My boyfriend of 5 years has felt like he is second due to a long history of us breaking up and him having intercourse with other women then coming back to me. As this has been repeated, I've then decided to move on and got into a relationship and then cheated on him with the boyfriend of 5 years. Since I didn't leave new boyfriend at that time, he now uses that against me to justify the disrespect he has toward me. How can we work this out?
I would say that definitely counseling needs to be entertained. It is really, really hard to put back trust when that has been violated - and on both sides, it sounds like. It is easy to blame someone else rather than look at our own frailties and mistakes. If it is worth saving the relationship, would invest the time in talking to someone and seeing if it is possible to work it out.
Updated on July 14, 2019
By Audrey Kirchner