As men, we all like to do something special for our girlfriends/wives. That look of appreciation and surprise on your lover's face can be intoxicating. Unfortunately, we are notoriously bad at it. A large part of the problem men have is that we hate to spend money without having a good reason to do so, whereas, for many women, the thought that you spared no expense on their latest present-of-no-practical-use-or-relevance is part of what makes them feel so special. However, all is not lost. It is possible to make her feel special and not spend ridiculous amounts of cash. So here are my top ten ideas for romance to give your partner that feeling that she is the most special person in the world, without making you more familiar with your bank manager than you are with your partner.
1. Buy Her Flowers
Flowers are great, but if you get the wrong ones or you don't really pay attention to what you're ordering, you end up spending a large amount of cash on something she isn't all that excited about. If you find out her favourite type of flowers, or even just her favourite colours, and go out and pick them yourself, you will score huge brownie points and spend next to nothing. Failing that, most supermarkets and newsagents do flowers at a tenth of the cost of a flower shop, and you can deliver them yourself at an appropriately romantic moment. You can save a lot of money just by listening to her and finding out what she likes. It doesn't have to be for her birthday or some anniversary either. Women love to get surprises out of the blue.
2. Buy Little Thoughtful Gifts
Regular, little surprises or thoughtful gifts can go a lot further than a huge gift that you blew your month's wages on. A chocolate bar or her favourite magazine every few days costs pence but looks very thoughtful. Do one thing a day just for her, even if it's only making her tea!
3. Spoil Her With Breakfast in Bed
Try to do something to spoil her. Bringing her breakfast in bed is an oldie but goodie. Score extra points by putting a flower you picked in a little vase on the tray. For those who would rather not get up at the crack of dawn to slave over a hot stove, you could always do an evening meal instead. Every woman likes a meal cooked for her, but go a bit further and put out candles. In my experience, the more the better. You can cover an average-sized room with candles, and it will cost you less than two quid!
4. Take Her on a Picnic
Picnics are another oldie but goodie. With this one, it's all about location. The last thing you want to happen after laying out your perfect spread is for a farmer to drive his tractor through it! Choose somewhere romantic and away from the crowds. The beach is always a good idea if there's one near you. If not, a secluded area of a public park can work. For extra brownie points, try to time it so you can see the sunset. This is usually only good in the spring or summer but can still work in winter (it might even be better with a bit of preparation). If you have a car, just take her somewhere scenic where you can watch the sunset and bring a hot flask with you.
5. Build up to a Surprise Evening
If you already have the perfect plan for a romantic evening, don't just surprise her with it all in one go. Build it up a bit. The best way is to leave notes (you can also do this by text) telling her to go to a place where you have something planned without telling her why. If you're going out, you could tell her to go home first (best if she isn't already there), shower and get ready, and then meet you somewhere. This will build the suspense and excitement. Or you could tell her you're going to pick her up from work and don't say where you're going. Let her find out when you get there.
6. Pamper Her With a Massage or Foot Rub
This will work especially well if your partner is the professional, career-driven type. The stress of a day at work will still be hanging on her when she gets home, and this can work in your favour. Meet her with a glass of wine when she gets in, then lead her to a room you have previously prepared. Have some calming, soft music already playing and candles lit ready.
7. Write Her a Simple Note
Leaving little notes or messages for her can be very romantic. Even just the simplest ones can pull at a woman's heartstrings. A good one is to write a simple "luv u" in the condensation on the mirror so she will see it when she showers. You don't have to be a wordsmith; the fact that it comes from you will be enough. If you are of a literary bent, little poems left in her make-up bag, handbag, or under the pillow will work wonders.
8. Try Something New Together
Women like a man who is prepared to take a risk to be romantic. I'm not saying you have to leap through the bedroom window dressed in black (this is actually more likely to cause you injury either due to poor abseiling skill or your partner hitting you with the nearest blunt object when she mistakes you for a burglar, and there is nothing more embarrassing than having to be rescued by firemen, dangling upside down from the roof of the house), but you can still be a Casanova without going on a special forces training course. Take her somewhere neither of you has ever been before, try out new hobbies together, or cook her something neither of you has ever had (try to avoid anything you know she wouldn't like though).
