to and it can't happen - hurts.

-Your parents won't nag you, wondering when you'll "meet someone."

-Healthcare! If you don't have healthcare through work, your spouse might ;)

-Those "quirks" that you say annoy you above, actually wind up being the very things you begin to adore - and it's nice to notice and be noticed regarding those types of things. Trust me. It's like a "personal secret" between the two of you.

-Your partner will probably make you laugh more than anyone else. I assure you. Who doesn't like to laugh?

I could go on-and-on. Being single is fine, but it's a very lonely route to go. It's no good to live your life being single for the sake of being able to keep your stuff and do what you want when you want. You might pass up the love of your life and then you'll never know what bliss can be.

Of course, on that same token, being married isn't for everyone.


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livelovecoffee 7 years ago from Georgia

This is a great list. How did you come up with 101 reasons? Great hub


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Earl S. Wynn 7 years ago from California Author

Eh, it just took a little time, and alot of experience, haha.


Got Married At 40 7 years ago

I was single until I turned 40, so I understand where you are coming from. But, now that I'm married, I love it. It's so nice to have someone to come home to.


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

this ruined my night as I remembered all these things. I miss my frozen burritos.


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sean.rutger 7 years ago from USA

I'm actually surprised you were able to come up with so many great things about being single. I'm like Yell up there, I'm glad to have someone, but you make a lot of great points!


asupport 7 years ago

Great points :-)


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designbuyers 7 years ago

Yes, You are 100% Right


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Hovalis 7 years ago from Australia

Excellent list. And so true. The only other being I have to worry about is my cat. Yes, I am happily single. :-)


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Triplet Mom 7 years ago from West Coast

Wow awesome hub as a married person you make me want to be single again, if only for a moment. I am amazed that you were able to come up with 101 reasons as well.


newsworthy 7 years ago

ha ha and Gees! With ads like 'meet married women' on here, no wonder bachelorism is popular.

Surely this list holds its weight with bacheloretteism as well?


Hiding 7 years ago

I've been married for more than a decade, and I pray for death every second of every day. Either my own or hers. It doesn't matter. Either way has to be better than the hell I live in now. SOMEBODY KILL ME! I WANT TO DIE STICK A BULLET IN MY HEAD!


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designbuyers 7 years ago

Hidden commenter !!

Why You say so !!! Its seems you have unhappy marriage that can't get out of .. and you want death, why you say so you can get out of your marriage getting divorce if your life as hell as you just said.

You don't have to force your self have unhappy life. don't waste your life wishing for something you want to do, and simply you can't arrange your self to get divorce then you will feel the freedom again.

I really hate the divorce but as your current condition, its the best for you.


qtip 7 years ago

You did a fantastic job on this subject. I downloaded 2 copies of your 101 Reasons To Stay Single. I am sending one copy to one of my best buddys who just finished a brutal divorce. The other, I'm sending to his older brother, who is now going through a divorce. I have been divorced for 26 years, after 21 years of marriage, including two wonderful chidren. If I had to do it over again, I wouldn't. I am very happy being single. I wouldn't go back to that marrage thing for all the money in the world.


Guy Peters 7 years ago from USA

Great list of reasons to stay single! Great job! Funniest comment is "this ruined my night...I miss my frozen burritos." Give that man his frozen burritos!!!


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livelovecoffee 7 years ago from Georgia

Number 25 - I am not sure that is completely true - really don't which one I am more worried about - actually just reading that got me nervousNumber 66 - Very true line - too bad single people weren't fatter on average - that would increase my chances without a doubtNumber 69 - Really expected something a little different located hereNumber 73 - Probably the deepest the reason if you stop and think about it....mindblowing

excellent thoughts - great hub


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Ghostwriter99 7 years ago from CA

RIGHT ON! In fact you've inspired me to write a hub like this from the Female Perspective.....lol

~Jeannette


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johnpol78 7 years ago from United Kingdom

Hey Ghostwriter99 go ahead it would be fun to watch the female perspective of this side


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ThePioneer21 7 years ago from Liverpool

great hub- I especially like the one about having the bed to yourself! I love having a bed all to myself, no one to steal the duvet!


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Sandilyn 7 years ago from Port Orange, FL

Boy you got that right!

I have been married more than once and I have decided NO MORE!! I am not saying that I want to be by myself forever but I am where I want to be. I will not leave my house. No one telling me what I want to do and when I have to do it.

I don't have to worry about moving out if a relationship doesn't make it.

I agree 110%. Staying single is the way to go!!!


Hera_76 7 years ago

I love this!! I am single, never been married and I completely agree with this list!!


Marq  7 years ago

I'm a bachelorette and happy with it. Love the "old maid" quip.

Awesome list!! Can go for guys or girls. Thanks!!


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jennyj1 7 years ago from Los Angeles

I couldn't agree more!


David 7 years ago

ha ha ha- good on ye man! I live alone in an apartment and its fuckin brilliant man, no nagging, no women to give money to etc. Btw Irish women are the same- oh what the hell all bloody women are the same aren't they- i'm only 23 and I plan to loss my freedom (aka code name marriage) in another 20 years. No i'm off to plan my holidays to somewhere sunny- no nagging battleax to have to shower with gifts- to think some blokes get a slaggin 4 bin single, well ha ha mate, look at all you blokes in relationship- do you actually get 2 minutes to yerselfs lads. Right time for the tea and biscuts, for 1- didn't have to buy for two. I'm watching my Manchester united dvd- so good look with the blog bud, f*ckin hillarious, but very very true


David 7 years ago

Oh yeah another thing, here in Dublins fair city we have a quay overlooking the liffey called Bachelors walk, so there you go we have streets named in our honour! Probably by some tied-down unfortunate. I sometimes look at my uncles and get really scared at the idea of been tied down like they are. Women crave relationships, and for reason- to change you in every single way. Its working on another level though with all the metrosexual ponses and nancies marching bout Dublin these days with the latte/panini stuff- tea and beans and toast is no longer gud enuf- these men are adding further pressure on us blokes to change our ways for a girlfriend. Still though theres no denying a woman comes with advantages, which will remain anonymous in case the PC brigade are at large, but this summary of 101 reasons is enough for any man to run a mile from commitment- don't forget Quigmire out of Family guy, what a life that chap must have


Sandy 7 years ago

Am a university student.

I quite agree. After a 3 yr relationship, it was hard breaking up..But soon I got used to it. And now see the benefits

1.Mine was a long distant one. We met once in 4 months, and felt bad when apart. No more feeling bad now.

2. Huge amount of saving on phone bills.

3. Which means I can spend that money on other things like buying stuff for myself, eating out at the best restaurants in the city, buying new gadgets and designer wear etc.

4. No need to spend the whole of my vacations with her. I can spend it visiting new places, doing internships and projects at various companies and other Univs.

5.More time for myself as less time spent on phone.

6. No more listening to someone else's problems

7. Flirt with anyone, anywhere

8. Earlier I was really hoping to get settled with her after my graduation and then a subsequent MBA. Now I will live life the way I want. Go for MBA or MS. Then start my own company, or work for a startup or a big MNC. And no worries if my company does not do well coz i have no one to support

9.She does not wake me up at 6 in the morning any longer.

10. No worries of getting a brain tumor by being on the phone for more than 4 hrs per day

11.No more worries about doing an MBA/MS abroad.

12. No more remembering all those dates.

However, if someone comes along whom I find an attachment to, I would commit. But this time, I will just give myself more time. Anyways, for the next 5 years, I am really not looking forward to a serious relationship.


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ameliehub 7 years ago from UK

I would like if one day you will put 102 reasons for not to say single. It is not that bad even. If u have a loving caring partner.


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JKSophie 7 years ago from Philippines

Quite a list, nice one, but nothing beats being with someone you love for the rest of your life. :)


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VideoAgent 7 years ago from Montreal, Quebec, Canada

Well, single is ok... But having a good friend + lover is better, especially if you're neighbors. This way you each have the benefits of singledom yet companionship around the corner... when wanted.


Rhiannon_2009 7 years ago

I loved this! It was sooo right on! I couldn't have said it better. I never planned on ending up alone. It just worked out that way, and there are a lot of perks when you get used to it. I loved all of these points! I have found that being in an unhappy relationship is lonelier than being single, and that there is A LOT you can do to make yourself happier. I will happily change my mind if I meet my best friend in the whole wide world - someone I cannot imagine living the rest of my life without. However, I haven't met that person! I have never been this happy or content before, and there is no drama and no stress. At this point, I say, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it!"


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myrontay 7 years ago from Singapore

Self denial 101. :D I'm with you!


a guy somewhere 7 years ago

I am from india 33, very fit and have enough money to live, tried getting married but some how i dont fit into the so called conventional mould of what girls are looking for ,so i finally decided enough and once i have decided to stay single and look at life that way i find that there is a lotttttttt i mean lot that you can do in life that will more than compensate for what you miss out as a married guy. Life is better this way and life is more exciting and beautiful


VeryHappyReadingThisPost 7 years ago

Amazing post dude. There are a 1000 more reasons you could possibly list.


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia

totally cool, so does this mean you are a single guy.?


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caromar22 7 years ago from 7WALLS OF HELL ,CA

i love your hub.it is so true. sometimes i wish i was single.lol


visnovasolutions 7 years ago

I think you like leave alone so have much more exp.


Paul 7 years ago

Great list. You forgot one of my favourites though: You can fart whenever you want without a second thought.

(some married men do this anyway but then have to deal with death stares!)


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observer502 7 years ago

My friend's bachelor uncle who lived 300 miles away enjoyed more than 101 reasons why he chose to remain single. Then at age 55 he had a stroke and was wheelchair bound. But he had to survive so he crawled to the kitchen for a bite. He eventually died alone and was found 5 days later, when neighbors complained of foul smell coming from his house.


orionsky60403 7 years ago

It gets so hard to figure out gifts eventually. Each one always has to be better than the last. Geeeez....


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Teddybear1000 7 years ago from East London, South Africa

wow i have 101 why you should not stay single


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joetaylor 7 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

@Paul ...my wife and I have a mutual fart understanding. We both it.. which is strange, but that's why I'll never leave her. lol :)


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karim102 7 years ago from Baharin

MaY u right about most of these, but let me ask you this!!!! is it lovely to share ur life with someone u love, or at least if u got someone ur life would mean somethin to u!!!!! that's my view looool


Siew Cheng 7 years ago

Haha, so true, wonder why God made Eve for Adam.


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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

Nice list of Points.


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India

Haha - fun hub - and I would have agreed 100% before I got married!


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quicksand 7 years ago

I heard Shalini's laughter, and I just stepped in to have a look.


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sixtyorso 7 years ago from South Africa

Well I can only think of one reason. You get to control the remote!

Interesting hub but I think I'll stay married thanks.


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Feline Prophet 7 years ago from India

Hehe...makes me feel so nostalgic!


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dana825 7 years ago from Chicago

many of the reasons i'm single now!


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Camping Dan 7 years ago

I used to feel this way but once you meet the right person all these reasons go out the door completely.


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RYPcontent 7 years ago from Chatham, IL

Well, I disagree with your last reason...most of the 101 reasons can be summed up in one word - selfish. Not that being single is bad...


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WordWielder 7 years ago from Austin

I envy you...


bfdl 7 years ago

I just got married and then read this . . . damn.

Not really.

As someone who has been single and married (3 times) (Whoops, four), let me tell you this. Single and married are but two states of being, and should find every reason to think that either state is superior, if that is the state you are in. Life is what you make it, so be happy. The trick to a relationship is to find someone to be with while still being able to affirmitively read the above list.

I had her read this aloud and we both laughed all over the place.

Godspeed.


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mayhmong 7 years ago from North Carolina

LOL, that is so true! Being single means you don't have to put up with a lot of BS from the other. I was placed in to foster care by a single parent. And now I want more freedom from the others. Thanks, it gives me more motivation to live out on my own soon!


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Ecstatic! Okay, I will be less dramatic. I am already sold to single hood. No bargain there:) Agreed several points reflects selfishness, but it's a *rational* list. I have tasted a few bitter relationships and now I know I am simply not made for it. It is easy to be a good friend or colleague but anything else is impossible.

- Happily Single, Male, 27, Chick Score: 4-full + 3-half (Counting...)

p.s. You know why I added chick score, don't you? Well to differentiate myself from losers:-p


Random Reader 7 years ago

Ecstatic! Okay, I will be less dramatic. I am already sold to single hood. No bargain there:) Agreed several points reflects selfishness, but it's a *rational* list. I have tasted a few bitter relationships and now I know I am simply not made for it. It is easy to be a good friend or colleague but anything else is impossible.

- Happily Single, Male, 27, Chick Score: 4-full + 3-half (Counting...)

p.s. You know why I added chick score, don't you? Well to differentiate myself from losers:-p


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Single Mama 7 years ago

cool list


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hchogan 7 years ago from California

In my opinion life is meant to share all the little things with someone you love with. But that is the way I see life. You see it differently. That is what is so great about life, we all have different opinions, thoughts, morals, and journeys. Your journey would be fun to me for three days, my journey would downright depress you. But I sure respect you and your confidence and security you have within yourself.


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runningbandit 7 years ago from Michigan

Awesome list! somethings to think about, lol.


Bob Anonymous 7 years ago

this is a great list, but the problem is that it's for pussy's who worry about that crap. What are you, 13? As a man with a wife, kid and dog, everyone in my family understands their place in the hierarchy structure where i am #1. My wife is #2 (She's #1 when i'm not around and the kid is #3. But also, my wife is my #1 cuz i decide to make her that). I'm not saying that i'm a big prick to everyone or a tyrant, but i work the hardest to provide and make everyone comfortable and they RESPECT that and don't "allow me" my space, but rather understand that i can do what i want, when i want. I didn't marry my mom, i married a woman who is awesome enough to understand her place and that i love her and will always consider/respect her opinion, but i have final say since i am the head of my family. Don't put Head of Household on your taxes if you can't man up to it...DO IT!


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CarolynnMarie 7 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area, CA

Fact: Married men are the happiest demographic according to various research studies. Following them are single women, single men, and married women (order of happiest to least happy).

Just FYI


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MBP42 7 years ago from have received my official license as a Pastor, praise God

Seems like some people agree and some don't. Guess you can get horror stories eighter way. You forgot one, leaving money in your purse and it still being there the next day. Marriage is definitely not for everyone, sounds like you got burned and might be bitter. Better luck in the future. I work in a nursing home and get to see what becomes of all the single men and women that get sick and have no one to help them. They end up admitted and the government sells their homes to pay the nursing home bill. They come in and don't get to leave. Their ages ranges from 50 to 90's. Strokes, Parkinson's, Alzhiemer's, alcolholism, just to name a few illnesses that bring the swinging singles to our nursing home.


