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Romantic Things to Do for Your Boyfriend


Truly Memorable Dates and Romantic Gestures for Him

Although home-cooked dinners and dates out are nice, in the long run, I've found that those memories are not the ones that stand out. In the long run, it's best to be creative and original. The more personal, the better.

I have been with my boyfriend for six years now. Over the years, there have been a handful of romantic gestures on my part that really made him glow. I hope to share these moments, so that you have ideas for how to do the same within your relationship.

1. Stage a Birthday Surprise: Hide His Gift

Surprise your boyfriend by hiding his gift somewhere he's sure to find it—like the refrigerator.

Surprise your boyfriend by hiding his gift somewhere he's sure to find it—like the refrigerator.

This one may not seem so original, but it worked! Hide his birthday gift under his bed or pillow or anywhere you know he will find out the next morning. Of course, you must hide it the day before his birthday.

2. Record an Original CD or Tape

Write him a song and put it on a playlist, CD, or mix tape to show him, "I  3 You."

Write him a song and put it on a playlist, CD, or mix tape to show him, "I 3 You."

If you are a musician, you may want to make him a song. Sneak it onto a playlist he always listens to or create a whole new playlist. Or if you are old-fashioned like me, make a CD or a mix-tape. I've literally stuck a microphone inside my piano to record a few songs on a tape recorder, and he says that is still the best gift he remembers. If you can't play an instrument, record a poem or a letter simply letting him know how much he means to you. You can leave it in his car for a surprise!

3. Arrange for a Gift—for His Mother

Buy a gift for your boyfriend to give to his mother—her happy phone call will make his heart melt.

Buy a gift for your boyfriend to give to his mother—her happy phone call will make his heart melt.

This one is very original. Thought it may seem odd at first, it is extremely memorable, and by making his mother melt, you will see how happy he become in return. On his birthday, buy a present for him to send as a gift to his mother. Letting her know how much he loves her on his birthday is a gesture that will warm the hearts of everyone involved.

4. If You're Long Distance, Deliver a Surprise Care Package—Yourself!

If you're in a long-distance relationship, one of the best gifts is a surprise visit.

If you're in a long-distance relationship, one of the best gifts is a surprise visit.

When we were in a long-distance relationship, I flew over on a 32-hour journey in order to surprise him for his birthday. If you plan ahead, this is probably one of the best things you could do—literally delivering yourself at an important time. We all know how hard a long-distance relationship can be, and that makes a surprise in-person visit even more meaningful!

5. Plan an Adult Hooky Day

Plan an Adult Hooky Day—still an original date idea, even if Bueller beat you to it.

Plan an Adult Hooky Day—still an original date idea, even if Bueller beat you to it.

Think Ferris Beuller's Day Off. Plan a random day to both take off "sick" from work. Then make a mental list of things you can do that day, such as museums, movies, walks through the city, and restaurants you've always wanted to try (especially ones that have strange hours or that are difficult to make reservations at during normal times). Then with this arsenal of possibilities at hand, seize the day and follow it where it leads you!

6. Use Food

Use food to say, "I love you." You can get your regular pizza place to bake a pie in the shape of a heart.

Use food to say, "I love you." You can get your regular pizza place to bake a pie in the shape of a heart.

As they say, food is the door to the heart. Surprise him by baking cookies in the shapes of letters spelling, "You are the sweetest guy I've ever met" (this is easy to do with store-bought cookie dough), or by asking your regular pizza place to make a specialty pizza in the shape of a heart and adding a note saying, "Is this too cheesy?"

7. Flip the Script and Make Him Breakfast in Bed

Have him wake up to breakfast in bed–he'll never forget how thoughtful you were!

Have him wake up to breakfast in bed–he'll never forget how thoughtful you were!

Guys making their girls breakfast in bed is notoriously romantic and thoughtful—but the same is true in reverse. He will definitely remember the day where he woke up to eggs, coffee, hash browns, and fruit. The time that he usually spends in his daily routine preparing breakfast will be able to be spent instead on leisurely enjoying breakfast together. If you are feeling especially romantic, prepare strawberries and champagne as well—there's nothing like starting the day off with some bubbly.

8. Creative Yardwork

Write your love for all to see with some creative yardwork.

Write your love for all to see with some creative yardwork.

