It sounds like you both want to feel loved and appreciated, but you don't feel heard. Communication is essential in relationships. Start at the beginning. You love her. She loves you. Once you establish that common ground, then you can move forward. What do the two of you want to achieve together? Sit, without judgment, and just talk about what you really want to see in your marriage. Open and honest communication is the beginning. Remember, you can't control her, and she can't control you. You can only control yourself. A partnership is not about managing the other person. It is about working together to create something greater than the two of you. I wish you the best.