I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years. We both have a son who is turning two-years-old. have never met his parents and he has never met my parents too. He came to see his son 3 times when he was 3,6 & 8 months old. I tried everything for the relationship to work but he broke up with me via text message saying he's sorry for what he has put me through and he has feelings for another girl. Should we meet up to know why my boyfriend wants to end things and also to tell him to forget about his son?

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I'm sure you want to know why he ended the relationship, and you did everything to ensure the relationship is active. But, think about this: He 'dumped' you for another girl. I wouldn't suggest you meet up with him to find out why he ended the relationship. He might even not tell you the truth so as not to hurt you.

I know you'll be psychologically tortured to know why he broke up with you. You would want to know why and what you could do to get back your ex.

It is obvious before he ended the relationship, he was seeing the other girl (maybe for a few months or weeks).

It's better you don't know because your ex used an inappropriate method to inform you of his wanting to end the relationship.

About the child, let him know through text or call him. It's sad he wasn't there for you and the child (and he is right he has put you through a lot. You had to take care of the child on your own).

Find the appropriate means to let him know he has to forget about his son (until an appropriate time if you wish so).

Don't contact him for a few days. A week is appropriate. After one week of not contacting him, contact him through text or call him and let him know of your decision (you won't allow him to see his son. He needs to forget about him until when the child would be ready to know his father).

Updated on November 6, 2019

Original Article:

How to Respond Maturely When Someone Breaks Up With You
By Benny Alianess

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