Creative yardwork can be the equivalent of shouting your love from the rooftops, only more thoughtful. If it is snows overnight, wake up before him to write "I Love You" outside of the window with your footsteps or with a shovel. If you have a lawn, you can mow the same message in the grass facing the house. The surprise on his face will be worth it!

9. A Thoughtful Gift That Costs Time, Not Money

Make him a thoughtful gift that you couldn't ever buy—like a framed screenshot of your first text messages.

Make him a thoughtful gift that you couldn't ever buy—like a framed screenshot of your first text messages.

The most romantic gifts cost time, not money. Think back over your time together and write a poem about the time you first met. Instead of writing an "I love you" letter, make an "I love you" video filled with your favorite inside jokes and places you've visited together. Think of that thing he lingered over when you were window shopping, and go back to that store and get it for him as a surprise. The thought and time involved will make the gift one-of-a-kind.

10. Make Plans to Step Outside Your Boundaries

Create the setting for your romantic night by getting a fancy hotel and arranging for rose petals and champagne.

Create the setting for your romantic night by getting a fancy hotel and arranging for rose petals and champagne.

For me, stepping outside of my boundaries was taking my boyfriend to a motel three hours away from the city, whipping out the alcohol, and proceeding to have one of the most memorable nights of my life. Of course, he remembers this night too, as I stepped out of my box to please him and be a bit naughty.

Admittedly, getting wasted is not the most romantic or healthy piece of advice to end on. But for a special day, such as a birthday, anniversary, or holiday, pick a weekend to get away from the city and do something that you do not usually do. Maybe it will involve backpacking in the wilderness or bungee jumping, maybe it will involve parades at Mardi Gras or a clothing-optional beach. Stepping outside of your boundaries together will create a lasting memory, and bring you closer.

Final Thoughts

Those are my contributions. I would like to hear your truly memorable dates and romantic gestures as well. If you've had a great idea, please share it in the comments!

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.


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nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on May 13, 2012:

Hi sim: congrats for you and your bf's 1 year anniversary!

I think getting 21 gifts is a sweet idea however you may be treating him just too much! Remember he will absolutely love that you flew over to see him. I think that is good enough!

does he have a good watch? if you can afford, getting him a new watch for the anniversary/21st bday is an awesome idea. Guys often don't like jewellery but they do appreciate a good watch! I got my bf a watch that cost me an arm and a leg (seiko) but he still wears it and loves it and he's now 28! definitely long lasting gift.

sim on May 13, 2012:


My boyfriend and I will be having our 1year anniversary next month and he turns 21 in July. I want to get him something special. We are in a long distance relationship and i'm flying up to go visit him for our anniversary and his birthday. II was thinking of getting him 21 gifts, lots of small ones and a couple of big ones. Any suggestions?

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on April 01, 2012:

Hi there, congrats on your 1 year anniversary! This may sound boring but you could get a plant in a pot (a seedling or a small plant) that she could have in her room or balcony and watch it grow? It's a nice reminder as that plant will always resemble your 1 year anniversary. Try getting a sturdy type of plant that will last years (even a cute cactus, the smooth type!). My bf didn't like the idea of cut flowers (or may just be his excuse!) so he once got me a plant which i adored!

Something personal will always last forever, even a heart felt letter, a CD with songs that both of you will enjoy?

There are so many activities you can do but for marking 1.2.or 3 years anniversary I think it will be really neat to get away from all of that and just have a quiet time at a beach or somewhere peaceful and just let it be! hope it helped and congrats again!

KingMac00 on April 01, 2012:

Hey. I need a little advice on what to do for me and my girlfriends one year. It's soon and I need help on thinking what we should do on that day. I'm 17 and she's 16 (both still in high school). She has her license but I don't. I want to do something special that we will both remember. Please help :)

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on March 28, 2012:

Hello, i'm so lazy at checking comments sorry! Congratulations on you & your bf's 1st year anniversary!

How about taking him one of the places where you used to go to when you first started dating that you don't go to anymore? That will bring back memories and remind him how you felt towards him. I don't think an expensive "gift" is appropriate or necessary for a 1 year anniversary, make it more meaningful by writing him a letter (perhaps spritzed with perfume you wore when you first started dating him). Just anything to remind him the moments you cherished that brought you two upto this very important 1 year mark. Did i make any sense? hope it helped, and let me know how it went and what you ended up doing (too nosy i am). xox

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on March 28, 2012:

Aww that is a great idea. thank you!!

