Being single's a blast. However, when all of your Facebook friends start posting about their weddings, you might need a bit of a reminder as to why it's so great in the first place. Here is a list of why being single can be great. Enjoy, and whether you're single or married, remember: It's your life. Live it however you want to live it.
The Big List Of The Benefits Of Bachelorism
1. Everything in your house is yours.
2. You don't have to hide gifts, receipts, and other purchase records in ridiculous places.
3. If you buy something "yummy", you don't have to buy twice as much.
4. The only person you have to dress up for is your boss.
5. Your late nights are all yours.
6. Less stuff to move when you do move
7. One bedroom apartments feel more spacious with only one person
8. You never have to ask for permission to orgasm.
9. Only the doctor can tell you what to eat
10. You decide what to shave and when
11. Valentine's Day costs less
12. No anniversaries to remember
13. No extra birthdays to remember
14. No extra family to shop for during the holidays
15. No irritating in-laws to deal with
16. You can walk around naked whenever you want.
17. Only your sense of decency has any say about where you leave your dirty clothes.
18. You don't have to share
19. You don't have to change your life because someone else has jealousy issues.
20. The only insecurities you have to deal with are your own.
21. Getting that out-of-state job doesn't hinge on what someone else wants or thinks.
22. The only people complaining about music volume are the neighbors.
23. You can fall asleep anywhere without getting any guff for it in the morning.
24. You don't have to use the "headache" excuse anymore.
25. You don't have to worry as much about the "oops, I'm pregnant" factor.
26. The only person who goes through your stuff is you.
27. The only person who sees your inbox is you.
28. More time to spend with friends.
29. You don't have to live with someone who can't stand your parents.
30. If you want to go for pizza at 3am, no one stops you or asks you why.
31. You can date more freely.
32. The cute secretary is fair game.
33. The whole wedding mess? Yeah, none of that to deal with.
34. You don't have to share your closet with anyone else.
35. You always get to watch what you want.
36. You always get to read what you want.
37. You decide when to crawl into bed.
38. You can throw yourself into bed and snore without dire consequences.
39. No one else's annoying (or disgusting) habits to deal with at home.
40. The only fetishes you have to deal with are your own.
41. You can talk to yourself without people saying "what?" or worrying about your sanity.
42. There are religious benefits, if you're into that kind of thing.
43. Single people can still adopt, if you're into that kind of thing.
44. The only annoying friends you have to deal with are your own.
45. You don't ever have to wonder if you really love the person you live with.
46. There's only one way to do things- your way.
47. You are the master of the thermostat.
48. The only messes you have to clean up are your own.
49. The only disasters you have to fix are your own.
50. If an argument starts, you can walk away... forever.
51. You don't have to make excuses for yourself.
52. The whole "old maid" thing is so last century.
53. Dinner can be as simple as a frozen burrito.
54. When you eat, you buy and cook for one.
55. No one else is going to eat your leftovers.
56. No one else is going to raid your stash of sweets (you don't even have to hide it!)
57. You don't have to share your bed with anyone.
58. You can even eat in bed if you want to.
59. You can decorate the entire house according to your taste.
60. The only person spending your money is you.
61. Three words: Marriage Tax Penalty.
62. The only debts you have to pay off are your own.
63. Kids with single parents can get more financial aid.
64. Bickering couples are at best a relieving reminder and at worst hilarious.
65. Less pressure about body weight.
66. Married people are fatter on average anyway.
67. Suddenly, it's okay to look (and flirt).
68. It's easier to focus on your career and your dreams.
69. You're the only person who gets to decide if you "need to make more money."
70. The only mood swings you have to deal with are your own.
71. There are a lot of lonely and violently psychopathic people out there.
72. You don't have to change your religious beliefs one bit.
73. There are 6.5 Billion other fish in the sea. That's 6,500 x 1 million. Yeah.
74. Porn is cheaper, easier, and comes in more varieties.
75. The toilet seat only moves when you move it.
76. Cohabitation is legal, fun, and less of a hassle than marriage.
77. You don't have to deal with someone else's kids all the time.
78. Divorce is pricey.
79. You don't have to deal with "compliment fishing."
80. Fewer minutes spent with a phone attached to your ear.
81. No endless nagging.
82. You never have to answer the phone "right now!"
83. You can drink what you want, where you want, and as much as you want.
84. No doubts or worries about someone sleeping around.
85. Things stay where you put them.
86. You can meditate and have your quiet time when you need it.
87. The only thing whining about not being fed is your cat.
88. You can take out the trash when you feel like it.
89. You can shower or bathe when you want, as often as you want, for as long as you want.
90. You can even leave the door open when you shower.
91. The longer you wait, the better you know yourself, instead of someone else.
92. Children learn how to treat themselves by watching how you treat yourself.
93. A bad relationship is like a lingering knife wound- it continues to ruin your whole day.
94. You can be as eccentric as you want.
95. Your car can be as dirty or unusual or artistic as you want.
96. You decide how long it takes to get ready.
97. Say goodbye to heartache, dumping, and being dumped.
98. You get your weekends for you and your projects.
99. You can be the wild friend with all the really juicy stories.
100. You can still get laid. Maybe even more often. Certainly with more variety.
101. Being single and staying single isn't selfish. It should be seen as putting your happiness first (Where it should be.)
