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The Ultimate Annual Performance Review for Your Spouse: Rate How your Husband or Wife Did This Year!

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Extreme Marriage Concept

Before you write this article off as being too extreme, please note that my husband and I have been happily married for almost 10 years. Regularly checking in with each other on our expectations and feelings regarding the others contribution to our marriage and household has really played a big factor in improving our marital satisfaction.

This performance review is very similar to the reviews that I have used in a professional setting as a Project Manager. The tasks have been changed to reflect household responsibilities. Not every task will be applicable to every person. For example, some spouses work outside of the home while some are homemakers. Some families have children, while others do not. Should you choose to do the evaluation, choose the items that work best for you and go from there.

Marital Performance Quick Poll

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Before Completing your Appraisal

Take a moment to:

  • List the main areas of responsibility
  • Note what your spouse has done well
  • Note what your spouse needs to improve on
  • Note what you can do to help your spouse do better

Remember to avoid:

  • Halo Effect: tendency to overrate your spouse to spare an argument
  • Horns Effect: tendency to rate your spouse lower than circumstances warrant
  • Recency Error: letting outstanding tasks [or unsatisfactory situations] immediately prior to the evaluation offset an entire year of performance

Rating Scale

Rating LevelRating Description

5

Amazing

4

Exceeds Expectations

3

Meets Expectations

2

Improvement Needed

1

Unsatisfactory

Rate Core Responsibilities

Using the table below, insert a whole number (1-5) using the rating scale above. Be objective and record the number best defining specific actions observed by you and as listed below. It is recommended that you provide a comment for each rating.

ResponsibilityCommentsRating

Providing Monitarily for the Family

 

 

Perform Household Chores

 

 

Spend Quality Time with Spouse

 

 

Spend Quality Time with Children

 

 

Resolving Conflicts with Spouse

 

 

Disciplining Children

 

 

Care for Pets

 

 

Administrative Items: Paying Bills, Scheduling Household Appointments, Sending Out Birthday Cards, etc

 

 

Money Management: Keeping to a Budget, Not Overspending

 

 

Time Management: Comes Home on Time, Makes it to Appointments on Time, Dinner at a Consistent Time, etc

 

 

Leisure Activities with Family

 

 

Physical Intamacy

Spiritual Guidance and Education

 

 

Providing Emotional Support

 

 

Social Engagments (hosting guests, going out with friends, etc)

 

 

Relationship with In-Laws

 

 

**Insert Additional Tasks/Responsibilities if Applicable**

 

 

Overall Rating (Overall score divided by number of rows/responsibilities)

 

 

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Areas to Improve and Goal Setting

Once you've reviewed your score with your spouse, you have probably noticed that there are some areas that could be improved. Identifying areas to improve and setting goals to improve them are the next logical step towards improving satisfaction in the marriage. It is most effective for the person being reviewed to identify his or her areas to improve and note measurable goals that they can set out to achieve. If the spouse who is doing the evaluating also tries to set the goals, it could lead to unrealistic expectations and discontentment.

Areas to ImproveAction Steps to Take in order to Make ImprovementDesired Outcome

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tips for Conducting Review

  1. Make sure that BOTH partners/spouses agree to doing the performance review prior to completing them. Do not ambush your partner with a review.
  2. Print out this article or copy/paste into an Excel sheet or Word document to modify to your liking prior to printing.
  3. Fill out the same performance review for yourself prior to your spouse giving you their evaluation of you. See how your reviews match up.
  4. Stay calm. If tensions or arguments break out, the exercise will not have its intended outcome.

I'd Love Your Feedback!

Please feel free to comment and let me know what you think of the article. Also, if you have ever conducted a similar review or plan to try out the method above, I'd love to know. Additionally, any suggestions for items to add to the list of performance items above would be appreciated.


Thanks for reading!

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.