It comes natural to most females to have that mother instinct, that certain feeling that when something is wrong with your children you know it. Well you must use this same instinct with your mate.
You can read his body language, listen to his words and read between the lines when needed. Look into his eyes, watch his facial expressions. Just make sure you always notice if his habits are changing. Keep in tune with his needs and wants.
Be aware if he is not talking as much? Is he coming home later than usual? Is he drinking or smoking more? Is he avoiding answering his cell phone when he sees your number?
Well maybe it's time to put a little fire back into the romance and keep it there, to keep your husband Happy, before someone eles does.
Do What Comes Natural
1- Give him a good morning kiss or hug when he wakes up.
If you wake up beside him in the bed, snuggle next to him and put your head on his chest, and put his arm around you. He'll love that feeling of protecting you with his strong arm holding you close.
2- Listen to his same old stories and jokes again and again.
Sure you've heard them a million times, and sometimes you roll your eyes to the top of your head or mimic every word waiting for the end of an outcome you know too well. But just think back to when you first started dating or just got married and he told these funny or interesting little anecdotes.
Think about your smiles and your laughter you gave him then, come on you remember, come on, now bring those feelings to the present moment when he's on stage again. Enjoy the moment, and be the positive audience he wants and needs you to be. This will keep your husband happy.
3- Give him a shoulder massage when he comes home from work.
If you are there when he arrives, take his brief case or bag and set it down. Immediately start massaging his shoulders while he is standing. Lead him over to a chair and sit him down, while you continue to relax him. You don't have to be an expert masseuse.
This will help to ease the tension of a hard days work. As you are massaging him ask him how was his day. And really listen as he tells you. If you feel your massaging skills are a little rusty, no problem, just Google "massage techniques" for some ideas.
Sports Sports Sports
4- Buy him 2 tickets to his favorite Sports game.
What's his favorite sport? Every man seems to be interested in one sport or another. Does he like golf, baseball, basketball, football, hockey, soccor, rugby, drag racing... Whatever sport turns him on, treat him and his best buddy to tickets to an upcoming event. His buddy can be you or one of your children, or grand-dad or whomever he chooses.
If buying 2 tickets to his favorite sport is not in the budget, never fear, here is what you can do. Order a sports event on cable. This will be less expensive than the actual tickets, and your cable company will bill you later on your momthly bill.
No cable. No problem. Schedule some alone time for him to watch his favotite event on TV. Have some beer in the fridge or whatever his drink is. Have his favorite snacks on the table, and his favorite dinner ready for him, on a plate in the fridge as well. Tell him about the food, so he can pop it in the oven during half time.
Leave the house, take the kids and any other relatives and pets. Monitor the game from your car radio so you will know when to arrive back home. Go shopping, visiting, to a park, etc., enjoy your time away as well.
Give him at least 45 mins to an hour after the game is over before you return. This will give him time to savor the good feelings he has about enjoying his favorite sport. Plus it will give him a little time to himself, and a chance to start missing you as well. Doing this for him once in a while will definitely keep your husband happy.
Sweets For Your Sweets
5- Put his favorite candy on his pillow.
Once you or him have made the bed (just like they do at the hotels).leave him a treat. If you don't know what his favorite candy is that's ok for now. But he is your husband and this is something you must find out and add to your memory bank. Just notice what gum he always chews or what mint he likes and put one or two of these on or under his pillow now and then.
6- Bake him a birthday cake.
Hey, it's his birthday. Don't order a cake from the bakery. Simply find an easy cake recipe on Google, and bake the cake yourself. If you feel you don't have the time to do this or just don't want do. It's still easy. Go to any grocery store: Buy 1 box of Betty Crocker, Pillsbury or other cake mix. Follow the easy baking instructions on the package, Add icing to the finished cake and put your special message on the icing using a different color icing or a tube of icing (which is easy to write with).The tube of icing is easily found in the cake mix isle at almost any grocery store. He'll love that you took the time out to bake it yourself.
7- Help him watch his diet. Don't have too many sweets and fattening foods around the house. Always fix his favorite foods using low salt, low fat, low cholesteral, low calorie and low sugar whenever possible. Become an expert nutritionist for yourself, your husband and your other family members and friends.