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bedegroat 7 years ago from who knows!

102 you don't have to hear about how annoying and stupid your new friends are.

103 you can leave the party whenever you damn feel like leaving the party.

104 you don't have to feel bad about doing your school work "too much."

105 you only have to make excuses for your own behavior.

106 you can watch the movie you intended watching and finally return it.

107 the only idiot who smokes in bed will be you (if you ever want to) and there won't be any soggy butts in the kitchen sink unless you put them there.

108 the chances of your favorite t-shirt or worn-in pair of jeans being in the laundry are slimmer.

109 the only bookmark in the novel is yours.

110 the only person skyrocketing the bills, particularly for your cell phone, is you.

and....

111 the last beer is YOURS BABY!


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Earl S. Wynn 7 years ago from California Author

Bedegroat: That has got to be the single best answer this hub has ever received! Go you! Virtual high five!


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morgan femi 7 years ago from mysterderma@yahoo.com

Its pretty hard in Africa to stay single. i mean, everyone begin to field rumours, your mum starts crying, your friends feel youre a nerd. i can also tell you, that sharing in an intimate way of extraordinary oneness is something special- that is also scarce, cos the ladies down here can be annoying. just to tell you, being single has its ups and downs. Iam single, i knw hw it is.


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morgan femi 7 years ago from mysterderma@yahoo.com

Its pretty hard in Africa to stay single. i mean, everyone begins to field rumours, your mum starts crying, your friends feel you're a nerd. i can also tell you, that sharing in an intimate way of extraordinary oneness is something special- that is also scarce, cos the ladies down here can be annoying. just to tell you, being single has its ups and downs. Iam single, i knw hw it is.


Fardowsa 7 years ago

This is real nice.Must be thinking alot


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Chichina 7 years ago from Houston, TX

I know these things are so true. I just wish it were easier to let the love go. I want my freedom back. Freedom to think for me. To go where I want to go. When I want to go. With no guilt.......or remorse!


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caderade2 7 years ago

Nice! There needs to be more hubs like this one. Not all of these "how to get my ex back" hubs.


mike a 7 years ago

I clicked the "mature singles only" ad ten times so you'd get some payback on your writing and also because they only listed "woman seeding man" and "man seeking woman" .......


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JamaGenee 7 years ago from Central Oklahoma

#102 - Nobody to whine "Are you *still* reading those #@%$# hubs? Come to bed...you know I can't go to sleep until you do". ;D


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HorrorPunk 7 years ago from Kingman, AZ

Fucking A - great hub. Wish I'd thought of it, but it does remind us single people what a happy haven we really have. Kudos to you.


George Mwangi 7 years ago

I can't add anything apart from you can choose to be with who ever where ever .


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DonnaCSmith 7 years ago from Central North Carolina

I am not so sure about no. 6. Seems like whenever I move I still have a LOT of junk. I keep trying to de-clutter, and someone just pops up in place of what I throw out.


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kykid 7 years ago

dude, I like this a lot...I ought to read this everday! It's a wonderful reminder to me why I need to stop worrying about others...and simply live for myself. I've tried killing myself after getting down into a depressed state of mind after losing someone (them just not talking to/seeing me anymore) that I thought I really loved...and thought that they loved me...

Now I guess I'm just going to live for me....I am going to live for me! and I'll be your friend....but....I don't know about anything more....too much to worry about....

you should check out my hubs....there's one on this very subject....

friends and making it a little more physical and emotional than a normal weekend social....

hope to hear from you,

kykid


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Sunny Robinson 7 years ago from Tennessee

Hah. I actually love this hub. I haven't quite been single in 5 years. I don't know what I was thinking when I was 13 and complaining about not having a boyfriend. ;) I do love my current man, though. With him I have more freedom than I ever had before, because he doesn't nag me nor do I guiltily bother him.

Someone here said this seemed quite selfish, but there are even more selfish reasons people get into a relationship or marriage. Whatever works for you works for you, right?

This hub reminds me of the unmarried.org site. See, so many people people feel pressured into relationships or marriage. Even the legal aspect of things are pushing people to be married to have benefits. So, that site advocates people who choose total singlehood, cohabitation without marriage, polyamory, and those who simply choose to never marry.

Here is a good paragraph signifying just that from the site:

"Images of single people in books, movies, and television tend to portray one of two stereotypes: either lonely and leading a miserable existence, or hip and stylish leading the perfect urban life. In reality, of course, singlehood can encompass both realities, and neither."

Sorry, didn't mean to make this into a novel! I just thoroughly enjoy when someone makes decisions for themselves and not to make other people happy. This list you wrote are perfectly wonderful reasons.


Chris 7 years ago

I read this thing, and I agreed with a lot of points. I am single and 27 years old. Part of me wants to be married because I'm craving and wanting affection and love. The other part of me doesn't want to because I have been rejected by so many women due to what i have versus what I don't have, looks, money, what kind of car I drive, what kind of clothes I wear, what kind of cologne I wear, just about everything you can name. So why do I want to get married? I'm sure the wedding looks glamorous and everything, but what's really on the inside of the marriage? How happy are the couple? I have been hearing of so many divorces right now it's not even funny. Why bother getting married anyways? I talked to 2 different friends of mine, and they are divorced! One of them is younger than me! He told me, "STAY SINGLE AS LONG AS YOU CAN!" If anyone can tell me how to kill a burning desire to get married and for affection, please let me know.


Dan 7 years ago

I disagree I would not stay single but I would date one girl

she's hot perfect personality for me strong sexuality stuff

very exciting sex this sex that watch porn copy cat when there

having sex on adult movies the actors in the movies doing the

action having sex something that turns me on by a girl and has

to be to hot to cheat or date another girl so I'am looking for

real love/sex because I'am a virgin and I am 21 years old so I

will wait to date when I finish college and get my own house

when I get a good paying job so it's best of to stay a virgin and stay single that way.


Brett Stevens 7 years ago

Live for yourself, and only yourself.

Never mind that there's then very little to live for, and soon you'll be bored with your pleasures.

Then what?


the dude 7 years ago

Being single is awesome! Give yourself a shot at the possibilities and love will seep through the window. Bad past relationships can hurt. But there is more to life then the past. How about the present. Some people like to give advice but may not say what you need to hear. So that's like bad weight on your shoulders. Listen to yourself, and how you feel and want to feel.. Basically it's a rough world, and reguardless of if you're already in a relationship or not, people are goin to try to wear you down. That's humanity man! Look around, ain't nothing perfect!!! Move on....peace!-The Dude


Serenity 7 years ago

The next time someone asks me why I'm single, I'm going to show them this list.


Kamilah 7 years ago

Can I also add, you don't have to be responsible for anyone else's UNHAPPINESS....don't doubt it wasn't in the list..I think it should be at least the top ten.


Kamilah 7 years ago

AND no one else can be responsible for your happiness or unhappiness...


RAMONE FISHER 7 years ago

i am single because i am someone who has never dated or had a girlfriend and also my career, education, and also my own health are my top priorities


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zadrobi 7 years ago from Carbondale, IL

A wonderful and reassuring tribute to bachelors everywhere.


Jamie 7 years ago

You don't have to worry about him cheating on u if he's not with you.


Kriss 7 years ago

Being single is fun just join in adult websites and become

a member of it and have sex with the hot models you don't

need a girlfriend fuck that. Go to work do your job and

have sex 10times a day during your freetime outside of work

besides being single is fun and awesome never get married

ever because it sucks.


Nicole  6 years ago

It is


Nicole  6 years ago

It is interesting to see that mostly women commented that they need men to "pamper and take care of them" that they need that validation. That they need their "health insurance" First of all you can buy your own health insurance even if you lose your job, you can get medicare. You should not have a husband so he can take care of you. You do not need a man or a woman to adopt a child. Most women marry too young or are obsessed with marriage due to our society and their mothers pressuring them because that's what they did. Ever hear the phrase "Misery Loves Company" I was raised to marry and let a man take care of me now I make more money than my boyfriend as a teacher and I travel around the world on my breaks. I have an apartment and I am saving for a house. I have never gone with out health ins. Don't say its because I'm lucky. It is because I worked and work hard and take care of MYSELF first only then will I have or adopt a child. I do not want to be dependent on a man who I would be at the mercy of so that I can keep my life. It makes me sick when I see my friends and they have a house. ins. and money and its all because of their husbands and they act all proud like they earned it because they hooked a guy. The husband can ruin it or take it all away. They have too much power that's not equal rights. Women need to realize that no man will respect or truly love you for you unless you act like his equal. You will be his prize his belonging something he wanted. I'm not against marriage I just think it isn't for everyone and shouldn't be a staple of our society!!!


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Earl S. Wynn 6 years ago from California Author

Well said, Nicole! This was probably the best comment I've seen on this entire article. Keep being awesome!


You 6 years ago

Do i really get single dating site Ads on this page lol


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KieraInk 6 years ago from New York

Brilliant, perfectly written!

Very impressed :)


freeeeedom! 6 years ago

Haha, why number 71, the violent psychopath reference? I read this post last year when I was dying to end a relationship (which I did) and I was so entertained knowing I was about to have all these perks again... And now I'm living in single awesomeness halfway around the world! Sorry married posters, we are having a LOT more fun :P


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Earl S. Wynn 6 years ago from California Author

@Freeeeedom!: Because I dated a number of them in the past, haha.


Onelife 6 years ago

Being single means no one to argue with. My last relationship was unhealthy, always fighting, disagreeing with everything, constant drama. Now I live in peace.


busyb 6 years ago

if your single your brain and thoughts only focused on yourself. when i was in relationship i used to think of that person every second. you know it's really hard to control your thoughts if in everything you do you just see his face next to it. and now i'm single. i've been single for 2 years now. first year was hard couldn't get over that guy. and second year was all about me me me. i really enjoy what i do for myself. and i don't have to wonder what other person doing and thinks. i really like being single. my brain and thoughts only focused on me. love it. the only down part is you don't have sex as often. if i can get a clean attractive guy that i could have sex without attachment that would be great.


DUDE  6 years ago

you are born alone .. you die alone ... so everyone should stop fooling themselves with illusions of love and trust.. these are commodities that people use to lure... Commodities that are extinct today. The only one you can trust is yourself... Alone is paceful .. you don't hurt any expectations.. no one hurts you. Its best that way.

FUCK MARRIAGE ! Been done there done that.

I am not a full time supporter for free sex. I mean if anyone wants have an active sex life ..ok.

But i wouldn't.

Imagine investing emotionally + financially + psychologically + legally .. putting yourself second in libne always so as it make it work. In end end you realise you are taken for granted and your bank account is emptied after the divorce for a wife that had evertyhing ..

single is best. Anyone who wants to get married .. think again.


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Myriad 6 years ago from the bottom of your heart .. ie chennai!

ha ha ha ...I was literally LOL after reading the reasons ! :) but most of the reasons are just reactionary , Just a reactive reaction towards a bad partner perhaps ! ..not all girls/guys/gays are like what you make them out to be . There are many moments which would make you want to .. you know get ..a partner .. You know that movie - INTO THE WILD , when he dies , Happiness ...is when you share !


ms.single 6 years ago

yes, being single is awesome! involved and married people are so unhappy............hahahahahaha :) and all these problems.An' you're right DUDE @DUDE you came in this world alone . you are dieing alon e. god bless. *SINGLE FOREVER*


marriageisdumb 6 years ago

great lis, why would anyone get married these days, its just stupid.

There is no point in reporducing, the human race is in no danger of extinction. infact 5.5 billion too many people


dude 6 years ago

You can still think of others, do things to help out your fellow human... selfless acts.

But that doesn't mean you have to be in a romantic relationship!

I'd like a warm body to cuddle up next to but maybe I'd like to be alone too. I can't give up my personal space... sorry.


Me 6 years ago

Seriously,people in relationships just act happy and fake it,coz truly speaking they're just sad inside.

They're sad, helpless,desperate,clingy,hyper-dependent souls who just lack the guts to live life THEIR OWN way.

They just spend their whole lives adjusting,compromising, and nagging with their spouses,instead of doing something much more worthwhile and productive by using their heads instead of their dicks.

No wonder all the great geniuses mankind has ever produced were single:

Michelangelo,da Vinci,Aristotle,Newton ,Tesla


420hubby 6 years ago

Me says: "No wonder all the great geniuses mankind has ever produced were single:

Michelangelo,da Vinci,Aristotle,Newton ,Tesla"

Granted, but I'm sure you've heard of Einstein, John Nash, Euler, George Boole, Claude Shannon, Bill Gates, . . .

Sure, they may not have always had the smoothest relationships, but there is some truth to the maxim that "beyond every great man is a great woman".

Before I met my wife, I was constantly on the lookout for the next challenge, which for me usually meant the next girl to fix in my 'cross hairs'. Always taking a risk. And I enjoyed it. But I met a woman who I was attracted to, loved, and respected, and I realized that being with her and earning her love was enough of a challenge.

And since being with her I have been able to focus on and enjoy other aspects of myself that I hadn't allowed myself to when I was single, because my energy is no longer directed "out there".

Anyway, I still think about having sex with other women, which is really only thing that has me fantasizing (at times) about singledom.


Dale 6 years ago

I've been single for twenty years. In never fails to amaze me the degree that women think that husbands are a home improvement project. And it never fails to amaze me the degree to which men acquiesce to wives over how their time and money is spent. Its safe to say that I'm single for life, without a single regret.


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tangoshoes 6 years ago

*Sigh* Yes.. my married friends just don't get it... but it gives me goose bumps of pleasure every time I read this hub.


Olly 6 years ago

70% of married women have never ever known orgasm!!!!

Everyone has right to orgasm and is free to find it anywhere unless he/she is married!!!!


Ishan 6 years ago

damn why didn't I saw these great tips before.. I am about to get married after two month. now I am scaring... do't know if it happen as it stated above.. very confusion....


Donovan  6 years ago

I just broke up with my whore ex-gf and I plan to stay single forever. Men, don't ever get involved in LTR. Women are liars and hypocrites.


