It isn't easy to get through when all they want is for you to side with them rather than guide them. Your daughter is still in the "denial" stage.
Unfortunately, you will alienate her if you try to push through that as long as she is in that stage. Intelligent people eventually learn from their mistakes, and then they will seek advice rather than confirmation. Your daughter is smart because she is your daughter, so she will get there. When she does, she will come to you for guidance.
In the meantime, it's best if you ask her what she wants from you. When people ask me for help, I first reply by asking if they want guidance or if they just want an ear to listen to their woes. Sometimes that question wakes them up. But even if it doesn't, they will respond with more appropriate behavior rather than hanging up the phone on you.