14 Ways to Flirt With Your Wife

Updated on July 2, 2018

Looking for romantic ways to bring back the flirting in your marriage? Flirting with your wife is all about enjoying the little and cute moments of married life.

Compliment her, hold her hand, send her sweet text messages, stare at her, listen to her, call her by sexy names – these are some of the tips that this post discusses. Don't let the burdensome responsibilities of mortgage and kids' tuition fees take over the romance in your marriage.

When was the last time you enjoyed a hot coffee in the morning with your wife without having to worry about beating the rush hour traffic or dropping the kids off to school?
When was the last time you enjoyed a hot coffee in the morning with your wife without having to worry about beating the rush hour traffic or dropping the kids off to school? | Source

1) Wake Up in the Morning Together and Spend the First Hour Sipping Coffee

Husbands and wives rarely get to peacefully enjoy a romantic cup of coffee while watching the morning mist in the backyard. Job timings and school runs make it impossible to have this life's little luxury.

Don't tell your wife but secretly plan this flirty morning rendezvous on the weekend. As you see your wife making her way out of bed, grab her hand and ask if you both can have a coffee together. Grab your cups and sit out in the backyard as you enjoy the early morning. Don't forget to compliment her when the soft rays of the morning sun kiss her pretty face.

2) Bring Out Your Inner Bad Boy: Sweep Her Off Her Feet With Your Antics

Your wife will never say this to you but she likes the bad boy hidden within you. Jobs, careers, kids and responsibilities may have made you fall in line after your crazy college years but it doesn't take too much effort to bring out that bad boy streak for a few hours on a random evening.

Being a bad boy hubby is as simple as doing something that you are not supposed to do – whether it is skipping a day of work just because you don't feel like it or going out with your wife on a weekday night for a couple of drinks.

3) Compliment Your Wife: Drive Away Her Insecurities With Your Compliments

Your wife is likely to be insecure about something in her self-image even if she is the most confident woman in the whole world. Over the years that have gone by in your marriage, you will have realized her inner insecurities, whether it is the slight flab on her love handles or the way she fits in her favorite jeans.

Compliment her in a way that she feels good about her self-image. Your compliments will not only boost her self-confidence, but will go a long way in bringing back flirting in your marriage. She will feel attractive and sexy all over again – just like she did when she was a teenager. Below are a few examples of how you can flirt with her by giving her image-building compliments.

  • Those jeans may be five years old but you slip into them just like you used to when they were brand new
  • My colleagues' wife needs inspiration to join a gym, maybe she needs to meet you
  • I lied to you when I told you that you were the most beautiful woman when we started dating because you are way more beautiful right now than what you were before five years
  • The way you fit into those jeans, Levi's should make you model their pants
  • I think it is time to bring out the sexy little black dress out of the closet again

4) Leave a Cute Sticky Note in Her Wardrobe

Your wife will be delightfully surprised if she opens her wardrobe and sees a cute I Love You note stuck to her clothing. This is a very flirty thing to do and she will instantly break into a romantic smile, especially if you are not there with her. It will make her miss you a lot.

You can use this to flirt with your wife in a sexy way by leaving a Post-it on her underwear. She will break into fits of flirty laughter if she opens her wardrobe and sees a cute smiley on a sticky note pinned to her panties.

5) Hold Your Wife's Hand When You Are Walking on the Street

It will mean the world to your wife if you hold her hand while walking on the street. She will feel loved and it will be the most romantic gesture. Holding her hand will give her a sense of warmth, togetherness and protection.

Don't ask your wife if she would like to hold your hand. Just slip your hand into hers and gently rub her palm while you are shopping or doing other errands. It will pleasantly surprise her and get her into a flirty and romantic mood.

6) Tell Her That You Love Listening to Her: Encourage Her to Speak Her Heart

A woman will love the feeling of knowing that she can talk openly to her husband as long as she wants, without worrying about boring him out of his mind. Letting your wife rant about her day will make her feel nice. She will passively feel cared for, and her mood will brighten up instantly.

She doesn't expect you to sustain hour long conversations about what she has to say. Just listening to your wife as you both unwind after a busy day is a relaxed way of flirting with her by giving her your undivided attention.

7) Call Her by Flirty Names: Don't Use Her First Name in Day-to-Day Conversations

Flirt with your wife and make her feel more attractive by calling her by flirty names including beautiful, hotness, darling and sexy. Use these names in your day to day conversations.

Suppose you want your wife to pass you the TV remote. Don't use her first name and instead, say 'Hey sexy, could you pass me the TV remote please?' Wink at her while saying it. She will feel like you are trying to woo her, just like how you did when you were a new couple.

8) Send Your Wife a Flirty Text Message

Flirty text messages are a husband's best friend when it comes to flirting with his wife. Send cute and sweet messages to her when you are at work. Make her feel that she is the only thing in your mind even when you are not together. This will give any married woman weak knees. Here are some examples you can use.