Dont Take His Feelings For Granted
8- Don't ever disrespect him in front of his friends.
This is a definite NO NO. No matter what the disagreement or situation, wait until you both get alone to iron out the problem. This cannot be stressed enough. A man's male ego is a super powerful source of strength. If you knock his ego down in front of his friends or relatives. You may crush him so bad that it will be very hard for him to forgive you. He may want to forget about the incident but his friends may remind him, or just being around them can be a constant reminder of how you dissed him in their eyesight.
9- Don't bring the car back with the gas tank on almost empty.
If you use his car or the two of you share the car don't always let him be the one to fill up the gas tank. When possible get a fill up once in a while. If your money will not allow a fill up, at the very least put back the gas in the tank on the same gallon mark it was on when you started your errands .example: 1/4 tank, 1/2 tank, 3/4 tank etc.. You may not be able to do this every time, but when you do he will appreciate it very much.
10- Don't talk while he's watching his favorite TV show.
If he initiates the conversation, be brief with your comments or answers to his questions. Don't add conversation about the kids and school problems, leaky faucet troubles, bill problems, etc. Treat his TV time just like you would if you were at the movie theatre, and quietly respect the relaxing and enjoyable atmosphere.
LOVE Is In The Air
11-Tell him you Love him.
It doesn't hurt to hear the words once in a while. When was the last time you told him? Just don't think that he is supposed to know you love him since you're still with him after all these years. Actually say the words "I Love You" to him daily or a few times a week. Watch the difference it makes in his love expressions to you.
12- Let Him Be The Man He Was Meant To Be.
Let him take care of you physically, financially, and gallantly. This will keep your husband happy. Chivalry is alive and well.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
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Rob on July 18, 2014:
Way easier that this, ALL you have to do is keep the place clean, get into cooking, baking, keep him satisfied in bed and don't fuss or nag, you don't need to do anything else, he'll be happy as pie.
IRYNA on April 05, 2014:
IN MY OPPINION ,I SHOULD LIVE ONLY FOR HIM!HOW ABOUT ME AND OUR FAMILY!
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Joseph Kaiser from Daytona Beach, Florida on February 01, 2014:
My advice, a couple should keep a black book. Things that you want should be kept in the black book, so when holidays or birthdays come, one spouse just has to look in the black book and knows what things the other wants. There will be a lot less disappointments on gifts received!
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Life can be very displeasing especially when we
loose the ones we love and cherish so
much.My husband abandoned me and my 2 kids and
said he wanted new adventures.I asked what i
had done wrong but he said nothing.He continued
paying our bills but moved in with another
woman i was so frustrated and at times i will
cry all night because i needed my husband by my
side. all thanks to Dr Osaze, i was nearly
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to appreciate what he has done for me. i have
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my life story
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vennis on April 04, 2013:
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Joy222 on April 02, 2013:
My boyfriend and I were happy as far as I could tell and I never thought that we would break up. When his cousin died in a tragic car accident he went back to Philippine for a week to be with his family. I could not go because I was in the middle of entertaining out of town clients for work. He did not seem to be upset that I could not go so I let him be. The next thing that I know, he reconnected with an old friend from high school that he had a crush on years ago and they started to have an affair! I had no clue what was going on until a month after he came back from Philippine.He proceeded to see both her and I until I saw him sending her love text message one night. I confronted him and he told me the truth about what happened. We broke up and went our separate ways. Neither of us fought for our relationship. I was angry and decided not to be upset about it and just keep it moving. Then after about a month of not speaking to him I became sad. I wanted him to tell me that he wanted to be with me and not her. I contacted Dr. Kim for a love spell and he totally helped me! he was able to get him back to me, He had a lot of regrets and felt bad for not fighting to keep me and for cheating in general. He values our relationship so much more now and we are together now! You can also get your lover back with the help of Dr, Kim contact him through this email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Maria on April 01, 2013:
Thanks to Dr Love for letting me have my ex back
Thanks God I found you Dr Love by helping getting my Ex-husband back because I don't believe i can remarried Him again after divorced him in 2011 but ever since the divorced am still deeply in love with my ex husband Christopher ,I really do love him very much with my heart . We have got together in 2008 and I divorced him in 2011 ever since then I have been trying to get him back while reading Prayer Books, The top relationship guide books Until Sunday that i surface on Google to seek Advice On how i can get my ex Husband back after divorced him 2yrs ago and i cant stop thinking of him and loved him then Google Recommend me to Contact Dr Love spell caster Email address Drlovespellcaster@yahoo.com Tel +2348038096203 , i did contact Dr Love on the same day which him Assure me that i would have my Ex husband back within 24hrs , i don't believe at first that Love spell work but it Come to Reality to me on the Next day when i saw my EX husband knocking my Door in the Morning and say he want to talk something serious with me Immediately he Kneel Down and give me ring that he want to marry me again
Thanks Dr love for helping me get my Lover back and put smile on my face forever .
