I am in the no contact period but only two days passed. My ex has already contacted me on the phone and we had a conversation that lasted for one hour. We only spoke about things in general and didn't discuss our breakup or anything related to it. Is it fine to talk when he was the one who called me? After that, I was feeling compelled to text him and was left feeling confused as to whether to contact him or to let him contact me.


You need to think carefully about this. Unless your ex had a specific reason for calling you, there is no justification for you to spend an hour on the phone chit-chatting with him. As you have discovered, this has only served to leave you feeling extremely confused.

You need to question his motives for calling. If he had rung to say that he was extremely sorry, didn't want to break up with you and could you meet up to discuss what had happened, then fair enough. That is logical. However, he didn't do that.

My advice would be not to contact him and to refrain from any further conversations that serve no useful purpose. You are still in a vulnerable state of mind and the last thing you need is to be kept dangling on a piece of string. This only gives you false hope.

Good luck with this.

Updated on January 8, 2018

Original Article:

7 Powerful Benefits of the No Contact Rule After a Breakup
By C L Grant