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Ten Good Things About Having a Life Partner For Long Term Companionship

Long Term Companions Hold Hands For Life

A couple holding hands signifies good companionship that can last a lifetime.
A couple holding hands signifies good companionship that can last a lifetime. | Source

"A career is wonderful but, you can't curl up with it on a cold night."

— Marilyn Monroe

Companionship for Life

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Companionship: A Prospect of Uncertainty For Some

Then the Lord God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him." Genesis 2:18 (ESV)

As stated in the book of Genesis, we were not meant to be alone as individuals. We were not placed on Earth to live in isolation but to interact and share our lives with others.

Ideally, a couple should enjoy life in harmony, as a team, sharing their hopes, dreams, and goals with the intent of living a long life together, happily ever after. Having someone to share the good times, as well as the bad, can enhance quality of life, giving more meaning to one's existence.

But the day-to-day irritations of being in a relationship can cause couples to question the prospect of staying in a long term relationship. When those irritations increase, it can make living as a team very difficult. The disadvantages begin to outweigh the advantages, casting a shadow over the couple's ability to see a future of lifetime partnership.

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Lifetime Partnership: What is it Good For?

When the disadvantages of being in a relationship become burdensome, it's easy to forget one of the primary reasons for being together in the first place - to build a long term partnership with a special companion who will be there as you get older, to support you and have your back.

The list below speaks to themes that are characteristic of what makes a long term relationship strong. Each concept presents an advantage to ponder as a reminder of why it's important to build and nurture a lifetime partnership with someone who is considered a companion for life.

Fostering companionship between two people has its advantages and will ensure a happier life and enriched existence into later years.

  1. Conversation with Continuity
  2. Sharing a Laugh
  3. The Feeling of Someone Having Your Back
  4. Through Thick and Thin
  5. "Lean on Me" for Support
  6. Shared Finances and Household Responsibilities
  7. Health Concerns, Emergencies, and Need for Medical Assistance
  8. Sharing Faith - Praying for and with Each Other
  9. Intimacy with Familiarity Builds Continuity and Trust
  10. "Remember When" - Shared Memories

"Having someone wonder where you are when you don't come home at night is a very old human need."

— Margaret Mead

Couples Cherish the Good Times

A couple frolics by the ocean as they share a life together.
A couple frolics by the ocean as they share a life together. | Source

"To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with."

— Mark Twain

Ten Advantages of Having a Partner For Life

1. Conversations With Continuity

Communication is key to the success of any relationship. Listening intently, using the right tone of voice, and having empathy for what the other person is saying are all characteristic of good communication skills.

But the ability to have a conversation with a longtime companion is an invaluable gift.

Overtime, you can learn each other's communication styles and thinking patterns to the point of finishing each other's sentences.

This builds a continuity of conversation only shared with friends and couples who have been together for a long time.

2. Sharing a Laugh

It's fun to joke around and have a special companion with whom you laugh so hard your side hurts. Acting silly and having goof ball moments of intimacy provide priceless pockets of joy in a relationship. It does the soul good to share humor and break free of the heavy-duty issues that can cloud the forward progress of growth and blessings of a long term relationship.

3. The Feeling of Someone Having Your Back

There is no better feeling than knowing that a "safety net" exists for you in the form of a person upon whom you can depend.

When someone says, "I got your back," you believe it and immediately feel secure in knowing you will be supported and backed for your decisions and opinions, no matter what happens.

A long term companion provides that unique type of friendship and emotional security.

4. Through Thick and Thin

The longer you stay together, the more likely it is that as partners, you've been through and endured a lot together. It is common for couples to express a heightened feeling of closeness after surviving a crisis or loss. As a couple grows together, they begin to value even more, the strength of companionship during hard times, with the intent of being there for the long haul. It makes the good times that much sweeter.