SP 6 years ago

I have to say, most of these are just STUPID


edrico mendez 6 years ago

spot on. its like a nagging conscience you have to battle to be single and happy but alot of the time its worth it. if you can look after yourself properly, maintain friendships, hobbies, social outlets and a good job you're laughing. My relationships with women have mostly been utter sh*te and i guess thats me as much as the women ive met but you're trundling along in life having a laugh you meet someone you want to have sex with and suddenly you're some sucker. spending your money on crap you don't want and doing stuff you don't want to do. im not anti women per se but it seems sense as we're evolving in separate directions cause of frickin adverts and SATC that we should perhaps go our own ways and maintain the fantasies we have about each other rather than being perpetually disappointed with each other. find me a 5'10" stunning blonde scandinavian that likes south park, my jokes and talking humourous crap then i might change my min. in the meantime my life is better when im the only one stearing the ship.


edrico mendez 6 years ago

@dale - right on. i dated this women recently a couple of times who was attempting to pick aspects of my life that needed improvement but wasn't taking that crap so i dumped her...im pretty sorted - have my own house, renovated it myself, keep it in good order got a well paid job, no debts - im entirely self reliant and on top of this do loads of cool things like playing guitar and mountain biking, travelling. Now 5 years ago subsequent to an almighty head frick of a relationship i was in a right mess, drinking like a crazy, racking up debts, pushing people away left right and centre, acting like a right eejet but I sorted myself out. 'I' being the operative word. I certainly don't need a women telling me where im going wrong in life.


Nicki 6 years ago

...and I have reason #102 (for you religious gals) No husband to have to "submit to".


Nyimbiri Steve 6 years ago

your mind is ever forecast with no interaptions


keem 6 years ago

wel , in my opinion life meant a lot for me ... in every steps we need to share a little little things, moments,happiness, sadness with someone to whom we really love.i know the thoughts differs accordinly yet i think all needs to have someone in their life in reality .. life is not a dream , we have to live in the real.


Nykya 6 years ago

Whoa! Did a guy on here actually mention about his wife "knowing her place"? Thank God I'm single!

Here's #101: not having to deal w/ THAT!


Tina 6 years ago

Wow this is a long list. It took me 15 minutes to read it. The only thing that is good for me is that being single you don't have to worry about your boyfriend, fiancé, or husband looking at porn. Good thing I'm single.


Kay 6 years ago

I think a lot of these comments prove that men hate relationships. There are a few exceptions, but for the most part a relationship just makes them feel trapped. Look at how many chase and chase women then supposedly find "the right one" and still fantasize about freedom. The fantasies aren't just about cheating, it can be little things like farting or walking around naked.

Men and women both try to change each other. If you want to be naked and gassy, why don't you find a partner that wants that too or at least doesn't care? If you want to sleep around why don't you get a partner who's agreeable? The cheaters and liars always seem to find monogamous honest partners instead of each other! And couple I've known who were cheating on each other always got mad about it! That seems pretty dumb considering they both seemed of like mind.

If you are not getting what you want in a relationship, then speak up. If you still can't get it, find someone else. I'm sick of wimps too...they whine about someone controlling them and do nothing about it. There are so many hypocrites and liars that tell their partners, their families, that they are happy and in it for the longterm. Everyone gets hurt that way.

If you're meant to be single, just stay single. I personally love it! As a woman, it is less likely that I will get what I want in a relationship so I'm not going to be so delusional that I'll try to mold a guy into my ideal.

The vast majority of men just can't do relationships. Jokes on all of us. Women are built for relationships and these days we have to re-program ourselves and each other to accept men as they are. If you are in a couple, the relationship just isn't going to mean the same thing to a man as it does to you. All of your instincts to take care of him and expect the same in return will be seen this way - you are controlling and needy.


Angie 6 years ago

I was married for 18 years, raised two children to adult hood and divorced when I was 42. I am now single and have been for 5 years. I have my own home a good career and total freedom. I date when I want to, have some really fantastic friends, both male and female.

I agree with Kay, men and womens ideas about relationships are very different, one always has to give more than the other and in the end it causes stress...or worse...total fear of losing that beloved partner through infidelity or death. People cling to eachother out of fear. My aunt is about to lose her husband to cancer. She is wracked with terror at the thought of suddenly being alone at the age of 69, having relied on her husband all those years for everything. This is a reality of life.

I's something I will never have to face. I know how to cope, I know how to survive and pay bills and get the car fixed. Because I know how to deal with the mundane stuff, I can spend my time and energy living the rest of my life exactly how I want.

I consider myself lucky. I have experienced 20 years of being a wife and mother and I am experiencing singledom.

I believe in God and I feel if God had truly wanted me to be in a happy loving relationship, then I would have met that man by now. Ive dated quite a few men...I have never found that man.


nilopa 6 years ago

this is not always the truth,living alone is nice some times,but love need some times,both hard


rahat 6 years ago

it's my life ....my life. I never knew living just by myself could be so trouble free after I went through a divorce in mid 2008.

Thanks for organizing the thought on fun part of remaining single.

Cheers!


clara 6 years ago

very inspiring and amusing.

I guess I can't be a bachelor since I'm female but the points apply to women too.

And to those who take this so seriously and say it shows "men are not into relationships", I say calm down this post has truth in it but is also meant to be facetious!


cameron 6 years ago

Number 68, thats very true and thats the reason why i am going to be single.


Natty G 6 years ago

Awesome!! I am a 26 year old single lady and 10 months away from an M.D. trailing my name, and I wouldn't have it any other way :)

Great job!!!


staystrong 6 years ago

I have been through a long relationship that took me several years to get over, I am now feeling lonely. Once I read why I should be happy single, it makes me realize the right one will come when the time is right. In the time I have being single I need to enjoy it!!! Thanks for all the good reasons why I should be happy single


tyler 6 years ago

One question.. SEX?


Saphy 6 years ago

Love it.

@ciara...you can be a bachelorette :D


Shan 6 years ago

Staying single is against nature. Why male & female exist in this world!! Can give many excuse to live single, but doing anything against nature will have negative impact physically & mentally...


Anonymous 6 years ago

Once you commit to marriage if you are male, you have to succumb to the fantasies of the woman. If you are unsatisfied and look at porn instead, you are an addict and need help. Nope, has nothing to do with the fact you need intimacy and she never does anything to improve herself like you do, you are a "sex addict." Thank the maker I gave up on relationships and even sex with another human being. Stick to your hand, boys, it will never lie to you.


YES!!! 6 years ago

I want to tattoo this URL on my arm so I can send people to this site every time they ask why I'm still single. I'm willing to accept that couple-dom is a great source of joy for many people. Just wish they could accept my choices in the same way, instead of assuming only some great personal tragedy could result in a woman in her 40s wanting to stay single. oh well, maybe next century. thanks!


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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA

Everybody is entitiled to their opinion. I like this hub. When I'm single I'll want to read it again! LOL


Myrah 6 years ago

@DUDE You're right about that one. Having to get married causes family drama and fights. When you're single there's no drama, fighting, and whining all the time.

When you're alone you can do whatever the hell you wanna do and regret nothing!


Livin the Single Life 6 years ago

I've had a couple girlfriends, and a few girls that would like to be my girlfriend, but I really enjoy being single. And the only difference between a good friend, and a girlfriend/wife, is the sex really. Good friends can even occasionally live together. And Internet + Hand = Sex.

I've always been a loner, and the girlfriends I've had have done nothing but irritate me because they always insist on being with me. Especially when I'm sick! and they consider 'naa don't come I'm fine' as 'please come, I need you here but I'm too manly to admit it' even though I really just want to be alone..

I love having the house to myself, when I was a teenager, I would stay up till around 5 AM(in the summer of course, not during the school year), and that period where everyone was asleep but me was my favorite parts of the day.

Only company I need is a nice dog/cat =) otherwise I get a little too lonely.

Single 4 Lyfe


teddy 6 years ago

Good points. I am single now, but I don't want to stay single. I know I will be married sometime. So, these points are like "You have a few more years left before this offer expires" kind of message for me. Love it.


ryandpwnsu 6 years ago

what about "you can do whatever drugs you want whenever you want and you don't have to hide your gear"


Anje  6 years ago

This is a good reminder of why I should stay single :).

I have never had a boyfriend during my 20 years thus far, and only been on a "date" with one guy. I realized how selfish and untrustworthy he was without him bothering to respect me despite him saying I should tell him if I'm uncomfortable...but his actions already lost my trust, and something bothered me about him despite how "sweet" he was sometimes.

For every guy Ive ever had a crust on my entire life thus far, none of them returned interest (I am shy so sometimes I avoid, but it makes it obvious if Im nervous), or the ones that I managed to make into friends, already had girlfriends.

also girls, just because he's nerdy and likes anime, doesn't mean he isn't a pig-head. These guys can actually be some of the most perverted males I've ever known...and somehow, most of them have more dating exp than I do. (there was this super cute guy, he liked the same japanese anime shows as me, he seemed cool-his behaviours at times sent me warnings, but I wanted to not assume.....I find out from his/my friend that he's actually a man-whore who cannot hold any form of relationship,who DOES play WoW a lot, but thinks shy girls are weird and I was creepy to him. I thought a guy of such (similar)hobbies would accept my type, I was wrong.

That's when my confidence and faith in this relationship crap broke, when someone contradicts themselves so much, and to be told I am creepy.....that hits, you know. I don't want to be a "creep", so I avoid talking for more than 15 minutes before walking away like it wasn't a big deal, to a guy unless he shows obvious interest in conversation.

but honestly, I think having a career is more important. having your feet in the world before being in a relationship if anything, or staying single and continueing that.

I realize Im still a big clingy in a way, or attached to people...and i do notice guys, but my spark of interest fades into indifference and disbelief/distrust. I have a very hard time believing at this point that a decent romantic relationship if my interest exists, nor will anyone of my type appear. It feels fake and unrealistic, and I'd rather push it away the longer it goes on. I basically ignore the person I "liked" and never bother to talk to them again. I notice them going on just as easily as before I ever said a word, so none of it bothers them.

I believe relationships DID work in our grandparent's time....now it's faded into an age of despair, and were just becoming more desperate, impulsive and animalistic-people no longer listen to your words, it's like a part of their brain is turned off.


californiaguy 6 years ago

Once divorced - has to stay single. No wasted time for communication no ups no downs. I don't need anybody.

Ones divorced it is done. No more.


RANJINI 6 years ago

BEING SINGLE BEST LIFE. I SUPPORT YOUR POINTS.I'M JUST 19YRS OLD. I THINK THAT IF WE BE SINGLE WE CAN DO WHATEVER WE INTEREST.SAVE MONEY IF BEING SINGLE.


JJ 6 years ago

Number 104. Being single can mean that you have girls and guuys nights out without worrying if he'll cheat on you.


Myrah 6 years ago

I have a good social life. I don't have to get married or want a boyfriend to make me happy all the time. No ring on my finger, I can do pretty much the heck I want to do. Being with friends and having fun!


Mr. Tees 6 years ago

Under normally circumstances I don’t mind being single and don’t think too much about it. However, there are times when I feel lonely especially when it comes to going to functions such as weddings and funerals where you wish you had someone there with you but there isn’t anyone. There are also other times in life where you feel like you walk alone.


Unhappily divorced 6 years ago

I miss my wife's shoes being everywhere; I miss all the various ways she'd get in the way of this or that. I miss having to run all her errands with her. I adored my wife, and I loved all these things as they were happening--many of which are on your list--while we were married.


Unhappily divorced 6 years ago

I miss my wife's shoes being everywhere; I miss all the various ways she'd get in the way of this or that. I miss having to run all her errands with her. I adored my wife, and I loved all these things as they were happening--many of which are on your list--while we were married.


Jeff 6 years ago

If you ask me, going through hell in a hand basket because of one your two horrible marriages, make the single life look heavenly. The guy is always wrong even if the wife is cheating, she can hit you but you can't hit her back or the cops appear out of thin air.

My ex-wife cheated on me and got pregnant. I tried to work things out for the sake of our kids but she left me and our kids for this jail bird. She was selfish though, because it was all about her to the point that she keyed my car when I decided to get over her and date.

The girl broke up with me because my ex lied and said that we had still been sleeping together, but we got back together because the dates didn't add up for the lie.

My ex-wife tried to get me fired from my job after the fact, but ended up lashing out and pulling her into the elevator. What good was it to try and get me fired from my job when I have our kids to take care of, and she doesn't pay child support? Dead beat mom.

She stopped her rant and went back outside to her boyfriend waiting in the car. Her excuse was that she is struggling now that the alimony period is over. That's not my problem, and she better be lucky I haven't placed her on child support, but I think I will soon because she has an obligation to the children too.

This is my reason to stay single.


Reggie 6 years ago

Want a reason to stay single? Watch Bridezillas.


Reggie 6 years ago

It's more beneficial for men to be single than most woman since we get to see the benefit of our hard work without somebody spending it up.


Alex 6 years ago

If you want to be in a relationship that's your choice and the best of luck to you. After being in relationships all I really wanted was to get out of them and be single. Nothing makes me sicker than the thought of Darby and Joan. I'm tired of people assuming that your not happy / complete unless your hitched up. Worse still people thinking you may be gay.


Alex 6 years ago

Mr Tees - Even when I wasn't single, I still had to deal with things like berevement and life altering decisions on my own, there's only one person I can count on - myself. This is the sad truth. When my parents where alive I used to talk to them about problems until I realised that I'd grown up and I had to sort things out myself. I can identify with you about needing people, but the women I've been in relationships with are useless at giving support. I've had more support from friends.


Alex 6 years ago

Please forgive my terrible spelling - I'm tired.


Sarah 6 years ago

I had a boyfriend for 3 years in a long distance relationship. He was in Tokyo working and I am at home in California. He starts cheating on me with a prostitute and didn't tell me. I was flip and he decided to not talk to me through a phone or email. What a miserable cowardly loser. I deserve way better than that.

I can finally enjoy my singledom!


Dale 6 years ago

Don't make another man pay for his mistakes Sarah (remember these words, or you will ruin your next relationship even if the guy is great). That was a long distance relationship with someone in another country, its risky business from the get go.


Sarah 6 years ago

@ Dale you're right on that one. I just can't judge every guy because of the mistakes that my boyfriend has done to me. Every guy is different.


Dion K. 6 years ago

I like my space and I like freedom. I don't want any man telling me what the fuck to do. I can't see myself committing to guy whose going to whine and nag about every thing I do.Telling to me to iron his clothes, fix his dinner, and begging for more sex when he feels like it. To me marriages are overrated and its not fun and cute at all. After I read this list it made me feel great that there's other enjoyable things you can do besides relationships.


shelly 6 years ago

I ended my 13 year marriage and for five months now have been on my own. I don't regret ending my marriage but am pissed I'm having such a hard time at being alone. I used to be great at solo activities and now I seemed to have lost that independence. I really hope with time I can learn to be happy being alone.


