Top 4 Disadvantages of A Long Distance Relationships Turned Positive
The Truth About Long Distance Relationships #2
So, you’re in for the long haul, or well, that’s what you’re hoping for anyway. Well, heading into a long distance relationship may seem daunting at first when you start hearing all the things that can go wrong, but I’m here to tell you there are positive aspects too! Just like any relationship, just heightened a bit.
Distance- So, this is the most obvious one. Sometimes distance can suck. Like when you’re sick or sad and you want your significant other there RIGHT NOW to make you feel better and they can’t because they live too far away. And if you’re in love, you probably wish you could see them every day. But, have you ever thought of the advantages of your bf/gf being a little far away? The best one is the feeling when you FINALLY get to see them. Because you don’t see each other every day, when you do it just renews all of your feelings and its extra special. Also, because your significant other isn’t there all week then you have time to hang out with your friends and you don’t have to feel like you’re in a “relationship bubble”. Also, it gives you an excuse to update your skype account.
Costs- This one is tough to put a positive spin on. If you are driving to see each other and are calling each other all the time and don’t have the same cell phone carrier or unlimited talk, it can get pretty expensive. But let’s face it, dating is expensive in general. I guess just use this as a learning tool. This will help you learn how to save and budget to spend money on things and people that are important to you.
Extra Effort- Being in a LDR you are going to have to put a little bit of extra effort into everything you do for each other. This includes scheduling when to see each other, scheduling when to call one another, putting in extra effort to effectively communicate… you get the idea. This can become a problem but I like to think of it as just acting on your love and devotion. It’s also good practice for if you become married.
Worry- Since you live so far away from your partner it is easy to imagine all of the things (or people) they could be doing without you. I mean, you would never have to find out. It can drive you wild. Even just thinking about if they may start liking somebody else because you’re not around 100% of the time can be exhausting. This is where the trust comes in. If you do not have trust then you are never going to have a successful relationship, much less a long distance one. And if YOU’RE the one liking other guys and/or gals then maybe you need to move on. If not there are a couple of things you can do to alleviate some worry for your partner—remind them why you like/love them on a regular basis, don’t stop flirting with them and be honest with them.
As you can see, disadvantages, while still sucky sometimes can be looked at as advantages. Some really are more advantage then disadvantage. Just remember to keep a positive attitude and your LDR won’t seem like as huge of a deal.
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