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How to Deal With Your Girlfriend or Wife's Mood Swings

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How should you deal with your partner's mood swings? Read on to find out!

How should you deal with your partner's mood swings? Read on to find out!

How to Handle the Mood Swings of a Girl

How can you deal with mood swings in women? The answer to coping with your girlfriend or wife's PMS-related mood swings is not black and white.

Managing female mood swings requires the four P's—presence of mind, patience, perseverance, and pampering. Don't try to understand why the woman in your life is having mood swings; instead, find out how you can stop annoying your partner during her mood swings.

13 Tips for Dealing With Mood Swings in a Relationship

  1. Leave her alone—don't pester or bother her.
  2. Listen to her to find out if she is upset about something.
  3. Don't do things that will annoy her.
  4. Don't be self-righteous; be non-judgmental, and don't be bent on being right (even if she is wrong).
  5. Empathize with her—agree with most of the things she says.
  6. Allow her to vent—having an emotional outlet can be very healing.
  7. Pamper your girlfriend or wife if she's dealing with PMS-related mood swings.
  8. Make her laugh—manage her mood swings with your sense of humor.
  9. Keep her busy by involving her in anything that diverts her attention.
  10. Satiate her food cravings—let her favorite foods lift her mood.
  11. Shower her with compliments to make her feel good.
  12. Take her out and treat her to some fresh air.
  13. Cuddle up or tuck her into bed—convince her to rest.
Sometimes she wants to be left alone.

Sometimes she wants to be left alone.

1. Leave her alone—don't pester or bother her.

Ask your girlfriend or wife what is bothering her only once. If she doesn't seem too keen on talking about it, leave her alone, and give her some space. Allow her to take her own time to bounce back.

Constantly asking your partner why she is upset is probably the last thing she wants when she has mood swings. Regardless of whether her mood swings have been triggered by PMS, giving her some space may do the trick.

2. Listen to her to find out if she is upset about something specific.

Your girlfriend may have turbulent moods because she is upset or angry about something specific. It could be something you have done or something silly that has triggered her mood swings.

Listen patiently—her mood may be driven by factors other than PMS. Talk to your girlfriend to find out if she needs anything from you, whether it is a change in your behavior or more attention.

3. Don't do things that will annoy her.

Don't escalate her mood swings by doing something that will annoy her. For example, don't look at other women, don't play music that she hates, don't burp loudly in front of her, don't be arrogant, and don't get the bathroom dirty.

While these are just a few examples of things that can annoy women when they're already in a bad mood, be aware of your partner's particular dislikes, and don't do anything that irks her.

Don't be self-righteous; it won't make things better.

Don't be self-righteous; it won't make things better.

4. Don't be self-righteous; be non-judgmental, and don't be bent on being right (even if she is wrong).

The last thing that a woman needs when in a bad mood is a self-righteous person telling her that she is wrong (even if she is). You can win half the battle by overlooking her wrongs temporarily.

Think of yourself as the bigger person, and don't play blame games, engage in heated arguments, or go on unapologetic rants—don't be bent on being right. At some point, she is likely to realize that she is being unnecessarily annoying. Your cool and collected behavior will have a calming effect on her.

5. Empathize with her—agree with most of the things she says.

If your partner is upset due to external causes, such as fighting with someone at work or just having a bad hair day, empathize with her. Agree with whatever she says, no matter how childish or ridiculous you think it is.

Your girlfriend or wife will feel relieved to know that someone is on her side, no matter how ridiculous you feel agreeing with her. She will likely join you in laughing about her silly behavior once her strong feelings have fizzled out.

She may just need to vent—so be there to lend an ear!

She may just need to vent—so be there to lend an ear!

6. Allow her to vent—having an emotional outlet can be very healing.

A woman's mood swings are not always as problematic as they seem. Sometimes they result from bottled-up emotions looking for an outlet. This outlet can be in the form of a moody rant that she needs to get off her chest.

Be a good husband or boyfriend and soak up these rants with an open ear. Don't pass them off as silly or stupid; otherwise, you may aggravate your partner's bad mood.

The easiest way of dealing with your partner's PMS mood swings is to pamper her. A cuddle, back rub, or massage in the bathtub; hot chocolate; or takeout from her favorite local food joint—do the little things that will lift her spirits immediately.

Making her laugh is a great way to improve her mood.

Making her laugh is a great way to improve her mood.

8. Make her laugh—manage her mood swings with your sense of humor.

Aim to be the antidote, not the aggravator of your girlfriend or wife's mood swings. Deflate her stress and pain by cracking jokes. Lift her mood by making faces or reminding her about an incident that usually makes her roll with laughter.

Use your sense of humor to lighten the mood. It will take her mind off certain bodily functions if the bad mood is related to PMS. Even if it isn't, good humor will hopefully put a smile on her face.

9. Keep her busy by involving her in anything that diverts her attention.

You can help mitigate your girlfriend or wife's bad mood by involving her in an activity that diverts her attention from psychological and physical factors that are upsetting her. Ask her to help you with something fun, watch a movie with her, or play a video game with her.

Keeping her busy may not diffuse her irritability, but it will help to take her mind away from the physical aspects of a PMS-related bad mood.

Satisfying a food craving can be an instant mood fix.

Satisfying a food craving can be an instant mood fix.

10. Satiate her food cravings—let her favorite foods lift her mood.

Indulging in a sweet treat or favorite food is known to be a quick mood fix. Use this trick to calm your partner down when she is upset. Whether it is wine, chocolate, or another dessert, offer her a quick treat to lift her mood.

11. Shower her with compliments to make her feel good.

Just like how a guy's confidence levels will increase immediately when a girl strokes his ego, a woman's emotional quotient receives a loving boost when she receives compliments. Kiss your partner's bad mood goodbye by giving her compliments.

Don't make your compliments come across as deliberate or awkward. Be cool and keep it natural; otherwise, it could cause her to become more upset.

A little fresh air might just do the trick!

A little fresh air might just do the trick!

12. Take her out and treat her to some fresh air.

A stroll in the park or half an hour of daydreaming at your local café can make a world of difference to your moody girlfriend or wife. Fresh air, sights, and the sounds of people and places she enjoys will help calm her nerves.

Don't worry about emptying your pockets while going out because this trip does not need to be a glamorous dinner date. A hot cuppa and a patient ear are all you will need to spare.

13. Cuddle up or tuck her into bed—convince her to rest.

Whether PMS-related or not, mood swings can be aggravated by fatigue, frustration, or stress. Your partner's sour mood may be on the verge of going from bad to worse if she has not been getting enough rest.

Waking up early or lack of sleep the previous night could be why she seems irritable when she wakes up in the morning. This could snowball into massive mood swings during the day. Sometimes the easiest fixes to life's troubles lie in the simplest and most basic of all human actions, like hugs and cuddles.

Cuddle up with her in your living room or tuck her into bed while watching TV. Hopefully, she will bounce back after she has had some rest.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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