Dion K. 6 years ago

@Shelly you'll be fine any if you don't regret it you still live your life the way you wanted to be.


Kellanna 6 years ago

Well, I just went through my SECOND divorce, and it basically boiled down to this very subject. The men didn't want to have the responsibilities and inconveniences of being in a marriage...they didn't want to have to deal with a kid either. I tried my best to give them their freedom and space, but still, very unrealistic expectations cropped up and just made too many variables and stresses, so I pulled the plug TWICE on marriage.

I am a single mother with an 8 y/o daughter. I have no choice BUT to remain single. It's just easier that way. It's hard enough to deal with two...add another person to the mix it can be downright hell and stressful. Especially if the other person is immature(which it's hard to find anyone who's willing to deal with someone else's kid). I don't have to worry or struggle with trying to make TWO people happy, one being an adult who should be able to take care of himself, but alas, finds the kid to be an "annoying appendage". And, I will NOT tolerate someone who tries to make me feel guilty for having a kid either!

It's useless to "look"...as a single mom, single life has chosen ME. So, I am appreciating all these wonderful, liberating truths that make my life so much more enriched now that I'm single again. Much easier. At least I have my daughter to have new adventures with. And, if I want to feel appreciated or useful, I could volunteer my time to a worthy cause, or try to make a difference in someone else's life, instead of feeling pressuerd to pander to someone else's schedule, issues, etc. We go through relationships to help us learn more about ourselves and develop character and enduring qualities...I've paid my dues. lol I don't need a partner to be "unselfish". I'm a MOTHER...it's one of THE MOST unselfish jobs on this earth! ;-)


Sarah 6 years ago

@Kellanna marriage is like a trap. Divorces are very expensive. Being single- priceless!


Jenna 6 years ago

My boyfriend and I broke up this year. He complain that I was being spoiled and didn't have job. Im only 19 years old and Im still in school. What a dick head! He was one didn't act like a gentleman and cheating on me with a prostitute up in Germany.

All the whining and nagging from my past relationships.

Finally I can enjoy my singledom from reading this whole list.


JAsminee 6 years ago

wow ,, this is so like truux maybee uma stay single . hmmm hmmm hmm :) single me !


Sarah 6 years ago

See there u go. True happiness to find solitude isn't it.


celyn 6 years ago

i find it soooo selfish...the question is will u be happy to be like that forever?


Sarah 6 years ago

Im not saying that i am selfish Celyn. I just feel like its hard to not to trust anyone no more. I have a social life ya know and friends.


baba 6 years ago

it's great to be alone


John A. MacDonald 6 years ago

Earl, Kudos to you. But you need to get some advice. $2500 for a TV series is an insult. You should get a lot, lot more and a piece of the series. The producers stand to make hundreds of thousands, if not millions, on a series that is picked up for network or cable TV.


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Earl S. Wynn 6 years ago from California Author

John - Thanks for the advice, but consider the value of a byline, especially when this is my first huge sale. It's not like this is the last piece I'm going to write, and if it really goes nuts, there's that many more people who will know my name.


nige 6 years ago

sorry but if someone can think of all those reasons to say that being 'SINGLE' is better can't have had anyone interested in them cuz if they had then it would be 101 reasons why being in a relationship is better...cuz i for one believes love conquers all the above and much more.

Loneliness is a killer!!!


V Sharma 6 years ago

I have made that irreversible mistake. Please pray for me


Myrah 5 years ago

@ V Sharma what mistake?You regret being in a relationship or being single?


Chris 5 years ago

You know, I am coming across more and more unhappy couples more often. I guess marriage is hell. This should remind me to stay single. Besides, one of the major advantages of being single is you don't have to worry about anyone being unfaithful to you.


EDmond 5 years ago

Attached for 8 years, got dumped, single for 2 years. Attached again now..... And find that single is better...... Cool


Amy 5 years ago

Been through the emotional abuse from a guy who said that you will never find the right person its a cruel world out there. Pff what a Dick!


justin 5 years ago

the grass is always greener on the other side...


L. Aka Good Spoiled 5 years ago

Hey great comments on the list. I feel like I regret hurting somebody else that wasn't here. I want to shout out to him to let him know that I'm sorry and I made him feel bitter and depressed. At the same he can be a real jerky ass LOL! Silly sailor. I'm not mentioned any name of him.


Minnie 5 years ago

at L. aka Good spoiled

you don't have to regret anything its his lost and you just need to change your ways a little when you're dealing with other people.


Oyefesobi 5 years ago

I love this list. I am 25, single, and love it. I was in a relationship before followed by a brief fling. Now I don't plan on meeting anyone. I love being single, maybe a little too much. Most of the time, I just don't want people around, not even to come and visit. Single life is under rated. It is one heck of an experience and there is less worry. I spend time with my family when i want too. I plan trips and travel, it is soooo much fun.


Oyefesobi 5 years ago

@ Nige, Being single does not mean being lonely. Loneliness will kill anyone. People need people. Some people need company more than others. Bottom line, we all need someone. Don't forget that single people also have family, friends, and even date. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. You can feel lonely in a marriage. Loneliness is a universal feeling. All people can feel this way. Single people are not immune to loneliness.

Maybe love does conquer all, but what kind of love? Loving yourself can "conquer all." Loving another person can too. It's up to each person to find out for themselves.


Amy 5 years ago

@Nige

We were born alone in this world without a lover think about that!

And another thing relationships are hell and can drive u insane to keep up with somebody elses life.


Myrah 5 years ago

My negative ex bf can go to hell. I really don't have to give a FUCK anymore I don't care anymore! Im so done with the lies, the cheating, emotional abuse, and the criticisms. Why can't there be some good honest guys! Im a good person and I really freakin deserve better! I would rather stay single than settle for less who treats me shit and has more money! Its not always about the money its how he's treating me right way. Fuck relationships and guys. IF I was bisexual I would say forget women too they are the same issues. I don't have to gain their trust and want them to get away with it. The world is full of liars and ain't that a prime fact! Single is best and I don't care what other people say.


not white trash 5 years ago

I love this list, its great. I like the bedtime one, for some reason my husband thinks he can call bedtime, and lights out, and has woken me up every single morning regardless of day or time or reason , just because he can. On the flip side if I try to get him out of bed at midday on a saturday I'm being unreasonable. Its gotten so I stay up later than I want just so I can read and decide for myself at what stage in the book I want to stop reading.


Ivy 5 years ago

It is sooo fkin good to be a single! thumbs up for this!!


Nigerian guy 5 years ago

I'm really glad i came across this post. I'll be 31 in march this year and i still don't see myself getting married in the next five years. One part of me says "get married, it's the right thing to do, people might think something's wrong with you etc" and another part of me says "look at all the so called happily married couples, is that how you wanna live your life?" The thing is, marriage has lost it's purpose and essence. It's a medieval tradition that should be outlawed. The world's population is at an all time high and resources are limited. Human beings will always take advantage and hurt each other. No one can make you happy but yourself. True happiness comes from within.

I'm really glad i got online today. Guess i'm not wrong in deciding to remain single.


Laya 5 years ago

Im so glad I came to this site. I feel like marriage is nothing but a big joke. I don't have anyone or any man for that matter telling me what to do.

I'm sick of benefiting my exes when they don't benefit me more. Sometimes when guys feel like the want to control you by emotionally hurting you because they're too insecure.


phil 5 years ago

if i had never met milene, i probably wouldn't be going bald and id be a happier person. what am i saying, id be a happy person.


Desiree 5 years ago

Love it! Currently single and enjoying doing every single one of these things!


Susana 5 years ago

Ahhh, thanks! So soothing to be reminded of how good life will be once I get rid of this crazy bastard!!!


Laura 5 years ago

Ex BF thinks Im spoiled oh please negro you're a dirty dog. You flirt with many girls and hoes in your life. To all the man haters out there who thinks Im spoiled and self centered can kiss my ass straight up!! You're just jealous to the fact that I am strong and you can't control my life!


Princess April Ann 5 years ago

I enjoy myself doing things for myself. I like being happy and do hangout with friends and family.


Autumn Castine 5 years ago

I totally like that I get to have my weekends to myself. I have the freedom of doing whatever I want. I also have a list of benefits of being single on my blog: http://thewrongfish.com


Dianne 5 years ago

A bit too much. I am married and I can do whatever I want the same like when I was single.


MAHAFRIN 5 years ago

its outstanding!!!


Laura 5 years ago

Freedom!


Hemu 5 years ago

What happen to me when i need someone to support me and there is no one to do that.


Laura 5 years ago

Sick of being tied down to guys who are greedy, jealous, and so damn possessive but hey that's life.


kim 5 years ago

There is a HUGE different in being single and being lonely. I am single but I am definitely NOT lonely! I really hate that people feel single=lonely. It doesn't...


kim 5 years ago

Sorry, I saw a typo so I am re-posting...

There is a HUGE difference in being single and being lonely. I am single but I am definitely NOT lonely! I really hate that people feel single=lonely. It doesn't...

I think marriage and relationships are beautiful when it's right. I also treasure all of the benefits that come along with being single. It's not at all about selfishness. I'm a parent, and that is truly the most selfless role one can be in. I know what it is to give and I enjoy giving. I love the opportunity to make someone happy. However, I also enjoy being in charge of my own life. I like knowing I dictate my good and bad days. That all changes when you allow another person in.


someone 5 years ago

what if I really want most of these things!!!! being single is no fun :(


kims3003 5 years ago

Awesome job! Great writing style! You are good! Love this hub! Glad I found you - very impressive!


Andy 5 years ago

Goda admit this article really does have a point:D

really made me think about relationships...

most of my mates are in a relationship and end really quickly for some reason... and they goda deal with all emotional problems after... also some guys i know are married and i goda admit they seem different and look unhappy all the time.

but yeah theres good and bad things bout being single or not... but i guess im a single guy :D

niice work, Cheers


Tasha 5 years ago

I am single and VERY happy! I listen to my friend whine about her boyfriend, doing exactly what her boyfriend wants, having to call him for until 2 hours every day, becoming just like he wants. And I am FREE! I can go where I want and with who I want, I can do what I want, can spend my time how I want and can be ME and not some robotic girl who follows only her boyfriend.


Mark 5 years ago

I am nearly 45. I have never been in a relationship and so I cannot miss what I have never had. I have seen my parents go through hell and back several times each year with their bitter, pointless fighting, I see my friends who marry, divorce, remarry, divorce...and see no point in being anything but single. I do not like drama, I detest head games and I like the freedom to do (or not do) anything I want. I do not have to walk on eggshells around anyone, I do not have to change myself to conform to someone else's idea of what I should be, I do not have to put up with another person's nonsense (nor does anyone have to put up with mine). I have three cats whom I love dearly and they are my companions. I have very few friends and have been a loner most of my life. I don't want anyone taking care of me, nor do I want to take care of anyone else. When I can't take care of myself anymore, I'll make sure I am put down in a humane manner. Some people define themselves by their relationship. I define myself by my total and complete freedom to be who I want to be and do what I want to do. Is that selfish? We are by nature selfish creatures. Our own self-interests trump everything else. It's one reason it's so hard to be in a relationship with someone...in most cases, one person ends up dominating the other. No thank you, not the way I want to live.


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dotty1 5 years ago from In my world

Ah thank you for this hub....I am newly at this place and it made me kinda excited ....eeek the freedom!! okay I still have a moment of wishing I could smell him smell...but then the thought of 'Sex in the city' at half past two in the morning with noone to moan at me made my lips head north :)


farcry7 5 years ago

I've been in a relationship for the past 5 years, and am now 25. There have been the ups and downs, but as I started my career and the fact that our relationship has progressed into something far more serious - she moving in, splitting rents, bills, food etc - it has made me lose that sense of independance i once had. She convinced me to move to this expensive condo with a pool and facilities, and it's great, but I wouldn't be able to comfortably handle the financial burden of this on my own if I had to.

So I kind of signed a commitment contract with her when I signed the tenancy agreement. She works near where I do, so I drive to and pick her up from work everyday. It's like we're married. She's older than me by 3 years, and as I just started my career, i feel the need to achieve more, but every god damn fucking activity has to be a mutual agreement, thoroughly discussed and a consensus must be found - if not, it is deemed "OUT OF QUESTION".

Where I'm going to be, what time i'm coming back, because if I am coming back by the time I say, then she plans for us to do something together. When you go out with your friends, nobody wants to fucking say "i'll be there for 3 hours". 'You sure?' ; "Yes, 3 hours, max." Come 4 hours, you'll never hear the end of it - 126 missed calls, 5 text messages "Where are you? It's late" ; "You said you would be back by 9, what time are you planning to come back" ; "The least you could do is have called me to tell me you were coming back later" JESUS FUCK I DON'T NEED MY MOM LIVING WITH ME

I'm 25, tall, strong, smart, great job, great friends, big dick, horny, I LOVE food, booze, alcohol, women, cars, bikes, gaming, movies, socializing. I don't know if this is the life for me right now.

When I read the list, I was smiling the entire time, and I concurrently searched in another window "Reasons to stay in a relationship". I frowned. I read your list again, I smiled.

I really do care about her, she's smart, beautiful, has a great career, successful, is a great cook - but the entire hyped up level of commitment that she requires from me is choking me. For me to even request for that space that I so fucking badly need - is a freaking mission impossible and if I do get that, it's excessively monitored. I just got a new job, and it'll be my first business trip overseas, and the first thing she said when she heard that, was "Can I come and you take leave and extend your trip so we can turn it into a holiday"

After much bickering she apologised, but she also (as always) had to stress the reason for her to have brought it up, and apologised for the fact that THAT was the first thing to come out of her mouth, and NOT a Congratulatory wish.

My dad's right. Stay single. There's a boatload of time for that married stuff later. I nearly feel bad that I spent 5 years like this 'under supervision' and wasted the first half of my 20s. But I do admit I learnt a lot, and deprivation of all these things does drive me to go out of my way to at least try and pursue them (wherever possible).


