My man shows me love with flowers and helping me clean. But he's not affectionate. I get he's not as affectionate as me but our sex life is not great. He does not consider me or pay attention to me. Rejects me regularly. I try things like lingerie or massages, but if he wants to have sex it's quick and has no intimacy, I feel disconnected from him. There's no intimacy at all. It's making me not want to sleep with him anymore as I feel rejected and unwanted if we do. How can I establish intimacy in my relationship?
It sounds like your husband is trying. That is a good sign. Have you tried cuddling while you watch TV? Maybe going for a walk after dinner and holding hands? Intimacy takes time, throughout the day. Spending time together, gently touching. And you may need to ask for what you need. I sometimes must remind my husband that I need a hug, or I ask him to hold me when I feel lonely. Sometimes they just don't know what we need. Try asking him to kiss you slowly. Make it last and make it sexy. Ask for what you need and see how he responds. I wouldn't give up, he sounds like he's trying.
Updated on June 29, 2020
By Deborah Demander Reno