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on March 28, 2012:

Hi there, apologies for not replying on time! I hope you had a wonderful time celebrating your beloved one's birthday. A message i wrote for my bf's last bday on his fb wall: "Thank you for being born" He loved it =)

Duffy on March 04, 2012:

Hi. Just looking for some advise. It's my first year anniversary with my boyfriend soon and I am looking for idea's on how to make him feel special. He has made me feel so special this past year and I would like to do the same thing for him.

cowgirl101 on March 03, 2012:

if u need any ideas on things to get for your bf's here's an idea!: get a bag of those brightly coulored stones and on each stone write things that u love about him, on the bag write ''things that i love about you.''

hope this helps :)

sherryphat love on February 29, 2012:

My bf birthday is on march 6,i don't know what to give me.i love him so much.help pls (sherryphat)

helpin out on February 26, 2012:


I understand your relationship exactly how you feel i went through that too, and i eventually had to break it off bc it got bad where he would get rly mad and be ry mean to me and as if he never cared but idk about your bf but mine didn't apologize or anything so i don't mean to upset you but if hes being abusive, not physically but emotionally, then it betterto end things earliern than later

lizzy on February 25, 2012:

Hi need help im almost 16 and my bf is almost 19 our relationship is crazy and he's bipolar but he gets so anfry at me when I come see him when he tells me he doesn't want to see me at all. What should I do to show him I love him like any ideas we have been dating for 2 yrs and im waiting for him to propose

flower on February 22, 2012:

Thanks for all the help guys! I ended up writing a short card and I made this stadium thing of a game we invented together, called penny soccer :) It went perfectly!!

kels18 on February 21, 2012:

nzchristy you have really good ideas. me and my boyfriend will be together for two years on september 25th yeah i'm kinda planning ahead but i don't want to do it last minute. i'm thinking about going out to eat at the same place we did on our first date but as far as gifts go i'm STUCK i've already got him a zippo lighter with his name engraved on it a cross necklace i've made him a wolf puzzle and glued it together and put it in a picture frame and i'm making him a scrapbook now (for our two year) but i want to get him something else and go out and do something we've never done before. any ideas?

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on February 12, 2012:

What does he like? how old are you two? i think food-type of gift of what your man likes will be quite nice. If i were you i'd want nothing but a giant macaroon baked just for me! :)

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on February 12, 2012:

Wow, congratulations!

How about a sensual massage therapy session for you and your hubby? You can either get it done by someone or have a lesson so you engage with each other-

or if that's too much i think a relaxing "for two" spa therapies & warm bath will be perfect! Especially for your bubz too x good luck! you deserve to be pampered!!

Madi on February 12, 2012:

I'he only been going out with my bf for a few days an valentines day is coming up and he said he was getting me something awesomee. Help! What do I get him!

Madi on February 12, 2012:

I'he only been going out with my bf for a few days an valentines day is coming up and he said he was getting me something awesomee. Help! What do I get him!

Mrs. Bernal on February 11, 2012:

Hi my husband and I have been married for nearly 9 month so were going on our first valentines day together, I'm also 7 months pregnant and I really want to do something sexy for him but have no idea where to begin. He works out of town for 1 week and he's home for one week, any suggestions?

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on February 06, 2012:

sorry kat i don't want to pretend i can help with this one... you will be better at me at this, just trust your instincts! goodluck =)

kat on February 05, 2012:

valentines day is coming up and i want to get something for my bf im 11 (i know "to young")we have been together for 5 mounths and been on 2 dates what should i do!

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on January 31, 2012:

Hi XDIANVIE, i would be useless for suggestions on this, as i can't begin to think what 9 y.o. boy would like for his bday! But i'm sure he appreciates you as his gf and whatever you decide to do/give him, he will love! Maybe you could arrange to decorate his desk with bday goodies like balloons, card from his friends etc before he gets there? and pop in in the morning and give him a kiss! I would do something sneaky like that at school, so his day is special!

