It is such a joyous feeling when a woman gets proposed to. In a typical scenario, "Jane has been with Dave for five years now and they had moved in together after 2 years of dating. She has been waiting and waiting for that day to come that Dave would get down on his knee and ask her to marry him." Many women sit day and night wondering if their partner will ever pop the question "Will you Marry me?".
They wonder if they are wife material, especially if they have been together with their partner for years and still have not been asked for their hand in marriage. Every guy is different but at the end of the day, the qualities that they expect in a potential spouse and life partner are similar. Just, how do you know she is wife material? The following tips below with help you highlight characteristics of a potential wife.
She Gives You Second Chances
If you screw up and she gives you another chance then she really cares about you and her love is pure. Forgiveness is a key element in any relationship. Forgiving one's partner when they have done wrong is one of the hardest things to do. While there are situations that are not acceptable in a relationship, there are others that can be given some thought before rushing to break up or end the relationship prematurely. So, if she is able to forgive you when you know for yourself that you don't deserve the forgiveness because you had screwed up really bad, don't let her get away.
Ride or Die Chick
A woman who is extremely loyal and will lay her life down for you is hard to find. When she is your ride or die chick, she has got your back through the good, bad and the ugly times. She tries her best to stick with your life choices and try to get you out of trouble. She will not ditch you at your worst because she has your best interest at heart and will support your decisions no matter what they are. Why not put a ring on it, that way you know you have someone in your corner.
She Has a Sense of Humor
A lot of men find a woman with a sense of humor very sexy. If she can make you get a good hearty laugh what more is there to ask for. Love and laughter are two of the best antidotes in a healthy relationship. Laughter keeps the heart healthy and happy. That's just what you need when you take her to the alter.
She Is Naturally Attractive
If you're attracted to your woman even when she is not all Glitz and Glamour then this is a sign that she is the one. When you can still find her sexy and attractive even when she doesn't have makeup on or her hair is a mess then you won't mind having to see her that way for the rest of her life. Whether she is all dolled up or just looking natural she is your wife for life.
She Doesn't Dwell on the Past
There is a quote that says if you judge me by my past then you don't deserve to be in my future. If a woman can look past your flaws, mistakes, and screwups and don't constantly remind you about them then she is a keeper. When a woman doesn't judge you by your past, this helps to prevent arguments and cause for you to feel comfortable and have a positive outlook on your relationship. Also If she doesn't bring up your past during arguments and use them against you as a guilt trip, then she means you well. The past is the past and she should be able to accept you unconditionally - past, present, and future.
She Is Your BFF
A woman that you can have a great conversation with, that gets you, is an awesome listener and truly understands your feelings is priceless. She is your partner, friend, and confidant. You can trust her, consult with her and she is not afraid to tell you what you are afraid to hear. A woman with these qualities is your best friend for life and is more than qualified to be your wife.
She Is Your Other Man Cave
Being with her makes you forget about all your problems and the troubles of the world. You feel a sense of comfort and relaxation when you are with her. When the clock strikes four you just want to be home with her. She is your home away from the world. This is a good feeling because when you can see her in your future or just can't picture your future without her then you know that you want to marry her.
She Pleases You
Intimacy in a relationship is very important especially with someone you are planning to spend the rest of your life with. If you have a great sex life where you can't get enough of each other and you can adapt to each others changing sexual needs, this is a sign of a healthy relationship. Also if your spouse shows you post-sex affection by cuddling or reminiscing these are positive signs that your partner aims to please you. If you are pleased now, just imagine your honeymoon night when she is your wife.
She Is Always on Your Mind
If she is the first thing you think about when you wake up in the mornings or the last thing you think about before heading to bed at night then secure her place in your heart and home even if it means whisking her away to elope in Las Vegas.
She Loves You Equally
A healthy relationship requires loving each other equally and unconditionally. If your woman has similar goals, is independent and speaks about the future of your relationship this shows that she is a woman with ambition. She respects you and believes in compromising which is one element that keeps a marriage afloat. She inspires you and makes you want to be a better man. There is a bond of hope and a future forged when you pop that question to her; a promise and profession of everlasting love.
A Woman Who Can Cook
When a woman is a chef in the kitchen, make her your wife. There is this saying that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. So, if your woman is using her good cooking to win your affection and its working, then you should be thinking about being with her for the long haul. Good food makes the heart grow fonder.
She Is Money-Wise
A big problem in relationships that can lead to divorce is Money. If your partner is good with financing and budgeting and is not a wild spender then you know you have a good woman. Some women spend wildly and want to live beyond their means which can run you into debt.
Now, men based on these characteristics you should have an idea by now if there is anything you and your partner needs to work on before you take that next step in your relationship. If she is an Ideal match to your expectations then soon you shall have her singing "I am going to the Chapel and I'm gonna get Married'.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on March 01, 2017:
All of these are worthwhile traits to look for in a spouse.
The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another. Compatibility trumps compromise.
Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
The top three reasons for divorce are:
1. Chose the wrong mate
2. Got married for the wrong reasons
3. Fell out of love over time/stopped wanting the same things
The first one can be avoided if you stick to your list of desired traits you want in a mate and do not ignore any "red flags" during the courtship/screening.
In the second case it's a matter of knowing (why) or what's truly motivating you to get married. Things like having an "age goal", all of your friends are married/engaged, there is an unplanned pregnancy, you just joined the military and are about to be deployed, or you were given an "ultimatum" are just a few examples of getting married for the "wrong reasons".
The third one is probably the most difficult to predict ahead of time because there can be many factors. Over time (people do change or evolve) and sometimes what one person wants the other doesn't.
Examples might be to have a child or another child, accept a job promotion that requires relocating or there's a significant change in one's physical appearance or personality that isn't appealing.
There is no amount of "work" or "communication" that can overcome being with someone who simply does NOT want what you want.
In other instances there is a change in priorities. Sometimes couples put all their energy into raising children and when there is an empty nest they realize they're no longer romantically into each other.
We're either "growing together" or "growing apart".
It's easier to maintain a fire than it is to reignite a spark!