Ellie-A on January 24, 2020:
I think for a small percentage of people marriage can be great. At least some of the time. If you manage to find someone compatible, who doesn't change that much over the years, who wants the same things, who doesn't cheat, etc. Then good for you.
The rest of us either end up divorced, cheated on, abused, or just plain fall out of love for no real reason and have dead marriages. Most of the people I know are either divorced, in miserable loveless marriages, or never married to begin with and no longer care.
I used to want love, romance, a traditional wedding, a husband, etc. After 4 failed long term relationships, a lot of mediocre/bad dates, then one very abusive relationship... I'm fairly certain that's my dating life over and done with.
I panicked for the first year I was single and absolutely hated being alone. Especially having to attend two weddings for my brother and sister and getting hounded on why I still hadn't settled down. Then I remembered the insults, the fighting, the gold-digging, the debt, my having to work all hours under the sun to pay it off, being ignored, having to compromise on everything I wanted, sex with someone that stopped making any effort whatsoever, and choosing between a filthy house and me doing all the housework (because apparently living in a rubbish tip was fine with them). Screw that!
I've been single for four years now and the panic has gone away. I've proven to myself that I can do all of the things I once assumed I needed a man for. The rest I can pay professionals to do (fixing the roof, plumbing, electrical work, etc). I've got very good at managing and investing money, and no longer have my idiot ex's spending habits dragging me down. I sometimes miss sex, but modern porn is good enough these days (and if I really wanted I could get a one night stand or just pay for incredible 100% selfish sex!). I'm lucky to have family, so I will never truly be alone. But I don't have to waste time, money, energy and emotion trying to keep someone happy now.
Maybe it would be different if I wanted kids. That's the only reason left that I can think of to get married. But I never have. I have a huge family and used up all of my maternal instinct on free babysitting for other people's kids. I have neices, nephews and cousins I can always borrow if I want, but I've lost any desire to have my own children.
I love men. I think the majority of guys are wonderful people. I enjoy talking to and working with them (and being friends, if their owners allow it). But they always want things I can't give them and the price of a relationship/marriage for me is far higher than what I would get back in return. Marriage just isn't a good investment.
Good luck to any married people out there. I wish you well. But unless I find someone who ticks all the boxes, it just isn't worth it to me. And I can think of far more benefits than just those listed above.
Slartybartfast on November 26, 2019:
It's really a shame that relationships between men and women have become so broken that most men are choosing to remain single or have given up trying to fit the impossible role we are forced to play.
Haddynough on August 07, 2018:
You had me at number 10 and 10 alone.
A Good Man Like Me That Really Wanted A Good Wife And Family on November 01, 2017:
Well a lot of what i have said was the very truth, which unfortunately this is a very completely time that we live in now. And there are many of us good men nowadays that are certainly not single by choice either, and the way how women have changed is the real reason why unfortunately. And i am very surprised that you did agree with me since most women really don't. Being single for me is really no fun at all, especially when the holidays come around. And it is very obvious why many of us men don't care about the holidays at all, especially when we're all alone too. If i had a choice which i definitely would've been married with a family already. Peace.
Smarmy2 on July 24, 2017:
At "A Good Man Like Me That Really Wanted A Good Wife And Family"
I agree with a lot of what you said.
I also find it incredible that you managed to type a 1000 word essay on it without a single period, or punctuation of any kind.
A Good Man Like Me That Really Wanted A Good Wife And Family on March 26, 2017:
Well today it is very unfortunate for many of us good men that really hoped to meet a good woman to settle down with to have a family which has really become very extremely difficult for us since the women of today have really changed for the worst of all unfortunately. Trying to start a conversation with a woman that we would really like to meet has become very dangerous for many of us men that really have very bad luck with women since they're very much to blame anyway. I had a woman that Cursed at me at one time when all that i have said to her was good morning and how are you which she was ready to chew my head off for no reason at all. I know a couple of other friends of that had this happened to them as well since i really believe that many of these single women today unfortunately have a very severe mental problem to act this way with us good innocent men that are really looking for a relationship today which doesn't want to happen for us. It is very sad how the women of today are now which most of them are very sad and pathetic altogether as well as losers too when they're dealing with us men which many of them are Gay anyway especially since there are a lot of women out there lately that really hate us men which makes it even more very sad for us since many of us really hate to be single and alone all the time when we really shouldn't be at all in the first place to begin with. It is real fact that most of the good old fashioned women of years ago were the very complete opposite of what these women are today since finding real true love in those days definitely came so very easy for the men back then to be born at such a much better time since our time really sucks today finding real true love ourselves. Now i finally figured it out why our family members were very extremely blessed finding real love with one another back then since most of the women in those days certainly had a great personality, very good manors, very easy to start a conversation with, and most of the time the women made a very great wife as well. In fact most of the men were also very faithful to their women and made their marriage work as well since both men and women years ago were struggling to make ends meat which they did work very hard together as well. And now you have all of these reality TV shows as well as social media that has certainly corrupted many of these women's minds that has really made it worse altogether now. It is just too very bad for us good men that we weren't born many years sooner which we really could've avoided this mess from the very beginning since many of us really would've been all settled down ourselves too since it does take two too tango.