XDIANVIE on January 31, 2012:


nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on January 30, 2012:

@flower- 6month anniversary- congratulations! How about a beautiful card or gift you can make and write something special- either poem, quotes or even fill an envelope with things that mean something to you two. I have recently discovered the fun of putting together a glory box, but i think you will scare him off if you were to present him with this at such an early stage!

Make a canvas of your fav photo, he will forever cherish!

Other than that, just being there for him and not being grouchy x)

PRETTY GAMES123 on January 30, 2012:


D+A on January 29, 2012:

For all those middle school girls out there that want tips, here ya go! Me and my boyfriend are in middle school too and we have been 2 gether for 2 years and if you want to do something nice for him on his b day just spend time w/ him. My bf had a b day party at the bowling alley and i sat next to him and cheered him on. A present idea is to either make him something nice but not too mushy, or get him something simple. I made a card for him and gave him a box of triangular dominos and him and i played with them for a while. Get to know him for 7- 10 months and them if he's comfortable around you, give him hugs every once in a while. Hope this helps!

flower on January 28, 2012:

So, I my boyfriend and I's 6th month anniversary is coming up. I was wondering what if anything I should do? We are in middle school...yes I know its very young! But, any suggestions? Thanks

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on January 24, 2012:

@Prnyta Sorry i missed this, was on holiday! What did you end up getting for him? There is nothing to worry about when it comes to "gifts"- the best gift to him is you in his life, and anything else, that YOU've thought of, is extra. So begin skyping with him and keep your communication going and you can do something special together when you can reunite!


Hmm..that's a hard one. You could take him to a specialty beer brewery/restaurant? depending on where you live though i guess...(?)

i guess choose a rustic kinda restaurant that serve interesting food matched with beer.

What to do after dinner for a country guy....hmmm...can't suggest specific activities as i don't know where you live (where i am is Summer! so id take him hiking/evening beach walk etc).

Most guys like games so you could hit gaming alley and let him play his fav game (probably driving games?) and also old school basketball & air hockey game with you :P

4-wheel drive adventures if you can afford, or hiring his fav car for the night may be cool too! let me know what you plan to do x

emmylou7 on January 24, 2012:

Hey, I wanted to do something special for my boyfriend just because. We go out a lot but its always the same usual thing. I wanted to take him out to dinner but he's kind of picky about food. I also wanted to do something different after dinner but I don't know what because he normally likes to go to the bar for a few drinks and he doesn't like normal things like bowling or the movies and stuff like that. He's a country guy who likes going out to the woods, mudding, bombfires etc. I just want to do something different but I want him to like it. He always pays for everything and I just want to do sometthing for him for once. What would be a perfect date for someone like him?

Aston on January 11, 2012:

Not sure about sending my mum a gift on my own birthday...

prnyta on January 02, 2012:

hi christy i really really need help my bf's bday s day after dats on 4th of jan, nd i really don't know wat to do for his bday cox our s distance relation. and i cant even go to his place due to my work. and pls suggest me wat to gift him.... waitin for ur reply.

thank you.

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on December 29, 2011:

Hi Katy- your situation sounds a bit nasty to be honest. that b**ch friend of his should just be ignored.

Let your friends do their thing, but you can also do something just with him before/after that. He would probably want to have a good time with bunch of his mates, but maybe not his so called girl "friends". not really sure how i can help you, but if i were you i'd stay aside for the friend-organised event then plan intimate time between just you and him and keep it separate. don't bring up your complaints about his mean friends on his bday though! x

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on December 29, 2011:

Hello- thanks for all your comments, and i'm soooo sorry i couldn't answer your questions- hope you all found a great gift for your partner- remember just being able to spend time with him in person or online on his special day or your anniversary will all add up and deepen your relationship, so don't fuss over gifts! funny thing is the longer you've been in a relationship (cf i am still with my man after 9 years =) still gf/bf for now, but i'm loving it and in no hurry to get married =)) the more you appreciate little gifts on those special days. because you as a person is special to him, you don't need to please him with "stuff". =) xoxo

Katy on December 29, 2011:

