My husband and I have been having problems. Last year he wasn't too sure what he wanted in life and thought he wanted someone similar to an ex-girlfriend. Everything was going decently until recently when I expressed my insecurity because this ex is now single. I was worried. I tried to talk to him about it and he got mad at me and became distant. He stopped telling me he loves me and showing affection and keeps saying he's trying to figure out what he wants. I feel at fault. Do you have any advice?
First, remember that you are not at fault. You are not responsible for your husband's choices and decisions. Only he is responsible for his choices. You are responsible for you.
What do you want from this relationship? Get clear on what you want, and clearly and kindly express your truth to your husband. You don't deserve to play second fiddle while he hems and haws about other women.
You deserve to live a happy, fulfilling life. Hopefully, the two of you will create a path that allows you to both feel complete.
Updated on April 4, 2018
By Deborah Demander