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Important Tips on How to Write a Tribute Speech
If you have been in deep love with somebody whom you lost, then writing a tribute speech or a tribute article is quite an easy job.
- Start with a narration of the incident of how you got in touch with that person like some good nature or outstanding qualities in them.
- Narrate the incidents revealing those attributes, actions, activities, and habits that project those qualities of the person.
- Reflect on all the moments of life spent with that person; highlighting some outstanding performances revealing honesty, generosity, affection, love, valor, determination, willpower, and special skills like art, craft, music, dance, administration, management, bravery, etc.
- Thereafter, you may conclude with some words of tribute expressing the void created due to that loss and how much you miss the presence of that person. End it with thanks, blessings, or wishes using your prose, poetry, or tributary lyrics. You can include some Bible quotes or quotes from Bhagavad Gita on death and the departed soul's union with God. Conclude it by seeking peace for the soul of that person.
Here is a link to some important guidelines for writing a tribute speech or essay as set by the Grammar-Your Dictionary website.
How to Cope With The Death of Your Spouse
Actually, it is not a kind of remembering the deceased when you are honestly in love with them. The deceased person will always remain within your heart. No question of forgetting them. It is only a question of remembering, enlightening, and discussing some of the facts and events related to their life and thereby strengthening the memories of them and making yourself cope with the truth of the loss or absence of that person in your life.
You simply need to accept the fact that they are physically no more with you. But, in your heart and mind, you can always feel the presence of your spouse and there will be no distance between both you. So, you can easily spend the rest of your life with their memories. You need not forget at all their presence.
In the below paragraphs, I am trying to express my tribute to my beloved, deceased wife and thereby presenting a sketch of how to write the tribute to your spouse.
Accepting The Loss of Spouse
It is more than 3 years since my spouse left my world, but it seems like it happened just recently. She was finding it difficult to breathe and fighting for life, even though it was only for two minutes. She was lying in my younger son's hands (he was 30 years old then) on that black midnight while I was running here and there to find some medicine and to call for the ambulance. Only two minutes it took for her to leave us in utter darkness and to fly herself in search of light in the sky. We couldn't weep because we are men, I and both of my grown-up sons. All were struck in shock and could not believe the fact that she left us. Our neighbor, a lady Doctor confirmed that she is no more and we could not trust her with a wish to see her breathe again. But, no, she determined herself to leave and so no return was to be there. And we had to accept the fact and make ourselves prepared for our future journey without her.
Describe the Best Qualities of Your Spouse
She was full of kindness and love to all of us and to our neighbors. She never let us feel discomfort or unhappy at any circumstance by attending to all our needs timely and beforehand. She has been a great support to me in all my bad times and moments of confusion by giving advice that is prudent and workable. She was a good wife since the beginning of my life journey and she has been helpful to her neighbors also in their bad times. She used to offer food and other assistance to them and used to be always ready to help them in spite of the inconvenience to her own self. They used to come at odd times also to seek her help in knitting, stitching, or some other material help.
She has been very kind to birds and animals also. We used to keep parrots and myna birds for many years. She used to be very kind to those birds and always took care of them. If any bird did not want to stay, she used to let her free immediately. She used to celebrate the birthdays also of those birds by celebrating on completion of each year of their being with us. We used to enjoy much with those birds.
A Description of Her Great Determination and Patience
My wife had been very unlucky since her birth. She lost her father even when she was in her mother's womb. This made her mother develop hatred toward her. She totally neglected this child and she was brought up by her eldest sister. But she had to work there and assist the sister in her work, neglecting her studies. Even then she completed her Intermediate with good marks and after marriage, she completed her degree also. All her siblings (a total of 10) disliked her and accused her of the cause of their father's death and tried to exploit and ill-treat her in one way or another. But she was bold enough to face the circumstances. Even after marriage, she had difficult life due to financial problems and also due to the misbehavior of her siblings, but she was determined to face the circumstances and never lost hope or became tense.
