What happens if we are both doing the no-contact rule? My husband cheated and says he feels bad that he hurt me. He said he needs help and time to figure out his mind. He claims he doesn't want to lose me. However, he has not contacted me and I haven't contacted him. What if we are both following the no-contact rule? Can that harm us even more?
Answer
It is usually the injured party who adopts the no-contact rule, as a means of recovering from the breakup. You husband has admitted cheating and advised you he wants some space to figure out what he wants. This is why he has not contacted you.
You should also be using this time constructively, to consider how you feel about his infidelity. Do you truly believe that you can forgive him and, if so, will you ever be able to trust him again? You also need to consider any underlying problems in your marriage and determine if these may have led him to stray.
If you do decide to reconcile, I strongly recommend you both attend marriage counseling, to help you overcome your husband's cheating. In the meantime, use the time wisely and ask yourself if you really want him back.