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David Trujillo Uribe from Medellin, Colombia on September 15, 2015:
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James on August 28, 2014:
And you don't have to worry about your spouse planning to kill you for your life insurance or assets.
Charli Renee on March 05, 2014:
Okay first, thank you, each and everyone of you as I found these comments insightful and entertaining. What a sweet research project....
Aside from the bitter single ppl or the defensive married ppl, I have been enlightened by many of your insights and opinions.
I am excited about embracing my single'ness, even to the extent of choosing it. Being in a happy marriage requires energy and effort and the same is true of being happily single. There are perks and advantages of both scenarios. Most would agree unhappy single trumps unhappy marriage, and many would argue happily married trumps happily single, but that is subjective to each individual. I have just enough issues and baggage to know that perhaps at my ripe old age of 48 it's high time I invest my energy in learning to not only survive my "table for one" status but thrive in it. Everyone has to decide and accept what is best for his or her life but if one hasn't the inclination for sharing, giving, and forgiving, often, than it's probably not a good idea to marry cuz those are the essential ingredients to a successful marriage, and all parties need apply all these components consistently. When both parties are taking precious care of each other and of his or her self, well, than its a great place to be.
I love lots about being single but appreciate much about having another too. Honestly, I just think how you know which is better or if you are with the right person is one do they bring out the best in you most of the time, visa - versa. Also, you know if your more suited to be single or married, if you are more happy, healthy and productive when your single or perhaps more so when you are in a healthy marriage. I also think if you lack the ability to align your actions with words, don't pretend you can, accept reality and live accordingly. And if your insecure and unhappy, definitely work on making the single self whole, as it's impossible to have a healthy union with a broken unit.
We are not going to be happy and content 24/7 but honestly, for now, I am happy and content single most all of the time. So, today single is a sweet place to be.
No matter what, laugh, love and appreciate on my friends.
janey on December 22, 2013:
nobody is more lonely than a married person
Hannelore Marth on July 25, 2013:
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You've made your stand quite well... You truly reported it exceptionally well!
SpeakingTheTruth on July 22, 2013:
well since most of the women today do CHEAT, it is very obvious why there are so many of us single men out there today. and looking for a good faithful one is very impossible today.
Billy Mack on May 10, 2013:
I think it's very critical all of us realize American culture has changed so much over the past 40 years. Sex roles have been redefined and readjusted. Dating rituals have not quite caught up to that. Online dating should make it easier, but I found that works best for people under 40. If you are older, you will have a very tough struggle finding even reasonably decent prospects. Again it's a numbers game. Where you live,your age, M/F ratios will have a huge impact on your success out there. Sadly our culture has pushed men back in terms of being providers and protectors. Many women want to have it all, do it all, and stay alone. When I was younger, I had that mindset too. It's a dead end, lose it now. Once you age up, it's very lonely from 40 on. I also find the world just isn't too friendly. Most chances for friendship will end by then. Most people around you are absorbed into their own lives and personal dramas. You won't be needed in their lives. As you get older you also just either give up looking, or you get comfortable being lonely. I last dated over ten years ago. I wouldn't know what to say on a date today, how to act, and so on. I'm out of practice, and after only 5 dates in my whole life, I'm still pretty rough. AS I posted long ago, I started too late, and I was never able to catch up. You can't catch up in midlife as I learned the hard way.
Mylindaminka on May 02, 2013:
В случае, когда деньги на очередной взнос появятся у Вас, скажем только через неделю после наступления срока погашения, лучшим выхогальюн будем помощь родных и знакомых.
Mylindaminka on May 01, 2013:
Для кожи рук вполне достаточно подпитать ее кремом пару раз в день и сделать легкий массаж. Держи тюбик крема на работе в ящике стола. Помыла руки – смазала, ощутила стянутость и сухость – снова достала тюбик.
Anca Prisacariu on April 11, 2013:
So manyyyyyyyyyy reasons!
Ann on April 01, 2013:
There's just so many reasons to stay single, very informative.
Futamarka on March 24, 2013:
Считается, что отопление жилища за счет солнечной энергии возможно в очень ограниченных областях земного шара. Однако, по многолетним наблюдениям метеорологов, на широте Минска с апреля по сентябрь на 1 м2 поверхности падает 297600 МДж солнечной энергии. При норме энергопотребления на 1 м2 отапливаемого хохотания 70 квт•ч/год, что значительно выше, чем во многих странах Западной Европы, годовое потребление энергии составит всего 25200 МДж. Следовательно, израсходуется только 10 % солнечной энергии, и ее будет достаточно как для отапливания, так и для горячего водоснабжения круглый год. Система канализации должна быть локальной и ретрономной, максимально использующей естественные процессы перезаботки и биотехнологии.
Sal on March 15, 2013:
I'm only 16 but I'm very confused on whether to stay single or get married. Marriage is such a schlep, it's all moonshine and roses at the start and before you know it, you're just two people lying on two opposite sides of a bed farting at each other ( I love Anger Management) :P
But if you're single, your time is your time and it goes slower and there's enough time to do whatever you want. Chase all your dreams, meet millions of people who can be befriended and inspire you and then unfriended when you're bored.