9. Help Her With Things Around the House
Help her take a load off by doing her washing or doing a bit of ironing. Even if you only do this once, it will score major brownie points, which you can then cash in when you turn up 3am from the lock-in you promised you wouldn't go to. Careful with this one if your partner is the fussy type though. You won't score any points if you present her with her favourite top with an iron-shaped hole in it!
10. Go Away for the Weekend
Grand gestures don't have to break the bank. If you really want to do something special for your girlfriend, there are so many cheap flights nowadays that you don't have to spend a ton of money. A weekend away can still be cost-effective. The key here is planning. Book the flights and hotels separately. This will usually only take an hour or so and will save you a fortune. Check online and try to find a weekend where the flights and hotels are cheapest. The best thing about this is that it doesn't matter when you do it, so you're free to pick the cheapest one. When choosing a hotel, choose one slightly outside the resort or city, so that you will get a much better price for a higher quality hotel, and it will look like you picked it because it's more romantic. For transfers from the airport, go to the website of the airport you are arriving at, as you will usually find local public transport is much cheaper. Hotels in the UK often do deals for weekends in the off-season, and it doesn't matter if the weather is bad, that's what wine shops were made for.
Of course, most men would like to think they are a bit of a Casanova. Hopefully, by following these tips you will be able to make that a reality, without hiding your bank statements. Women love to be told or shown they are special, but they care more about the thought behind it than the amount of cash you spend. A thoughtful gesture goes a lot further than letting her use your credit card for the weekend. Feel free to add your own ideas in the comments section. Thanks for reading!
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Questions & Answers
Question: What I can say to make my girlfriend's day?
Answer: There are a lot of possible answers to this. Every woman is different, and I doubt any will fail to appreciate something you say that is personal to her. In general (though not always), most people like to be complimented. If you can add some witty self deprecation that usually works well too.
Question: Is there sex after menopause?
Answer: This isn't really my area I'm afraid. From what I understand, I see no reason why not, but really your partner and possibly your doctor will help far more than I can with this.
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on October 14, 2018:
Not sure exactly what you mean but thanks.
Isaac eugene on October 12, 2018:
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xxtonybxx (author) from wales on October 06, 2018:
Glad I could help, thanks Aroh.
Aroh Christian on October 03, 2018:
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xxtonybxx (author) from wales on October 04, 2017:
Princess from PH on September 05, 2017:
thanks for the tips!
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on August 25, 2016:
Hi Brycehane, I'm British, so these spellings are correct for us. The American English dictionary deviated from the original spellings (which inluded the "u") in the late 19th century in order to distinguish American English from British English.
khen estoquia on August 24, 2016:
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Brycehane on October 26, 2015:
Good spelling. Favorite, colors, favor.
PMARTIN on August 19, 2014:
Good tips....I just wonder how long her appreciation lasts before she is back to the "what have you done for me lately" whine.
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on August 06, 2014:
Hope the above tips have helped!
onekleverG on July 01, 2014:
Thanks for this useful advice, me & my girlfriend of 6 yrs have been fighting lately & it's mainly because of financial issues.. but she doesn't understand or can't seem to accept it that I just can't take her out to the bar & buy her drinks to have a "Good time" I really dislike bars.. & I know she's not all into them either but just because she turned 21..
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on April 13, 2014:
Thank you for your comment :).
romanticsky on April 08, 2014:
I think this post make a very useful summary of the best things to do to your woman, to make her feels very important and in a true romantic relationship. I just want to add a very simple advice to give her a little but beautiful surprise: prepare a romantic card with her name (or simply a romantic quote) written in the stars, there is a free website that offers this opportunity, check it out at http://www.romanticsky.net
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on November 14, 2013:
Then open yourself up to people and show them who you are. You will surely find someone who appreciates you for who you are.