Samantha 5 years ago

I think how much a person enjoys being single depends a lot on their previous relationships. I have been single for 5 years, and I really don't think I will ever be in a relationship again. Some of the wonderful things people say you will miss by being single (ie, having someone there to have your back) is not always the case. It can even start out great and then you find yourself living with a stranger. There's no guarantee that you will always be able to depend on your spouse. So nope, I'll take my quiet peaceful home that I come to every day by myself. But then, I enjoy my solitude and my own company. I know some people who can't stand being alone, so they're looking for a replacement before their ex's side of the bed is cold.


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gmwilliams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

Yes to the milnillionth degree. Being single is awesome and fun. I feel good and unencumbered in addition to being free to come and go without any explanations. No man to cook for and to clean up after. I can pursue my hobbies which includes sketching and writing. Yes!!!!!!


nikson 5 years ago

being single is so great~you can do whatever you wanna. but sometimes, we may feel a little bored.


Porky D 5 years ago

Yep, it's a no brainer really. Dozens of cons and not a single pro, why any male goes for this deal is a mystery for the ages.


Nick Johnson 5 years ago

Heck yes!!!!! I loooove this list!!!! thank you for encouraging me with good reasons to stay single for life, I'm 21 and am in college and This is reinforcing me to fight the desires for bonds and true love! :D I never desired it. I agree with the single life.


ABZ 5 years ago

u get come home what ever time u want, from a party or night out, awesome list, its funny, single lifeee rockkss


break up books 5 years ago

I agree! Your hub is hilarious, but 100% true! When I am single I am happier, I hate feeling controlled or having to answer to anybody.


Me, that's who 5 years ago

You forgot a few...

1. You never have to worry about coming home from a hard day's work to find someone's disgusting culinary Frankenstein monsters waiting for you on the table.

2. If you have a sex doll, no one else has to know, and it will save you a ton of money in the long run.

3. You are free to belch out loud without having to hear someone say "iiiiiuuuuhhh!"

4. You can get as drunk as you want as long as you stay inside.

5. Stash spaces? Who needs them?

6. If you live a Clark Kent/Superman double life, no one else will know.

7. You can play your favorite CDs out loud on your stereo without someone belting along with them out-of-tune.

8. You are master of the remote control.

9. No one will freak out and call the fire department if you stick a ball of aluminum fiol in the microwave and watch it spark in there.

10. You can melt lead for making fishing weights on top of the stove and no one will holler at you for it.


Satish 5 years ago

lol really funny to read all this 100 bullet points. simple and straight. made me smile for today :) nice hub really :) worth a share ;)


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Pinkidilly 5 years ago from Midwest U.S.

Cute list. Reading it though made me feel like you are a little bitter about a bad break-up. If that is the case, I am sorry. It would be fun to see you write 101 one Reasons to be in a Relationship too. Would be a nice compare and contrast.


I want to get married 5 years ago

May be you say that because you don't experience marriage is something great you can keep your freedom in marriage don't worry.you will feel sharing in everything, you feel someone besides caring about you more than himself.he can't eat without you are around.worried if you are ill,gives the comfort you need.Marriage is about eternal love not about money or keeping freedom .

I have friends all of them are girls still keeping their freedom after marriage


BruceCF 5 years ago

There is absolutely no way of being always attracted for a person you see EVERY MORNING, it may take 1, 5, 10, 15 or 20 years but at some point you get tired of the same things all the time, it is the true. I can probably add 20 more reasons to stay single.

It is smart to learn of your own mistakes, but it is wise to learn of others mistakes, just listen to what married people say, most of them tell me "keep single", and some others just hide their thoughts but you know they are not happy.

I love freedom


singleandhappy 5 years ago

All these people who are in relationships and are like, so true great list, but I love being in a relelationship, are actually saying... so true great list, I wish I was single, but I have to lie to myself or I'll break the illusion and never recover!


ieathamburgers 5 years ago

Single cons,

Lonely -

make some friends, with benefits if neccesary.

No one to cook for you so you eat junkfood -

Whoever wrote this one is in a relationship because they need a new mommy. You can actually watch what you eat and cook for yourself quickly and with skill.

You don't have to deal with nagging parents -

Really? Instead of forging your own trail of happiness and contentment, you bow to the will of those that havn't walked a mile in your shoes... ya that's a great reason to get married. It may not sound like it, but I have nothing against people who get married for the right reasons, this is definitly not a good reason.

You get bored, being single gets old -

The grass is always greener on the other side, except the other side in this example can take half your shit when they leave.

No free sex on demand -

LAWWWWLZ... Are you kidding me, married guys DO NOT get sex on demand.... HAHAHAHA... Oh you made me laugh I think I pee'd a bit.

As a side not I like Yells comments. His reasons for being in a relationship.

Having someone by your side when things get bad.... SPINELESS

Being pampered... SPINELESS

(my favorite) Because its expected... SPINELESS

people wont nag you wondering when you will meet someone... same thing.

You begin to love your partner for the "quirks" that were mentioned in the article. I think the author meant "truly annoying shit" not just those cute little things they do.

Being single is selfish...

Oh really? I've seen more than my fair share of shitty marraiges and the majority end up one of two ways. Either the wife wears the pants and puts her man on a leash, effectivly removing his testicles, OR the man wears the pants and the woman enjoys her life of endentured servitude. This world is full of maladjusted people, you'd be surprised what single people can do with all that free time, if they have a mind to help others.

Did I mention the part where you can lose half your shit?

I'm sure I didn't have to anyway...


HT 5 years ago

Happiness is only real when shared


Tiffany 5 years ago

Celyn, I find your post to be very ignorant. Being single is not being selfish. Also, have you and everyone else on this page, (crying out about love and partnership) even considering the fact that some people can't help the fact that they are still single and are just trying to find a way to make the best of it? Stop being closed minded.


yash 5 years ago

same here


Jes 5 years ago

Great Post, made me laugh a lot, but seriously, most points are true...


lala 5 years ago

this is awesome list lmfaoo!! quite funny too...!! im being single 4eva and loving it ...bling and everything to myself lols!


heh 5 years ago

i love this you don't need a fat fake lieing cheating untrustworthy untruthful piece of shit!! of a guy!! i HATE drama im not fake at all!! and i physically emotionally mentally cant stand it!! the single option is the BEST WAY FOR ME!!it just feels so right!! and i love kids probably adopt one...its PERFECT they need somone like me...and i need them lols!! but that adoption thing is an iffy right now lols!! i'll see...along my life if i can handle a child or 2 heh =P maybe when im older or something =P and i really im not the sex kind of person i personally think its digusting ...i know ...i know weird...lols! but i personally think i cant handle sex...and what else...heh=P i recently found out i could stay single WHAT AN OPTION! i love it!! my stupid parents lied to me and said you have to get married im catholic but thats A LIE!! you don't have to get married ...just don't have sex ...which i could perfectly do lmfaoo lols!! and you get all the cars clothes goodies to yourself!!


lala 5 years ago

and this is good for anyone...lols...there is no loss ...only good that can come from it =P


heh 5 years ago

and im a virgin!! forgot to add that lmfaooo!!


heh 5 years ago

gonna be single to da death! lmfaoo!!


heh 5 years ago

lmfaoo staying single means you also dont need to deal with AIDS OR STDS or who knows what lmfaoo


heh 5 years ago

^^ single and no sex and other crud of anykind lmfaoo of course lmfaoo lols!


karthik lara 5 years ago

Hi buddy, great to meet u.. i luv 2 being single bcos Im happy when im alone....


Kerrie Penny 5 years ago

Love this. I am actually doing research for my journal. It covers much of the content described here. I also question societal needs that are based on many things that are elusive for many. Please take a look at my journal. New pages will be added as I finish writing. http://kes-taketwo.blogspot.com/ Good luck to you all!


Nebeyu(from Ethiopia) 5 years ago

Your reason is good! Add other reason


Nebeyu(from Ethiopia) 5 years ago

Your reason is good! Add other reason


Molly 5 years ago

Reasons to stay single? Men!!!


Sam 5 years ago

Reason to stay single? Women!


Scott G 5 years ago

I concur. The last bitch I was seriously with still is on a revenge streak for who knows what reason. I gave the world to her and she still ended up being the worst relationship EVER.


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DV 5 years ago

It sounds as if singles are extremely selfish!


chris 5 years ago

Like the list, made me laugh. Here is my opinion. There are singles who are happy and singles who are lonely, there are married peeps living a fulfilling life and some who are miserable. Bottom line-live and let live!!! There is no right or wrong answer to this question. We are all unique individuals, and need to respect that about each other.

Social conditioning, media, religion and even the government all want you to believe that if you CHOOSE to live a single life, there must be something wrong with you, you are a social outcast and you must be so miserable and lonely every minute if your life. Happy singles are bombarded with this judgmental diarhea of nonsense, every day of their lives. No, I am not gay, if I were - I would tell you. No, I am not selfish - I volunteer and give even more, since I actualy have time to do so. No I am not deprived of sex or lonely, I date and get laid anytime I want and it works for me. No, my purpose in life isn't to have 2.5 babies, a minivan, a cookie cutter house in the

suburbs and more drama than I care to shake a stick at.

I simply LOVE being single at the moment, and every perk that comes with it. I do not fully understand, why living in an individualistic society, single people are constantly pressured into livibg a life of conformity and boredom. If you are married and happy, I am happy for you!!! Make the best of it and enjoy every minute. Just don't pity or pressure your single friend or family member into doing the same, for all you know, they could be very content living a happy, healthy anf fulfilling life!!! Respect!


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Dr Rockpile 5 years ago from USA

Love the list! LOL Congrats on it's success.


Queen Dee 5 years ago

I believe that married women are best model reminder of the 101 reasons to stay single!


Macman 5 years ago

When I got divorced after 20 years of an unhappy marriage, it was weird being alone, etc. Been in a couple of relationships since and right away the marriage word would come out, they have asked -- If we are together for over a year what do you envision? this question was asked of me by those women. Now over time I find that I want to remain single or if with a woman as couple but without having to get married, that word for some odd reason changes everything. I hear that one does not want to die alone, really when your dead your dead you have no feelings.


ummmm... 5 years ago

After the kids are grown and the older I get, I just have to agree with most of these reasons. Staying single has become easier. I've had the change of remarriage but the blending of two totally different households was way too much. Kids raised differently was a big issue and just not workable. I'm not selfish at all but just rather be happy and live a contented and happy life vs dealing with issues all the time..not selfish, just smart!!!


vuelos baratos  5 years ago

Loads of excellent writing here. It was indeed very helpful and insightful while being straight forward and to the point. Thanks for the posting.


Lady independent 5 years ago

I like the list, we know its value once we lose them, when you step out of a relationship, you will see what they mean.


XXX 5 years ago

my boy friend also want to become alone...

how can i change him??


Tom 5 years ago

I agree with just about everything here but life being what it is nothing is good all the time-nothing is bad all the time.There is no Utopia.


ally mauritius 5 years ago

i agree with you say single no stress,no headache,in our days it is better to stay lonely.the only person who will be in your side when you are in a problem is? ........your mom and your family.


surprisedcausepeoplearereallystupid 5 years ago

Wow, it's funny how stupid most of these comments are. People are just selfish these days. Go back and re-read your stupid comments and realize how stupid they are.


singleandloving it 5 years ago

Its not stupid! If you don't like it then don't read it...being in a relationship does mostly suck especialy when your partner doesn't trust you and you have to try you best when they dont even bother.....so for now I lets give the 'relationship' thing a rest and have a bit of fun,lifes to short for people who waste time :)


white 5 years ago

just read this at d right time. Im 29 and iv neva liked to be maried. Its just my job,me,friends and family. Im happy n beta off dis way.


Rob 5 years ago

I am 44, single, and absolutely love it. I could add 100 more reasons. Being divorced for 6 years, my #1 goal in life is to take care of my children and I will not be a selfish single parent that needs a mate. I can take care of my children, pay more than my share of child support, spend more time with my children then most men do, have more free time than most men do, I am focused, take more trips than I ever did when I was married, make more money because I am focused on work.

Being in a relationship or married would only take time away from my children and it would be selfish for me. I am like a big kid now and my children and I do everything together. If I was in a relationship or married, I would not be able to do that.

Sex

I am a very attractive man and could pick up a woman or two anytime I want. Instead, I would rather fantasize and take care of it myself. The end result always feels the same; actually a great fantasy goes a long way. If I need the real thing once in a while, I have many ladies that I could call that would be over here in 30 minutes.

Summary

If someone has stayed married and you have kept your family strong, good for you!! If you are divorced and have young children; I believe a person should stay single and take cake care of their children. Once someone completely puts their children first, everything else always falls in place.

I have been married, in relationships, and single. There’s nothing like the single life and until someone rocks my world, (which is what I usually do to them), my ass is staying single!! : - )


nathan 5 years ago

single people .... are the real loser in this world ! what a pity .... scared of everything ! you'll die and miss a lot of beautiful things in this world ! what a pity life to all single and to all people who wants to be single for the rest of their life , u r just showing how miserable ur life is and how lonely u r ....being single means you are selfish and loving your own self .... single are scared of responsibilities ....single are the unhappiest person in the world ...


marie 5 years ago

how sad 101 reason why stay single .....!!! ---nobody stay young for the rest of their life .....


ROLAND 5 years ago

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I never felt so strong. I can feel the spell working through me and I feel so positive again. It's like I got a second chance to undo what I did to her. Thank you so much

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Single 2012 5 years ago

Every one of these reasons are so true. Every since being in a fourteen year relationship ending in a bad divorce. It was wonderful being single. That all happened in 2006. In 2010 I met this man took a leap of faith and moved right in with him after a month of meeting. I miss everyone one of those reasons for being single. Hopefully I will have a new start in 2012 and let him go and I will never settle down again. I would rather be alone then feel like I'm in a boring marriage. Thumbs up to whoever made this lists.


Andrea 5 years ago

The reason why relationships don't work out is because people are just so damn selfish! The feeling of loving someone and having them love you back is like no other feeling in this world! When you are loved it helps you too actually try to see the beauty that is actually still left in this messed up world!


moula 5 years ago

My life wasn't perfect before I met her and before I got married. But I was happy and people who knew me loved me. I was a good caring person that always dreamt of making a good positive difference to the world. I enjoyed the simple things in life and had strong well defined principles which I was very happy to live by.

I wasn't perfect but I was very happy and a hard worker.

When I got into a serious relationship with her, the crap stared coming and just kept coming and coming, I forgave her many times and tried to keep the relationship going. we got married and were happy for like a month when out of the blue she asked for a divorce because I had just graduated and was waiting for my company to place me in the organization....

