I have been seeing a woman since May. Our spouses passed away and we found out that her husband was my wife's doctor. We've both just come out of bad relationships and have, I feel, great chemistry between us. Our first two dates were two and four hours long. She seemed strongly interested until the third date which we had in her apartment. It felt right being with her but not in that intimate setting. I don't know if she's insecure or if she's truly giving mixed signals?
Based on what you have told me, I suspect that she is very interested in you, but is still not ready to take your relationship into the bedroom. You did nothing wrong. She didn't realize that she would feel under pressure having you in her apartment. Once you were there she felt nervous and uncomfortable because she didn't know how to tell you how she was feeling. Be gentle, patient and understanding with her until she feels more confident, as it seems to me that this is a relationship worth pursuing.
Updated on March 16, 2020