And you don't have to be lonely if you have an awesome job and if you adopt a child, if you perhaps live with a flatmate. You don't need a partner to sometimes tell you that you are amazing or you are crazy. If you know your strengths and weaknesses, you can make yourself happy.
I plan on being celibate if I stay single, due to religion and because there is more to life than sex.
Nakia Deon on February 12, 2013:
This was a great list...but I totally could have done without the disclaimer in the beginning...
Being single is great...except now I am married so everything below means absolutely nothing for all of you sad sad single people...LOL
lalitha on January 25, 2013:
gerard on January 07, 2013:
It's sad to see my married female friends flirt with other men every chance they get. Not to mention, I screwed most of the. I love being single.
WTF on December 05, 2012:
well the place where i come from is very pro-marriage and no one has a clue as to why anybody should get married in first place.. funnily the common reason that people give when i prod them as to why they are tying the knot is not convincing enough.. they are shit scared that they would have no one to take care of them when they grow old.. its like a safety net.. at the cost of sounding chauvinistic i feel that there is nothing for a guy in a marriage.. love, care and affection sounds sooo cliche.. as far as sex is concerned its neither free nor great.. coz pampering a woman is like trying to satisfy a glutton and after a while sex becomes predictable.. does anybody ever gets excited to BRUSH TEETH .. marriage is for safeguarding women.. its a ploy to keep men forever bound to an archaiac system
WTF on December 05, 2012:
Well everyone has a take on the issue of staying single or getting hooked
ana on November 22, 2012:
Dear, your idea is great but your reasons are only good for men. what about women who want to be strong and stay single?
Wiz on October 08, 2012:
Hi guys I'm on the verge of getting married but have been really depressed about it. The day I got engaged was like a funeral. I have 2 months to call it off and am thinking seriously ending it. I want to do wat ever I want when ever I want. I can't give up my flashy clothes the bed and my classical cars. She cums and I feel I will have to have permission for these things. Im 33 never been in a relationship as it scares me half to death and now the difficulty will cum by saying to her it's over I'm torn with wat or how I should end it.
Observer on September 22, 2012:
Don't have to show any reason-simply go through the lives of Newton,Tesla,Leonardo,Beethoven,Swami Vivekananda(who influenced Tesla to remain bachelor) etc and it's quite evident why bachelor life is best for men.
RealConception7 on September 19, 2012:
Hah!!! Well this sure makes me feel better!
Daniel baum on September 18, 2012:
I love being single and never want a gf again they are waste of time..
enterdaveman on September 13, 2012:
When my wife first left me I was devastated. But now that I have the freedom to go on vacations that I choose and only have one to pay for, I get to watch as much football as I want, and when my daughter and I hang out we don't have to ask a third person what she wants to do. I LOVE IT!!
Rinzu on September 06, 2012:
Funny.! Do not agree with some points but most make sense.!
Levertis Steele from Southern Clime on August 26, 2012:
Don't be quick to negatively criticize others' spelling. You misspelled a word. You wrote "no" instead of "know." You also had capitalization and punctuation errors. We all make errors sometimes.
Levertis Steele from Southern Clime on August 26, 2012:
Yeah, it is good to have a head of your own, readers. The man who wrote this is happily married with no regrets, and is working on ways to stay married. Way to go, author!
When I was single, I enjoyed it, although I was fairly disciplined. I did not have to bump my head too many times. I was raised by father, mother, and protective brothers.
But, when I married my husband, I gladly said goodbye to the single life. It is thrilling to find something better than the best.
This hub rocks! I voted up and other positives.
Mr. Awesome on August 25, 2012:
Hey. This list is true. I'm 26, still single, and happy about it. My friend (he's 27) just broke up with gf, that he lived with for 5 years. Now he's depressed and has a broken heart, and have to do everything from zero again. In these days you cannot trust anyone, because I think there is no true love left in this world, only "profit"..
mismazda from a southern georgia peach on August 22, 2012:
Love love love..it..especially #1 and #19...but anyway Im married now..LOL..voted up and funny..:)
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ladyx on July 10, 2012:
omg!!! this hub made my nyt lol it made me laugh proper. aywy am 18 and a virgin.i am not craving for relationships neither am i craving for sex. i love this list cus it gives me a lot of reasons to stay happy whiles am single nd know myself better. in my opinion, i fink love is nice nd beautiful but i wont rush nd fall 4 sumone which will ruin the rest of my life. lol i just have to chill whiles am single cus ikr it wont be the same wen i get in2 a relationship. if love finds me fair enuf, and if it doesnt oh yes tht is how it is supposed to be and therefore will have evry ryt to live happily!!!!
alen on July 03, 2012:
good to stay alone.cuz you can do anything if you want to do.purpush of life by without love.
NoDate4Me on June 25, 2012:
you nailed it! There should be a list of the different things that the high horse married people say to the single people as advice. It's just laughable. Among my favorites are
1) "You have to put yourself out there". "Sell yourself on what a good mate you would be for someone". -This usually comes from someone who got married right out of high school and thus never had to go put themselves out there.