She's pissed me off too many times, and changed me in too many ways,killed so many of my dreams, didn't allow me to take care of my parents, made me feel guilty about having friends and a good paying job, she hated the house that i worked so hard to pay for, and it was a lovely place. Alot of girls would have loved to live the life i was sproviding her with. she had freedom and support to live her dreams and try different things, and I paid for everything happily until she kept insisting on more and more, never content with what we have, always looking at what other people have and amking her heart sore about it. she wanted a new house which we couldn't afford. she got her way (she treatened me and said the first house was killing her)we moved into the bigger unneccesary house and that nearly killed me. (the worst thing is that our first house was so amazing my whole family loved it, i loved it, my friends loved it, my neighbours loved it, the birds loved it - only this spoilt bitch cant fucking handle the thought of living withing your means and improving your lifestyle when and as your income grows) I was diagnosed with depression and was almost ready to kill myself. worst of all I couldn't pay for everything anymore and in she was always in my face in this new house, there was no where fo me to go and be by myself for even a minute. I was due for a promotion at work and needed it badly, but I was so scared to event try and get it. I refused to end my life, I got help, and worked harder than ever, I discoved than im not suffering from "clinical depression" im just depressed because of how my lifestyle is with her.

I have all this potential and ideas, but no time or desire to even attempt any of the things I am capable of because I dont want to have to tell her about it. I don't want to go out and have a good time with friend cause when i get back she might ask "how was it"...and I don't care to say anything to her.

I don't want to have a great day at work and then come home and have to tell her about it. I don't want to do anything with her because eveything I/she/we is associated witht his constant measure of "are you happy", having a nice time? enjoying yourself?

i like having a full day productive day, doing all sorts of things, coming home and just doing whatever i feel like doing whenever, however, wherever I feel like doing it.

Without this constant nagging to spend more, buy more crap we don't need, and having the weekends to myself/my work/my parents and my friends.

I don't know anyone, i don't talk to anyone, i don't do anything besides what i extremely have to. I wa the friendliest, happieat person and now im just stuck.

26 debt free, earning well, good looking, strong and talented...but rather useless because she killed and destroyed my selfesteem. I don't need this shit in my life.

had I taken this step to walk away from this life earlier - it would have made myk life much better.

i never laid a hand on her but she's been physical with me more than once.

she's very sorry for everything now, because she almost lost me forever, and I can see she's doing everything she possibly can to keep me and keep me happy. but I feel like everything I was and had to offer her has vanished. i don't remember who I was and why people liked me in the fiorst place. however when im alone, at work, or driving by my self i am the happiest and most satisfied person.

We cant fix what has broken between us, an di think its about time we ended this shitty relationship before we have babies and then im bound to her forever.

I was so confident, so motivated, always helping out my fellow man/friend/family. i cant do anything anymore like this and i feel like i can have thatc ontrol back if she will let me go.

i don't like her and need to get out of this circle of crap. we get happy together sometimes - but it lasts like 5 mins and thens its back to her shit.

if she wasn't so damn bossy, so damn impatient and greedy for things without working for them, so damn adiment on having things her way and so fucking spoilt and so damn set on making me feel guilty for things I have no control of. The we would be very happy.

After working for just two years, we have so much compared to most working folks I know, we make so much money together now and have such a great lifestyle. I just feel so damn useless around her I feel like i can do all of that without her.

I would rather work than go on holiday because then I have to be with her. I could move over seas with my work and qualification but don't want to because she might come with and ruin things for me there.

sounds like I hate her. I think I really do. I wish I never met her.

Single life - Love the sound of it. I wouldn't stay single forever. but definitely for as long as I can.


Nancy 5 years ago

this is so true hub!


vikas pathak 5 years ago

I also feel same .

these all sentences are acceptable as on there prospect.


Paolo 5 years ago

Staying single I feel OK and sane. Yay, thanks god.


HAHA 5 years ago

All points are great but #71. Psychopaths are rarely single. See Ted Bundy.


canali 5 years ago

re: nathan and marie: the only losers are you; and your feeble attempts to express yourself in English. hope your study abroad in canada or the usa is a short one: stay in your 3rd world country.

nathan 2 weeks ago

single people .... are the real loser in this world ! what a pity .... scared of everything ! you'll die and miss a lot of beautiful things in this world ! what a pity life to all single and to all people who wants to be single for the rest of their life , u r just showing how miserable ur life is and how lonely u r ....being single means you are selfish and loving your own self .... single are scared of responsibilities ....single are the unhappiest person in the world ...

marie 2 weeks ago

how sad 101 reason why stay single .....!!! ---nobody stay young for the rest of their life .....


Loner 5 years ago

Having a girlfriend wouldn't change whether I walk around naked.


ugh 5 years ago

marriage is so dumb and overrated. Sex is great and there are so many hot women out there! Men, wait to marry until you are like 65! Otherwise, stay single and enjoy the no strings attached variety out there!


yvette 5 years ago

You can end up in a nursing home even if you have children,it is not "just the swinging singles" believe me,I saw a lot of this in my nursing career,people with families forgotten in nursing homes.


Chris 5 years ago

I am officially sold! Great list! After countless attempts at dating, and constant rejection and failure, I am going to enjoy life ALONE. I may even just get a copy of this list blown up, framed and hung in my living room, so it reminds me what is so great about being a lifelong single person!


@ugh 5 years ago

you're a liar about marriage being dumb and overrated. it's a sacred thing. if you can't respect sacred things, you don't deserve to live.

i'll never get married since i'll stay single forever. but i respect marriage no matter what. besides, my parents' marriage fell apart due to my dad being a jerk.

and who are you to tell men to wait until they're 65 to marry? you don't own them. they can decide what age to marry if they want.

one way that you're hypocritical is that you love sex but hate marriage. fyi, you can get in big trouble if you have sex without marrying. heck, you're too evolved for that. besides, only animals have sex without weddings.

as for me, i don't need sex at all 'cause i have problems with women. not that that i hate all of them. but i don't want to go through all the troubles that come with marriage and sex, especially since i don't want kids. therefore, i'm happy being single for the rest of my life. and that's how long i intend to stay single.


manxyminx 5 years ago

Ive decided to stop dating for a while, ive been dating different blokes on and off now for 6mths and they've all be jerks. This list helped me see the prositives and there are many!!

So come the 12th Jan 2012 I wlll see if I want to date again or just have my desserts to myself lol!


Tosin 5 years ago

They forgot that you can retire earlier too!!


Sushovan 5 years ago

i have no certain word to explain your creativity of happiness in staying single.


jaydee 5 years ago

It does scream it is all about me and after spending 16 plus years with a family and it's all about them or them not getting what they want or getting what they don't want of doing something that they don't like the list goes on and it is great to make it all about me as long as you know what it is like to be all about everyone else after awhile.


suga 5 years ago

it's me hah


suga 5 years ago

it's me hah


unknown 5 years ago

this is funny! if you meet me possible you wont think u anymore for being single:)


saddenedbythis 5 years ago

(ALL 101 REASONS)= Living in a sad lonely, boring, isolated, uninteresting, and lonely world.

Love may hurt, but we are humans born with emotions. Being single is the easy way to live your own life. Personally, I'd rather share the experience with others and love knowing not everyone is the same as I.


Chris 5 years ago

I just love how all the miserable people in relationships are calling the single for life people, "selfish". I think they are the ones who are bitter because they can't stand the fact that we single people are actually happy being able to do whatever we want when want without having to run it by someone else first.

I'm 39 and have never been in a relationship and never will. This list of reasons (amongst many others) is why.

Unlike most men, sex is not a big deal to me so I have no "urgent" drive to go find a woman to be attached at the hip to. I can take care of myself when I need to and there is no pillow talk afterward. No listening to someone else snore. No having the blankets being stolen from you overnight. No being kicked in the gut. That's just the bed stuff. Don't get me started on the remote, air conditioning, bathroom, divorce court.....

I have that all to myself along with my time and money. If men weren't so controlled by their dick, most of them would be like me. Single and happy.


Cecile 5 years ago

Your long lists made me laugh... I am a single mom of 2 kids and I'm loving it. I don't mind staying single or if I have the chance to get married, both are OK with me.. I guess whatever you choose in your life whether to stay single or be married, that is all up to you on how deal with and be Happy. I am definitely sharing this to my friends.


Sicy 5 years ago

Single z only wae to go especially havin witnessed your parents marriage fall apary due to selfish reasons for the first 20years of ur life,,,,pple are dying inside in these so called marriages,,,lol


TCBgirl 5 years ago

REMEMBER: you can't be "lonely" if you like the person you're alone with ... besides, familiarity breeds contempt ;)


4 years ago

Awesomme!!! Couldn't agree more.. Am a 3rd yr uni std doing my second law degree, well i for one hates the idea of having a boyfriend/ settling down, sex, etc.. etc.. way out of my list..having seen my parents arguing/fighting till am almost 23, as I speak, often just makes me hate marriage life..situations have a major impact on peoples lives so who are you( married people) to judge a person, ur the real losers if u start pointing fingers..Well, having to live a life of freedom"single" is way better than being answerable to sumone -everyday of ur lyf... To all 'you singles' out their or those who are planning too, 'never let the fear of stricking out keep you from playing the game'.. All the best in life and what it has to offer you.. Cheers


David 4 years ago

Great list, would be interesting to see one written from the male perspective


caseyisawesome 4 years ago

I've been in a relationship for nearly three years and most of these things are a nonissue. We have lived together for most of it are just happy to be near someone we love and who loves us. I'm particularly excited that there is someone just a room or two away that I can show this hilarious hub to and laugh with (which I'm totally gonna do when I'm done here). We might be married someday and who knows if things will change, but but one thing is for sure...I can darn well walk around naked whenever I want!!!


Aumabossha 4 years ago

Once you are in Love, u can never live single...be that love lasts or not........ lol


so very true 4 years ago

as a straight man that was married twice at one time, i was a very caring and loving husband that never cheated on them. i was very committed to them at the time, and they did cheat on me. now that i am alone and single again, it sure sucks for me. most of the men out there now, enjoy being single. i am one out of so many men that hate being single, and i will admit it. but after being married twice, i will try not to make that third mistake again. i seem to meet all the women that are whores, instead of the decent ones. but where are the good women today? being single now is a disadvantage for me, because when you do not have that many friends like me it hurts a lot. most men at my age now are married with their own families. i am in my late fifties, and for me as you can see time is short. i will go out every single night not to be home by myself, just hoping to be at the right place at the right time to meet a good woman for me this time again. i hate being home, so going out and being around other people does make me feel better. the men out there that were very lucky to have met the right woman for them and have a family, should go to church to pray to thank god for what they have and not complain. it is the men like me that are hurting today.


SingleGuy 4 years ago

I think marriage is a great concept for some people, unfortunately I think we all feel the social pressure to marry.

Personally however, I have a problem with entering into a partnership governed by the state, what does the state have to do with who I commit my life to? Why do they need to get involved? I don't need a certificate or a law that decides for me what I am really intending. I believe it is ok to date for the rest of your life, however I don't believe most women would accept that. I also think men and women want different things out of life and have different needs at different times. People need different kinds of relationships throughout their lives, but if you marry one person forever, you are bound to be unsatisfied and to truly experience what you need, you will need to go elsewhere. When the person strays, they are a cheater and the relationship is doomed. Its the natural tendencies of men and women and I personally don't feel any value from working on my relationship.


Set me free 4 years ago

Having been single for a good number of years and now in a relationship and planning marriage for the past year and a half. I agree with the above list ! I'm fed up with sharing, I'm fed up with her needing to talk, also asking what, why and do you need to do that ? And her clingyness.

I'm about to call the wedding off and end the relationship ! Stay single, it's much more fun, less stress and financially you are better off ! Sure you may desire companionship but that's what one night stands are for.


John 4 years ago

It's great being single - I have been in several long term relationships, but now I just love my freedom.

The only thing I worry about is getting lonely, but I have great friends, & friends are much more important to me than a partner.

I also have a 'friends with benefits' arrangement with a woman I met (this was her idea!), so I still get to have kisses & cuddles on the sofa, & occassional sex, without all the crap that usually comes with it.

To be honest, I'd rather get a dog than another girlfriend; the later you get back home at night, the more pleased a dog is to see you... A dog will not start shouting "where the hell have you been? / what time do you call this?" etc...

Ha ha it's funny, while I'm typing this there is an episode of 'Friends' on my TV - Ross & Rachel are screaming at each other - yes I know it's just a TV show but unfortunately arguing seems to be a part of relationships these days.

I want an easy life!


Alexandra Rose 4 years ago

i feel like pizza now.


Zack 4 years ago

No comment...^_^


RE: SET ME FREE 4 years ago

[quote]"Set me free 4 days ago

Having been single for a good number of years and now in a relationship and planning marriage for the past year and a half. I agree with the above list ! I'm fed up with sharing, I'm fed up with her needing to talk, also asking what, why and do you need to do that ? And her clingyness.

I'm about to call the wedding off and end the relationship ! Stay single, it's much more fun, less stress and financially you are better off ! Sure you may desire companionship but that's what one night stands are for." [quote]

DUDE!!!! LISTEN TO ME...CALL IT OFF...IF YOUR GUT IS TELLING YOU TO AND IF YOU ARE EVEN THINKING ABOUT IT ..DO IT. I Was very close to the altar and was mentally forcing myself to accept the nightmare ahead of me.I then decided to follow the gut feeling I had ever since the red flags began to show and Overnight I mustered up the guts to call it all off...moved out the next day..and never looked back. Left a condo, nice cars, family money- and I am happier and more successful than ever. To do whatever you want, whenever the FUCK YOU WANT is beyond words. CALL THIS SHIT OFF DUDE. My married friends are all miserable. NOT ME


Liz 4 years ago

I was married ones...and it ended up badly. I became a coward and didn't listen to my gut. I knew right before walking down the altar that it wasn't going to work out. So, many years after my divorced I've remained single and I'm loving it. I decided to purse my professional dreams and eccentric livestyle. I traveled and lived all over the world, I've met very unique and interesting people. I've learned many languages. And, I have no regrets. I know that most of my friends have become mothers...but I still have no regrets. Maybe, someday I might want to have my own kids..who knows. For now I'm happy that I'm single and don't need to answer to anyone.


Roshwill 4 years ago

or should i add no one will check your facebook as well as ask for the password and when he thinks you posted or commented something out of his limits, text all your friends, drink cause he will start an argument.


tbone 4 years ago

my gut said call it off instead i got divorced 1 yr later listen to gut feeling its always right and stay single live together if you want then you can just throw her out 2 yrs later end of story and keep all your money no one to get half. greattttttttttt


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Twilight Lawns 4 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K.

