27 Signs That Your Husband Still Loves You
It is important that you know signs to watch out for, in order to be sure your husband still loves you. If things do not seem alright, then you need to do something before your marriage faces serious challenges. Below are 27 signs he still loves you.
- He seems to always be on the same wavelength with you, finishing your thoughts and sentences. He remembers what you say. He listens to you with a smile in his face; a man who is in love with his wife listens to her.
- He takes care of your needs. When he is out with his friends or a tour, and he spots something in a shop window that he thinks you need, he picks it up for you because he’s thinking about you always. If a man truly loves you, he’ll always look for little ways to make your life better, be it covering you a blanket when you’re cold, charging your cell phone even when you don’t ask him, or serving you the better piece of chicken when you’re not looking.
- You’re always a part of his big plan in life. The things that matter to you matter to him. If he is planning to go on vacation, he makes the plan with you. He speaks about his future and his dreams with you and you have a prominent place in them.
- How he behaves when you are out in public says a lot about how he feels about you. If he walks with you shoulder-to-shoulder, and holds your hand instinctively when you’re in a crowd, or places his hand on your back while crossing the street, then he is committed and proud to be with you. And he likes showing you off. If he keeps off you in the public, he is either hiding something or he is embarrassed with you around. If your husband doesn’t love you any longer, he’ll either trail several feet behind you or get out in front and lead the way.
- If he trusts you enough to share his problems and insecurities and seek your advice, it means that your opinion matters a lot to him. If he doesn’t make any important decisions about his own life without hearing your opinions and having a discussion with you, he loves you.
- He treats you with spontaneous displays of affection. He wraps his hands around you or stands closer to you when you are among friends. He kisses you in public and is proud to show you off to anyone; it’s a way of letting the world know that you’re the one he loves.
- If he allows you to answer his phone calls, it means there’s absolutely nothing he wants to keep concealed from you. Men aren’t fond of allowing their wives to answer their calls. So when your husband lets you grab his phone, he is really in love with you.
- If your husband is fond of using the word “we” instead of saying “I” or “me” while discussing and pays you compliments when you least expect it, he loves you.
- He’s very protective of you. If a man loves you, he’d definitely want to protect you and reassure you. If you’re taking a trip by yourself or even if you’re just driving out with friends, does he like receiving your call after you get to your destination? If your man can only relax knowing that you’re safe, no matter where you are, definitely he has a special spot for you in his heart.
- He’s very interested in your life. If your man loves you, he’ll always be eager to know everything about you. He wants to know what you think about and why and what makes you laugh. If you had a bad day or you’re upset about something, he wants to cheer you up, because he genuinely wants you to be happy. He asks questions because he cares about your answers, and he remembers your answers, too. He knows your favorite color and just how you like your coffee.
- He is always ready to offer a helping hand every time you ask him, even if he’s busy, without unnecessary grumbling. He believes helping you out of any tight situation is his responsibility.
- He can’t stay mad at you for any reason for more than a couple of hours. People in love can’t stay mad at each other for long; it hurts both lovers too much. Sometimes, he even swallows his pride and apologizes first even if it’s not his fault in any way. If your husband is generally forgiving, and tolerating of your faults, that is a very good sign that he still loves you.
- He keeps you informed about his life and what he’s up to even though he knows he has no obligation to do so. He keeps no secrets from you.
- He treats you with a lot of respect. He doesn’t stare at other girls when you’re around, neither does he interrupt you in the middle of a conversation.
- You are the one he wants to wake up to each day. He finds that when he is not with you, you’re the last person he speaks to or texts at night. He can’t stop thinking of you. He is consumed by thoughts of you. When you call to find out how he faring, he keeps you on the phone, telling jokes. If he loves you, he will think of you constantly. You’d be the last thing on his mind every time he wakes up or goes to sleep.
- Instead of insisting on his ways, he doesn’t mind compromising. He sacrifices his happiness to see you happy. This means he understands the spirit of give-and-take in relationships and he is ready to ensure you are happy. It could be something as small as choosing a restaurant that prepares your favorite food when you’re eating out, or going to see a movie he didn’t really want to just because you are interested in it, or missing a night out with friends because he wants to be with you.