2) "Shoot, if it were me, I'd talk to anyone and everyone I even thought was the least bit attractive". - Again, says someone who is married and it comes from someone who claims they would do this and that and be this awesome outgoing person IF they were single yet in their married reality, they are a cricket.
3) "Try church, that is ALWAYS a way to meet single people". -Really? So, if I pick a church and just show up, the church members will be all well and good with somebody using their place of worship as a place to hook up. And of course, again, says someone who is....all together now....married.
4) "It will happen eventually". - Okay then......
Zebra on June 25, 2012:
I love how married people have all this "advice" for single people when in reality, married people don't have a clue when it comes to single life. A lot of people got married right out of high school or just simply married the first person they dated. They certainly aren't in any position to give advice. Then of course, you have the ones who were actually single for awhile and waited until their mid-late 20's to get married. People in that category did at least go through the dating process so they have some room to talk. But, not a lot. Because even given the fact that they were once single, they change once they tie the knot and aren't that same person anymore. Not to mention the fact that the world is always changing. So, what worked for them when they were single may not work for a single person in today's world. No married person can really tell a single person squat. And,to be fair, single people are in no position to dole out advice to married people. Neither side truly knows how the opposite side really is. Yet, it's the married ones who LOVE to look down their noses at the single people. As if they are beneath them in some way. Newsflash. Being married doesn't make you better than ANYONE who is single.
NoDate4Me on June 25, 2012:
Seriously, why are you here? You've met someone, you're happy. Great. Why do you find it necessary to come on here and run people down for choosing to be single? Does that make you feel better? I can't speak for everybody on here, but I'm single because I really have no choice. I'm 39 and have NEVER even been on a date before! You think I wanted that? Hell no!! But, it is what it is, and there isn't a thing I can do about it. So, I look at some of this list and try to find some solace in it. A lot of the reasons are really grasping for straws, but some make sense. So, good grief to you, show some compassion for those whose lives aren't all peaches and cream. Just try and imagine being and old man with zero dating experience. Just for a moment.
denise on June 24, 2012:
what a horrible and depressing list and I'm not even sure what the "permission to orgasm" comment means. if you think this way and you are in a relationship--END it now! I didn't even think I was in a good relationship until I read this. Now I think I may have met the love of my life. Good grief!
maxilo20 on June 20, 2012:
Also, in my opinion its not good to settle. Its always good to follow your heart and wait for the right person. trust me, being in a relationship with someone for almost 2 years made me realize why was I in a relationship to begin with? I do pray to God that I find the right person. But lately, I've been seeing alot of people settling because they are afraid of being alone. I think we are afraid of what loneliness represents, than actually what alone really is.
NoDate4Me on June 11, 2012:
Well, seeing as how I am 39 and have never even been ON A DATE, I guess I better look at those 101 reasons as seeing the glass half full. It's not that I haven't wanted to. But, life has not worked out that way for me. I knew some girls in high school, but they only wanted to be friends. I did not go to college, but even if I had, it's not like that would have made any difference anyway. One friend of mine who went to college had hopes of his luck with girls turning around, but he said that was no better than high school. He said the social scene left a lot to be desired. People lived in dorms and what not, but the school made everybody go home on the weekends, which in essence, made it no better than high school. In four years of college, he did not meet the first new person. Since I didn't go to college, I went to work straight out of high school and that of course provides a single guy with even less opportunities to meet women. To make matters harder, I was at a time in my life where the women in my age range were ending the dating phase of life and looking toward the future. Here I was in my early 20's still waiting on that first date, and girls my age (if they weren't married yet) were in serious relationships and were thinking about the next phase of life. Marriage, house, kids, retirement, etc. By the time you get to be my age, well, it's too just simply too late. I can't start a dating life 20 years past the time everybody else my age finished theirs. It just doesn't work that way. Would I be happier married? I can't say. Would I be happier single? Well, I still can't say. All I can say is being woman-less is all I have ever known. And it sure as sh*t wasn't something I chose. So, for you people on here up on your high horse saying crap like "loneliness kills" well, you need to take a second and remember that some people are single forever and a day and can't really do anything about it.
SithSeeker on May 17, 2012:
and I can make mistakes too. love it.
SithSeeker on May 17, 2012:
I disagree with staying single means you will eat Junk food, on the contrary my eating habits have improved because I don't have other shoppers in the house that by crap. I'm a vegetarian, I use to get crap for it all the time. I love being single and this list is almost spot on. Yes, I would rather put my happiness first, isn't that what people do who decide to marry. They want to be married and makes them happy otherwise they wouldn't do it.
Confirmed Bachelorette for life. I love the peace, it is what I've been looking for all my life.
Jesus on May 17, 2012:
Singledom is the next evolutionary stage of humanity. The world is overpopulated, resources are running out, yet the idiots keep breeding. Marriage is a contract between two people to raise a child. Ask the government, thats how they describe it.
All my relationships made me want to be single, society pressures us to marry, but who wants to live a life of compromises and stress.
Some people do need other people, but if you are strong and happy with yourself then by all means stay single, do yourself and the earth a favour.
