6 Tips on Keeping Passion Alive in Your Relationship

Updated on October 25, 2017
obsexed profile image

Human sexuality has been a lifelong study for me. Why do we feel passion for one, but not another? Come with me on my journey.

Passion

The word passion is defined as a very strong, compelling emotion and encompasses both love and hate. For the purpose of this article I will focus on the love component. Keeping a strong and passionate love alive in our relationships is often difficult. Time constraints set upon us by children, family, work, and friends often leave us with too little time for each other. However, passion requires time and an emotional investment into our relationship.

Included in the definition of passion is the concept of intense desire. Passion carries the connotation of love, lust, ardor, and enthusiasm. A lively interest, fervor, zeal, craving, and infatuation all are included in the word passion. But how, in our busy worlds, do we keep this craving for each other, this infatuation with the other alive and well?

Tip #1 - Forget Preconceived Notions

Men Do Want More Than Sex

Although it seems that men want sex more than women, I feel that for two individuals in a stable relationship, the need for sex is equal. Men are more inclined to have sex without intimacy. Whether this is due to societal training, hormones or some other reason, I am only making an observation I have learned during my life. I have had many good friends that are men and many that are women and this is what I have determined.

Even if men are more inclined to have sex without intimacy, that doesn't mean they enjoy this type of sex more. Men and women both seem to find more enjoyment when the sex is with a partner they trust and respect. This mutual trust and respect allows them to make their needs known without fear and allows them to become vulnerable.

Women Do Like Sex

I find most women today are far from the stereotypical little woman who is timid and submissive. Women like fun, women like excitement and women like sex. But women, more often than men, must have the trust in their partner to fully explore this world. Again, be this societal or hormonal, I'm just stating my observations.

In a relationship based on mutual trust and respect, women are far from timid. They find the freedom to express themselves in ways they may not have previously. As the relationship grows in trust, many women find their pleasure increases. This is true even if extreme pleasure existed from day one.

Tip #2 - Touch Often

A loving touch will leave us feeling happier and calmer than we had felt the previous instant. A hug, a kiss and/or a massage all release endorphins which increase our sense of well-being. We all crave that which makes us feel good, and what could feel better than the loving touch of the one we love.

We all see the new couples who cannot keep their hands off one another. Why does this craving seem to fade over time? Some people feel silly "acting like a teenager" especially in front of others. They may fear it is inappropriate to show affection in public. But a gentle touch, holding hands, even brushing the hair out of your loved one's eyes will never be inappropriate. These simple actions show your love in a very concrete way.

My man will put his hand on the small of my back when we are out. This makes me feel protected and special. We often hold hands when we walk. I feel more connected when we touch. With a gentle squeeze, I'll know that I am the focus of his attention.

A Loving Touch

Source

Tip #3 - Be Playful

As George Bernard Shaw said, "We don't stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing". This addage of life works for relationships also. If your relationship seems to be the same old, same old, you need to increase your playfulness.

Playfulness is a spontaneous mood lifter. Laughter boosts our moods and puts life in perspective. A playful partner is interesting, enjoyable and lively. Playfulness adds zest to the relationship and keeps us in the here and now. Be spontaneous, be unpredictable, be zany and have fun together.

Silly, little, fun things that you do together take on great meaning. These begin with spontaneous playfulness, but over time become codes that have special meaning. Your attractiveness increases when you smile and laugh, and as you laugh and play you feel better about yourself and the world around you.

Playfulness

Source

"The face is the mirror of the mind, and eyes without speaking confess the secrets of the heart."

— Saint Jerome

Tip #4 - Look Into Their Eyes

Modern science has shown that when we are attracted to another, our eyes dilate. These studies also show that when someone looks at us with dilated eyes, especially if they are smiling, we find them more attractive. No talking is needed, all is said in a look.

Spend time gazing into your loved one's eyes. As they gaze back, you both will feel a bond strengthening. You will feel their love and affection for you, and they will feel your love and affection for them. The giving and recognizing this look of love has been ingrained into us. Our hearts know what our brains may not admit.

Melissa Manchester - "Looking Through the Eyes of Love"

Tip #5 - Sex, Sex and More Sex

Whether you want to call it sex, making love or by some other term, it is the greatest gift given to two people who love and respect each other. Don't keep this gift to yourself, share it with the most important person in your life. As they say, practice makes perfect. Frequent love-making allows people to explore what they like and to learn what their partners like. This learning and exploring leads to a more fulfilling sex life.

Frequent sex has health benefits also. People who frequently have sex live longer, have lower blood pressure and healthier hearts and women report fewer menopause symptoms. These are just a few of the benefits! It seems having frequent sex allows people to live healthier and happier.

If you are having a hard time thinking up new ideas, check out this article. Some of the entries may make you blush, but...others may give you an idea or two on how to add a little fun into your love-making.

"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have."

— Frederick Keonig

Tip #6 - Appreciate Each Other

Life is such a fleeting moment, do not waste it...say "I love you", say "Thank you", say "You are wonderful". Each chance may be your last chance to show your partner what they really mean to you. Do not ever pass up an opportunity. All that you give will come back to you threefold.

We all want to be appreciated for what we do. Appreciation (in accounting terms) increases the worth of something. Appreciation (in relationship terms) increases the worth of how we feel. Be grateful for the things your partner does. Recognize their contributions to your life. Admire their strong points. They may forget exactly what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.

Live, Love and Have Passion

I sincerely hope that you find and keep passion alive in your relationship.  Our time with each other can never be taken for granted. 

© 2017 Katie Butler

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, pairedlife.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://pairedlife.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)