- He makes an effort to be liked by your friends and family. If he treats you in a way that you think would make your parents and your friends happy for you and he cares about what your friends and family think of him, there is a good chance he loves you.
- He talks a lot. If a man loves you, you’ll find that he opens up really easily to you and talks a lot about everything, be it his life, his work, or even about how annoying his friends really are.
- Does he want to spend time with you or does it look like he constantly tries to find reasons to be away from you? If he loves spending his spare time with you and his physical attraction to you is undeniable, that is a very good sign the wheel of love is still very much working. It doesn’t matter to him what you two do, it is just enough to be with you. No matter how busy he is he doesn’t want to miss a romantic night with you. He loves having conversations with you. He goes out of his way to be with you. Whenever you are around, every other thing takes a back seat because you are more important. And if he has to cancel a date for any reason, he’ll do everything it takes to make it up to you on the next date.
- He stands up for you no matter what you’ve done. A man who truly loves his wife will stand by her side even if she’s on the wrong and criticize her in private, but never ever in public.
- If he has to choose between you and anything else in the world, you come up top, because he doesn’t value anything or anybody more than you. He never forgets your special days, be it your birthday or anniversaries. And he makes sure he buys you a gift to mark the occasions.
- He never wants to hurt you. He doesn’t get annoyed with you even if he’s busy and you demand his attention. He falls in love with your flaws and thinks you’re perfect just the way you are.
- At a social gathering, although he can’t help but notice a beautiful woman, he will be so attracted to you that many of them will slip by unnoticed. He never gives any girl much attention because you are his universe even if he meets a celebrity. The only woman that matters to him is you and your feelings mean much to him.
- You catch him gazing at you adoringly when he thinks you are not looking. When a man stares at you, his affection runs deep.
- If he gazes in your eyes with a sparkle in his, there is a good chance he really cares about you. Men are guarded when it comes to showing emotion.
- If he wears clothes you bought for him with pride, and cherishes gifts you give him, he loves you. Consequentially, every time your husband does don some item you bought for him, he’s showing that he is happy with you.
- If your husband has interest in physical intimacy with you, he loves you. A man having affair easily loses interest in intimacy with his wife, because he has gotten his satisfaction somewhere else. Make sure to look at his body language.
These signs are not everything. You may wish to add yours in the comments. Marriage is not supposed to be experiment or a trial run so handle it with the seriousness it deserves. Marriage should be a once-and-for-all union.
Is it possible for a man to love his wife/girlfriend and still cheat on her?
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Some are the same you mentioed but some are not what should I do
Thank you for writing a tribute hub for friendship and love. I love your hub; it remains me of how much the other person in my life is giving in the relationship as equal of what I give. You are excellent in what you wrote Mister chucksm.
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Thanks Erorantes for your encouragement. I hope you read other hubs.
My husband sometimes he shout at me and tell me one day I will kick you out of my house. So I want to know if he loves me or not
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lena, he might have said that because he was angry for something you did or said. Bu if he was serious, he would have carried out his threat. There is every possibility he still loves you; that is why you are still living together. That your husband loves you doesn't mean that you'll never disagree, but you'll quickly forgive each other and move ahead.
All the 27 my husband has not done any of them, no matter what I do he never appreciate, all he think of is himself alone, even on my sick bed mY husband force me and hv sex with, wen doctor recommend I should not be stress out, he talks to me anyhow in d public. He had no job but I work hard, we are living wealthy we lack no food, we lack nothing, in situation like dis what should one do?
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@Victoria, I am sorry that you are not appreciated by your partner. But don't give up. Try to have a heart-to-heart talk about how you feel about how you are treated. I don't mean nagging. He should be encouraged to find work to reduce the stress on. Lets hear from you again.
Yeah, my husband does absolutely none of these things. I believe in the covenant of marriage but sometimes it's really hard to live with someone who is like this. He's not abusive or anything. He's just not here for me or the kids. He says he doesn't need anyone. He has no friends and has alienated himself from everyone. I'm pretty strong and independent. I have friends and I do things without him but sometimes I would like to have a relationship with my spouse. I'd like to have a partner in life. I don't believe in divorce and don't really want one. It's just frustrating.