Well hello there uhm my boyfriend will have a birthday soon the thing is that his friends always plan something and don't include me this time i want to do something for him but what if their friends planned something idk wat to do since one of his friends and I don't get along she hates my guts and does everything to make me feel uncomfortable without him noticing should i just plan something for us or let his friends do it and just let him go and stay aside? :/

seharbutt90@yahoo.com on November 25, 2011:


plz tell me what i gave him on his birthday something sepical

seharbutt90@yahoo.com on November 25, 2011:


plz tell me what i gave him on his birthday something sepical

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Beccerr on October 18, 2011:

Hey, I need some help with what to do for my boyfriend, on the 28th October we will have been together for a year.. I really don't know what we can do & can't stop thinking about it, he's 16 and just started college, he doesn't have a job at the moment so I'm not sure how much he can do & I'm 15 and in my last year of school, I don't have a job either but I've got money in my banks or I'll just get it of my mum & dad(a).. Anyways we've thought about going out for a meal, bowling & the cinema.. We want too do all of them but I also want to get him something, I've already wrote him two letters & bought him aftershave and things like that & for Christmas I already know I'm getting him a guitar.. So help please!:)

Ashley on October 16, 2011:

If u want to make it the best birthday he has ever had do this

Take him out to a hotel that's really nice and vet some beer, vodka ( whatever he likes) and (what u both get drunk on). Bring a really sexy outfit and under it wear a thong or something sexy. Next drink as much as u both can and start kissing him. Then take off your clothes and leave your thong and bra on for a little while Just have sone kissing time Now take his shirt off if it isn't already and off his pants too He will still be kissing u and then stop kissing go in front of him and take off your bra and slowly pull down your thong You will be fully naked and then he will pull his underwear down so u both will Then lay on the bed and he will go on top of u and u guys will have sex then switch positions so u both have fun lol ride his **** so he likes it even more I did this and he loved it

camolovin on October 02, 2011:

my boyfriend and i are having our 1 year on the 14th and i honestly have nooo idea what to do for him or get him other than the obvious dinner.. i planned on surprising him with concert tickets but they sold out.. i'm now SOL :( suggestions please!

Esmeralda blake on September 20, 2011:

Hi!My boyfriend's birthday is on november 11 and he's going to be turning 26 i'm 21.Last year I got a room for us and decorate it with lots of red roses like they do on movies.I took him out to eat but that day he had a very bad cold so he didn't get to enjoy it.This year i'm thinking about getting a limo for us 2 only..And I have a couple of homemade gifts n a watch he's been wanting..the thing is that maybe I won't have enough for the limo..or instead of using that money that i'm going to use for the limo I could use it for something else but what could it be?? ANY IDEAS?? ANYONE?

Christa on July 20, 2011:

Hey my boyfriend is about to turn 18 and then our one year is the very next day so I'm debating on what I should get him he really likes superman stuff but iv gotten him stuff like that already please help me cause I don't know what to get him thank you

Shley on May 28, 2011:

hey guys! i need your help.this coming june 18 my bf and i will be celebrating our 4th anniversary... i really want to surprise him..i have a few ideas but i don't know if this is gonna work..please give me some ideas.. and i preffer to do the surprise at my bf's house. thanks!

Lauren on April 05, 2011:

Hey this is my first time on this website and im confused cuz well i was with this guy for two months and then he said he wanted a break cuz i was a distraction and all he could think about was me. A month later he said he wanted a second chance and i wasn't going to but.... i love him and he said he cried every night and i think that's like the sweetest thing. He has never lied to me before. Hes really a sweet guy and i love him sooo much. Do u think i made the right choice? I guess that's my question cuz my mom thinks hes playing with my emotions but hes not that kind of guy and wht else would he cry every night if i don't mean something to him? Tell me what you think asap please!

betweendreams on March 26, 2011:

My boyfriends birthday is in a few weeks time. I've ordered him a mug with his favourite cartoon character on it and got him some posh fudge because he loves it ! Didn't cost a lot but its quite personal which I feel is best as he'll appreciate it more. I've also made a birthday card as its more special :) hope it helps people.

sultana on March 22, 2011:

hi my gf is 11 years old and she forces me to talk to her all the time its her birthdayy what should i gett her? thanks

monthsary on March 14, 2011:

hi i would like to ask a help. my name is gladys and i have a long distance relationship my boyfriend is in the philippines and im here at california but we still have a communication in the phone or in the internet we use to chat everyday we been together for 8 months this coming 28th of march. how would i surprise him on our 8th monthsary trough internet chat? thank you pls help.

ladymuk on February 28, 2011:

I think letting him do the things he likes is good. I've been with my fiancé for 5 years and whey special occasion I try and get him different things. unusual things thatno one would really think of. it's his 26 bday today and I got him a foot spa coz he always whinging his feet hurt so I will pamper him with it when he gets home. for Xmas I got him 8 laps in a v8 race car. last year for bday I got him a signed photo of Bear Grylls and he loves it. think outside the box guys and it will be memorable !!

