I can feel your pain. I was married to an alcoholic who withheld all forms of physical affection to punish me. It was unbearable.
You are right; this is a problem for some women. The article is more about what "most" women do. Not all women have a high libido, and more men than women typically struggle with not feeling that their needs are being met.
It is painful when your partner withholds physical affection, whether you are a man or a woman. I don't have an answer. I took all I could, and then I left. I could not live in a marriage that was cold and distant.
Each relationship is different, and only you can determine what you can endure.