I want to save my relationship, but due to my insecurities, I've betrayed my partner with repeated questioning about her past that she confided in me and trusted me not to use it against her. She feels very neutral to me towards now, and said she can't trust me. She says she forgives me but she can't forget. I reflected and told her about the areas I know I messed up in and shared this with her. How can I get past this?
You're on the right track. Keep doing the reflective work, take ownership of your betrayal, and continue to share it with her. She may need to hear it several times before she begins to feel reassured that you've changed. But there are no guarantees that she will forget and want to renew the relationship. Sometimes with loss comes a transition to new growth within. Continue to do your work to address your insecurities.
Updated on March 2, 2020
By Janis Leslie Evans