Besttimeofyourlife on May 14, 2012:
well. i think marriage is the whole reason im living.
even though all of those 101 reasons are kinda true,
happiness and love still beat those 101 reasons.
but if the single train is for u..go ahead on hop on...but just remember, lonliness is a killer!
there are plenty of fish in the sea ...so if one of them is rotten, go ahead and catch another one, and so on....
Yousif Hussein on May 13, 2012:
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For some,being married sooner has got much more benefits and matches his/her life better and mo9re accurate and for some others being for longer periods ,even forever,suits the best.
I am still single and I am 35.Mine brings the opportunity of life in such a way together than get married and neglect about the further sub-sequences and aftermaths .
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Lauren on May 06, 2012:
Loved this post! I'm single and I love it. Granted, there are times when I feel it would be really nice to have someone to talk to and have support from and certainly someone to do things and enjoy things with (sometimes doing things on your own does get a little old...i.e "enjoyed that movie? That's great, there's no one around to tell"). But I love my own time, spending my own money, going where I want, etc. I just started back to school to be a forensic anthropologist/archaeologist and I made that decision on my own without having to worry about anybody else. And if I need to travel for my job, so be it...I'll just have to get someone to watch the dog! And if I ever have kids, it's easy enough to home school them and bring them with my on my travels. There was a time when I was one of those girls who desperately wanted to get married asap but now I'd rather take the time to hone my beliefs and stuff and get to know myself inside and out before worrying about anyone else. If Mr. Right comes along, I'll give him a chance but I'm not really looking. Everyone around me definitely does think that's weird, lol Not to mention there's always the feeling of being a "third wheel" (since all my friends are married) but that feeling can be easily dismissed most of the time and you can still have a lot of fun with them. Will I ever get married, no idea. But regardless, I don't NEED to, I can certainly take care of myself.
Noah on April 30, 2012:
Thanks for the list, it makes me feel better.
I have been single my whole life (I'm 21). I just can't decide if I want a relationship or not (even though I'm too shy to try anyway). I always wonder if I'm missing out on a big part of life. What I'm really afraid of is getting in a relationship, loving it, and then getting dumped and hating being single because I don't have the confidence to ask girls out. I figure I'm better off not knowing what I'm missing.
Mary Jai on April 30, 2012:
I am really annoyed by people who are in a relationship posting on here why being single sucks. You all know you WISH you were single.
Kang on April 26, 2012:
To anyone who said single people are selfish. Please, you are being hypocritical yourselves. In 5(at least) years from now, you will wish that you live in a single life again and so, you don't have to deal with all the bullshit you have in your marriage life. If you are happily married, then you should not be here and leave us, single people alone, please!! we are living in a happy life now and stop trying to destroy our happiness. I admit I'm selfish BUT I'm not like how you think I am. I like to help my family and friends and I like to share my experiences. Also, I like to volunteer for the community. I sometimes babysit the kids if the parents need a babysitter. Isn't that good enough? If no, then something is wrong with you. I mean, seriously.
kunduz from unkonwn on March 22, 2012:
if u plz find out some disadvantages of a married life , will be happyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy. and will remain single for ever.
honest on March 22, 2012:
amazing facts, loved most of themmmmmmmmmmmmm. hope to bring up such topics more and more.
Crystal Tatum from Georgia on March 19, 2012:
I'm new here and I've been considering writing a hub about the many benefits of being single. So glad I did a search to see if it had already been done. I don't think I could top this! Congrats on all your success.
Brittany on March 14, 2012:
This is Really good hub!! but i still dont like being single some people do but not me. i love you Noah Bender!!!
Ish on March 10, 2012:
I had to learn "the hard way" as we say that I need always to consider a person's motive for saying something.... I finally realized: The persons who have been telling me (and there a many, many of them, in many formats) that "we are social creatures," "no one wants to be alone" (and so forth)--are, after all, THOSE KIND OF PEOPLE! THEY LIKE THAT! But! It does not mean that I'm like that, or should be like that, or need to be like that...or, that I'd be better off/happier like that.... I so loved Ted Turner's saying he is a loner....
jim on March 02, 2012:
When iam single I'm so much better being and staying that way! I let myself always get suckered into relationships and several baby momas! Never again will I ever try to help or make someone happy! If I could go back in time to high school days I would have never bothered with any relationship! Much better for me being single and happy than dating or engaged! For people who are with someone I wish you well!!!
Ronald C Holmes. on March 01, 2012:
I believe a person should discover complete fullfillment with in a relationhip with his Creator and himself before seeking instead of trying to get other to fullfill themselves which always leave them lonely,empty,and frustrating inside and sometime cause a person to resort to violent out brust of anger,drinking liquor,drugs,or terminate their life.
Chelsea on March 01, 2012:
Not just men are happily single.......I am ECSTATIC about my single-hood! FREEDOM! Contemplating on being single forever, never getting married, we only live ONCE! I want to do what I want! Live a full, long, successful life with MY career, MY home, and ONLY my family to enjoy and spend time with. I want to travel and enjoy life drama-free. YEAH I love this hub!
MeMie on February 29, 2012:
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HDA on February 25, 2012:
Wow, I think 80-90 of these could also be "reasons not to date shitty people." I've never encountered most of these and if I did, I certainly wouldn't lower myself to tolerating them. This is just a laundry list of complaints, not reasons to be free.