Partners Share Committed Companionship

Committed for the long haul, couples endure through the bad times and savor the good times.
Committed for the long haul, couples endure through the bad times and savor the good times. | Source

5. "Lean on Me" for Support

Receiving emotional support from the person who is closest to you is a key advantage of being in a long term relationship. Exposing personal vulnerabilities is a risky feat, even when done in confidence with a therapist.

But having a close companion who knows your history and weaknesses, providing that shoulder upon which to lean and cry, is a comforting advantage of long term companionship.

6. Shared Finances and Household Responsibilities

When a couple shares responsibilities, it makes life a lot easier. Household chore designation, negotiating finances, and parenting duties are three common areas of contention between individuals in a relationship or marriage.

However, if couples make an effort over time to work together toward a happy medium, they will eventually see the advantage of having a partner with whom to share the burdens of daily responsibilities.

It takes time, patience, and respect of each other's differences to develop a partnership out of which the balance in making a happy home life will be achieved. The longer you work at it, the more likely it will work out.

Regardless of the conflicts, two incomes, along with two heads to make decisions, are better than one.

Companions Assist Each Other When in Need

Older couples count on each other for assistance and emergencies.
Older couples count on each other for assistance and emergencies. | Source

7. Health Concerns, Emergencies, and Need for Medical Assistance

One of the realities of getting older is being confronted with health challenges, changes in physical strength and mobility, and an acceptance of coming into one's twilight years. These realities cause us to ask,

  • "Who can I count on if I need to get to the doctor?"
  • "Who will be available to me in the case of an emergency?"
  • "Who will be there when I wake up from surgery?"
  • "Who will be by my side when I can no longer fend for myself?"

These are questions and circumstances we take for granted when we're young, vital, and single. A trusted companion will be there in times of need and emergencies as the probability of need increases with age.

8. Sharing Faith - Praying Together

The spiritual connection a couple shares can enrich their relationship on so many levels. Couples who share similar religious values, beliefs, or a common faith have a closeness that is informed by their relationship with God as individuals and as a couple.

Prayer is a powerful tool for couples to employ for getting through tough times and for giving thanks for blessings received. Praying together can strengthen the bond between partners and enhance a deeply meaningful companionship.

An Intimate Moment For a Couple

Couples share intimacy through many types of activities.
Couples share intimacy through many types of activities. | Source

9. Intimacy With Familiarity Builds Continuity and Trust

Having a partner with whom you are comfortable and familiar optimizes intimacy. After a while, the closeness between two people should grow and become very sacred.

The more time you spend with your partners, the better you know what their needs are, which in turn will increase efforts to please them.

The quality of physical, emotional, and sexual intimacy will increase over time as trust builds with continuity. This is an often unspoken gift only a long term relationship can provide.

10. "Remember When" - Shared Memories

Creating memories with a long term companion is a critical part of building imagery upon which a couple can look back together and reminisce about the good times.

Even if dementia becomes a challenge in later life, sharing old pictures of times together can serve as a way to value the relationship and connect to the past.

Listening to favorite music or "our song" can elicit recollections of significant occasions shared. Be it a vacation spot, honeymoon pictures, a favorite "first time" moment, or birthday celebrations, re-living the many fun times provides proof of the richness of the relationship. The longer the companionship, the more memories to share as you, "remember when."

Older Companions Cherish Each Other's Company

A couple takes a walk together, giving each other company and loving support.
A couple takes a walk together, giving each other company and loving support. | Source

Research: Married People are Happier and Live Longer

Why Companionship is Good for Your Health

Studies have shown that the longer two people have been together as a couple, the more they report being healthier and feeling happier.

It appears that successful relationships, particularly marriages, include characteristics like respect, physical and emotional intimacy, and good communication.

Research also suggests that married people live longer and are healthier than single people.

The characteristics and interactions between the couple attributing to this fact include:

  • Engaging in safer behavior
  • Having a constant social connection to a partner
  • Support for dealing with medical and health concerns

In summary, married couples are more likely to refrain from activities that would put them at risk, e.g., self-destructive behaviors or substance abuse.