Maria from Australia.
VICKY on March 31, 2013:
I lost my 10 years relationship during April. My ex left me with so many pains and since then i have been heart broken and shattered. I have contact 15 spell casters and 10 of them has rip me off my money without any result. I have Emailed so many sites online looking for a good spell caster till i was directed by a 16 years old girl to email@example.com with website: firstname.lastname@example.org At first i never believed him because he was requesting for some amount of money to buy items, it took him three weeks to convince me and something occur to mind and i said let me give him a trial. I was very shocked when Robben called four days after i sent Dr, shiva the items money. He apologies for all he has done wrong and i am very happy that we are together today because he proposed to me last night. I will advise you contact email@example.com because he has done wonders in my life and i believe he can help you out in any problem Vicky
laura234 on March 28, 2013:
Life can be very displeasing especially when we loose the ones we love and cherish so much. in this kind of situation where one loses his/her soul mate there are several dangers engage in it. one may no longer be able to do the things he was doing before then success will be very scarce and happiness will be rare. that person was created to be with you for without him things may fall apart.
That was my experience late last year. but thank god today i am happy with him again. all thanks to DR AKPAKPA, i was nearly loosing hope until i saw an article on how DR AKPAKPA could cast a love spell to make lovers come back. There is no harm in trying, i said to my self. i contacted him via email: firstname.lastname@example.org. words will not be enough to appreciate what he has done for me. i have promised to share the good news as long as i live.
natasha on March 26, 2013:
I can’t thank you enough for all that you have done for me. About 2 year ago I my partner had misunderstanding, we had both made BIG mistakes in our relationship. He ended up moving away from me to pursue a new life. I knew in my heart that he would be the only one to make me happy. I was relieved when I found your email:email@example.com on a site about what you have done. I requested 1 to 2 day casting of the reunite us love spell and within 3days frank company had relocated him back to our hometown where I still lived. We immediately reconnected and move in with each other I can’t really thank you enough Dr Okoja.
sabrina on March 24, 2013:
Thanks to Esango Priest, after reading the post of Debby,Dave and Constance,about how Esango Priest help them get back their jobs and Lovers, I quickly wrote him and explained how Scott abandoned me on May 14th for another lady and wanted him back, Esango Priest said I should not worry anymore and he assure me he's gonna be back to me in 48hrs if he could get some items in the market to cast the spell, I wait patiently and he got back to me after he got the items and went to the mountain, the Next day at 7pm Scott came to my door step and knelt down, I open the door and I was shocked so I let him in and he said he will never ignore me again, we had sex that night, I was so happy and tried telling Esango Priest about this success but he said all he wanted was for me to share the testimony and let people know how real this is, People all over the world Esango Priest is someone I can recommend and testify am a living witness of this. You can contact him via email for any kind of spell.
Viva beauty on May 26, 2012:
Love is something difficult and not easy as many young guy's think.but the issue is loving to each other take place,truth,care and faithful i think everything will be mmmwaaaaaah!I LOVE MY HUSBAND SOOO MUCH,I PROMISING HIM THAT I'M HERE FOR HIM.
kathy on April 17, 2012:
I fee like my husbands pulling away from me and i don't know why!!
BIGCSSHOP (author) on April 15, 2012:
Catgaze, I agree it is a wonderful thing if your partner is your best friend. But I personally disagree that one would be doomed or lost if he is not.
Catgaze on April 08, 2012:
My love is infact my best friend. I am sure that you all have thousands of things to say and claim.. In the end if your partner is not your best friend then you are forever doomed and lost?...