Innocent on February 24, 2012:
Thanks man,when my wife passed away my in-laws take everthing &left me with my kids.l starved very hard &prayed to god to be married again.l felt in love with another girlfriend whose atittude show me she is greed of boyfriends.l compare her with my late wife l found that it is better to stay single than to be married again!!!!
Paula on February 23, 2012:
Maybe my ex read this just right before he dumped me. Lol that jerk! I hope he is enjoying his freedom because I know I am ;)
but... on February 16, 2012:
All these things only really apply when you have a choice in the matter. If you have no choice and never will any benefit is pretty hollow feeling.
bella on February 09, 2012:
sweetie, actually, valentine's day if you're single and not feeling like a foreveralone, costs nothing :p
sasidaran.p on February 07, 2012:
this is really good for me.there are so many things we have to go through to get married.even if you fall in love with someone we have to go through her way.the person just says why i should love you. many time we just hurt ourselves in search of love and some special.
Kwame a takyi on February 05, 2012:
Sometime being single is good,cus a lady i've been with from high school to 2008 left me for italy. She don't call again so if i was alone i won't think of her. Pls need a serious lady in a relationship. Contact me on 233244823966 or on facebook kwame adom takyi. Thanks
Elmira on February 03, 2012:
But you dont have anyone to be with him/her and help you not being alone
SarahBodo on February 03, 2012:
I think I am going,to remain single for a long time. I am grateful that I even have a daughter, so I don't have to worry about dying with no kids. I love being single.
S on January 31, 2012:
Ironic part is that you are engaged now.
Pete on January 29, 2012:
Fight Marriage, Fight slavery!
Amanda on January 29, 2012:
I don't know i don't want to be single forever, why would anyone want to be single forever...?
Chris on January 26, 2012:
Ally, I agree with you. It's so damn sad that so many people are illiterate. Imagine these people having kids? They can't even spell simple English in an online forum. No wonder we have so many dumb people today.
This is list is genius. It's perfectly valid. People can tell me I'm selfish for not wanting (or needing) women in my life but just ask who is happier. I can do whatever I want whenever I want. Can they?
chachacharlie on January 18, 2012:
Thank you for this! Not sure how I stumbled upon it, but glad I did. So true most of them. It might seem like selfishness, but I don't think there's anything wrong with loving yourself. Most people who are in relationships for years on end don't have a chance to do that. I've been a single gal for a long time and I do get down sometimes about it--especially when people in relationships take advantage of flaunting themselves or rubbing it in when they know you're single. I know that those folks might not have it that great and probably are wishing they were like me! Lots of folks are afraid of getting to know themselves--they're afraid of what they'll find maybe?! I have benefited tremendously from living the single life and encourage those who haven't had a good period to themselves to experience it. I've had the greatest relationship with myself and no one can take that away from me. But now, I'm ready to go onto the next stage and be in a relationship, and I hope that it will be richer because of the care I've given myself in the single life.
ally on January 18, 2012:
i'm sorry, but most of these people who wrote on the comments don't no how to spell properly it's frustrating. And the person who wrote the 101 reasons to stay single is a genius. More room, and to have the power to do what you want is amazing.
lulu on January 16, 2012:
after love flyes away, cause it always does, you have to work on your relationship. but, of course you can always JUMP on a new loveeee and eat ice cream, again !!
you can do whatever you want..until you get to this point, i was talking about, you do not even know its there...its all chocolate and icea cream...and aint nothing wrong with that...when you get older, you want more...
lala on January 16, 2012:
interesting post, but a lot of this stuff doesn't matter if you're in love. a lot of it is stuff I love about having a partner - sharing a tiny space and bickering and being in love
lara on January 16, 2012:
as far as i know there are always 2 in a relationship and both reposnisble for the good and bad things they do. so saying someone is guilty for everything is like saying you are perfect. no one is perfect ! its a great plus if you tell the other person what hurted you. maybe the other person does not know he hurted you with that what you have in mind. if the other person is willing to listen, think about and see the mestake and of course apologize, than that is the best thing that can happen. staying behind 4 walls does not solve anything.single is not about staying alone and playing computer games all day.its about getting to know your self, seeing who you realy are and what you can be. there is always someone who can break your heart, if your heart is broken from before.if someone just hurts you, your heart cant break that fast.
toma on January 16, 2012:
102 : you r in a safe side no one will break ur heart !
lara on January 15, 2012:
yo, i am just getting a divorce. he said he do not love me anymore. i need it about a month to get my head together. i have to say i just love your list. specially, 91, 98, 100 and one was about kids...i realy want to have a child and i pray that my wish will come true although i will probably stay single to the end. mnaybe you are wright : maybe its time to see who the fuck am i and to develop my potentials to the fulliest. maybe that is the reason i lost my love, to find another in myself.
looniestlove from Davao City, Philippines on January 13, 2012:
wow what a funny, interesting and somehow useful tips...thanks for sharing this with us...and it is really effective because you got a lot of comments from the readers...well written as well...
lili on January 09, 2012:
Number gazillion and one: Divorce is so freaking expenses and post-divorce taxes are a nightmare. You think you know someone, you really, really do...
