That's a tough one because some people are just more innately jealous than others. I think if I wanted to meet up or texted an old beau that my husband would probably be very angry - though he would probably let me do it anyway. I would probably offer to meet WITH the friend AND my husband because I would not want to jeopardize my hubby's feelings. Boyfriends - same thing. It all matters about proving to people sometimes that may be a little insecure that truly you are above board. If you are doing nothing wrong, what is there to lose?