BIGCSSHOP (author) on March 22, 2012:
Hi tania and fati, Sorry to hear about your relationship problems.Good luck and I hope everything turns out alright for the both of you!
fati on March 22, 2012:
I love my husband and he loves me more than I do. But the thing is he is working abroad and me staying in native country. I told several times to take me there. But thinking of financial tight, he is avoiding. I just want him to feel that he can't stay there without me.
tania on February 26, 2012:
i love my husband but i cant keep him happy because of my mother in law she always tries to make us fight n thts the reason v cant live happily together:(
BIGCSSHOP (author) on February 18, 2012:
annie, thanks for stopping by. glad you liked the info. it's never to late to wish you an awesome New Year!
annie on February 17, 2012:
hi good tips
BIGCSSHOP (author) on January 29, 2012:
Hi, Thanks so much for taking the time out to leave a comment. I'm so glad these tips will be of help to you!
martha on January 27, 2012:
it is a good thing to know how to do the right thing before doing any thing .......
Simran on January 10, 2012:
Thanks a lot now i will this tips on him
BIGCSSHOP (author) on January 05, 2012:
Thanx to you Hina for checking us out. Have a great New Year!
Hina on December 25, 2011:
Thanx for such a nice tips
BIGCSSHOP (author) on November 13, 2011:
Hi swetha, Thanks for sharing such a personal matter.The only advice I can give you is to talk to a marriage counselor, or your church pastor for the best advice and help with your problems. Stay strong and stay positive. Each day always do a few things that make you happy so you can stay strong and happy with yourself. So much good luck and happiness I wish you!
charles on October 19, 2011:
i love my wife so much thanks for advice it work for me a lot.
swetha on September 23, 2011:
hi, i got married 1 and half yrs back and stay in a joint family. his brother hav 2 kids. thr had been nthg between us for the 1st 1 yr as we wr nt aware of it. but all these 1 nd half yrs is nt at all good. he always prefer and enjoy with his mom and his brothers kids, he never take me out, wont get anythg unless i ask and nt spending time with me. i started asking him for all these but its makes him irritated and is staying away with me. i feel too bad and i cry for his affection ndlove, but he doesn't want me to cry too, he says its irritating him.
pls help me thr is nthg between us, my mother in law always pointing that am not conceived and wan me to go for test. my health is becoming worse without happiness, he scolds me always and make me cry for silly thing.
don't knw wat to do, i love him a lot. i want to be happy with him and have kids, i wan his love pls help me out pls
BIGCSSHOP (author) on September 19, 2011:
Thank You From France for taking the time to let us know how you treat your husband. I certainly agree a woman should be independent, her being so can strengthen the relationship with her husband. Yes the air of your independence does make most husbands wild and even want you more. Just as I suggest things for her to do for him these same rules apply for him to do things to keep her happy too! Thanks again for stopping by!
BIGCSSHOP (author) on September 19, 2011:
Thanks carefulone for sharing. I'm not a marriage counselor but I do believe they give great professinal advice. Try to contact one in your area to help resolve your issues. Best of Luck!
From France on September 11, 2011:
Voilà, just checked French websites in relation to this subject. Almost all of them says: be independent and care less about your husband ! Make him go crazy about you.
From France on September 11, 2011:
Well, i don't know in which country these suggestiona may work but definitely not in France! I am an independent woman even though married. My husband gets a nice word if he deserves it and when I want to say it. I don't agree with an artificial nice word every morning in either side. Cooking. It is my husband who cooks. I just help around if not too tired after work and busy with our child. If one day my husband wants to leave, nothing will stop him and definitely I'll do nothing. That's why it is so important for woman to stay independent.
carefulone on August 03, 2011:
I'm in a bind with my marriage...its not so much him but issues with myself! I love my husband so much...but I'm having trouble keeping the past in the past. He did something dumb but I stayed with him...I just have moments when I have flashbacks of what I walked in on...I want my marriage to work, we have been together for 7 yrs. now and i need advice on what to do to keep him happy and how to get myself to put this all in the past where it belongs1 It's killing me inside and I'm doing it to myself I think but I really need to get this resolved. I don't want something thats haunting ME from the past to kill our marriage!
