The Advantages and Disadvantages of Marriage

Once upon a time, almost everyone was expected to get married.  Nowadays, it is viewed as more of a personal choice.  Here are some advantages and disadvantages associated with tying the knot.
Once upon a time, almost everyone was expected to get married. Nowadays, it is viewed as more of a personal choice. Here are some advantages and disadvantages associated with tying the knot. | Source

Marriage has been a part of human culture for thousands of years and almost all cultures and religions on the planet have some sort of partnership ceremony.

In some cultures, men are allowed to have multiple wives, but in most places marriage is limited to one man and one woman.

In recent times marriage has become less popular, however, especially in developed countries. The institution suffered a dramatic decline in the middle to late twentieth century – partly due to increased divorce rates but also because many couples chose not to marry at all.

The traditional concept of marriage has also been challenged in recent years by gay couples, who believe that they should have the same opportunities to get wed as straight couples (See - The pros and cons for gay marriage legalization).

Below are what I believe to be the main advantages and disadvantages of marriage.

My husband and I are best of friends first and foremost. We fight like cats and dogs, but never stay mad for long. I was lucky to find him, he is in every way, my soulmate.

— Carnie Wilson

Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife.

— Franz Schubert

Advantages of Marriage

  • Most human beings are not solitary and crave companionship. Life is enhanced when experiences can be shared with another person who has similar interests and concerns and loves you.
  • Most cultures have religious reasons for getting married. A religious marriage can be a way for a couple to deepen their bonds to each other, as well as help them form a deeper relationship with God and receive His blessing.
  • With or without religion, marriage is an accepted way for two people to show their commitment to each other. Couples who marry have been statistical shown to be together longer and are more likely to bond for life.
  • Marriage benefits society generally because it is associated with stable families. Stable families produce happier children and a more stable society with less crime and other social problems.

  • There are often financial benefits associated with marriage. Taxes are often lower. Other financial issues associated with legalities such as inheritance can be easier to sort out when a couple is married.
  • Marriage is about sharing burdens and responsibilities and that can mean less stress, both in terms of practicalities and also with emotional problems. Raising a child, for example, is relatively easier for two parents than it is for one.
  • Marriage gives a child two parents, which can help a child to develop into a balanced and happy adult. Children have two different role models to look up to and twice as much potential support, emotionally and practically.
  • Marriage promises and helps deliver a happy sex life. Partners can get to know and fulfill each others' desires in a trusting long term relationship. Monogamy also reduces health risks such as sexually transmitted diseases.

Marriage is a partnership.  Burdens and stresses are shared between the couple, as are the benefits, material and emotional.  It also provides a stable environment for one or more children to be raised in.
Marriage is a partnership. Burdens and stresses are shared between the couple, as are the benefits, material and emotional. It also provides a stable environment for one or more children to be raised in. | Source

In marriage there are no manners to keep up, and beneath the wildest accusations no real criticism. Each is familiar with that ancient child in the other who may erupt again. We are not ridiculous to ourselves. We are ageless. That is the luxury of the wedding ring.

— Enid Bagnold

Marriage is neither heaven nor hell, it is simply purgatory.

— Abraham Lincoln

Disadvantages of Marriage

  • Fidelity is not a natural state for human beings, especially when they are young adults and their sex drive is at its strongest. Most married sex lives fade over time, which can lead to affairs and other forms of infidelity, such as the use of prostitutes, even in the most well-intentioned people.
  • Many couples get stuck in a rut, repeating the same arguments over and over. The key differences in their personalities never go away. Petty problems, irritating habits, become magnified over time.
  • Marriage restricts the freedom of individual. Single people can happily live their lives pretty much as they please without having to be concerned with the needs or wishes of others.
  • Marriage means that couples have to deal with their partner’s family, which can be a source of problems and conflict.
  • Getting married can add lots of extra bureaucracy and red tape to a relationship, especially when the wife changes her name and official documents such as social security, driving licenses have to be changed.

  • Society has moved on and the traditional idea of marriage is outdated. Rather than seeing marriage as the one way that people should follow, we should embrace the various different sorts of human relationships and treat them all equally, such as one parent families, homosexual relationships, etc.
  • Relationships should be purely personal and less formal. Marriage is about seeking approval from the civil authorities, or a religion, when it should just be the two people in the relationship that matter.
  • There can sometimes be situations where there are financial disadvantages to being married. Divorce costs can also be huge if you make a mistake and marry the wrong person.
  • Marriage ceremonies can be very expensive and extremely stressful. It is not uncommon for relatives to take over and the couple's wishes to be sidelined.
  • Marriage can extend the time that couples stay together in a bad or unhealthy relationship, when it would be better if they split – for instance, where the couple are clearly ill-suited, or even where there is physical or emotional abuse going on, they may be tempted to stay together because of religious or cultural taboos over breaking up the marriage.

Marriage can be a very expensive business.  Ceremonies and the related celebrations are often very costly.  Plus, if the partnership fails, the resulting divorce proceedings can also use up an awful lot of money.
Marriage can be a very expensive business. Ceremonies and the related celebrations are often very costly. Plus, if the partnership fails, the resulting divorce proceedings can also use up an awful lot of money. | Source

One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry.