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@Lisa, I am very serious I could write this reply earlier, I've been very busy. I am happy to read that he is not abusive, but just staying aloft. I believe he must undergoing some emotional situation, he is trying to work out. I hope that if you don't nag him, he is integrate back to the family when he has sorted things out with himself. All you need to do now is to give him your support as much as you can. Read this hub, it might help to let you know that marriage is not a bed of roses and we should not abandon it when the goings become difficult. https://hubpages.com/literature/There-is-Differenc...
I can honestly say my husband has almost shows me all the above signs. This did not just happen overnight. I have been married for 12 years and with God in my life i truly can say my relationship with my husband has blossomed. We argue yes and this is healthy but we dont stay mad at each other for long.
Men love to be respected and appreciated, and i do this alot and my husband loves me more , Thank you Jesus!
I pray for all you women who dont feel so appreciated, first before complaining about your husband start working on yourself and somehow your husband will see a change in you. Pray over him, love him and trust me a miracle may happen for you.
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Thank you Sheila. Your comment is very educative. You have proved that women don't need spell casters to have a great relationship with their spouses. All that is needed is the right attitude. God will keep and bless your marriage.
First. Replace him with her and you with your husband and reread the entire 27. Does any woman on the planet do any of those things if not somehow all of those for their man? Women seem to not realize that they should treat their man like they would want to be treated. Men are able to resolve emotional problems quicker and with more ease so try to remember you only ever need to say something once, if you don't get the response you want saying it over and over in as many different ways over the course of even freaking years the response probably will never change. You need to realize if we are there we care. We try hard for you in an incredible amount of ways but some how the one or two things that we imperfectly don't somehow read your mind on what you have envisioned are the things that seem to be repeated and obsessived over which drives us further away from your ridiculous 27 ways of fantasy. The day you do all those things for your man you can stay to hope you get them back but maybe you should look at the hundreds of unique ways your man loves you unique to you and your relationship.
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Every guy in the world, thanks for your comment. I agree with you that what is good for the goose is good for the gander, that is why I wrote http://hubpages.com/relationships/99-Tips-That-Mak... Woman should not always be at the receiving end, but must give as well.
Anyone knows here where can i have a marriage counselling?
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@Kath Dy, I can help you. Reach at tonymodus@gmail.com.
My husband do all these things. But I am the problem. I get upset most of the time lately especially when he opposed my ideas. I love my husband so much but I think I just get so upset easy and always see his fault. Sometimes, I challenge him that we might have little break but he does not want to do it. I know I am so lucky to have this man that always on my side and please me all the time. I am 38 maybe my PMS starts.
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Omet thanks for your comment. That you have been able to identify your weakness is a great achievement. The next step is to fix it. Please read this hub ,http://hubpages.com/business/Recognizing-Your-Stre... I will like to hear from you after trying to fix this weakness of yours. Warmest regards.
My husband says he loves me but he only does 2-3 of these tings. :(
Jessica Ray, it does not means that your husband must do all that has been listed here. So far he does some of them shows he cares and if encouraged by your response he will do more. Endeavor to reciprocate his love for you.
The truth is God's word is true. A gentle and quiet spirit is the best way to go. I have been married 24 years and my husband treats me like I am his obsession. Four years into our marriage I was frustrated with the status of our marriage and started searching the Scriptures. What I found there did not jibe with modern thought, but I decided to embrace it any way. Let me tell you, it was the best decision I have ever made aside from placing my faith in Jesus Christ as my savior, My husband treasures me like I never imagined. It took time. Trust God and wait. God delivers.
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Very Loved, thanks for your comment. With God nothing is impossible. I congratulate you and your husband for working out your marriage. It takes commitment.
hello.. want to ask if my partner still love me while cheating on me.. we have a 3 kids and
he having an affair for months, we fight often because of the same reason. i even posted his affair on media he got mad he want us to separate but he always make the first move to make up. if i mad and wants us to separate even ask him why he dont leave me alone and get over with him but he gets mad at me but then he do the first move to talk to me. if we fight we dont talk to each other for one day. i always ask him what he really want, where are we, what plans do we have.. i even said to him if he wants his mistress he can live with her, but he answered to me that he won't leave us.
that he loves me more,maybe he was enjoying the company of the girl that's why he cant stop the affair, the girl had child too and always on the go like partying. and why he always get mad to my relatives and friends if they advice me to leave him. and there a times that i talk to him that i planned to leave the house together with the kids but he don't want us to leave i asked him why? he answered because maybe in time we make things right. after that i thought we already split up. but then he make his way to talk to me even cuddle me at sleep. likes nothing happen. i dont know if he doesnt care or he doesnt want to talk about the issue. i dont know to think. advice please...