BIGCSSHOP (author) on April 08, 2011:
Thanks Sona, I'm glad you were able to see some positive results from adding just a couple of caring expressions to your love life. Great success, prosperity, joy and happiness to you and your husband.
Sona on April 03, 2011:
I love the advice u gave it does help I'm married with my hubby for 8 months I'm 21 and he is 21 but we didn't show each other that much love. I kiss him on the cheek everytime he's leaving for work and I give that shoulder massage everytime he comes back from work . Thanks a bunch
angeleyes on March 29, 2011:
hi der, thanx 4 ur article,m a counsellor n i have done everything prior reading ur article. my husband is C.I.D officer n his work is too confidential n time consuming. i try allot n m still trying to overlook his unaffectionate behaviour,its always me who is doing everything,from moral,physical,n financial matters. i don't even get a hug without asking. n its js 2 months 2 my wedding n derz no spark at all!!!
BIGCSSHOP (author) on March 28, 2011:
Heremia, Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving your positive comment!
Heremia from New Zealand on March 28, 2011:
Great hub, very informative...
BIGCSSHOP (author) on March 26, 2011:
Hi RachaelLefler, Thanks for your comment. I can see your point. Best of luck to you and yours.
Rachael Lefler from Illinois on March 25, 2011:
my boyfriend actually seems to enjoy cooking for me more, I don't like cooking much because I don't like touching hot things! It's actually more suited to the toughness of a man isn't it?
BIGCSSHOP (author) on March 07, 2011:
Hi HartMurengu, Thanks for visiting. I'm so glad you liked our hub.
BIGCSSHOP (author) on February 18, 2011:
jessica, I'm glad some tips were helpful to you. I'm certainly no expert just a woman who has years of experience of keeping her man happy. Good luck in your relationship.
HartMurengu from Nairobi on February 18, 2011:
Thanks for the tips. Nice hub.
Harriet Murengu on February 18, 2011:
Thanks for the tips. Nice hub.
jessica on February 13, 2011:
some tips r usefull but i xpected xperts to give better tips
BIGCSSHOP (author) on January 12, 2011:
Hi sweety, Thanks for sharing. Sounds like you have a great relationship with your husband, that's wonderful. I wish you both a very Happy New Year and continued marital happiness.
sweety on January 12, 2011:
Thanks for the tips few things i do for my hub but few things i have got better to understand after reading i am married for 8 years and still enjoying my married life as i am newly married. my hubby always praise my cooking.
BIGCSSHOP (author) on November 19, 2010:
So glad you enjoyed our hub. It takes time and patience when you're working on a good piece of art. Keep up the good work.
KK on November 18, 2010:
I am in a live in relation for more than two years and everyday i learn a lot of how not to piss him off.....
i read your article and many points are true in my case....
eg...he wants me to say a sweet good mornin with a smile everyday or he gets mood out...
he wants me to listen to every stupid joke of his eventhough it is boring.....but when i listen as if there is nothing in the world i want to do but hear him talk, the results are amazing....i get showered with lots of affection....
and he does not like it when his self esteem gets damaged by some small word in my conversation with him....
and one thing i learnt the hard way is that sit with him and watch his fave TV show and enjoi it (or pretend).....the closeness that comes later feels good.....
but i had to endure a great deal of fights to reach this small understanding
but in all i found that reading articles and books about men and how to lead a happy loving and peaceful life with them, helps a lot lot lot.......
this article is one such pearl i got in the net
BIGCSSHOP (author) on November 13, 2010:
toughwoman, you've got the right name. Hang on in there. Many great blessings of health, wealth, happiness and long life to you and yours.
toughwoman on November 11, 2010:
hope, marriage is hard, i have been married for 14, but just recently i have been taking care of him like men want to be taken care of.. do not give up, talk to him, don't pressure him. love him and little by little reel him back to your family.. once again marriage is tough. it is worth it fo all of you. read books. that helps me too.
BIGCSSHOP (author) on November 03, 2010:
Thanks his angel, for your advice. Your're certainly right let him be his own self and don't try to change him.