Mary Stuart on November 06, 2013:
i dont have who love me i want a love
duh! on July 13, 2013:
I believe that doing these things doesn't make you a great catch; rather, not doing things on a regular basis makes you a jerk. I mean what husband doesn't cook for his wife, or get her flowers every week, even just picking wild flowers, or give her a massage every night, our being her breakfast in bed on the weekends, or doing the cleaning when you get home, or randomly drive her out to a picnic or anything else she loves doing? If I stopped doing these things for like a week I wouldn't blame my wife if she wanted to leave me
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on July 07, 2013:
Thanks for your comment :). You're right, it's the little things that count.
helpavisitor from Germany on July 07, 2013:
Many thanks for this article. Just that it makes me remember something that happened to me in 2008. My friend was celebrating her birthday and i thought I was doing something good to surprise my friend by coming to the party with a bunch of beautiful flower. What did my friend do with it? My friend forgot to pack it with other gifts. I picked it up and reminded my friend that the flower had been forgotten. "I am not going to eat flower next time come with envelopes like other people." My friend told me. I reluctantly took my flower with me.
Thank God i find a new friend that appreciate the lovely messages of beautiful flowers.
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on April 05, 2013:
Thanks, yeah I think the main thing is to make it personal to your partner.
The big spoon on April 03, 2013:
Great list of advise. Nothing better than making the one you love smile, isn't that what its all about? One thing i did which went down really well was a treasure hunt around the house, it only lead to a small present but it was the effort she knew i went to that made her happiest. The clues were all rhymes, such as 'put your head on me and take a rest, everyone knows my cool side is the best' under the pillow of course :) i did about 10 clues, took bloody ages to think of them all haha. But she's my little spoon, totally worth it. Well done again on the list
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on February 23, 2013:
Hi Stellar, thanks very much! You really should, the world always needs more writers :).
Stellar Phoenix on February 22, 2013:
This website is incredible! You certainly know how to keep a reader involved. Between your wit and your pictures, I was almost moved to start my own blog (well, almost..haha) Wonderful job. I really loved what you had to say, and more than that, how you presented it. Too cool! Stellar Phoenix Review
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on February 03, 2013:
Terrye Toombs from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map. on February 03, 2013:
Some very good ideas for the upcoming Valentine's Day. :)
Mario Cayena on June 14, 2012:
I wanted to give my girlfriend a good present bu really I didn't want to expend to much money because it was for no special ocassion. My brother in law recommended a page (cancionespararegalar.com) where you can create a song with the letter and music style you like. It's great by now, will see.
Mary from Washington on April 02, 2012:
The most special flowers I ever received were from that one great love. he got me! He cut pussy-willows from his property in the early, early spring. he tied the bouquet with a bright red ribbon and presented them to me with a kiss on the cheek. I totally melted. The kiss moved to the lips, btw. I can just hear the groans. Oh! I stillm elt when I think of sweet Rudy.
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on March 17, 2012:
No problem :)
pussy mcgee on March 15, 2012:
awesome your a lifesaver
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on July 30, 2011:
Alexander Thandi Ubani from Lagos on July 29, 2011:
Great work putting together this interesting hub. I agree with all the tips especially the one that talks about helping out in the kitchen, the dishes etc. Great job
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on July 04, 2011:
Ok I've sort of put in about doing any of this stuff for no reason. Thanks for the hint ;)
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on July 04, 2011:
That's a good one. I never thought of that. Edit.....
Danette Watt from Illinois on July 04, 2011:
good pointers and welcome to hub pages! One thing I enjoy is getting cards for no reason. It means the person was thinking of me and chose just the right card. They can be relatively inexpensive, too.
xxtonybxx (author) from wales on July 01, 2011:
Thanks everybody :)
Leptirela from I don't know half the time on July 01, 2011:
hahahaha This is EXCELLENT STUFF :)
tHANKS FOR SHARING.. I have a hub ...Love confident ...hahaha HOW TO MAKE A MAN CRAZY .... lol I think I may have to change a few things :)
Apostle Jack from Atlanta Ga on June 30, 2011:
Pollyannalana from US on June 30, 2011:
Man I love that foot rub, knocks me out cold!
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