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How to Make Your Boyfriend Happy: 5 Ways to Keep a Man Interested and Make Him Feel Loved

Jorge's relationship advice is based on experience and observation. Let his trial and error be your success (hopefully).

How to Keep a Man Happy

Many times, our partner's minds may seem like a mystery to us. Luckily, if your partner is a guy, then keeping your boyfriend happy is a lot simpler than you might think.

For the most part, men have a few essential needs in a relationship, and if you make sure to fulfill those needs, they'll have few complaints. Will this keep him interested forever? Well, there are no guarantees in life, but you will certainly be bending things in your favor if you follow the tips below:

Wondering how to keep a man interested? Well, physical affection is part of it. Wink, wink.

Wondering how to keep a man interested? Well, physical affection is part of it. Wink, wink.

1) Have Sex With Him

This is #1 because, seriously, it is #1 in his mind (for most guys). Out of all of the ways to keep him happy, this one will get you the most mileage. In fact, many men will be perfectly happy if you just do this one and ignore the rest.

You get extra points if you find ways to make the sex interesting, too. Don't be afraid of variety. If he wants to try something new, humor him. Wear some impractical lingerie. Heck, wear some latex if that's what he's into. Try new positions that require enhanced flexibility. Try anything that makes it more exciting and that you have no objection to.

Variety is key. Guys who look elsewhere for their jollies are often just looking for variety. Make things interesting at home and you'll be more likely to keep his attention on you.

More importantly, what most guys want is for you to be into it. That's all. More than the whips and handcuffs, what really gets us going is that you want it as badly as we do. Show your enthusiasm overtly and you will make your boyfriend very happy.

If you can give a man what he wants in bed, then you're 80% of the way there. The rest of the suggestions below might be necessary to the equation, but he'll do without them for longer if they're missing. If the sex part isn't there, though, he'll start to lose interest pretty quickly.

2) Know When to Leave Him Alone

One thing that can make a guy lose interest is if his girlfriend is smothering him. While spending time together as a couple is important, you can't always be together.

Some women have a tendency to guilt their boyfriends into calling them every day or spending every night together. While this can be especially common in the early stages of a relationship, it's not necessarily healthy. If he wants to go out with his buddies one night, or if he needs large periods of alone time to feel centered, respect that.

Try not to be offended. If you're proactive about it and offer to give him space, that's even better because he'll feel less guilty asking for it. This is how to keep a man interested in a genuine way—through his own free will.

Sometimes your boyfriend will be happy just being alone, and that's okay.

Sometimes your boyfriend will be happy just being alone, and that's okay.

3) Accept and Celebrate Your Differences (And Stop Wishing He Was Somebody Else)

Your boyfriend is different from you, no doubt. If you were exactly the same in every way, you probably wouldn't be attracted to each other.

So why force him to watch your favorite movie (that he hates) with you? Why complain about how he doesn't remember your friends' names? Why be bothered that he never notices what you're wearing?

He is different from you. This is a good thing. Many times people will get into relationships and not recognize this. Instead, they spend great effort attempting to make the other person more like themselves. Many women unconsciously try to turn their men into women, criticizing the way they think, what they say, or the way they see the world.

On the other hand, if you can take a step back and appreciate your differences, he'll feel lucky to have you. You will make your boyfriend happy in a way few other people can because you won't be trying to make him into something he's not. The key to trust in a relationship is feeling that the other person accepts you for who you are.

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4) Forgive Him Easily and Let Go of Guilt Tactics

Some people use guilt as their main method of persuasion. This is nothing more than a manipulation tactic, though.

It's far too often that the various women in a man's life will use guilt to get him to do what they want. Whether it's his mother trying to convince him to call her every day, or his sister asking him about why he doesn't visit more often, or his girlfriend complaining that he never listens, it can get tiring to be assaulted with people's expectations.

If you want to make your boyfriend happy, be a voice of forgiveness in his life instead of guilt. If he accidentally forgets your anniversary, don't hold it against him. If he doesn't have the cash to take you to a fancy place for your birthday, let it go.

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Now, this doesn't mean that you should sit there quietly seething. By all means, speak up and address your issues. However, do it from a place of understanding if you can. Don't try to manipulate him with guilt. Be quick to forgive him for honest mistakes instead of bringing them up six months later during a fight.

It's easy to tell yourself, "Well he shouldn't be this way," or complain that he should have done this or he should have done that. Part of being a forgiving person is letting go of the "shoulds" and letting your boyfriend be who he is without judgement.

Of course, if he does something unacceptable, then maybe it makes sense to dump him. This doesn't mean that you can't dump him with forgiveness, though. Sometimes forgiveness means letting go. If you find that you always have to guilt him into doing what you want, then maybe you should be together anyway.

Learning to forgive a man will keep him interested and happy with the relationship.

Learning to forgive a man will keep him interested and happy with the relationship.

5) Learn to Appreciate the Things He Loves

Even if you have different interests and hobbies, there's always something to appreciate about someone else's passion. Show your boyfriend this. Go the extra mile and learn about the things he's interested and try to understand what he sees in them.