Thanks hope, so much hope for sharing. I wish you luck with your situation. Sometimes when things get very complicated as you express maybe you need to seek professional counseling. I dare not make a decision for you for there are always two sides to every story.Good Luck!
hope on November 01, 2010:
Hi I am married with my husband for over 12 yeaes and have kids. sometime ago, he left me and my kids for other girl he said he loves. We already had kids that time and tried to fight our marriage and my kids but no use. We parted ways for almost a year and he came back coz he missed our kids and for that he wanted us to be together. I love him though and wanted to fix our marriage and whatever was my shortcoming was, I wanted to make them up to him and also give them a second chance. during those times, he still have communication to the girl coz they had a child. I accepted it. Now, I am not sure if he is starting to do the same again. What I know that he's been lying to me several times. In my mind, I just want to end our marriage but what about our kids?
his angel on October 31, 2010:
one thing for sure is not to try and change your man, ive tried it and he just got worse. i made peace with who he is and left him to do his own things his own ways, and i promise he got better, now im in love all over again, wow the man i met just came back
BIGCSSHOP (author) on October 21, 2010:
Im, thank you for your advice. I know many readers will find it truly helpful. "I love you" are such powerful words.
lm on October 07, 2010:
Saying "I love you" before leaving for work or after your phone conversation can be a habit. Try it. It works. I love my husband so much. I know his happy with me,we can sense it.
BIGCSSHOP (author) on September 03, 2010:
Thanks Lisa and deeppriya, We all deserve true happiness. I trust you will take steps to add the happiness you deserve to your life.
Lisa on August 12, 2010:
I Luv my man alot and he also Luvs me,but sometimes he makes empty promises,he had never taken me out for a romantic dinner,He loves sex alot and everytime we have it he enjoys it and keeps on begging for more
deeppriya on August 06, 2010:
i luv my husband very much but all b com useless
BIGCSSHOP (author) on July 21, 2010:
Thanks shreya and he calls me beauty for your comments
he calls me beauty on July 20, 2010:
thax i think this will be of great help. thank you.mrs Tumuhimbise.
shreya on July 20, 2010:
really true thing and will help people to come out of problems.... thanks for ur points...
BIGCSSHOP (author) on July 13, 2010:
Thanks createmyeconomy for your suggestion. It is good to have a man's point of view.
createmyeconomy from USA, Australia on July 13, 2010:
Good ways fer sure. I would add making love. I have been divorced 2x and both times that played a major role in the divorce.
BIGCSSHOP (author) on April 30, 2010:
Thanks so much Bigo for your comment. You are truly right!
Bigo on April 29, 2010:
I can say that cooking is also a way to make your hubby to fell that you really care about him. But there are few wives who didn't know to cook initially, but still they are leading a happy life with the husband. Few man likes you to be the way you are and few want you to change according to their taste, YOu need to understand how your person adn act accordingly.
BIGCSSHOP (author) on January 16, 2010:
gogo, i appreciate your words...there are a lot of suggestions i can share with you... but only you and he know all the small and large details that causes your relationship troubles...if 10 or 20 minutes is all you have, then i would suggest you make the most of that time doing what he and you like best, remembering a little compromise is o.k....and soon you should see that 10 or 20 minutes become even longer... here a site one of my readers suggested http://www.marriage-counselors.net/ Lots of luck
gogo on January 14, 2010:
i don't know if we can make it....... itrst him i love him....but he is so far so unconnected imiss him ... he is busy in his work i only hav 10 to 20 min to communicate...,.. plz help me out
BIGCSSHOP (author) on October 20, 2009:
Thanks for all your comments.
It's nice to get a man's point of view on the subject. Thanks Melaman.
Melaman on October 19, 2009:
It's not true that food is the way to a man's heart!
Sorry, but it's a fact.
My wife cooks really great meals, but I couldn't care less!
What I want from her is affection, intimacy, friendship and communication. We're not close at all, and I'm thinking to leave this marriage after tolerating her ways for 8 years! I've begged, pleaded and asked her many many times to be the person she was when we met. Her response is simply: I'm making too much fuss. But I don't think sleeping in my own bed in my own room is a fuss...I think it's absurd!!
EYES CHAMbERS on February 22, 2009:
MEN LOVE WHEN YOU COOK AND ESP bAKE FOR THEM! THE MORE HOME MADE MY MOTHER GETS THE MORE HER FIANCÉ FALLS IN LOVE WITH HER!