Turn Attachments Into Appreciation

Updated on January 22, 2018

Appreciation Is a Good Thing

Developing a deep appreciation for everyone who comes into your life is so much more good than bad. Remembering the little things about people and taking notes on what they like and how they are is something that will go a long way. People enjoy when you notice the little things. People love it when you remember what they like. This makes life better not only for others but for you as well.

When Appreciations Become Attachment

Appreciation is a good thing if it is balanced. When it is thrown out of balance, it turns into attachment. In appreciation, there must be a balance between appreciation of self and appreciation of others. Attachment is allowing someone who brings harm to your life to stay in your life. Appreciation is when you are grateful for what someone brought to your life, even if that means appreciating them from a distance.

How to Appreciate People That Are Not Good for You

Every person and experience has something good to come of it. Some experiences are simply meant to be growing experiences. Appreciating someone doesn't mean you allow them in your life. It means you are grateful that they put you in a position where you had to grow and be stronger. But, it also means that you must be willing to create a distance from that person. Not everyone who comes into your life can stay. But what you take away can always stay.

Why Letting Toxic People Go Is Hard

Letting toxic people go is never easy. We struggle to let them go for multiple reasons. One reason is that we feel we need them. Often, we feel like we need people to complete ourselves. Although we feel this way, it isn't true. You already have everything you need inside you. You are enough on your own. Another reason could be that we are afraid of them. When other people make them angry, they may make incredibly harsh statements, and this may lead to the fear that you will be next. Because of this, you need to keep reminding yourself that you are better off without them.

Creating Distance From Toxic People

When distancing yourself from toxic people, it won't happen overnight. It needs to be done slowly. Start by talking to them and messaging them less and less each day. Tell them less about your life and personal struggles. Do not make plans or hang out with them as much. It will hurt when they are not in your life as much, but you need to allow yourself to feel this pain.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.


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