I knew all of this... I wish I'd paid attention to myself.

Great hub... why weren't you there to sit on my chest and force feed me before I took the plunge?


clare roddy 4 years ago

I hate being single it sucks! Its so much better knowing that there is someone there who loves you for all that you are( given that u have found "the one") someone who loves u and you can share everything with is so special! I think its just about getting the balance right in a relationship, your dependency and independence both very different but both very vital in a happy lifestyle and fulfilling relationship :-) x


Luis 4 years ago

Unhappy in a marriage for best part of 8 years and live in separate parts of the house now but i cant date due to family pressure and others talking "married man etc" and trouble from "wife". I have one lovely child nearly 2.

Catch 22.

I think I will take the leap very soon and move out.

Just concerned about my boy how it will affect him.


saim 4 years ago

I like 42years old women. who is widow and like young . who live alone. just wet for me .


Camo Girl!! 4 years ago

Well i don't care how many reasons there i hate to be single i have been for about 4yrs now but not for long i meet this guy it just is so sad to see all my friends to have someone there for them when they need them and i have my family and friends but i want a boyfriend to love and IF ANY OF YOU GUYS THINK THAT IS GAY O WELL!!!


bill 4 years ago

This is absolutely a remarkable and well thought out list. I am so happy to be single. Yeah, it does have its few draw backs, but it outweighs all the draw backs being attached to a nagging, whining, money spending mate, especially with one that still has kids that hate you. The only happy periods I can remember is when I am single between relationships. I always mess it up by getting back with a women. It starts on the fantasy lane, then the first fight, the the compromise and make up route, then the stick with her because I have invested so much time, then the final big fight, and then the heartache, depression, drinking, doing foolish things, settling down, and then enjoying my single life again. Same old cycle with me all the time. Seems like, when I am so happy, being single, up pops that woman. I am like a moth and a light bulb. I can't seem to stop flying into the hot blinding light. I am glad your list has given me some light so that I will not mess up again. I am going to make a large poster and paste it on my bedroom wall. Great Job!!!


Mark 4 years ago

For the last 13 years, I have been living with the most beautiful, loving, kind, tender and sweet blue-eyed girl. She is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me. The relationship is completely platonic and there will never be marriage. I know I will lose her in the next few years but I enjoy every moment I have with her. She is my cat. She is better companionship than any human I have ever met. I am not keen to share another person's shit. Got a box of my own, thanks, and it's plenty for me. All of the women I have met and started tentative relationships with over the years turned out to be very scary people. I attract the psychos, I guess. As for dying alone...we all die alone. My cats play mind games with me but they are not the vile ones humans play. For all those who accuse us single people of being selfish, perhaps we are...wouldn't it be better to recognize that in ourselves before committing to being legally manacled to another person? I KNOW I'm selfish. I'm much better off being single and child-free.


Greg 4 years ago

With the single life you are never second guessed by others. No bratty spoled children to deal with or pay for college. No religious conflicts.


Greg 4 years ago

No gold diggers to deal with that only care about your money and not you. You can retire earlier since you aren't supporting others. No one to wreck your credit rating. For those with incurable heretiary genetic issues, you won't be pressured on inflicting that on another generation of children. No school squabbles no children getting in trouble at school.


yo momma 4 years ago

your all idiots :)


Camo Girl!!! 4 years ago

NOT ALL WOMEN ARE GOLD DIGGERS MAYBE THE ONES YOU GOT Greg AND NOT ALL KIDS ARE SPOLED AND NOT ALL KIDS GET IN TROUBLE IN SCHOOL SOME DO YES BUT NOT ALL KIDS SO YOU Greg NEED TO BE MORE BETTER MAN AND YOU MIGHT GET BETTER WOMEN DID YOU EVER THINK ABOUT THAT? AND I AM ONLY 17 AND I KNOW THAT!!! JUST BE NICE THAT IS ALL I AM SAYING.


lili 4 years ago

Number gazillion and one: Divorce is so freaking expenses and post-divorce taxes are a nightmare. You think you know someone, you really, really do...

Of course married men are happy. They're taking advantage of the married women (in general). When we figure out the scam, they get unhappy, too.

I was a big believer in traditional marriage until it screwed me over. (It couldn't happen to me, I would try harder! Work harder! Put up with more! Adultery? No problem! Lying? No prob! Unemployment? Illness? I can TAKE it! I BELIEVE in marriage! And then, of course, he left. Doesn't want to sign the papers because that will lead to court-ordered child support. :) Oh but I can *make it happen* if only I try hard enough.)

Take a note, kids. Just shack up.

Think hard before having kids together. Write a custody plan before you have kids. What are you going to do if you break up. Have it notarized. Maybe even go before a judge to have it set in stone. The kids' wellbeing matters here, their stability and love from both parents.

The marriage certificate? It's a piece of paper. The kids are forever. Save your money for their wellbeing, not for the lawyers. #LFMF


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looniestlove 4 years ago from Davao City, Philippines

wow what a funny, interesting and somehow useful tips...thanks for sharing this with us...and it is really effective because you got a lot of comments from the readers...well written as well...


lara 4 years ago

yo, i am just getting a divorce. he said he do not love me anymore. i need it about a month to get my head together. i have to say i just love your list. specially, 91, 98, 100 and one was about kids...i realy want to have a child and i pray that my wish will come true although i will probably stay single to the end. mnaybe you are wright : maybe its time to see who the fuck am i and to develop my potentials to the fulliest. maybe that is the reason i lost my love, to find another in myself.


toma 4 years ago

102 : you r in a safe side no one will break ur heart !


lara 4 years ago

as far as i know there are always 2 in a relationship and both reposnisble for the good and bad things they do. so saying someone is guilty for everything is like saying you are perfect. no one is perfect ! its a great plus if you tell the other person what hurted you. maybe the other person does not know he hurted you with that what you have in mind. if the other person is willing to listen, think about and see the mestake and of course apologize, than that is the best thing that can happen. staying behind 4 walls does not solve anything.single is not about staying alone and playing computer games all day.its about getting to know your self, seeing who you realy are and what you can be. there is always someone who can break your heart, if your heart is broken from before.if someone just hurts you, your heart cant break that fast.


lala 4 years ago

interesting post, but a lot of this stuff doesn't matter if you're in love. a lot of it is stuff I love about having a partner - sharing a tiny space and bickering and being in love


lulu 4 years ago

after love flyes away, cause it always does, you have to work on your relationship. but, of course you can always JUMP on a new loveeee and eat ice cream, again !!

you can do whatever you want..until you get to this point, i was talking about, you do not even know its there...its all chocolate and icea cream...and aint nothing wrong with that...when you get older, you want more...


ally 4 years ago

i'm sorry, but most of these people who wrote on the comments don't no how to spell properly it's frustrating. And the person who wrote the 101 reasons to stay single is a genius. More room, and to have the power to do what you want is amazing.


chachacharlie 4 years ago

Thank you for this! Not sure how I stumbled upon it, but glad I did. So true most of them. It might seem like selfishness, but I don't think there's anything wrong with loving yourself. Most people who are in relationships for years on end don't have a chance to do that. I've been a single gal for a long time and I do get down sometimes about it--especially when people in relationships take advantage of flaunting themselves or rubbing it in when they know you're single. I know that those folks might not have it that great and probably are wishing they were like me! Lots of folks are afraid of getting to know themselves--they're afraid of what they'll find maybe?! I have benefited tremendously from living the single life and encourage those who haven't had a good period to themselves to experience it. I've had the greatest relationship with myself and no one can take that away from me. But now, I'm ready to go onto the next stage and be in a relationship, and I hope that it will be richer because of the care I've given myself in the single life.


Chris 4 years ago

Ally, I agree with you. It's so damn sad that so many people are illiterate. Imagine these people having kids? They can't even spell simple English in an online forum. No wonder we have so many dumb people today.

This is list is genius. It's perfectly valid. People can tell me I'm selfish for not wanting (or needing) women in my life but just ask who is happier. I can do whatever I want whenever I want. Can they?


Amanda 4 years ago

I don't know i don't want to be single forever, why would anyone want to be single forever...?


Pete 4 years ago

Fight Marriage, Fight slavery!


4 years ago

Ironic part is that you are engaged now.


SarahBodo 4 years ago

I think I am going,to remain single for a long time. I am grateful that I even have a daughter, so I don't have to worry about dying with no kids. I love being single.


Elmira 4 years ago

But you dont have anyone to be with him/her and help you not being alone


Kwame a takyi 4 years ago

Sometime being single is good,cus a lady i've been with from high school to 2008 left me for italy. She don't call again so if i was alone i won't think of her. Pls need a serious lady in a relationship. Contact me on 233244823966 or on facebook kwame adom takyi. Thanks


sasidaran.p 4 years ago

this is really good for me.there are so many things we have to go through to get married.even if you fall in love with someone we have to go through her way.the person just says why i should love you. many time we just hurt ourselves in search of love and some special.


bella 4 years ago

sweetie, actually, valentine's day if you're single and not feeling like a foreveralone, costs nothing :p


but... 4 years ago

All these things only really apply when you have a choice in the matter. If you have no choice and never will any benefit is pretty hollow feeling.


Paula 4 years ago

Maybe my ex read this just right before he dumped me. Lol that jerk! I hope he is enjoying his freedom because I know I am ;)


Innocent 4 years ago

Thanks man,when my wife passed away my in-laws take everthing &left me with my kids.l starved very hard &prayed to god to be married again.l felt in love with another girlfriend whose atittude show me she is greed of boyfriends.l compare her with my late wife l found that it is better to stay single than to be married again!!!!


HDA 4 years ago

Wow, I think 80-90 of these could also be "reasons not to date shitty people." I've never encountered most of these and if I did, I certainly wouldn't lower myself to tolerating them. This is just a laundry list of complaints, not reasons to be free.


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MeMie 4 years ago

lol impressed ^_^


Chelsea 4 years ago

Not just men are happily single.......I am ECSTATIC about my single-hood! FREEDOM! Contemplating on being single forever, never getting married, we only live ONCE! I want to do what I want! Live a full, long, successful life with MY career, MY home, and ONLY my family to enjoy and spend time with. I want to travel and enjoy life drama-free. YEAH I love this hub!


Ronald C Holmes. 4 years ago

I believe a person should discover complete fullfillment with in a relationhip with his Creator and himself before seeking instead of trying to get other to fullfill themselves which always leave them lonely,empty,and frustrating inside and sometime cause a person to resort to violent out brust of anger,drinking liquor,drugs,or terminate their life.


jim 4 years ago

When iam single I'm so much better being and staying that way! I let myself always get suckered into relationships and several baby momas! Never again will I ever try to help or make someone happy! If I could go back in time to high school days I would have never bothered with any relationship! Much better for me being single and happy than dating or engaged! For people who are with someone I wish you well!!!


Ish 4 years ago

I had to learn "the hard way" as we say that I need always to consider a person's motive for saying something.... I finally realized: The persons who have been telling me (and there a many, many of them, in many formats) that "we are social creatures," "no one wants to be alone" (and so forth)--are, after all, THOSE KIND OF PEOPLE! THEY LIKE THAT! But! It does not mean that I'm like that, or should be like that, or need to be like that...or, that I'd be better off/happier like that.... I so loved Ted Turner's saying he is a loner....


Brittany 4 years ago

This is Really good hub!! but i still dont like being single some people do but not me. i love you Noah Bender!!!


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Crystal Tatum 4 years ago from Georgia

I'm new here and I've been considering writing a hub about the many benefits of being single. So glad I did a search to see if it had already been done. I don't think I could top this! Congrats on all your success.


honest 4 years ago

amazing facts, loved most of themmmmmmmmmmmmm. hope to bring up such topics more and more.


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kunduz 4 years ago from unkonwn

if u plz find out some disadvantages of a married life , will be happyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy. and will remain single for ever.


Kang 4 years ago

To anyone who said single people are selfish. Please, you are being hypocritical yourselves. In 5(at least) years from now, you will wish that you live in a single life again and so, you don't have to deal with all the bullshit you have in your marriage life. If you are happily married, then you should not be here and leave us, single people alone, please!! we are living in a happy life now and stop trying to destroy our happiness. I admit I'm selfish BUT I'm not like how you think I am. I like to help my family and friends and I like to share my experiences. Also, I like to volunteer for the community. I sometimes babysit the kids if the parents need a babysitter. Isn't that good enough? If no, then something is wrong with you. I mean, seriously.


Mary Jai 4 years ago

I am really annoyed by people who are in a relationship posting on here why being single sucks. You all know you WISH you were single.


Noah 4 years ago

Thanks for the list, it makes me feel better.

I have been single my whole life (I'm 21). I just can't decide if I want a relationship or not (even though I'm too shy to try anyway). I always wonder if I'm missing out on a big part of life. What I'm really afraid of is getting in a relationship, loving it, and then getting dumped and hating being single because I don't have the confidence to ask girls out. I figure I'm better off not knowing what I'm missing.


Lauren 4 years ago

Loved this post! I'm single and I love it. Granted, there are times when I feel it would be really nice to have someone to talk to and have support from and certainly someone to do things and enjoy things with (sometimes doing things on your own does get a little old...i.e "enjoyed that movie? That's great, there's no one around to tell"). But I love my own time, spending my own money, going where I want, etc. I just started back to school to be a forensic anthropologist/archaeologist and I made that decision on my own without having to worry about anybody else. And if I need to travel for my job, so be it...I'll just have to get someone to watch the dog! And if I ever have kids, it's easy enough to home school them and bring them with my on my travels. There was a time when I was one of those girls who desperately wanted to get married asap but now I'd rather take the time to hone my beliefs and stuff and get to know myself inside and out before worrying about anyone else. If Mr. Right comes along, I'll give him a chance but I'm not really looking. Everyone around me definitely does think that's weird, lol Not to mention there's always the feeling of being a "third wheel" (since all my friends are married) but that feeling can be easily dismissed most of the time and you can still have a lot of fun with them. Will I ever get married, no idea. But regardless, I don't NEED to, I can certainly take care of myself.


Yousif Hussein 4 years ago

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For some,being married sooner has got much more benefits and matches his/her life better and mo9re accurate and for some others being for longer periods ,even forever,suits the best.

