Yes, you are. While I would never recommend staying in an abusive relationship, have you considered that you may have a fear of commitment and are using this to justify ending things?
Silent treatment as a form of abuse is very specific. As stated in the article, there are other reasons why people may not be willing to engage. Have you considered that your partners may have found you intimidating and thought it best to let the dust settle?
There is clearly a pattern here and you need to establish why you instantly react in the way you do. You may also find it useful to discuss your feelings with a relationship counselor.