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What's a Romantic Gesture Your Boyfriend Won't Forget?
Although home-cooked dinners and dates out are nice, in the long run, I've found that those memories are not the ones that stand out. In the long run, it's best to be creative and original. The more personal, the better.
I have been with my boyfriend for six years now. Over the years, there have been a handful of romantic gestures on my part that really made him glow. I hope to share these moments so that you have ideas for how to do the same within your relationship. This article discusses the following 10 useful romantic ideas to help you show him you really care:
- Stage a birthday surprise by hiding his gift.
- Record an original CD or tape.
- Arrange for a gift—for his mother.
- If you're long distance, deliver a surprise care package—yourself!
- Plan an adult hooky day.
- Make him some special food.
- Make him breakfast in bed.
- Use creative yardwork to write a message for him outside.
- Give a thoughtful gift that costs time, not money.
- Make plans to step outside your boundaries.
1. Stage a Birthday Surprise: Hide His Gift
This one may not seem so original, but it worked! Hide his birthday gift under his bed or pillow or anywhere you know he will find out the next morning. Of course, you must hide it the day before his birthday.
2. Record an Original CD or Tape
If you are a musician, you may want to make him a song. Sneak it onto a playlist he always listens to or create a whole new playlist. Or if you are old-fashioned like me, make a CD or a mix-tape. I've literally stuck a microphone inside my piano to record a few songs on a tape recorder, and he says that is still the best gift he remembers. If you can't play an instrument, record a poem or a letter simply letting him know how much he means to you. You can leave it in his car for a surprise!
3. Arrange for a Gift—for His Mother
This one is very original. Thought it may seem odd at first, it is extremely memorable, and by making his mother melt, you will see how happy he become in return. On his birthday, buy a present for him to send as a gift to his mother. Letting her know how much he loves her on his birthday is a gesture that will warm the hearts of everyone involved.
4. If You're Long Distance, Deliver a Surprise Care Package—Yourself!
When we were in a long-distance relationship, I flew over on a 32-hour journey in order to surprise him for his birthday. If you plan ahead, this is probably one of the best things you could do—literally delivering yourself at an important time. We all know how hard a long-distance relationship can be, and that makes a surprise in-person visit even more meaningful!
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5. Plan an Adult Hooky Day
Think Ferris Beuller's Day Off. Plan a random day to both take off "sick" from work. Then make a mental list of things you can do that day, such as museums, movies, walks through the city, and restaurants you've always wanted to try (especially ones that have strange hours or that are difficult to make reservations at during normal times). Then with this arsenal of possibilities at hand, seize the day and follow it where it leads you!
6. Use Food
As they say, food is the door to the heart. Surprise him by baking cookies in the shapes of letters spelling, "You are the sweetest guy I've ever met" (this is easy to do with store-bought cookie dough), or by asking your regular pizza place to make a specialty pizza in the shape of a heart and adding a note saying, "Is this too cheesy?"
7. Flip the Script and Make Him Breakfast in Bed
Guys making their girls breakfast in bed is notoriously romantic and thoughtful—but the same is true in reverse. He will definitely remember the day where he woke up to eggs, coffee, hash browns, and fruit. The time that he usually spends in his daily routine preparing breakfast will be able to be spent instead on leisurely enjoying breakfast together. If you are feeling especially romantic, prepare strawberries and champagne as well—there's nothing like starting the day off with some bubbly.
8. Creative Yardwork
Creative yardwork can be the equivalent of shouting your love from the rooftops, only more thoughtful. If it is snows overnight, wake up before him to write "I Love You" outside of the window with your footsteps or with a shovel. If you have a lawn, you can mow the same message in the grass facing the house. The surprise on his face will be worth it!
9. A Thoughtful Gift That Costs Time, Not Money
The most romantic gifts cost time, not money. Think back over your time together and write a poem about the time you first met. Instead of writing an "I love you" letter, make an "I love you" video filled with your favorite inside jokes and places you've visited together. Think of that thing he lingered over when you were window shopping, and go back to that store and get it for him as a surprise. The thought and time involved will make the gift one-of-a-kind.
10. Make Plans to Step Outside Your Boundaries
For me, stepping outside of my boundaries was taking my boyfriend to a motel three hours away from the city, whipping out the alcohol, and proceeding to have one of the most memorable nights of my life. Of course, he remembers this night too, as I stepped out of my box to please him and be a bit naughty.
Admittedly, getting wasted is not the most romantic or healthy piece of advice to end on. But for a special day, such as a birthday, anniversary, or holiday, pick a weekend to get away from the city and do something that you do not usually do. Maybe it will involve backpacking in the wilderness or bungee jumping, maybe it will involve parades at Mardi Gras or a clothing-optional beach. Stepping outside of your boundaries together will create a lasting memory, and bring you closer.
Those are my contributions. I would like to hear your truly memorable dates and romantic gestures as well. If you've had a great idea, please share it in the comments!
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.