— Oscar Wilde
A bride and groom walk along the beach after a wedding ceremony.  50% of all marriages in the USA are estimated to end in divorce. Despite this, there are still plenty of people who choose to tie the knot, whether for romance, tradition, or religion.
A bride and groom walk along the beach after a wedding ceremony. 50% of all marriages in the USA are estimated to end in divorce. Despite this, there are still plenty of people who choose to tie the knot, whether for romance, tradition, or religion. | Source

But marriage goes in waves. You've got to be patient. People bail and give up on their marriages way too early. They just don't put the work and the effort into it. You've got to suck up your ego a lot of times, because that can be a big downfall.

— Anna Benson

Do you think marriage is a good thing overall?

  • Yes, finding a long term partner is essential for a happy life.
  • No, many people live more fulfilling lives without being wed.
See results without voting

© 2011 Paul Goodman

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thieshajones 4 years ago from Savannah, Georgia


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Emmyboy 4 years ago from Nigeria

Nice hub and straight to the point.

But then, why am I getting the message that the disadvantages outweighs the advantages?

I'm getting scared...

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thieshajones 4 years ago from Savannah, Georgia

@Emmyboy I can understand your point in the disadvantages outweighs the advantages. But as with any marriage (a committed relationship for that matter) it takes work...not average work, but hard work for it to be successful.

Think of a marriage as a new business venture.

In new business ventures you will have to plan, make revisions to you plan, and optimize your plan to make it as profitable or successful as possible.

In a marriage (or a committed relationship) you have to do the same thing. Make a plan that will help and benefit the both of you. The plan can be something as simple as how can I make my wife/husband smile today. Start with a basic plan, rivise it if necessary and optimize it to work for everyone involved.

I am new to HubPages. I will be posting topics as such in addition to other interesting topics. Follow me (thieshajones) and please comment.


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Anti-Valentine 4 years ago from My lair

After having witnessed my parents' marriage for so many years, I often say to myself that I'll never get married!

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Ruchi Urvashi 4 years ago from Singapore

Yes, marriage is a commitment. Well, after four years of marriage, I can say what kept me going is I never lost my own identity. Early days of marriage, I expected but then I realized that I need to give rather than receive and have no expectations. Finally, we enjoy our relationship and the advantages outweigh the disadvantages. Thanks for the great article.

Dr.Muhammad Mubarak 4 years ago

If marriage doesn't aim to love making and soul satisfaction,Surely it's a waste of time..I can say that MARRIAGE thoughts or thinking about marriage could be an opium or a disease.

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Marpi 4 years ago

Very interesting points here. Marriage is a continuous job on yourself an on your partnership with your significant other...It's a challenge every day but still it's worth the effort. Especially when you have kids!

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Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

When society deviates from the norm, problems arise that may take generations to solve, and sometimes they remain unsolved. The respect and practice of marriage is an important key to a stable society. We can see the problems that are caused by

(1) single-parent homes absent of a parent who did not want to be there

(2) illegitimate births

(3) promiscuous sex

(4) same-sex marriage which cannot produce offspring to continue life is proof enough that its backwards. If everyone did it, life on earth would end. Marriage is about continuing generations, reproducing.

(5) shacking, and many other alternative arrangements

People have a right to chose their arrangement, but right and wrong will always be no matter what happens.

Gods arrangement, our example--Adam and Eve--preceded children who came later. The other arrangements are frowned upon in the Bible. The right to make a choice does not make the choice selection right.

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anusujith 4 years ago from Nilambur, Kerala, India

Interesting wrote about a beautiful relationship.

Mariner 4 years ago

Marriage means.. when you have no more trouble in life.. then get married and ask for trouble

appu 4 years ago

interesting. ()

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Bruce Clark 4 years ago

I will just think of the advantages and good things about marriage. It is definitely a blessing since through it a family will be created.

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yeagerinvestments 4 years ago from Wisconsin

Great article! After being married for about 4 years it seems like at times our differences are greater than our similarities, but then again that's one of the reasons why I love her so much!

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Doodlehead 4 years ago from Northern California

It's way too complicated for my mind. Think I will keep things as they are!

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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Very interesting and well-written article . You give both sides equal time and fairness......UP+++

Annee 3 years ago

It is the most solutary confinement ever

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Jatinder Joshi 3 years ago from Whitby, Ontario, Canada

Interesting thoughts on marriage. Marriage as per me is a social institution created by mankind to ensure the physical, social, intellectual and emotional well being and development of the children from marriage. It is all about commitment. No marriage is picture perfect, all the time. One has to stay committed to the aim and promises right till the end to make it work, and if you do, love, understanding, compassion and a healthy family develop, is my take.