  • My boss just asked me to make a stunning presentation and the word 'stunning' made me think about my stunning wife
  • I saw a beautiful flower on my way to work and I haven't stopped thinking about you, my beautiful
  • On a scale of 1 to 10, last night was 20 and I am missing you like crazy
  • I just thought of checking in to see how my pretty wife was getting along with the day

Even a quick two-minute massage has the potential to put your wife in a romantic mood. Massage away her worries and whisper sweet things in her ear.
Even a quick two-minute massage has the potential to put your wife in a romantic mood. Massage away her worries and whisper sweet things in her ear.

9) Give Her a Quick Two-Minute Massage

Women love a quick rub on the shoulders, neck and especially the feet. You will instantly put your wife in a good mood if you give her a massage at a random moment during the day.

Women traditionally associate massage with romance, which is why a quick two-minute massage can be a great way to steal a flirty moment with your wife. Give her gentle neck a rub when she is reading a book or take her feet in your lap and massage them while you both are watching TV.

10) Call Your Wife and Say I Miss You

Puppy love is the stuff that beautiful teenage romance is made of. One of the cutest things that teenagers and young adults do in a new relationship is that they call each to say I Miss You. That is the only agenda of the phone call.

Do the same thing with your wife. Call her and don't ask if you are interrupting. Just say that you have something important to tell her. And when she asks what it is, say that you called say I Miss You.

This sweet phone call will bring a smile on her face which will last the entire day. It is one of the easiest ways to flirt with your wife and make her feel loved.

11) Fall Asleep With Her at the Same Time at Night

Hectic work routines, children's homework and odd timings often make a husband and his wife sleep at separate times. If the same thing happens in your marriage, address the situation immediately because falling to sleep in an empty bed is a very unromantic feeling.

Finish your work and all other responsibilities at a common time, slip into your nightclothes and make sure that you lie down in bed with your wife at the same time. She will have the sweetest dreams and this unspoken act of togetherness will make her feel happy about being together.

12) Kiss Your Wife Goodbye When Either of Your Are Leaving the House

Do you remember how eagerly you kissed your wife when you were in the early stages of dating her? You both would be stealing kisses from each other every time you met and separated after a date. Bring back this puppy love and flirt with your wife by giving her a kiss when either of you leaves home.

In a couple of weeks this kiss will become a routine and you both won't be able to leave the house without stealing a kiss from each other. This flirting will bring back the romance into your marriage.

Cuddling is a nice way to kick start cute and flirty conversations.
Cuddling is a nice way to kick start cute and flirty conversations.

13) Cuddle With Her During the Day

For men, flirting is more about channeling raw energy. For women, flirting has the potential to be more romantic when it involves non-sexual intimacy. Cuddling will be a major turn-on for your wife and she will have a radiant beam on her face.

The trick to making cuddling a flirty activity is to do it on a random day. Walk away from each other after fifteen minutes to half an hour of cuddling and don't do it with a sexual agenda. Just part ways and do your own thing for the rest of the day. Your wife will feel content and will remain in a flirty romantic mood for the rest of the day.

14) Stare at Your Wife for No Reason and Smile

Flirting doesn't need to be verbal all the time. You can flirt with your wife without saying a single word. Gaze at her admiringly at random moments, whether you are watching TV or you are sitting across her on the dinner table. Burst into a cute smile and look away when she looks back at you.

This will make her feel that her beauty still commands your stares just like how it was when you began dating each other.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.


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      3 months ago

      Nice write-up.

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      2 years ago

      Maybe this article seemed super cheesy to me because these things are such no-brainers! My idea of my husband being 'a Bad Boy' would be him pinning me to the wall in a super hot kiss. Or maybe buying a high end "toy" for a surprise gift...

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      2 years ago

      Seems fake and contrived. My wife would never fall for that stuff.

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      2 years ago

      So what do you do when all this cutesy flirting come across as immature to her?

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      2 years ago

      Wow!If I didn't know this was written by Princess,i would've said---My husband wrote this!

      Yes!No matter how long you been married, we-women love it when you FLIRT with us.

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      Big Bob 

      2 years ago

      Great ideas and explanation.

      Also, to Anna...that is such a funny observation!!! Made me laugh out loud.

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      3 years ago

      Who's hand is that around her wais

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      anthony frugis 

      3 years ago

      i love my wife more now than ever i just want to improve more each day her smell turns mr me on her sexy looks make me go crazy just everything about her i just never really told her to finally now

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      Wes Lambert 

      6 years ago from Sunnyvale

      Only 2 minutes of massage? Wow, I've been overdoing it. Most of massages put her to sleep. Being an amatuer massuer must have something to do with it.

      I'm horrible at playing the "bad boy" role.

      But I have to admit that the weekly date night has been a brilliant idea (her idea).

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      Dora Weithers 

      7 years ago from The Caribbean

      Princess, I'm sure that your female readers love you especially for this article. Great ideas and I know they work. Great hub! Voted Up.


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