Is There a Nice Way to Tell My Wife That She's Gaining Too Much Weight?

Updated on January 9, 2017

My Wife Is Gaining Weight. How Should I Address This Issue? | Source


It is common for women to gain a little weight as they grow older. However it can be a bit alarming if you notice that your significant other gaining weight at a rapid pace. There could be something else going on.

This article addresses the issue behind sudden weight gain.

The Little Black Dress That's Not So Little Anymore

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What's Eating My Wife?

My wife has gained 50 pounds over the past five years we've been together. She’s doesn’t carry the extra weight well, the extra pounds are shockingly noticeable. Her eating habits have changed drastically. But I remain hopeful that she would take charge of her diet. My wife has always been a petite woman she was an active cyclist in college. I'm aware that women go through all sorts of changes with their body. I know she's not pregnant, because my desire for sex has diminished ever since she gained weight.

The other night my wife came home with five large chocolate bars and surprisingly, she polished them off that night. I don’t know what to do. My wife is very sensitive. When she was in high school she struggled with bulimia nervosa. (An eating disorder which forces people to binge on large amounts of food and then eradicate the calories by vomiting.)

I told my wife that she should work out with me, I like to stay active and I try to incorporate a healthy diet plan into our busy schedule, but my wife shrugged me off. She could be in denial.

A couple a weeks ago she put on a little black dress that was extremely tight and unflattering. My wife strutted out the door comparing her figure to Marilyn Monroe.

I don’t know what to do, I’m open to all suggestions! Larry.

Is She In Denial?

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Never tell a woman that she needs to go on a diet.

Never tell a woman that she needs to go on a diet. Take a look at this episode of, 'The King of Queens'

Understand the Signs

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A blue tape measure. | Source

Understanding the Cause Is Key

Men in Larry's situation often confide in their best friends, which happen to be men who may not be sensitive towards female emotions. In Larry's case, is honesty the key?

79% of American women say their weight and shape affect their self esteem. And 36% say they spent half of the past five years dieting.

PH.D., director of the center of Excellence for Eating Disorders at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, found that the physiological and psychological changes that happen during menopause seem to reflect changes at puberty.

Maine, Ph.D., clinical psychologist in West Hartford, Connecticut, and author of.'The Body Myth: Adult Women and the Pressure to be Perfect,’ shares, “Women don’t have a way of talking about the physical changes that go along with menopause. Instead they seek to manage their bodies with the next exercise craze or taking the latest diet pill.

To answer Larry's question, there will never be a nice way to tell any woman that she is gaining too-much weight.

However experts say the best way to address your wife’s weight issue is to make sure she goes in for her well woman exam every year. This exam gives women the chance to focus on their overall health and wellness.

Schedule a Well Woman Exam

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The Three Main Reasons for a Well Exam Visit Is to:

  1. Document a woman's health habits and history
  2. Undergo a physical exam
  3. To help set healthier goals

Five Signs of an Eating disorder:

  1. Vomiting
  2. Obsessive worrying over food intake.
  3. Losing more than 14 pounds in a three month period.
  4. Believing that your fat when others think you are too thin.
  5. If thinking about food dominates your life.

Advice: Love your temple! You only get one body in this lifetime.

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