I calmly told my husband I am upset because he called me a "bitch" in public and hadn't apologized. I also raised the issue of him refusing to discuss any major issues with me. He is now giving me the silent treatment, which is so typical of him. I used to get so upset with him I would start yelling. However, that only led him to say I was "mentally ill." So now I just don't engage. Last time, it took three days for his "silent retreat" to end. Is this abusive?
Yes, the silent treatment is a type of emotional abuse. Also, him referring to you as being, 'mentally ill,' is another form of abuse, commonly referred to as 'gaslighting.' The latter can have serious implications for your emotional well-being.
Remember, it is perfectly natural for couples to argue. However, you both need to establish boundaries. Not insulting each other in public should be top of that list.
Updated on May 15, 2018
By C L Grant