A man is generally the heart of the family. He provides physically, mentally, and financially, so here are a few tips at making your husband happy:
1. Don't Nag. Men often let nagging go in one ear and out the other. If you want your husband to listen to the important things that you have to say, do not constantly critique him over little things.
2. Pick Your Battles. Even though your husband may not be the cleanest guy in the world, if he goes out and does extraneous labor so that you can put food on the table, you can do your part in picking up after him. So next time, instead of yelling and getting everyone in a bad mood because your husband left his dirty drawers on the floor, pick them up and put them in the hamper. (Tip: Try placing a clothes basket with his name on it so that he knows where to put his clothes. This will also help you by keeping his muddy clothes separated from the other laundry.)
3. Cook Dinner. Of coarse, every man's dream is to have a wife just like his mom. Believe it or not, men think of their spouse as their security. Cooking dinner at night as opposed to getting take out will bring back that homey feeling, plus it saves money.
4. Run His Bathwater. Let your man know that you appreciate everything he does by doing small gestures like turning on the water when he gets home for a bath.
5. Leave all Distractions out of the Bedroom. The bedroom is strictly for you and your spouse to spend time together after a long day. Leave all distractions including the television, phones, argumentative conversations, and yes, even your kids out of the bedroom.
6. Get Him Ready for the Next Day. This may sound crazy, but laying your spouse's clothes out for him and packing his lunch the night before will actually help to avoid stress the next day. Arguing in the morning can ruin any one's day, so help organize your spouse as you would your child.
7. Let Him be a Man. Suggest or make arrangements for him and a group of guy friends to hang out. This will make it easier for him to feel less tied down with the married man role.
8. Boost His Self Esteem. Make positive comments on his appearance, and if you would like for him to change something in his appearance, suggest the change with a phrase like "We should..." or "You should try...", but yet again, do not nag the change; leave it up to him, after all it is his appearance.
9. Speak Positively About Your Spouse. As hard as it may be, leave your problems at the house. Do not tell your friends and family bad things about your husband; this will give room for them to tell you how to deal with your relationship and in the end leave them with negative thoughts about your husband. (Warning: If you are in an abusive relationship get help immediately from local authorities or a counselor.)
10. Never Down His Family. Even though you or your husband may not approve of the way his mother does certain things, do not bad mouth her. Your husband will lose respect for you if you talk about his relatives, so simply make suggestions on how to "make things better".
With these 10 tips, you will be on your way to a more stress free, happy relationship in no time at all.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Livi on January 30, 2014:
This is being his slave actually, you shouldn't be doing all this tf?
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the brazillian mans wife on July 05, 2012:
My husband is very old school. I stay at home with our 2 young children, 4months and 6 years old.he works hard every day and when he comes home the house is clean and I always have a nice homemade dinner on the table, (no boxes or cans).He is a very loving,loyal, and honest man;a devoted father who can't wait to see his kids and spend time with them.We are vry lucky because we are also very young. I am 26 and he is 28. Every marriage is different but I do everything for him and in return he does everything he can for me. I enjoy taking care of him and doing little things to make him smile.chores don't really feel like chores because I'm taking cae of my family. I think the key to success in any marriage is being not only a spouse and companion, but being his best friend. The best friend he tells everything to before his closest buddy.
stevi on June 06, 2012:
i can do almost all of these things for my man because i love him with all of my heart but number 7 is ridiculous!!!! if i was married to a man that didn't want to feel like he was in the "married man role" then we would be getting a divorced because that would tell me that his family isn't the most important thing to him and i couldn't deal with that!!
tornadobabes on January 08, 2012:
So what do I do when my wife only works part-time and i have been pretty much-singlehandedly supporting my family on a commission-only income? She complains about her 12 year old van, keeps clamoring to go on vacations, and also complains that I never answer my phone calls from her at work, always come home late, and she complains about doing all the laundry and the cleaning(which is not true). I need some advice
HappyWife on October 05, 2011:
Eh, I leave out 4 and 6. My husband prefers to choose his clothes and meals for the workday. He doesn't bathe, but if I ran his bath, I'd light a few candles and hop right in. My husband and I have been married 11 wonderful years. He fulfill's my needs psychically and emotionally. In return I do the same including intimacy. We smile through out the day and keep our attitudes positive daily. Neither of us nag. It's important for both the husband and wife work at fulfilling each others needs. Trust, communication, respect and intimacy is the key to a happy marriage.
noor Dubai on May 09, 2011:
yes? exactly? this working for me. this 10 tips for husband this perfect.
Candican on April 07, 2011:
mrsbudryzer, I have a concern that your marriage is not biblically based. Caring for your husband in every way is what God intended as a woman is the helpmeet of her husband. If you lose yourself in putting his clothes out for the next day, I wonder how deep your character goes?
God intended for a woman to care for and submit to him and he must love her. I don't see what is so difficult in that? I am so grateful for hub, even though it is not biblically based in brings forth biblical principals which are correct. Thanks, Hub!!
Heremia from New Zealand on April 02, 2011:
Great hub, thanks, will write more soon...
mrsbudryzer from Jersey Shore on March 13, 2011:
All of these suggestions seem a bit outdated to me. Unless you already have these characteristics...such as a very nurturing care taker type of role...I think you may end up changing too much of who you are to keep someone happy. What happens when the real you comes out? Or if you get tired of things and woah, start to nag about them. My husband is my heart, but there is no way I will cater to his every whim and lose myself in the process. I see a lot of that in your suggestions.
rekha on October 17, 2010:
i had arranged marriage 13 years ago.
My husband just says everytime, " he does not care, give me divorce and I am happy by myself."
I just don't think that i can take it anymore.
any suggestions to have this marriage keep going.
i just feel that there is no more love if there was one.
Mora Osefagborho on October 17, 2010:
You know what, I'm not yet married but will be soonest. But i do think you are doing a great job and i'm going to keep all this and use them to spoil my man when we get married. good job
leah on October 12, 2010:
hi khood i have a question how do i get my husband compromise on how to spend money im am moving back home and he is about to go on deployment , and he wants a new laptop and im all for that but how can i make him see paying the bills come first he never wants to talk about it and always "says whatever " like he doesn't care anymore any advice
Lainey Parker on July 25, 2010:
I have read this and tried it with my family and it worked for me. My husband and I haven't fought or argued since I put these things to use. Our family is a lot happier and my husband and I have found the spark that we lost after we had our children.
khood1357 (author) from Milledgeville, GA on February 22, 2010:
Thanks for reading... It is definetly hard work to keep up a relationship and there are many different circumstances but this has worked for me! Thank You!
Alfreta Sailor from Southern California on February 22, 2010:
Hey Khood I like this hub, and your suggestions. For me that ship has sailed, however I did implement most of those things that you highlighted and they do work. Welcome to HubPages.
LaVieja from London on February 22, 2010:
Are you kidding me?? I guess if it works for you...