Married couples have an on-going social connection to each other which keeps them engaged and active.

And, regarding good health, married couples provide support to each other to participate in obtaining healthcare needs, e.g., reminders to take medications and keep medical appointments.

[About the author - Janis Leslie Evans, M.Ed., N.C.C, L.P.C. is a licensed professional counselor in Washington, DC. She provides individual and couples counseling to help clients address relationship conflicts, grief and loss, self-esteem issues, depression, and anxiety.]

Companionship Enriches the Life of the Couple

A young couple shares intimate, quiet time by the water.
A young couple shares intimate, quiet time by the water. | Source

Conclusion

It appears that enough evidence exists to support that long term companionship has its advantages. The ten advantages of having a lifetime partner listed above offer couples some food for thought when contemplating the importance of building long term relationships.

Although the research refers mainly to married couples, the significance of having companionship can apply to any couple who has established a commitment to each other.

Making an investment in a relationship, whether married, living together, civilly bound, or having a deep and abiding friendship, often involves a special companionship. This companionship, for the long term, can be very enriching to one's life, proving that, in the end, we were not meant to be alone.

© 2014 Janis Leslie Evans

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Comments 36 comments

SandCastles 2 years ago

I enjoyed reading this hub! Companionship and friendship in a relationship rocks!


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Thank you much for stopping by, SandCastles. I'm pleased you enjoyed it.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean

Very good presentation on the benefits of marrige. Those who have this kind of relationship have something to appreciate. Voted Up!


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Yes, MsDora, they certainly do. Thanks for the visit, comments, and vote up!


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NateB11 2 years ago from California, United States of America

Very good insights here and each point is brought into sharp focus. It is very true that being very close to someone makes everything else easier. It is good to be with someone who "gets" you, who understands you very deeply, someone with whom there's no barrier. There's no doubt a human being cannot live in isolation; it's literally impossible. Being with someone with whom you are very close and who gets you and cares about you makes a tremendous amount of difference in this world.


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

NateB11, so good of you to stop by and leave these comments of wisdom. I'm pleased you found this article insightful. I appreciate your visit.


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

I am darn happy with our relationship and can't imagine not having Bev in my life. Well done here, Jan!


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

I can see your happiness through those beautiful images you post of her. God bless you and Bev. Thank you so much, Bill.


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Interesting and well mentioned points here. A long term relationship requires commitment and happiness, communication and lots of understanding.


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Absolutely, DDE. It's not easy but very important to make it work. Thanks for your visit and comments.


JustPaula 2 years ago

Hi Janis! Love the article on long term companionship! I agree - It is one of the most enriching components of a bountiful life. I also want to give a "shout out" for companion animals and pets! They may not always be there for a lifetime, but they meet most of your 10 highlights! Not so important to financial matters but essential to matters of the heart (They love you come what may!), laughter filled days and a walk in the park. Of course, you already know how much I love my doggies! Keep the "good news" coming!


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Hi Paula! You are so right about that. I thought about people with pets as I was writing. Thank you for acknowledging the loving companionship of animals. Thanks for stopping by to read and comment.


graceinus 2 years ago from those of the Ekklesia

jansshares- My wife and I have been married for 30 years now. My wife and I have shared many up's and down's during these years. Her and I have shared the things you have mentioned in this Hub. I feel the best of our marriage came from shared efforts of raising our two sons. And seeing the kind of men they have turned in to. I thank God for the wife I have and I'm looking forward to the next 30 years with her.

What you have said in this Hub is very true. I hope other's will enjoy reading this as much as I have.

God Bless you.


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

I so much appreciate your testimony about your 30 year marriage, graceinus. I'm pleased it resonated with you and that you enjoyed reading it. I makes it all worth it when someone feels validated by what I've written. May God continue to bless you and your wife for many years to come. Thank you for your visit.


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mylindaelliott 2 years ago from Louisiana

Those are all good reasons to have a significant other. It is wonderful to be able to share at that level with another person.