Mentally she had many disturbances. Even then, she faced everything boldly and got cured herself by visiting the psychiatrists and taking their advice for many years. But then physically she deteriorated facing so many problems including our elder son's mental problems. Still, she faced everything so boldly and courageously that, until the last minute, she kept fighting and controlling all diseases like BP and Diabetes, everything smilingly, and then that fateful night came on 22/10/2012 ending her life on earth. I started blogging only after that date by posting a post on 27/10/12, describing how death takes away life stealthily without your notice.
Examples for Interests of The Deceased Spouse
A Description of Her Great Talents
She has been a singer since her childhood. She used to narrate to me the tales of her singing devotional songs along with her grandmother when she was only 1 or 2 years old. Those were the only happy days when her grandmother was with her for 2 years. She continued this singing habit until her death. She had a very melodious voice and all people liked her songs throughout her childhood in school to her prime age and even at old age among all neighbors. She imitated the voices of all four famous lady singers in India of that time P. Susheela, L.R.Eswari, in Telugu language and Lata Mangeshkar and Asha Bhonsle in Hindi language. I loved her voice so much and enjoyed her singing throughout my life. At present, I have her recorded songs in a cassette which were recorded 6 months before her death. She used to sing all Hindi songs as well. But I am sorry that I could not promote her voice to bring her some fame. It was her bad luck to marry me.
She was very good at knitting and stitching and home decoration. She used to knit the woolen sweaters for me, herself, and our sons and other times for neighbors also. And she used to stitch designs on sarees also which were liked by all. She presented one saree to the Doctor who treated her for Schizophrenia and she was much appreciated for her talent at that time 1996 by many people.
Her Bravery in Fight Against Corruption
She used to be very sensitive and honest. She never liked people who were dishonest and of malicious intentions. She used to be very straightforward and tell the blunt truth over the face if somebody was wrong or mischievous. She always stood against corruption and intentional mischief by anybody. She even did not tolerate anybody doing harm to our neighbors and tried to restore justice to them at all times (from others and from our administration in the colony where we lived). Most neighbors took help from her in such matters. But she got resistance from some of the people in such work who tried to threaten her. She faced them boldly because of her sensitivity to generosity and kindness to those in need. All, who got help from her, regarded her with great respect.
Bible Quotes on Death
Bible Quotes About Death:
Jesus told "In my Father's house (Heaven) are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And, if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and take you to myself, that where I am you may be also."
So, there is no need to regret or be worried as the dead person is only going to live with Jesus and God.
2 Corinthians 5:6-8
"We are always of good courage. We know that while we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord, for we walk by faith, not by sight. Yes, we are of good courage, and we would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord."
So, don't be afraid of death. Rather welcome it with love.
My Advice for Surviving the Death of Your Spouse
In the end, I would like to say that I am very proud to have been her husband and I thank God for sending her into my life as my wife for all those 38 years from 1974 to 2012. May her soul be happy, wherever it is.
- Remember or recite some of those quotes from the Bible or from the Bhagavad Gita on Death and the afterlife of the soul.
- You should be thankful to God for having been with your spouse all through those years.
- Your unhappiness can make their soul wander with worries. So you must control yourself.
- See and think of all those great moments of life that you enjoyed in their company.
- Think of your children that were left with you and be a support to them.
- Try to complete all the unfulfilled tasks and wishes of your spouse.
- Do something that will keep the name and fame of your spouse intact.
- It will not be so difficult for you in coping with the death of your spouse when you think of all those sweet memories and the tasks ahead to be completed in your life.
So, be brave and carry on enduring the loss so that you can execute something that is still left out in the middle by your beloved spouse.
My Thanks to a Writer
I would like to express my thanks to Sunshine 625 (Linda Bilyeu) for giving me the inspiration in writing this article. I got stimulated by her tribute to her Mother. On reading that article, I thought "why shouldn't I write about my reflections on my wife's death and how I am coping with the loss?" The result is this tribute of mine to my wife.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.