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on February 23, 2011:

Justin- thanks!! i realised it's been over 2 years since i wrote this hub...still going strong with my partner for over 8 years now am blessed

Justin Watts on February 23, 2011:

nice hub thanks for the idea

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on February 10, 2011:

Jessjos1116- both sound like lovely gifts, i definitely reckon it's more than enough. Guys usually have problem with actual gifts to girls than girls to guys! doesn't sound like you need much help just enjoy your time with him girl!!!

Jessjos1116 on February 09, 2011:

P.s. He is 17 not almost , writing faster then im thinking lol. Please helpppppp!!!

Jessjos1116 on February 09, 2011:

I really need advice, me an my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years, he moved to canada november 6th 2010. Worst day of my life! I honestly love him with all of my heart! Im going to see him sometime this month!! I got him a gold cross chain, and i make him a scrap book type thing of all of the times and little things i saved from when we was in america with me, i feel like its enough but i just need to know if he will like itt?:/ im very nervous to go see him bc both of us love eachother to DEATH but i just don't wanna seem cheesy,! Haha p.s he is almost 17 and i am 16. But we have kind of like an adult relationship, promise rings, hes asked me to marry him etc. The cute stuff.;D

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on February 04, 2011:

Kate- i've replied through email, please let me know how it goes!

DesyinLuv- im glad you asked what "what should I Do" a lot of girls expect it's all guys and if they've cooled off they will resent them. But it goes both ways. there will definitely be a period of "no fire" or how id describe "cosy-couch bear" period. relationship shouldn't always be fire. do something together to understand each other more (some sort of activity) and make the most of this comfy period. As long as you both appreciate the fact tht you're next to each other should be thought of as a blessing. It should be comfortable to sit next to him without saying a word knowing your hearts connected. then fire should just come naturally. If you mean in a pure sexual sense there are TONS of toys and advice on the net already on how to spice it up a bit in that department. Use deferent techniques without warning and let him enjoy the new sensations e.g. have you tried ice, crushed fruit and crackle candy? you get the idea.

or it's always exciting to travel and see new places together. if you can afford the time and $ pack your things and head off somewhere for a few nights! good luck!


kate77 on January 31, 2011:

hey,, me and my boyfriend have our first anniversary on feb. 10th. we have been through a lot more than most people have within a year. he's been so good to me and i want this to be perfect but i have no clue as to what to get for him or do. money really isn't that big of an issue,, i just want to do something amazing to show how much he really means to me. can you help?

kate on January 31, 2011:

hey,, me and my boyfriend have our first anniversary on feb. 10th. we have been through a lot more than most people have within a year. he's been so good to me and i want this to be perfect but i have no clue as to what to get for him or do. money really isn't that big of an issue,, i just want to do something amazing to show how much he really means to me. can you help?

Desyinluv on January 29, 2011:

Okay my boyfriend started off really out forward and actively pursued me for like 2 years before we started dating. Now were dating and he has cooled off. What should I do to get the fire back? Valentine's Day is coming up and I have no clue what to get him.

Kmarie<3 on January 14, 2011:

hey, my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 yrs and im also 5 months pregnant.He's been in jail for 5 months i want to do something special for him when he comes home, also because our anniversery is coming up. ideas please!

