If you are a stay at home mom, why can't you get those things done? I think it makes sense for your husband to want to spend time with the kids and helping with bath and bedtime is a great way to do that. I imagine he feels frustrated that he works all day, and then you expect him to work when he comes home. I stayed at home and homeschooled my children for many years. It is not an easy task. It is more than a full-time job. Gently remind your husband that you are tired too, and would like a break from the kids. Be honest. Perhaps you could come up with a schedule that engages him with the kids and lets you have some much needed alone time.