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10 Reasons to Attend Your Spouse's End of Year Party

Do you dread the idea of having to attend your spouse's end of year party?

Some of these office parties leave a lot to be desired. There's a cash bar and free drinks, the music's terrible, and you don't know anyone.

And so you wonder why you need to go.

Maybe your partner can go on their own. No one will notice, right?


It will be noticed, and you will be asked about it.

Whether we like it or not, when we marry our partners, we unknowingly agree to certain things in marriage. Attending their office parties is one of them.

I absolutely dreaded going to my husband's work functions up until recently. In fact, I even pretended to be sick one time to get out of it. That's all history though, this year I changed my mind frame about it and actually had a good time.

So, don't dread it, embrace it as a chance to get dressed up, eat some good food, and meet some new people. Who knows, maybe you'll meet a future client or your next boss there. You never know.

Office Parties don't have to be boring, crazy, embarrassing or painful...they CAN be fun too!

Office Parties don't have to be boring, crazy, embarrassing or painful...they CAN be fun too!

Types of Office Parties

Employees Only Parties

Some companies are small and have tight budgets. They will organize an office party for their own employees. It could be a small dinner out, or a team building exercise that lasts a couple of hours.

Family Day Parties

These parties are usually held on a Friday or Saturday and last for the majority of the day. Children are welcome and outdoor games are usually organized. Sometimes these parties take place at a theme park, and can consist of picnics, braais (or barbeques) and/or treasure hunts.

Formal Dinners

Partners are usually invited to these parties. The dress code is formal or smart, and the evening is split into dinner, dancing and prize giving. The evening might start with an hour or two of cocktails and snacks, giving the employees and partners a chance to mingle.

Themed Parties

Depending on the size of the company, these most likely include partners, but not always. Themes can range from Black and White, to Christmas, Arabian Nights, Tropical Islands, or to the Academy Awards.

Dress Up Parties

These parties are normally combined with a theme. This could be a dress up theme from any decade - 20s, 80s, etc. It could be a James Bond, Mafia, or even a colour coordinated theme to dress up to.

An occasion to wear that Little Black Dress or suit that you haven't worn in years.

An occasion to wear that Little Black Dress or suit that you haven't worn in years.

10 Reasons To Go to Your Spouse's Office Party

  • Love and Support. By accompanying your partner to their company party, you're showing them that you support them and what they do. They might be awarded an achievement, or they might be nervous about attending the party. With you on their arm, it will set them at ease and give them something to show off at the same time!
  • Bling and Dress Up. It's a good excuse to get all dressed up. Pull out that dress or suit you haven't worn in ages, or buy a new outfit that you can wear again and again.
  • Faces to Names. At last, you'll be able to put faces to all the names of people your partner has been talking about for the past year.
  • Networking Opportunities. It's a good opportunity to meet new people, especially if you find it difficult to network in other situations. As your partner to introduce you around.
  • Dance Like No One's Watching. There'll be people watching, but if the music is good and you're having a good time, you won't even notice. Pretend you're in a nightclub or back in high school. Just let loose and have a good time. It's not like you're going to have to face everyone on Monday again.
  • Free Drinks. Most office parties have an open cash bar, meaning that the drinks are free. If you drink, just make sure you have a designated driver, or that you stop drinking (and have water and coffee) an hour or two before you leave. Drinking doesn't mean getting drunk out of your mind. You can have a few drinks mixed with water and still have a good time. Or even have a good time on fruit juice and sodas.
  • Gourmet Food. Depending on what type of party it is, most often, companies will go to venues or hire caterers that put together delicious, gourmet style food. Everything from bite sized Hors d'oeuvres, to picnic baskets, to five course meals and buffet dinners.
  • A Night Out. If you have children, this is a great opportunity to enjoy a night out with your partner. Once the function is finished, don't end the evening there. Go out for coffee or more dessert afterwards. You could even make it an all night event and stay in a hotel for the night.
  • Making a Point. It's a fact. People get attracted to other people at work all the time. Your marriage might be solid, but why give someone else an opportunity to cosy up to your partner on the dance floor or next to them at the table? By enjoying the night with your partner, you will show all the single eager beavers out there that your partner is completely off limits.
  • Learn Something New. Whether you're snapping pictures of the venue and considering it as next year's Valentine's dinner or your sister's twenty first birthday venue, or whether you're spending a few minutes talking to someone interesting, there are a lot of things you can learn and take in from these parties that you normally wouldn't have.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.