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on January 08, 2011:

I think if you can't be there in person, video chat is definitely the way to go. you can spend a couple of hours or just devote a whole day and chat all day!! share what you're doing during the day and come back to video chat all day long. xoxox

Zoey on January 06, 2011:


I'm in a long distance relationship and I'm currently in college. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is turning 26 tomorrow actually. I can't travel because of school and he can't come here..I was thinking video chat and a cute e-mail..what do you think?

sarah on January 04, 2011:

hi my boyfriend is in another FAR AWAY country his birthday is after 1 month nearly I don't know what to do!! I want to make something really special for him please HELP!! I really can't travel these days

Veronica on December 12, 2010:

Dave&Buster's is a great place to take your man for his Bday, food,beers&video games what guy wouldn't love that!!

claire on November 27, 2010:

my boyfriend lives in south-east turkey and im n northern ireland..suxx... im pregnant and he hasn't been granted visa yet...raging. going to a nice hotel in istanbul with him in january (can't wait)!!! i will be 19 weeks pregnant then! get my 20 week scan the day after i return home to northern ireland. anyway while we are in Istanbul im going to arrange to take him on a cruise of the bosphorus... hope he likes. also if our babys a boy im naming him after my boyfriend and if its a girl im calling he zulfiye after my boyfriends mum :)

lauren purdie on November 11, 2010:


me and my boyfriend have been going out for nearly 2 months and he turns 18 this weekend, then he is coming up to see me.

i don't know what to do.

cann you give me some ideas please :')

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on November 07, 2010:

CB- i know it's late i'm sorry, i hope the dinner went well. I seriously don't see a problem with taking him to the steakhouse... if he really feels uncomfortable he will tell you...but just say you are spoiling him to celebrate his anniversary for being born!

devon- don't force the "kiss" it will come naturally, i promise!

El- this is a tricky 1. makes life difficult if you two can't find time together and if you're going away especially. I think boys will always be boys (i.e sexual)so don't make hard rules about this as boys thinks romantic=sex. Just try to figure out how much he means for you and how you will practically work things out with timing and seeing each other and if it seems like it will be o.k. THEN think about sex. Too much on your mind is not good for sexual times :) good luck and let me know how it goes

caralina.B- this hub was for your Question,,, i cannot suggest much else than that! sorry! But bday gifts are not that important as long as you put meaning into it. xox

caralina.B on November 07, 2010:

hey m a nigerian..... n i nid serious help... plz my boyfriends birthday is in 2days time. i don't knw what to do for him, what to say to him and also wt to get for him. I LOVE HIM 2 MUCH. we v bin goin out for 10months now. i seriously need ideas ASAP plsss..

El on October 27, 2010:

hi i need your help.. i am 18 and my bf is going to be 18 in a couple of weeks...he is my first bf and we haven't made love yet..i'm not ready yet.. he said that he would wait for me..i might be leaving in a couple of weeks for college..i don't want to break up with him.he knows that i love him and he loves me too..he says he does...but lately things have change between us..this year is his last year of high school..he plays sports and has honors and ap classes...i work..i try to see him every morning and sometimes in the afternoon if i can, depending if i'm working..on the weekends we usually see each other..he doesn't know that i'm leaving yet..i don't want to tell him until is for sure yet...i want him and me to be okay..and not only think about sexual things but more of nice and romantic things..i'm old fashioned..i just don't know what to do..can someone help me

devon on October 27, 2010:

hey my boyfreind is really shy were both new at this but we don't want to kiss or any thing cause were in middle school and i don't know what to do so give me tips pleaz

CB on October 26, 2010:

Okay so ive got a problem. My boyfriend is turning 18 November 5th and i was planning on taking him out to a steak house and everything. but he comes from a different economic situation then i do and if you want to put it this way, financially im better off. and i don't want him to feel awkward if i take him to like an expensive restaurant. and i know i could just take him to a not so expensive one but i really don't want to. so im kinda confused about what i should do.

princess on October 22, 2010:

my boyfriends birthday is on the 2nd of november, and his turning 23!!! and i don't know what to do! really need ideas etc.



maddy on October 16, 2010:

i love my bf! he is so hot. i can name a billion reasons why i love him! we've only been going out for 3 days. i loooovvvvveeeeee him!

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on October 07, 2010:

Mistty16- If you can afford to, try to be there in person. Or if possible, meet half-way for a special weekend?

