Victoria Lynn has been single for most of her adult life, and has kept up that independent attitude even while in a relationship.
What Is the Number One Cause of Divorce?
The number one cause of divorce is obvious. It's not about money, or about kids, or infidelity, or any other domestic issue. The number one cause of divorce is marriage, as more than half of all marriages end in divorce. Finally, more people are deciding to stay single or are waiting longer before plunging into the wacky world of matrimony.
Was it necessity that forced people to get married at age 14 in the early 1900s? What about as time went on? Was it brainwashing by parents and society that made marriage seem like the thing to do? Family and societal expectations? Or just a really bad habit? Marriage seems to be a habit that people can't seem to break, as many take the plunge more than once—multiple times, even. Why?
At least now kids are waiting longer before they tie the knot. Is it culture that has taught us that we are supposed to get married after high school or college and blissfully settle down with our "soulmates" to have 2.5 children and a white picket fence—only for more than half of those matches made in Heaven to dissolve in bitter divorces years later?
Top 11 Reasons Not to Get Married
Here are ten of the best reasons to stay single and do what you want to ensure your own happiness for the rest of your life. Oh, wait, there are eleven reasons. You get a bonus!
- Your Time Is Your Own
- You Have Peace and Quiet
- You Control the Remote
- You Can Eat What You Want
- You Can Stay up as Late as You Want
- You Can Spend What You Want
- You Can Control the Thermostat
- You Can Keep Your Bad Habits
- You Can Have as Many Pets as You Want
- You Don't Have to Deal With In-Laws
- You Won't Have to Get a Divorce
1. Your Time Is Your Own
Imagine being able to do whatever you want whenever you want. In the middle of the day or the middle of the night—you decide what you will do. When you get home from work, you don't have to do someone's bidding or take care of someone else. You don't have to talk. You don't have to think. You can take a nap instead of having to talk to a magpie or cook for some slug. You can go straight from work to have drinks with friends and not have to let someone know—or worse—ask his or her permission!
2. You Have Peace and Quiet
Imagine having all the peace and quiet that you desire. There’s no one blabbing in your ear first thing in the morning or last thing before your head hits the pillow. You don’t have to listen to the TV blaring or the music blasting—unless you want to!
3. You Control the Remote
You don't have to fight over what to watch on television. Watch sports, watch soap operas, or watch the news. Heck, you can watch the Jerry Springer show if you want, or some other reality show like The Bachelorette without anyone making fun of you for wasting your time. Well, if you’re single, it’s your time to waste, anyway.
4. You Can Eat What You Want
Or you don’t have to eat. It’s so easy to cook for yourself. Make a casserole and eat it all week. Grab a frozen TV dinner. Eat a fried egg sandwich.
Pick up some heart-clogging fast food. There are lots of healthy meals that you don’t have to cook. Cook if you want, or don’t if you don’t care to.
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5. You Can Stay up as Late as You Want
Are you a night owl? Then go for it! Stay up until 3 in the morning and sleep until noon. What if you were a night owl stuck with an early bird who was up earlier than the crack of dawn? You may be ready to go to bed by 4 a.m., but you’re certainly not ready to get OUT of bed at that time of the morning. On the other hand, if you like to hit the pillow at 8 p.m. and get up with the birds to get that proverbial worm, then do it! There is no one to cramp your style!
6. You Can Spend What You Want
Haven’t you heard that fighting over finances is the number one cause of divorce? Well, actually we have already covered that fact that marriage is the number one cause of divorce, but we won’t belabor that point. When you’re single, you spend your money how you want.
7. You Can Control the Thermostat
You can enjoy the temperature you want. You can freeze out in the house or start your own sauna. Sleep as cold or hot as you want. Save money or waste money depending on how you control the heat and cold. The thermostat is yours!
8. You Can Keep Your Bad Habits
Are you a slob or a neat freak? Do you smoke? Do you drink too much? Do you leave the toilet lid up and the toothpaste cap off? Well, as long as you stay single, you can keep doing all of that. Keep leaving your shoes in the living room and throwing your underwear on the bedroom floor. There is no pressure to live up to someone else's expectations. What a load off!
9. You Can Have as Many Pets as You Want
If you're a woman with three plus cats and the neighbor kids have started calling you the cat lady, that's perfectly okay. Your special someone can come visit them, leaving the fur and hair balls behind. If you're a man with man's best friend who drools everywhere and digs up a manicured yard, then never fear. You're the only one who has to deal with it. Just keep Bruno from slobbering all over your lady friends.
Fill you house with as many cats and dogs that you want. Hang a bird in the mix for some excitement! You can have a hamster, a ferret, and even a snake. Only you have to live with them. Only you.
10. You Don't Have to Deal With In-Laws
Mother-in-law? Need I say more? There is no having to pretend, no having to get along. There’s no having to figure out where to go to make everyone happy during the holidays.
11. You Won't Have to Get a Divorce
You won’t have to get a divorce! You won’t be a statistic and will save lots of money and heartache. Plus, you won't have to hear your family and friends tell you, "I told you so!"
Why Do People Get Married?
Still, with all these reasons, people seem to be drawn to each other. Yes, even I. I must admit I like having someone, but I also like my singleness. Not just anyone, though. Let me make that very clear. I'd much rather be alone—which I have been most of my adult life—than be with someone just to be with someone. I want someone that I'm pretty compatible with and who brings something to my life.
I think I have the both of best worlds. Are my significant other and I married? No. Do we live together? No. Have we survived the test of time? Yes. Nearly ten years now! Committed. Yet we like to do our own thing, too. And we live only a mile and a half apart.
Living proof that singleness—even in relationships—works!
Questions & Answers
Question: Do you often feel you'll die alone because you're staying single?
Answer: No, I don't. I have lots of family and friends. I guess people often do die alone when unexpected things happen, but I don't think about it. Being married doesn't ensure that a person won't die alone. Things happen.