It's easy to dismiss sports, or stamp collecting, or electronics, or whatever as boring and pointless, but try to see things from his perspective. Even if you can't, there are probably things in your life that you really care about and you can probably relate in that way at least.

Explore new hobbies with him. Go to places that he's always wanted to go. Try something he really likes, at least once. Who knows? You might even find that you like it yourself.

How to Make Your Boyfriend Happy: There's No Magic Formula

At the end of the day, following the above tips will help keep your relationship healthy and will probably make your boyfriend happy. Still, if you have problems in spite of all these efforts, it could be that there's some deeper problem lurking underneath.

Keeping a man interested shouldn't be that hard. If it is, then this points to possible inherent incompatibilities between the two of you. You might be trying to force a relationship to happen when you're too different or you're headed down different life paths.

It could also be that you're overthinking things too much. Take a step back and try to enjoy the relationship for what it is. Very few things will make your boyfriend more happy than having a girlfriend who is content with the present moment.

His Growing Interest

Questions & Answers

Question: My boyfriend is always moody, and sometimes he swears at me. I just keep quiet because I respect him. What can I do?

Answer: Sure, YOU respect him, but why doesn't HE respect you?

I don't know your situation, but he sounds like a jerk. There's not a whole lot you can do in that case except move on to someone who actually will treat you well. People like that exist. Don't let anyone treat you badly; it's better to be alone than in a crappy relationship.

Question: I do everything my boyfriend asks of me as well as keeping my mouth shut. I’ve been told to keep my mouth shut and just listen and do as told. I do just that, but he has these mood swings and when he is upset or stressed he yells at me and gives me more job duties, or he tells me what I can do to better myself, but in ugly ways. Is this normal?

Answer: No. This is not normal or healthy. If what you're saying is true, it sounds like you're in an abusive relationship. Consider getting out of it immediately, and if you're too scared to leave him, call someone you trust to be there when you break up. No one deserves to be treated that way.

© 2017 Jorge Vamos


Love on May 16, 2019:

Add Your Comment..My boyfriend has been acting weird recently...he does not have my attention and when i ask him y he is not romamtic on the outside he said because he has no feelings anymore due to excess heart breaks.....sometimes i want to ask him why he does not post me in public but i just cant....he does not yell or get angry at me anyhow...instead he does wat i want...but i dont know how i can make him let me feel that love and care that i want from him...its just tok difficult...pls what should i do

Charilyn on May 16, 2019:

What should I do to my fiance happy

Anonymous on March 28, 2019:

My boyfriend of 4 years is unhappy with me, he says he just wants me to be more happy and positive so I do my best to stay happy and i buy him his favorite things and game consoles. He gets angry with me very easily for example tonight we were talking and he started yelling at me for doing the dishes and cooking for my grandpa before i left the house and it confused me so i stayed calm just acted happy not to agitate him more. Hes not abusive or anything he just yells at me over small things, he wants me to be happy but yells at me when i do things that make me happy like doing the dishes or cooking and taking care of his own grandpa and young siblings and i just dont understand. He yells when i apologize to him but continues to get angry with me if i agree with him that what i did was wrong just so we dont argue. I just dont know how to make him happy. Im now seeing a psychologist to see whats wrong with me, why i make him so angry and how to fix myself because after 4 years he is no longer happy with me and hes all i have so maybe someone else is experiencing the same thing and maybe i just need to try harder. Thank you.

me on March 22, 2019:

Jali I have the same problem

Jali on February 22, 2019:

my boyfriend went to visit family and he was fine talking to me until after a couple of days and now he never has time to talk and he is "sleeping" all day and we fight ll the time what should i do

nneka on February 02, 2019:

What will do to my boyfriend

Justen Bieber on January 11, 2019:

thank u

Linate on December 08, 2018:

Thanks for the advice

rebecca wilkinson on November 29, 2018:

i like chirs bell he is cute funny makes me happy

Jabu on November 10, 2018:

How can i reduce mi man

JC on October 22, 2018:

i feel like some days i drift away from him. is this normal? i try to make him happy. but what else can i do?

Mercy on September 28, 2018:

What can I do to make my relationship gets stronger

Nontozamo on September 07, 2018:

How can you see your boyfriend that is really love you?

thandy on August 08, 2018:

me and my bae we spend alot of time together then it happend that last night i didnt see him and we only spoke on the phone in the morning and now he has not called me or spoken to me since morning

Regina on July 28, 2018:

what can I do keep my relationship stronger

Patricia on April 24, 2018:

How do you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you and lying to u

Imannilovee on March 12, 2018:

How can I keep my boyfriend happy what can I to make him feel good every night

Maria on February 20, 2018:

We broke up And Ian datING my freínds boyfreind

Medinatu on February 17, 2018:

My boyfriend is alway busy but he try to make and I love it

Zoey on February 01, 2018:

My boyfriend is so cute I want him forever to be happy with me and that’s why I am trying to be a good girlfriend

Amber Tuggle from Gobrorn on July 03, 2017:

To love him

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