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

I appreciate those comments, mylindaelliott. Thank you for stopping by and reading this hub.


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annerivendell 2 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

Great Hub.Voted up. I have been with my husband for over 30 years, can't imagine life without him! His parents have been together for over 70 years and they still cuddle and giggle together like teenagers! My own late parents also had a loving relationship for over 50 years. We are very grateful for their loving example of what a life partnership can be like, as are our own kids. I believe everyone in the world has a right to be with someone they love for life, if that is what they want.


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Thanks, annerivendell, for the vote up. I, too, am blessed with the examples of long marriages with parents and in laws. I appreciate your comments, especially the one about your in laws married for over 70 years!!! That is fantastic. I'm so pleased that this hub resonated with you. Thanks again for your visit.


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kerlund74 2 years ago from Sweden

Great hub. My parents have been together since they where 17 and still holding on to each other. I have seen this as something good thought I myself divorced five years ago, unfortunately. Life sometimes turn out in ways that we don't plan, and it might be good:) I enjoyed this hub and ink it contains an interesting subject. Voted up and more.


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Yes, kerlund74, even when it doesn't work out, we learn or gain something from it. I'm glad you enjoyed it, thanks for stopping by.


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healthmunsta 2 years ago

Jan, this is really really nice! I also recently came across the study about married couples tending to live longer, and that's definitely a great incentive to have a (good) partner for life!


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Yup, it certainly is, healthmunsta and point about "good" well taken. Thanks for stopping by, glad you liked it.


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Writer Fox 2 years ago from the wadi near the little river

Wow, you really covered everything here. There was a time, when birth control and 'free love' were invented that some sociologists thought that the end of marriage was nigh. Didn't happen. World over, marriage is still the choice of all civilizations. Enjoyed your article and voted up!


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

I appreciate your comments, Writer Fox, ha ha ha! So glad you enjoyed the article. Thank you for the vote.


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moronkee 2 years ago

Nice and sweet. Surely two heads are better than one.

You've debunked a lot of negative thoughts in my head about relationship.

I'll tweet your hub.

Thanks.


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Very nice comment and gesture, moronkee. I really appreciate that. I'm glad it opened your mind to the positive side of relationships. Thank you for stopping by to read.


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jtrader 2 years ago

Good points. It takes work to build a successful marriage. It is possible to overcome every challenge once both are working together.


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Absolutely, jtrader. Hard work as a team is the key. Thank you for visiting and commenting.


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Nicholas Pollock 2 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

Thanks for this! I am getting married in April, and there is a ton of useful information here.

The pictures are also beautiful. They complement the writing perfectly.


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janshares 2 years ago from Washington, DC Author

Nicholas, first of all, I wish you the best with your upcoming nuptials. Blessings to you and yours. Secondly, thank you for stopping by to read this article. I hope you find it very useful and enhancing to what you already have in your relationship. I appreciate the wonderful comments.


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peachpurple 22 months ago from Home Sweet Home

Here if you want a long time partner, you must be married, elope or staying together unmarried is not accepted


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MDavisatTIERS 22 months ago from Georgia

Good morning, Jan; excellent article. Forwarding to two young adults getting ready for marriage. Sometimes an outside voice is heard and this one is on target for what we as a family are saying. Thank you for writing it. ~Marilyn


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janshares 22 months ago from Washington, DC Author

So many cultures dictate this, peachpurple. It is the expectation of families and of society. Thanks for stopping by to read this article. I appreciate it very much.


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janshares 22 months ago from Washington, DC Author

Marilyn, I'm so glad to hear that this article may help a young couple. Thanks for sharing it. I'm grateful for your visit.


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peachpurple 20 months ago from Home Sweet Home

once you reach 50 years old, kids have their own lives, you need a partner to spend the rest of your old age.


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janshares 20 months ago from Washington, DC Author

Absolutely, peachpurple! That's the whole point. Thank you for that comment. I appreciate your visit.

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