Melanie Chisnall (author) from Cape Town, South Africa on January 09, 2014:

@Bill - Not quite sure how to respond to that one or if I'm supposed to. Yikes. Makes me think I should get my butt into gear and go to my husband's 8-hour cricket game on Sunday. Though, I'm sure he'll forgive me if I don't. I'm trying to make more effort to get out of my shell and attend his functions. In anycase, thanks for stopping by to read and I hope things aren't as bad today as they were when you wrote that comment.

Bill on October 12, 2013:

My wife always weasels out of going to my work functions. It really hurts. Has been happening for 10 years. I guess at some point I'll just divorce her. Not over just this but goodness what an unsupportive bitch

Melanie Chisnall (author) from Cape Town, South Africa on December 07, 2012:

Haha Dianna! I'm with you there...staying at home in comfy clothes would be my choice too! But sometimes you need to do things you don't like, and most of the time - you end up liking it anyway! :)

Melanie Chisnall (author) from Cape Town, South Africa on December 07, 2012:

Shiningirisheyes - I've said it before and I'll say it again....you have a way with words! Thanks for popping by to read and comment ;)

Melanie Chisnall (author) from Cape Town, South Africa on December 07, 2012:

Hi Glimmer Twin Fan! It's weird you should mention that because when I had the idea in mind for this article originally, it was supposed to be a funny post. But then as I wrote it, it changed direction :) Thanks so much for reading!

Dianna Mendez on December 05, 2012:

Good tips for attending a spouse's party. I have attended many in support of my hubby. Enjoyed them but would have preferred staying home most of the time with a good book.

Shining Irish Eyes from Upstate, New York on December 05, 2012:

You got me to thinking. I never attended any of my spouses parties...maybe that's why I'm now divorced!!!!!

Great read and I may be twisted but found great humor in it as well.

Claudia Mitchell on December 04, 2012:

I was not sure if this was going to be a funny list or not but upon reading your list is right on the money. I have to say that I think it is important to go to a spouse's office party. It may not be someone's favorite thing to do, but you've listed the perfect reasons why one should. Voted up!

Melanie Chisnall (author) from Cape Town, South Africa on December 04, 2012:

Hi MsDora - It's sad but true, there are co-workers who do that, try to worm their way into other people's relationships, and it's all that much easier when the spouse doesn't attend these types of parties. That aside, it really can be a lot of fun - this was the first year I had such a good time. Thanks for reading! :)

Melanie Chisnall (author) from Cape Town, South Africa on December 04, 2012:

Haha Bill! You and I are more similar than I thought. I'm also an introvert...a major one, and I usually avoid parties as well. Would much rather spend the night at home, going to a movie or out to eat. At least it only happens once a year! :)

Melanie Chisnall (author) from Cape Town, South Africa on December 04, 2012:

Hi Anil and Honey - Thank you so much for taking time to read and comment...I appreciate it!

Melanie Chisnall (author) from Cape Town, South Africa on December 04, 2012:

Lol, Robie - Yes, exactly! Hehe ;) Thanks for mentioning about the video....that's strange, it was working earlier. Will sort it out now!

Melanie Chisnall (author) from Cape Town, South Africa on December 04, 2012:

Thanks Janine! :) At my previous job, spouses weren't able to attend the events due to budgets, but we normally did things that were casual. Still, I think it's important for companies to at least have one event a year where the spouses can come. Even if the employees need to pay for them to come - it's good to put faces to names.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on December 03, 2012:

I agree with you MelChi. Your co-workers watch you with your spouse and decide whether or not there are holes in your marriage that that they can try to get through. Partying together has great all-round benefits!

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on December 03, 2012:

All good reasons, Mel; I just happen to be an introvert who hates parties. Happily, Bev and I both work for ourselves so I am spared this torture. LOL

Anil from Kerala on December 03, 2012:

halo, very interesting subject and nice narration. thank you for sharing

Robie Benve from Ohio on December 03, 2012:

Totally agree, we should go to all those parties, if not for else, to show everyone how lucky he is! ;)

Great tips, thanks for sharing. :)

(PS check on the video, it did not show)

Janine Huldie from New York, New York on December 03, 2012:

Loved this article and knowing the background made it all that much more special. You have made me wish Kevin's holiday parties had spouses be included. Thanks for sharing this one though and have voted up a ton and shared all over!!

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