How to Make a Relationship Last

Updated on December 25, 2016
Picture-perfect relationships mostly only happen in the movies.
Picture-perfect relationships mostly only happen in the movies. | Source

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This article discusses the qualities of commitment, trustworthiness, patience, calmness, and awareness that help one sustain a relationship. It states that too many people in love neglect themselves and are not realistic about their expectations from the relationship. It advocates pragmatism.

Making a relationship last, at its core, requires an awareness of the value of the relationship. It is impossible to maintain or develop a relationship that is not taken seriously or that is considered a drag on one’s time and resources.

Commitment is critical to the success of a relationship. Once you are sure you are in a relationship with someone, work toward making it last. Make time for it. Work toward weeding out the bad habits that are likely to harm it in the long run. Another critical thing in a relationship is trust. Any relationship that lacks trust is likely to end sooner rather than later, so cultivating trust is something unavoidable. There are two sides to trust: having a partner who is trustworthy and being trustworthy yourself. Make sure you develop a system of accountability in your relationship as early as possible so that a trust deficit doesn’t build up over time.

Make sure you develop a system of accountability in your relationship as early as possible so that a trust deficit doesn’t build up over time.

Take things as they come. Every relationship takes time to develop. Don’t try to escalate matters before their time. Live in and enjoy every moment of the journey as it happens. Don’t be too hard on your partner or on yourself if things don’t happen as expected. Every relationship has its weaknesses, and these weaknesses often show up when least expected. Just ensure you don’t give up at the first sign of trouble.

Take it nice and slow. Don't try to rush things. There is no point in speeding to the end of a relationship. Today matters. It is the little and seemingly insignificant moments that matter in a relationship.
Take it nice and slow. Don't try to rush things. There is no point in speeding to the end of a relationship. Today matters. It is the little and seemingly insignificant moments that matter in a relationship. | Source

Never lose your temper with your partner. Uncontrolled anger can end your association in a jiffy. If you are disappointed with anything your partner did, talk it out with him or her. A gentle discussion is always more effective than an acrimonious to-and-fro session, and it fosters greater understanding and a sense of intimacy.

It always makes more sense to talk things over than to engage in tiresome and soul-draining mudslinging.
It always makes more sense to talk things over than to engage in tiresome and soul-draining mudslinging. | Source

One vital aspect of love is actually being aware of your partner’s likes and dislikes. This knowledge will help you steer clear of inadvertently annoying him or her. It will also place you in a unique position to surprise him or her from time to time, and surprises make any romantic relationship all the more memorable!

Some people in love often make the mistake of neglecting themselves. As a result, at the personal level, they end up stagnating. Don’t make that mistake. Tend to yourself. Your relationship is only a part of your life experience, although an important one. Spend time with yourself. Pursue your hobbies. Go to the gym. Get a pet if you don’t have one.

If you can't make time for yourself, you will struggle to keep yourself motivated and persist with the relationship in the long run.
If you can't make time for yourself, you will struggle to keep yourself motivated and persist with the relationship in the long run. | Source

At the end of the day, a relationship needs the efforts of two people to succeed. If you are giving it your all and your partner isn’t, you probably need to re-evaluate your priorities and decide if this relationship is really all that important to you. Sometimes, relationships don’t work out. Some relationships are just not meant to be. Hopefully, by now, you have an idea of where your relationship stands.

It takes two to tango. Making a relationship succeed is a team effort. Both the players involved must contribute.
It takes two to tango. Making a relationship succeed is a team effort. Both the players involved must contribute.

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If you are in a relationship, use the comments section to let the readers of this article know what makes it tick and what the challenges it faces are. If you were in a failed relationship, mention what made it not work. Thank you!

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