I am still single and I am 35.Mine brings the opportunity of life in such a way together than get married and neglect about the further sub-sequences and aftermaths .

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Besttimeofyourlife 4 years ago

well. i think marriage is the whole reason im living.

even though all of those 101 reasons are kinda true,

happiness and love still beat those 101 reasons.

but if the single train is for u..go ahead on hop on...but just remember, lonliness is a killer!

there are plenty of fish in the sea ...so if one of them is rotten, go ahead and catch another one, and so on....

good night!


Jesus 4 years ago

Singledom is the next evolutionary stage of humanity. The world is overpopulated, resources are running out, yet the idiots keep breeding. Marriage is a contract between two people to raise a child. Ask the government, thats how they describe it.

All my relationships made me want to be single, society pressures us to marry, but who wants to live a life of compromises and stress.

Some people do need other people, but if you are strong and happy with yourself then by all means stay single, do yourself and the earth a favour.


SithSeeker 4 years ago

I disagree with staying single means you will eat Junk food, on the contrary my eating habits have improved because I don't have other shoppers in the house that by crap. I'm a vegetarian, I use to get crap for it all the time. I love being single and this list is almost spot on. Yes, I would rather put my happiness first, isn't that what people do who decide to marry. They want to be married and makes them happy otherwise they wouldn't do it.

Confirmed Bachelorette for life. I love the peace, it is what I've been looking for all my life.


SithSeeker 4 years ago

and I can make mistakes too. love it.


NoDate4Me 4 years ago

Well, seeing as how I am 39 and have never even been ON A DATE, I guess I better look at those 101 reasons as seeing the glass half full. It's not that I haven't wanted to. But, life has not worked out that way for me. I knew some girls in high school, but they only wanted to be friends. I did not go to college, but even if I had, it's not like that would have made any difference anyway. One friend of mine who went to college had hopes of his luck with girls turning around, but he said that was no better than high school. He said the social scene left a lot to be desired. People lived in dorms and what not, but the school made everybody go home on the weekends, which in essence, made it no better than high school. In four years of college, he did not meet the first new person. Since I didn't go to college, I went to work straight out of high school and that of course provides a single guy with even less opportunities to meet women. To make matters harder, I was at a time in my life where the women in my age range were ending the dating phase of life and looking toward the future. Here I was in my early 20's still waiting on that first date, and girls my age (if they weren't married yet) were in serious relationships and were thinking about the next phase of life. Marriage, house, kids, retirement, etc. By the time you get to be my age, well, it's too just simply too late. I can't start a dating life 20 years past the time everybody else my age finished theirs. It just doesn't work that way. Would I be happier married? I can't say. Would I be happier single? Well, I still can't say. All I can say is being woman-less is all I have ever known. And it sure as sh*t wasn't something I chose. So, for you people on here up on your high horse saying crap like "loneliness kills" well, you need to take a second and remember that some people are single forever and a day and can't really do anything about it.


maxilo20 4 years ago

Also, in my opinion its not good to settle. Its always good to follow your heart and wait for the right person. trust me, being in a relationship with someone for almost 2 years made me realize why was I in a relationship to begin with? I do pray to God that I find the right person. But lately, I've been seeing alot of people settling because they are afraid of being alone. I think we are afraid of what loneliness represents, than actually what alone really is.


denise 4 years ago

what a horrible and depressing list and I'm not even sure what the "permission to orgasm" comment means. if you think this way and you are in a relationship--END it now! I didn't even think I was in a good relationship until I read this. Now I think I may have met the love of my life. Good grief!


NoDate4Me 4 years ago

@denise,

Seriously, why are you here? You've met someone, you're happy. Great. Why do you find it necessary to come on here and run people down for choosing to be single? Does that make you feel better? I can't speak for everybody on here, but I'm single because I really have no choice. I'm 39 and have NEVER even been on a date before! You think I wanted that? Hell no!! But, it is what it is, and there isn't a thing I can do about it. So, I look at some of this list and try to find some solace in it. A lot of the reasons are really grasping for straws, but some make sense. So, good grief to you, show some compassion for those whose lives aren't all peaches and cream. Just try and imagine being and old man with zero dating experience. Just for a moment.


Zebra 4 years ago

I love how married people have all this "advice" for single people when in reality, married people don't have a clue when it comes to single life. A lot of people got married right out of high school or just simply married the first person they dated. They certainly aren't in any position to give advice. Then of course, you have the ones who were actually single for awhile and waited until their mid-late 20's to get married. People in that category did at least go through the dating process so they have some room to talk. But, not a lot. Because even given the fact that they were once single, they change once they tie the knot and aren't that same person anymore. Not to mention the fact that the world is always changing. So, what worked for them when they were single may not work for a single person in today's world. No married person can really tell a single person squat. And,to be fair, single people are in no position to dole out advice to married people. Neither side truly knows how the opposite side really is. Yet, it's the married ones who LOVE to look down their noses at the single people. As if they are beneath them in some way. Newsflash. Being married doesn't make you better than ANYONE who is single.


NoDate4Me 4 years ago

@zebra,

you nailed it! There should be a list of the different things that the high horse married people say to the single people as advice. It's just laughable. Among my favorites are

1) "You have to put yourself out there". "Sell yourself on what a good mate you would be for someone". -This usually comes from someone who got married right out of high school and thus never had to go put themselves out there.

2) "Shoot, if it were me, I'd talk to anyone and everyone I even thought was the least bit attractive". - Again, says someone who is married and it comes from someone who claims they would do this and that and be this awesome outgoing person IF they were single yet in their married reality, they are a cricket.

3) "Try church, that is ALWAYS a way to meet single people". -Really? So, if I pick a church and just show up, the church members will be all well and good with somebody using their place of worship as a place to hook up. And of course, again, says someone who is....all together now....married.

4) "It will happen eventually". - Okay then......


alen 4 years ago

good to stay alone.cuz you can do anything if you want to do.purpush of life by without love.


ladyx 4 years ago

omg!!! this hub made my nyt lol it made me laugh proper. aywy am 18 and a virgin.i am not craving for relationships neither am i craving for sex. i love this list cus it gives me a lot of reasons to stay happy whiles am single nd know myself better. in my opinion, i fink love is nice nd beautiful but i wont rush nd fall 4 sumone which will ruin the rest of my life. lol i just have to chill whiles am single cus ikr it wont be the same wen i get in2 a relationship. if love finds me fair enuf, and if it doesnt oh yes tht is how it is supposed to be and therefore will have evry ryt to live happily!!!!

cheers!!! :D


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mismazda 4 years ago from a southern georgia peach

Love love love..it..especially #1 and #19...but anyway Im married now..LOL..voted up and funny..:)


Mr. Awesome 4 years ago

Hey. This list is true. I'm 26, still single, and happy about it. My friend (he's 27) just broke up with gf, that he lived with for 5 years. Now he's depressed and has a broken heart, and have to do everything from zero again. In these days you cannot trust anyone, because I think there is no true love left in this world, only "profit"..


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Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

Yeah, it is good to have a head of your own, readers. The man who wrote this is happily married with no regrets, and is working on ways to stay married. Way to go, author!

When I was single, I enjoyed it, although I was fairly disciplined. I did not have to bump my head too many times. I was raised by father, mother, and protective brothers.

But, when I married my husband, I gladly said goodbye to the single life. It is thrilling to find something better than the best.

This hub rocks! I voted up and other positives.


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Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

Ally:

Don't be quick to negatively criticize others' spelling. You misspelled a word. You wrote "no" instead of "know." You also had capitalization and punctuation errors. We all make errors sometimes.


Rinzu 4 years ago

Funny.! Do not agree with some points but most make sense.!


enterdaveman 4 years ago

When my wife first left me I was devastated. But now that I have the freedom to go on vacations that I choose and only have one to pay for, I get to watch as much football as I want, and when my daughter and I hang out we don't have to ask a third person what she wants to do. I LOVE IT!!


Daniel baum 4 years ago

I love being single and never want a gf again they are waste of time..


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RealConception7 4 years ago

Hah!!! Well this sure makes me feel better!


Observer 4 years ago

Don't have to show any reason-simply go through the lives of Newton,Tesla,Leonardo,Beethoven,Swami Vivekananda(who influenced Tesla to remain bachelor) etc and it's quite evident why bachelor life is best for men.


Wiz 4 years ago

Hi guys I'm on the verge of getting married but have been really depressed about it. The day I got engaged was like a funeral. I have 2 months to call it off and am thinking seriously ending it. I want to do wat ever I want when ever I want. I can't give up my flashy clothes the bed and my classical cars. She cums and I feel I will have to have permission for these things. Im 33 never been in a relationship as it scares me half to death and now the difficulty will cum by saying to her it's over I'm torn with wat or how I should end it.


ana 4 years ago

Dear, your idea is great but your reasons are only good for men. what about women who want to be strong and stay single?


WTF 3 years ago

Well everyone has a take on the issue of staying single or getting hooked


WTF 3 years ago

well the place where i come from is very pro-marriage and no one has a clue as to why anybody should get married in first place.. funnily the common reason that people give when i prod them as to why they are tying the knot is not convincing enough.. they are shit scared that they would have no one to take care of them when they grow old.. its like a safety net.. at the cost of sounding chauvinistic i feel that there is nothing for a guy in a marriage.. love, care and affection sounds sooo cliche.. as far as sex is concerned its neither free nor great.. coz pampering a woman is like trying to satisfy a glutton and after a while sex becomes predictable.. does anybody ever gets excited to BRUSH TEETH .. marriage is for safeguarding women.. its a ploy to keep men forever bound to an archaiac system


gerard 3 years ago

It's sad to see my married female friends flirt with other men every chance they get. Not to mention, I screwed most of the. I love being single.


lalitha 3 years ago

very useful


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Nakia Deon 3 years ago

This was a great list...but I totally could have done without the disclaimer in the beginning...

Being single is great...except now I am married so everything below means absolutely nothing for all of you sad sad single people...LOL


Sal 3 years ago

I'm only 16 but I'm very confused on whether to stay single or get married. Marriage is such a schlep, it's all moonshine and roses at the start and before you know it, you're just two people lying on two opposite sides of a bed farting at each other ( I love Anger Management) :P

But if you're single, your time is your time and it goes slower and there's enough time to do whatever you want. Chase all your dreams, meet millions of people who can be befriended and inspire you and then unfriended when you're bored.

And you don't have to be lonely if you have an awesome job and if you adopt a child, if you perhaps live with a flatmate. You don't need a partner to sometimes tell you that you are amazing or you are crazy. If you know your strengths and weaknesses, you can make yourself happy.

I plan on being celibate if I stay single, due to religion and because there is more to life than sex.


Futamarka 3 years ago

Считается, что отопление жилища за счет солнечной энергии возможно в очень ограниченных областях земного шара. Однако, по многолетним наблюдениям метеорологов, на широте Минска с апреля по сентябрь на 1 м2 поверхности падает 297600 МДж солнечной энергии. При норме энергопотребления на 1 м2 отапливаемого хохотания 70 квт•ч/год, что значительно выше, чем во многих странах Западной Европы, годовое потребление энергии составит всего 25200 МДж. Следовательно, израсходуется только 10 % солнечной энергии, и ее будет достаточно как для отапливания, так и для горячего водоснабжения круглый год. Система канализации должна быть локальной и ретрономной, максимально использующей естественные процессы перезаботки и биотехнологии.


Ann 3 years ago

There's just so many reasons to stay single, very informative.


Anca Prisacariu 3 years ago

So manyyyyyyyyyy reasons!


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Billy Mack 3 years ago

I think it's very critical all of us realize American culture has changed so much over the past 40 years. Sex roles have been redefined and readjusted. Dating rituals have not quite caught up to that. Online dating should make it easier, but I found that works best for people under 40. If you are older, you will have a very tough struggle finding even reasonably decent prospects. Again it's a numbers game. Where you live,your age, M/F ratios will have a huge impact on your success out there. Sadly our culture has pushed men back in terms of being providers and protectors. Many women want to have it all, do it all, and stay alone. When I was younger, I had that mindset too. It's a dead end, lose it now. Once you age up, it's very lonely from 40 on. I also find the world just isn't too friendly. Most chances for friendship will end by then. Most people around you are absorbed into their own lives and personal dramas. You won't be needed in their lives. As you get older you also just either give up looking, or you get comfortable being lonely. I last dated over ten years ago. I wouldn't know what to say on a date today, how to act, and so on. I'm out of practice, and after only 5 dates in my whole life, I'm still pretty rough. AS I posted long ago, I started too late, and I was never able to catch up. You can't catch up in midlife as I learned the hard way.


SpeakingTheTruth 3 years ago

well since most of the women today do CHEAT, it is very obvious why there are so many of us single men out there today. and looking for a good faithful one is very impossible today.


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janey 2 years ago

nobody is more lonely than a married person


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Charli Renee 2 years ago

Okay first, thank you, each and everyone of you as I found these comments insightful and entertaining. What a sweet research project....

Aside from the bitter single ppl or the defensive married ppl, I have been enlightened by many of your insights and opinions.

I am excited about embracing my single'ness, even to the extent of choosing it. Being in a happy marriage requires energy and effort and the same is true of being happily single. There are perks and advantages of both scenarios. Most would agree unhappy single trumps unhappy marriage, and many would argue happily married trumps happily single, but that is subjective to each individual. I have just enough issues and baggage to know that perhaps at my ripe old age of 48 it's high time I invest my energy in learning to not only survive my "table for one" status but thrive in it. Everyone has to decide and accept what is best for his or her life but if one hasn't the inclination for sharing, giving, and forgiving, often, than it's probably not a good idea to marry cuz those are the essential ingredients to a successful marriage, and all parties need apply all these components consistently. When both parties are taking precious care of each other and of his or her self, well, than its a great place to be.

I love lots about being single but appreciate much about having another too. Honestly, I just think how you know which is better or if you are with the right person is one do they bring out the best in you most of the time, visa - versa. Also, you know if your more suited to be single or married, if you are more happy, healthy and productive when your single or perhaps more so when you are in a healthy marriage. I also think if you lack the ability to align your actions with words, don't pretend you can, accept reality and live accordingly. And if your insecure and unhappy, definitely work on making the single self whole, as it's impossible to have a healthy union with a broken unit.

We are not going to be happy and content 24/7 but honestly, for now, I am happy and content single most all of the time. So, today single is a sweet place to be.

No matter what, laugh, love and appreciate on my friends.


James 2 years ago

And you don't have to worry about your spouse planning to kill you for your life insurance or assets.


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