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Relationships 101: How to Be a Good Boyfriend for Dummies

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Want to be an amazing boyfriend? Here are 10 tips!

Want to be an amazing boyfriend? Here are 10 tips!

To be a good boyfriend, you have to have good relationship skills. You have to be willing to make sacrifices for the woman that you are with, and you have to be trustworthy. Your priority should be making your girlfriend happy.

It's hard enough learning to be a good boyfriend. Being a good boyfriend requires training, time, and effort. Every relationship is different, and there is no "one-size-fits-all" approach. All it takes is a little bit of practice and determination to do it. Here are some tips to keep the girl that you want.

Willingness is the key for any man to learn how to be a good boyfriend. Unfortunately, not all men are willing to study and do what it takes to be a good boyfriend. There are no hard and fast rules on how to be a good boyfriend. And learning how to be a good boyfriend is not easy. The enthusiasm to learn must be present.

Here are some tips for being the best boyfriend you can be:

How to Be a Good Boyfriend 101

1. Be Honest

"Honesty is the best policy." No matter what happens, no one can ever challenge the fact that you are truthful, which might mean that the other person also gives you the same respect.

Girls do not like guys who constantly lie to impress them. Tell the truth, and you'll never have to worry about getting caught in a lie.

Be true to her, and if an ex is brought up, tell her you don't want anything to do with your ex and that she's the only girl for you.

Make up silly jokes with her. Be totally honest.

2. Give Her a Surprise Gift

Bring her some of her favorite flowers. Respect the fact that she won't carry them around all day. If you find out she is sick, do everything in your power and go check on her. Take her anything she wants or needs. Girls love it when their man takes care of them when they are helpless and sick.

Let her pig out. If she's hungry, buy her food.

3. Make Physical Contact

Girls have much thinner skin than guys, so even a light touch is appreciated. If your girl is a romantic, upon seeing her for the first time in a couple of days, say, "I missed you so much..." and weave your arms around her hips, then give her a loving hug.

Hug her in public.

If you are laying out under the stars, MAKE SURE YOU HOLD HER HAND! And if she says something like, "I'm cold," make sure you scoot closer to her.

Kiss her on the forehead and on top of her head, especially when she is feeling down, and always say a simple "I love you." It will make her happy.

4. Compliment Her Sincerely

Tell her she looks beautiful when she's clearly made an effort. Tell her she's beautiful when she clearly hasn't.

Find something particular and compliment them on it, but mean it. Don't just say, "You look nice." Say, "That really makes your eyes flash," "Your hair cut really suits the shape of your face," or "That makes me want to kiss your neck," and then kiss their neck! The more specific you are, the more unique and appreciative the compliment.

Compliment her often so that she knows that you're still interested in her.

5. Mix Things Up

Creating memories together. Surprise them by doing something offbeat--think less maudlin and more personal. This includes anything from racing them to your walking destination, dancing without music, or even bringing them a tub of LEGO and encouraging their immediate use. You two should grow to be comfortable with each other and do things together without self-consciousness.

6. Communicate

Do not talk her ear off, but make sure that if you have any problems that will affect your mood, she is made aware of the reasons for your problems and mood so that you do not appear to merely be a fickle and cranky creature.

Tease her a little just to have fun; just know when to STOP!

Ask her how her day was. She will feel important in your life, and it will usually make her day.

7. Let Her Be

You can't keep this person all to yourself. You might get jealous if they talk to someone else, but if you trust them and are good to them, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. If their actions do make you feel uncomfortable, sit down and talk, again using nonviolent communication.

Treat her the same way you would want to be treated

Be yourself; she will find out who you really are at some point anyway.

Tell her your parents like her. It's always nice to know the parents like the other.

8. Don't Brush Her Off

A lot of people have been taught that the only way to get attention when their partner is trying to ignore them is to act more emotional and be louder until the partner finally surrenders and pays attention to her, even if in annoyance.

Don't compete with her very often. Girls like to think they're right.

Don't get into fights. Girls won't see you as a protector; they will see you as an aggressor.

9. Take Care of Yourself

Don't be needy or dependent. Nothing scares someone away faster than someone they constantly need to remind to do laundry, take a shower, or get to work on time. Be hygienic and neat, set goals, and work hard. You can't be a good boyfriend if you're not a good person.

10. Be Yourself

Don't try to be somebody you're not because at the end of the day, if they love you, they will love you for who you are.

It might look all that simple to commit to a relationship but to maintain it requires a lot of effort and most importantly the will. The signs of a good boyfriend are that he should be willing to make sacrifices for the woman he is in love with.

One of the major things that your girl would be impressed if they know that they are "being accepted as what they are" it would be a great sign of showing that you'd be the one that she will treasure forever.

NOTE: Most girls always welcome flowers and gifts even if there is no special occasion.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.