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When She Is Upset You CAN Cheer Her Up
Do You Have To Make Her Feel Better?
Women are sensitive and take things differently than men. That much you probably know.
But did you know that if you don't comfort your woman in some shape or form you are neglecting some of her needs? It's true - she needs support and understanding in order to feel loved. What's worse is that if she doesn't feel loved then you are probably not going to have sex a lot in your relationship, because women need a love connection before they can get into the sex connection.
She probably won't ask you for comfort, because she would like you to just give it to her. Not because she is egotistic or vain, but because she needs you to make her feel better without her having to ask you first.
Women tend to be caregivers and offer all their hugs, and support, and love, and compassion for other people. They do this because they feel that it is important when showing love. So it goes without question that they would also feel it is important that others do this to show them love.
You have the power to make her smile and laugh and feel joy in her life, so why wouldn't you want to use that power?
What are something things you can do to make a woman feel better when she's down or angry or crying or just indifferent to life? I've broken this article up into those categories, so keep reading.
When She's Angry With You
When your woman is angry and you want to make her feel better, all you have to do is listen to her and validate her concerns. Don't just sit there and say nothing, and PLEASE don't just walk away. She needs to get the information in her head out in order to feel better. Just listen and respond to her with honest answers and even solutions (if she is willing to listen) that she is looking for. Always follow through with any solutions you suggest that make her feel better.
For instance (and this is kind of minor), if she's angry that you never help out with the dishes, then honestly tell her why you don't do the dishes and then offer to help out more often - and follow through with that promise.
If you start making false promises to do things then the next time she's angry, then she will be upset not only about that time, but the last one and the last one before that and so on and so on....it's harder to make up for fifty things that she is upset about, then to just solve problems one at a time with a happy resolution.
When She's Angry With Someone Else
Listen to her, and what she's angry about, and then give her reasons why she's validated in thinking that way.
I am a firm believer that you should always take her side in arguments if she feels quite strongly about it unless it's something that is hurting her and non-productive in her life. I also think that it's best not to disagree unless she's hurting someone else blatantly. This helps her sort the information out in her head without the added stress of you not supporting her. If she is being stupid, then she will realize it on her own.
So, if she's mad at her best friend because she lied to her, then take her side and let her know why she's right to be upset.
Alternatively, if she's mad that the waitress took one minute longer then she said she would, then don't encourage ridiculous behavior like this, but don't tell her she's stupid for saying that. Instead just change the subject.
No matter what you do, the one thing you never want to do is tell her she's overacting or you may actually cause an overreaction!
Like I said, women can have powerful feelings - and what may look like an overreaction to you is most likely just stress coming out about something she feels passionate about. It's her way of getting it all out.
When She's Crying - About Anything
When she's upset and balling her eyes out, you have to comfort her. You can't just walk away or say nothing! I know many men who do this when they feel uncomfortable or just don't know what else to do, but I'm telling you that she would rather have some support from you then have you say nothing or walk away.
Unless she locks herself in the bathroom then hold her or give her a hug, listen to her, kiss her forehead, and tell her that it's going to be okay.
Make her feel better and she will appreciate it and feel closer to you. All women want a man like this.
When She Can't Make Up Her Mind
Depending on her mood you can do one of two things, but the point is you need to take charge and decide because she obviously doesn't know what she wants to do right now. Taking charge is sexy, and it relieves the pressure off of her to make the decision.
You can do is take her out somewhere of your choice that you think will let her have fun or you can stay in and watch movies. The point is to make the decision.
If you know how to rock her world in bed then see if she's up for it. If you don't, then learn how to please your woman in bed, because most women will be up for it if you do it right!
I guarantee that if you make the decision, even if she's not sure she wants to do it, she will feel good in no time.
Do You Know How To Make Her Feel Better Or Does Your Man Know How?
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
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rafael on March 09, 2013:
Wow Relationshipc you are a genius. I understand exactly what you are saying.
Kari (author) on February 28, 2013:
No Tyrell, it sounds like she is depressed and she needs to help herself. Nothing you can say can make her feel good about herself...she is the only one who can make herself feel better. This article is for women who occasionally get upset, not have long-term mental issues like depression. She needs to talk to someone like a counselor or therapist.
Tyrell on February 28, 2013:
I Love her I try to help her, Ya i already know all that, But the problem is she thinks of herself as she is nothing to this world, I Love her dearly to my heart but she wont listen to a word I say... I really do need to help her.
Kari (author) on August 05, 2012:
Jynzly - It's not about having a dog or someone that you can mistreat. I'm talking about a man that knows you, gets you, and trying to make you feel better when you are feeling bad. I don't know what husband in their right mind would not do that. A husband shouldn't be fighting against you, you should both be lifting each other up in life. Love doesn't hurt.
Kari (author) on August 05, 2012:
Thanks for the comment Steff.
Steff on April 05, 2012:
For some men...this does need to be pointed out because althought you don't want a person with no backbone or a pushover there are times when you need to feel acknowledge and appreciated some men do not understand how to do that hence the pointers given in this article...if you want to bump heads constantly with you husband and put up a fight against you at all times that is ones choice...I don't think the article speaks on the man being a loyal dog...but being a loyal loving understanding MAN....
Jenny Pugh from Marion, Indiana, USA on February 03, 2012:
Sorry but I don't like a man who knows all women and love all women of various "passion"...I would rather have my husband fight for his right against me ...I don't need a loyal dog for a husband. I need an equal.
Good hub though..it's thought provoking.