I can't say why it is that you feel hurt. Perhaps you want his attention and you feel jealous when his attention is elsewhere. It is normal and healthy for both you and your husband to have friendships outside of your marriage. If he is hanging out with the guys and having fun, then he is probably annoyed with your constant texting and interrupting his guy time. Maybe during the time that he is gone, you could find something to do with your friends. If you don't have friends, perhaps you could find a hobby or something to do while he is away. You don't need him to validate you. You must create your own happiness within yourself. You are partners. His job is not to make you happy or to validate you as a person. His job is to be your partner through life. And your job is to be his partner, not nag and complain every time he isn't right by your side. It's okay for both of you to have your own friends and your own hobbies.