How to Identify a Toxic Person in Your Life
What Is a Toxic Person?
There are so many ways to define a toxic person. You can find many on the Internet by just doing a Google search. For the purposes of this article, a more broad definition will be used in order to identify all maladaptive and abnormal behaviors of toxic people.
It's not that the person as a whole is toxic. Rather, the behaviors they exhibit are considered toxic. These types of people may create unnecessary drama in your life or they may try to control you or certain people and situations in your life. The following signs and behaviors discussed are important to be aware of. Educating yourself has never been more rewarding when it saves you from being hurt or put through horrible experiences.
Signs of Toxic People
Below is a list of behaviors that many, if not all, toxic people display with most people in their lives. Take these seriously and if you're questioning whether or not a person is toxic, you should be aware of these behaviors and listen to your intuition.
- Toxic people will initially praise you for your accomplishments no matter how big or small you feel they are. They make your accomplishments as a reflection of themselves rather than letting it be solely about you. At the same time they praise you and rant about you to others, they are resentful that you did something of value.
- Highly competitive. If you try to bring up something you've accomplished or achieved, toxic people will either one-up it or downplay what you've accomplished. They are also competitive in little games and becomes a sore "loser".
They treat your goals and aspirations in life with a condescending attitude while making sure to bring the conversation back to being about them. They may undermine your ability to achieve the goals you have set out for yourself to make themselves feel superior while you feel inferior and down
- They make it seem like nothing you have accomplished is a big deal. This could be to make you feel less than or to make themselves feel better, or both.
- These types of people may sabotage important events in your life such as school, work, an interview, or other types of events with deadlines. This can include going out with them and having a "drink or two", making things up to cause arguments or dishing out insults to make you feel small.
In conclusion, it is crucial to spread the message about these subtle signs of toxic people that can and will affect your life negatively. Make sure you educate others and if you know other people in relationships with a toxic person, be sure they are aware of the signs and behaviors. You could save a life. I know someone saved mine by spreading the message and I hope you'll be a part of that as well.
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© 2017 Brittney Lindstrom