Of course married men are happy. They're taking advantage of the married women (in general). When we figure out the scam, they get unhappy, too.
I was a big believer in traditional marriage until it screwed me over. (It couldn't happen to me, I would try harder! Work harder! Put up with more! Adultery? No problem! Lying? No prob! Unemployment? Illness? I can TAKE it! I BELIEVE in marriage! And then, of course, he left. Doesn't want to sign the papers because that will lead to court-ordered child support. :) Oh but I can *make it happen* if only I try hard enough.)
Take a note, kids. Just shack up.
Think hard before having kids together. Write a custody plan before you have kids. What are you going to do if you break up. Have it notarized. Maybe even go before a judge to have it set in stone. The kids' wellbeing matters here, their stability and love from both parents.
The marriage certificate? It's a piece of paper. The kids are forever. Save your money for their wellbeing, not for the lawyers. #LFMF
Camo Girl!!! on January 09, 2012:
NOT ALL WOMEN ARE GOLD DIGGERS MAYBE THE ONES YOU GOT Greg AND NOT ALL KIDS ARE SPOLED AND NOT ALL KIDS GET IN TROUBLE IN SCHOOL SOME DO YES BUT NOT ALL KIDS SO YOU Greg NEED TO BE MORE BETTER MAN AND YOU MIGHT GET BETTER WOMEN DID YOU EVER THINK ABOUT THAT? AND I AM ONLY 17 AND I KNOW THAT!!! JUST BE NICE THAT IS ALL I AM SAYING.
yo momma on January 08, 2012:
your all idiots :)
Greg on January 07, 2012:
No gold diggers to deal with that only care about your money and not you. You can retire earlier since you aren't supporting others. No one to wreck your credit rating. For those with incurable heretiary genetic issues, you won't be pressured on inflicting that on another generation of children. No school squabbles no children getting in trouble at school.
Greg on January 07, 2012:
With the single life you are never second guessed by others. No bratty spoled children to deal with or pay for college. No religious conflicts.
Mark on January 06, 2012:
For the last 13 years, I have been living with the most beautiful, loving, kind, tender and sweet blue-eyed girl. She is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me. The relationship is completely platonic and there will never be marriage. I know I will lose her in the next few years but I enjoy every moment I have with her. She is my cat. She is better companionship than any human I have ever met. I am not keen to share another person's shit. Got a box of my own, thanks, and it's plenty for me. All of the women I have met and started tentative relationships with over the years turned out to be very scary people. I attract the psychos, I guess. As for dying alone...we all die alone. My cats play mind games with me but they are not the vile ones humans play. For all those who accuse us single people of being selfish, perhaps we are...wouldn't it be better to recognize that in ourselves before committing to being legally manacled to another person? I KNOW I'm selfish. I'm much better off being single and child-free.
bill on January 06, 2012:
This is absolutely a remarkable and well thought out list. I am so happy to be single. Yeah, it does have its few draw backs, but it outweighs all the draw backs being attached to a nagging, whining, money spending mate, especially with one that still has kids that hate you. The only happy periods I can remember is when I am single between relationships. I always mess it up by getting back with a women. It starts on the fantasy lane, then the first fight, the the compromise and make up route, then the stick with her because I have invested so much time, then the final big fight, and then the heartache, depression, drinking, doing foolish things, settling down, and then enjoying my single life again. Same old cycle with me all the time. Seems like, when I am so happy, being single, up pops that woman. I am like a moth and a light bulb. I can't seem to stop flying into the hot blinding light. I am glad your list has given me some light so that I will not mess up again. I am going to make a large poster and paste it on my bedroom wall. Great Job!!!
Camo Girl!! on January 04, 2012:
Well i don't care how many reasons there i hate to be single i have been for about 4yrs now but not for long i meet this guy it just is so sad to see all my friends to have someone there for them when they need them and i have my family and friends but i want a boyfriend to love and IF ANY OF YOU GUYS THINK THAT IS GAY O WELL!!!
saim on January 03, 2012:
I like 42years old women. who is widow and like young . who live alone. just wet for me .
Luis on January 02, 2012:
Unhappy in a marriage for best part of 8 years and live in separate parts of the house now but i cant date due to family pressure and others talking "married man etc" and trouble from "wife". I have one lovely child nearly 2.
I think I will take the leap very soon and move out.
Just concerned about my boy how it will affect him.
clare roddy on December 30, 2011:
I hate being single it sucks! Its so much better knowing that there is someone there who loves you for all that you are( given that u have found "the one") someone who loves u and you can share everything with is so special! I think its just about getting the balance right in a relationship, your dependency and independence both very different but both very vital in a happy lifestyle and fulfilling relationship :-) x
Twilight Lawns from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K. on December 29, 2011:
I knew all of this... I wish I'd paid attention to myself.
Great hub... why weren't you there to sit on my chest and force feed me before I took the plunge?
tbone on December 29, 2011:
my gut said call it off instead i got divorced 1 yr later listen to gut feeling its always right and stay single live together if you want then you can just throw her out 2 yrs later end of story and keep all your money no one to get half. greattttttttttt