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Hello Hanz! You are welcome. I can help. I have helped many couples to regain the spark in their marriage. This is email I received on the 8th Oct 2016 from a woman with similar problem: Mabusiswe majodina
Oct 8 (13 days ago)
to me
I really need a help with mentorship in as far as my marriAge is concerned. Am a 31 years old woman.we have been married for 2yrs and6 months, but early this year he cheated on me and he confessed.I really dont know what I have done so wrong! Please help!
After I counselled her, she sent this reply:
Mabusiswe majodina
Oct 11 (10 days ago)
to me
Good Morning!
Thank you very much for the links you have send me. They have made me realise my weaknesses as a wife and am Praying that God may change my character, mould and shape me. I really need His guidance.
Be blessed.
I don't charge any fixed amount for my counselling, I only ask for donation from those I help. My mission is to save as many marriages from collapse as I can. You can reach me through: tonymodus@gmail.com for personal discussion that can help. Whatever we discuss is kept secret. Warmest regards.
Anthony Modungwo.
Well i thought I had been married for almost 6 years. But just found out he's still married to someine else. I love him but I feel sick thinking I've been lied to. But he said he'll get it taken care of. He's away alot due to his job and that makes it even worse. But he dose most if these things. Just right now all this has put a big whole in my heart.
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Lgw, write to me through my email tonymodus@gmail.com. I had replied including some links but the links are not opening here. Best wishes.
Anthony Modungwo.
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Hanz, if you still need help you can still write to tonymodus@gmail.com even if you have no donation to make. Best wishes. Anthony Modungwo.
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ezzy, if you want to be counseled on what to do contact me at tonymodus@gmail.com. I have helped some women to identify what they need to do to restore the spark that existed in their marriage. You can do it.
My husband dose just one of these signs, which is to pick his calls. But I know his doesn't love me. He doesn't care about my kids nor my happiness. He only cares about the son he has out of wedlock. He mentioned it to me few years back that if I can't cope, I should file for divorce. What will I do I this situation?
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Nky thanks for contacting me for help. if you want to be counseled on what to do contact me at tonymodus@gmail.com. I have helped some women to identify what they need to do to restore the spark that existed in their marriage. You can do it. Don't be discouraged and don't contemplate divorce yet.
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hubby cheated on me whilst pregnant with 4th child and after, married 22 years had a good marriage but now I don't trust him at all. The conversation seems forced most of the time don't know what to do? How to save my marriage I have only ever loved him we have 4 beautiful children youngest is 4 months.
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Hush. that for contacting me. I believe the situation is temporary. Just keep showing him love as usual. Something may be bothering him that will go away after some time. Try some of these:
1. Respect him
Men adore women that treat them with respect but this is where a lot of women fall short; they don’t respect their man enough, but they expect to be respected instead. Respect is a key for creating a strong desire and building magnetic attraction. Men have a very strong need for respect, and it’s the core of their self-esteem. Show your man respect by not trying to control everything, since respect is a man’s greatest emotional need, and is what a man most needs to see in a woman for a long-term relationship. When a man feels he isn’t respected, he will become cold, unresponsive, and simply withdraw his love. A man feels valued when he’s respected, and when you make a man who loves you feel this way, he’ll be willing to go the extra mile for you.
2. Make him laugh
Try to be humorous by telling jokes. A man feels good about you when he sees you smiling. He feels good about you when you playfully flirt and are having fun. Laughter relieves tension and also tends to make people feel better instantaneously. Getting a man to laugh regularly is a powerful way to instill in him that you’re a key ingredient in Life’s recipe for happiness.
