Earlier in the week, my parents celebrated their 36th wedding anniversary. Even more impressive, my grandparents celebrated 65 years of marriage last month. I am extremely fortunate to have parents who have remained committed to one another and value the sanctity of marriage. I realize numbers like these aren’t common anymore. Sadly, more and more marriages are ending up in divorce. Or, the marriages don’t even happen in the first place. The number of families with both a mother and father in the home continues to plummet.
While I am lucky to have grown up in a home with parents who are still committed to one another, it is also something to be expected. I was raised to believe that a marriage is meant to be a life-long relationship. “I do” and “until death do us part” are not just words to be said; they are a promise. Getting married is not something that is done temporarily or just for the short term. Marriage does not come with a return policy. You cannot just try it out and then give it back if you don’t like it. It may sound cliché, but when two people are married, they become one.
You can call me old-fashioned, conservative, close-minded, or whatever insult you prefer to hurl my way, but marriage in my book is between one man and one woman. I realize that may not be a popular idea anymore, but I couldn't care less if other people disagree. I stand behind the belief that God created marriage that way, and that is how it should remain. More and more, we are moving away from that concept. Marriage has lost the respect and importance it once held. People are willing to compromise its ideals and values.
Why is marriage such a big deal? A solid marriage is the foundation for a family. I’m not saying that a child cannot be raised by a single parent, but it has been proven time and time again the benefits of having both parents in the home. Children need role-models in their lives. Not just any role-models, but they need positive ones. Having a mother and father in the home can provide children with a male and female role model. Children need both parents because each parent provides a unique role to the child. There are certain qualities that a mother possesses that cannot be offered by the father and vice versa. The deterioration of marriage and the utter destruction of the traditional family have ultimately led to major downfalls in the United States and possibly worldwide.
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Joel (author) from Ohio on August 15, 2013:
@lerato - Yes, God said we are supposed to love everyone and not judge them regardless of sin. He will be the One to judge. However, in the Bible, He also designated marriage to be between one man and one woman.
lerato on August 15, 2013:
it is also good to accept people for who they are. For God said that thy shall judge no man, so marriage to me is a commitment between two or more people.
Joel (author) from Ohio on January 28, 2012:
@tim - well said. Thanks for reading.
Tim Urness on January 28, 2012:
I believe exactly as you do. Marriage requires love, work, and understanding. Marriage requires commitment. Marriage is not always easy, but marriage is wonderful. Marriage is between a man and a woman. God intends for people to be committed to each other, to be in a stable relationship, to be married, to have children.
Joel (author) from Ohio on January 27, 2012:
@jenn - Thanks. 6 times is crazy!
@dallas - You're welcome. Family is the foundation.
@Lissie - Congrats to you and your husband. You are right that once the family breaks down other things follow.
@Emma - Congrats on your future wedding, and I wish you the best!
Emma Kisby from Berkshire, UK on January 26, 2012:
I agree with you - there are way too many breakdowns in the family, or irresponsible people who have children unplanned they can't afford in unstable relationships.
I do know what it is like to be a single parent but it was something I wished hadn't happened. I am now getting married soon and have a very happy, loving and stable home - something I grew up with too. It is so important.
Lissie Loomes from Tasmania, Australia on January 26, 2012:
Hear Hear all the way!! The breakdown of families leads to the break down of a community and subsequently to the breakdown of society as we have known it. My husband and I celebrated our 60th wedding anniversary last year. Wish more people thought as you do Joelipoo.
Dallas W Thompson from Bakersfield, CA on January 26, 2012:
The family unit is the foundation of society. Thanks for sharing.
jennjenn519 from Cocoa, Fl on January 26, 2012:
Well said! My dad had been married 6 times! Unbelievable.