Kathy, OH 2 years ago

It appears that most of the disadvantages point to a person who is still self-centered (all about themselves). That person should not marry and ruin someone else's life. Having been married 37 years, I know that since we are not perfect, there are challenges. Too many folks fall in love with the IDEA of marriage, but have no intention of making any sacrifices themselves. But it can work - - and be wonderful!

jazee 2 years ago

Marriage is a source of protection,warmth,happiness and arguments. It's easy to love but difficult to stay in love. That's life

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peachpurple 21 months ago from Home Sweet Home

a marriage means forever, bind into one, unless you take marriage as a hotel, married today, divorce tomorrow. time to check out

jj 18 months ago

i don't want to be in this marriage where you get abused. Before marriage things looked so good, never knew his other side - abusive violent side. Calling me names, hitting me and also injuring me (had 4 stitches on my chin)

So nowadays marriage is more like business deal: men look for women with money or women look for men with money.

Kaayenaat 18 months ago


I just want the answers of my points below.If there's someone, please reply.

1) I am a girl.I always had a fear that after marriage, I have to change my sir name.But that's something I really don't want.I don't want to lose my individuality.

2)After marriage my life will become a bundle of new responsibilities.I will have to give my whole time to my family ( call me a servant, of my new family).Then what about my career? I know that my new family will never allow me to study anymore, as that will ruin my family,or say disturb my relationship.

3) Am I allowed to enjoy with mah friends, just like I was enjoying before marriage?

4)I have heard from normally 95 out of 100 couples ,that marriage is just a fun of some days or say weeks.And afterwards it becomes a curse, nothing else ,trust me!

5) My parents had served me from my childhood till this date ( I am 17 years old), so I think this is the time when I need to serve my family with my rocking achievements.So is this the time when I should leave my family to start a new life.Our parents are supposed to be a boon for us on this planet.So, may I ask--"Should I give first priority to my husband and his family instead of my paresex ?

6) And I also know it very well that even after giving first priority to my husband and his family, I will be on his second priority ( As he will give his priority to his parents in the name of--" Maa toh ek hai, beevi toh hazaron mil jayengi").So what I want to ask is that -"Am I having 100 parents"? ( Haha)

7) Is life more beautiful with friends+career+family (Real family) rather than a bundle of responsibilities+ new family?

8)Almost 99% persons marry just for the sake of sex, yes this is the reality friends admit it!

kaayenaat 18 months ago

5) *parents.

Simmi 16 months ago

Marriage iz like living in hell..

mohd shabir 15 months ago

In present age almost 80 percent boys and 90 girls are want to marry.they dont want to achieve something in their life or to give the response of the investment of thier parents which they are spending on them. The main purpose of boys getting married is to make sex and the some girls are also interested in such type of activities but mostly want to marry such a person who has a lot of money means they are interested in the wealth of others.. so I request everyone to avoid yourself from marriage till u get something in life and everyone try to do something unique in his life ..and than to marry ..which become a source of good and a happy life...

Principle 4 months ago

Thoughtful article.

While making any decision it is of utmost importance to make a list of pros and cons. This article does a great job in that regard for the decision to marry. However, as the author points out, we are strongly wired to seek companionship of another and there usually we do not make the decision to marry on a completely conscious state but just follow our heart. Therefore we usually understand the pros and cons of marriage after marrying.

Good luck to everyone. Marriage is very difficult for most of us, and probably an impossible mission for a lot of us.

Prof Dr D P Singh 3 months ago

Marriage is a bonding between two families to celebrate their achievements, happiness and sorrowfulness. Survival in old age is difficult without partner and family. Marriage has been a part of human culture for thousands of years.

TheGod'sHonestTruth 3 months ago

Well getting married certainly has it advantages if you were very Blessed to have met the Right Person to share your life with instead of being all Alone all the time with no one. And many of us men Weren't Blessed that way at all since we Never met the Right Woman. And the ones that are Married with their families have so very much to be Thankful for since their life is so very much Complete. The way i really look at it is that the times have certainly Changed today and so have the women Unfortunately since so many women today have their Careers making a very Great Salary which they Never made years ago which certainly has Changed them for the Worst since Most of them these days are so Very Greedy And Selfish and will Only want the Best and will Never settle for Less at all. So for many of us Good men out there that were really Hoping to find Love which you can see how very Difficult it is for us since it does Take Two To Tangle when many of us men are Not To Blame at all. This really makes it a very Disadvantage for us Unfortunately to be Single And Alone all the time which i had just mentioned this already when many of men Should've been all settled down by now with our own Good Wife And Family that we still Don't have today.

Ana 3 months ago

Marriage is important, it can make your life stable at one thing. But before you deal with it, make sure that you are ready and everything does come from your heart.. your not playing around.

And when you get in, it means you already know the advantage and disadvantage of it. And you welcome all of those.

MARRIED 5 days ago

I success to every one to marry and get children... so that lawyers gets rich, economy gets bigger, markets sell more, goverments be happy while you suffer with your partner to grow up a another slave like you. Give the last bit of your miserable life in the harsh system. Marry and get use to be slave of your partner, your children, your goverment. Marriage is like the cage but love is the free bird. You put it in the cage and cage kills it. So Work like a dog all your life and die alone somewhere around kitchen.

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