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How to Play It Safe in the Beginning of Your Relationship

Rebecca Arbic is the author of the novel After Dark. She enjoys reading a good book and eating good food.


Ask Yourself This

Chances are that those of you reading this have experienced a relationship before and it most likely ended in disaster. I want to you to ask yourself this question. "What were the first two weeks of my relationship with my partner or former partner like?"


The Most Common Mistake

Perhaps one of the most common mistakes in a new relationship is spending too much time together. I myself am guilty of this. You meet that special someone and right away you become inseparable right off the bat. This is such a big mistake to make. If you spend every waking minute with that partner right off the bat, then it becomes very dry and dull too soon. You run out of things to discuss over time. You already know everything about each other. You've spent so much time together that now you can't stand to be around each other. This is why you need to balance your time at the start of a relationship. It's so vital that you have time away from your partner, especially in the beginning. It keeps the intrigue and it keeps the spark.

Do Not Bring Up the Ex

Another big no no in the beginning of the relationship is asking about past girlfriends or boyfriends that your partner has had. Nobody wants to have that awkward exes talk. It eventually does happen, but it's important not to do it in the beginning of any relationship. Chances are in this day and age that you are going to look these people up on social media and become obsessed. You will find yourself repeatedly asking your partner about their exes and comparing yourselves to them. Do not do this, it will lead to heartache. You must leave a partner's past in the past.

Don't Smother the Parents

You may have experienced meeting your partner's family in the beginning of the relationship. This is alright as long as you are not in their presence every single day. Your partner could have those types of parents who are conservative or weary of their son or daughter dating. Seeing too much of you in the beginning may put them off of you. So remember readers, you may think you're tight with Tom and Mary, but chances are they want to poke your eyes out.

Be Happy but Healthy!

In conclusion, if you want to have a successful relationship, then it is imperative you follow the three main keys listed above. Enjoy time with your partner, but not too much time. Do not Google the exes and do not hound the parents!


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.