If you really can't get together on your birthdays video chat isn't a bad idea either. You can always send him a gift aswel, whatever the case, he will appreciate the thought/time you've put into it! good luck and let me know what you've decided to do!! xox

Mistty16 on October 05, 2010:

Em hey =) Nzchristy I really need your help. You know my boyfriend's and my birthday comes on the same date 16th oct that is and we'r not even in the same cities now i really want to make it special for him and memorable for us... its been just 10 months that we'r together what should i do? Please reply as soon as posible, just 12 days left... =(

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on September 29, 2010:

9 hours is a loooong way to drive...sounds like you two are meant to be ! :) xox

Shanelle on September 23, 2010:

My boyfriend loves it and thinks it is Most special when I make him something. It's better than buying a gift because you put your hard work, thought, and love into it. I used to draw him pictures all the time, once I made him a special pillow case that took two weeks to make and he took such good care of it never wanting to get it dirty or anything it was so cute. I also made him a teddy bear once lol

lovergal on September 14, 2010:

well. i am a gal, but i agree with boynextdoor. my boyfriend likes it most when he spends time together.he lives 9 hours away from my house. he is very loving and i love him too. he drives all the way just to spend time with me. he does like suprises, but he says they are not that necessary. am planning to throw a surprise bash party next year for him.

am crazily inlove with him...

boynextdoor on September 14, 2010:

hi, i am a boy and i can see your problems here.

Actually, boys doesn't care for special gifts or romantic things. We just want our girlfriends to be there when we need them. To cheer us up in bad times. That would mean a lot to us.

By the way, minor girls should not look for a boyfriend until she reach the adult age. She should study first coz the smarter you are the more respect you'll get.

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on September 12, 2010:

Hey, i believe a man needs to be told in simple terms. No mind games. No suprises. Just tell him straight up for example :"Hey i want to spend more time together and spice things up a bit. Lets try to make a real effort. We NEED it" "I feel you're on your computer too much" and just go out of your room and DO something. Even a stroll, petshop (I love going to petshops) anywhere! and if he doesn't respond, find a more quiet time to discuss this. i.e. when he is not on his computer. good luck!

unknown on September 11, 2010:

hey i really need ur help .. ive ben with my boyfriend for 3 years and our relation ship is soooooo boring nothing new to do i love him so much and i knw he do too but i duno wat to do about it he spend all day on the computer and honestly im getting sik of that help me

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on September 06, 2010:

OMG! i'm sorry for not checking in on this hub...didn't realize people were asking for help!! Natasha Cretu- how did your day/night go with your bf? Anything should be fun and exciting when you're

maria on September 06, 2010:

omgg how can you not know what to do with your boyfriend???!!!!!

Emily on August 24, 2010:

Hey my boyfriend is turning 13 on September 6th and I don't know what to get him... and don't say that i shouldn't have a boyfriend because if you didn't have one when you were my age you are a nerd.

Natasha Cretu on August 22, 2010:

HI,,,i REALLY Need help by September 1st....

I am going over my Boyfriends house and i so don't know what to do thats fun with him....PLEASE HELP!!!!PLEASE!!

He is 17 and i am 16...Please tell me what's so fun to do with ur boyfriends,,,

Bianca on August 02, 2010:




yolanda on July 29, 2010:

Idk wat to get my boyfriend for his birthdae,iIm rily clueless nd ashamed becoz ive never bought him anythin the last 3 years we have bin datin. HELP!!!!!!

Lacie on July 06, 2010:

your boyfriend is 12? you don't need to be dating when you're 12!

Kailey on April 26, 2010:

Hi um my boyfriend will be turning 12 and idk wat to get him for his birthday

Tracey on January 13, 2010:

LOVE the "getting wasted" idea ;)

nzchristy (author) from New Zealand on April 22, 2009:

Hi Deserie, I've found personalised gifts most memorable for both parties- I say this because i'm sure you've already thought of taking him out to dinner! You could compile a photo-album consisting of your happy treasured times like OE or graduation etc. And write little messages to go with each page- it takes a bit of time but you'll enjoy making it too! If you two have some time off you could also go on a small trip to a spa or get close to nature.

If all else fails and you really want to take him out, how about getting a nice hotel room and feeling like VIP again? :P

Let me know how it goes!!

thanks for the comment too

love Christy

Deserie on April 21, 2009:

Well hi my boyfriend will be 29 yrs old and he doesn't want a party i want to take him out??

Melissa on January 24, 2009:

The most important thing about having a romantic date with your partner is to put other concerns aside and enjoy being with each other. You don't have to spend a fortune.

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