3. Trust
A simple but powerful way to earn a man’s trust and get him to open up to you is by sharing your deepest fears and secrets with him first; so reveal something about your past that you wouldn’t share with just anyone. For a man to be deeply attracted to you, he needs to feel good about you. By unveiling one of your innermost layers to describe a formative experience or a private thought, however shocking, unpleasant, or unremarkable, you will demonstrate trust. Trust, when reciprocated, breeds closeness. If you can muster the courage to lead the way in establishing mutual trust, you will also lay the groundwork for a strong relationship.
4. Be kind
Be the kind woman who makes her man desire her. When your man desires you and misses your presence whenever you are away, then you’ve won the key to his heart. Let your presence be valuable to him, and try to create a feeling within him that will make him want to be with you always. When you treat him with kindness, he desires you even more because you love him the way he wants to be loved.
My husband gives more attention to his phone when he's home. It hurts me a lot. What do I do please?
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Esther, thanks for contacting me with the confidence that I can help you and I will. Read this hub of mine:http://hubpages.com/relationships/7-Ways-to-Win-a-... Handle this situation carefully without allowing it to deteriorate further by trying out some of the tips giving above. Give me feedback about the outcome. Best wishes.
I have a big problem...i feel that my husband is no longer inlove with me. Everytime i ask him how his day at work or even trying to make him open up to you, i feel that i am being ignored. Is this a sign that he is not interested of me anymore? When it comes to being around with family and friends, he opens up but when it comes to me he's not. One time i saw him gazing his eyes and cant stop staring at a family member of mine (a woman) of course and felt like he was into her. I was really hurt inside, i didnt know what to do. Ever since then we have a family get together and that person shows up, i just walk away because i dont want to get hurt inside. Please help of what i need to do.
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Anonymous thanks for reaching me with your problem. I will help you to find out by yourself what have gone wrong. Let us start by checking if you are not the cause of the problem by going through this:http://hubpages.com/relationships/Things-Women-Do-... You can win your husband back by doing some of these things in this hub:http://hubpages.com/relationships/7-Ways-to-Win-a-... Let me know how it went.Best wishes.
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Shelly, I have read your comment. It is unfortunate your boyfriend does not support you financially. One thing you need to know is that men don't like women who are dependent. They can tolerate your demand for financial assistance once a while but when it becomes frequent, the relationship will run into muddy waters. Go through this hub, I believe you will be able to gain something from it:https://hubpages.com/relationships/Things-Women-Do...
Me and my husband have been married for seven years it well be 8 years in Feb. My husband works for a apartment complex . He use to go to work everyday and love the job .but things have gotten worse over there in the last few months .. and they been having to work,extra hard, . A bout a week and a half ago my husband had meet a young women that was staying with someone over at the apartment complex. That has three children and no dad in the pic well he didn't no her very long about a week or so she asked him if she could use his phone and he let her she add her self to his face book account as a friend then she started asking him for money so she can get her kids something for Easter so he loaned it to her .. then she started message him all the time.. But she,says she just wants to be his friend .. But he got mad at me one night and told me he was trying to get with her .. I told him I have known her a week he told me that he was falling in love with this women he doesn't even know her.. he was trying to hide that he was even talking to her but I have seen the message between them
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Joy Hudson, I have read this comment. What is happening between you and your husband is not new. How you handle it will determine the final outcome. Read this hub and try to do those things you can and all will be well again. http://hubpages.com/relationships/Treat-The-Causes... Let me know how it went. Best wishes.
Hi! Always when suspecting him cheating, he says he does not do those things. Is it true?
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Laylah, I read your comment. You stand a better in a better position to know if he is telling you the truth from past experiences. Has he lied to you in the past? If he has been lying to you in the past, there is possibility he is lying, but if he has told you the truth in the past then you have no reason to doubt him. If you are still suspicious then read this my hub:http://hubpages.com/relationships/34-Signs-That-Yo...
What if he is criticising you or calls you immature in front of his female friend always taking her side
Nikita, I don't fully understand your question. But a man who criticizes or ridicule you in the presence of his friends don't love you. However, you should be able to distinguish a joke from serious talk. Speak up if you don't like how you are treated. Best wishes.
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