So you've been on four dates with a guy and you're wondering what to do next. It seems like you're wondering if not holding hands with a girl on the fourth date is a signal. From what I can tell, you want things to move to the relationship phase faster than the guy wants to. If you're sending off that signal, it might mean trouble. If you're applying this pressure and he feels it, he might be backing off for a reason. When you text somebody or call them and they don't respond, you should take it for what it is - they don't want to talk to you for some reason. You need to play it cool. Back off. If he comes to you, then great. If not, go on your merry way and date some other guys.