So you've been going out with a guy for four months and you want to take things to the next level? Ironically, if you want to see where he stands with you, you might want to pull back a bit. Say you're not available the next time he calls, something like that. Be difficult to pin down for your next date. Say you have other things going on. Whether you're the boy or the girl, it's usually the case that the one pushing for something makes the other one back off a little bit. Anytime somebody pushes somebody for something they may not be ready for, it's natural for the other one to pull back a bit. Of course, you could also simply tell him what you want. A lot of guys don't know what to do to get to that next step, be it sex or becoming boyfriend/girlfriend. Odds are he's just as afraid as you are that you'll reject him. You may need to take the lead.