Cheerful, cheery Gemini often gets judged on the anvil of perfect Virgo. Virgo is just correct, as far as they are concerned and if you are hurt or tearful, then that just proves they are right. Virgo is naive and virginal. Its not that they are mean or vicious. It's just that they are right, in their eyes. If you are up to it, ask for a "sit down". Show your feelings, ask for theirs. Don't be surprised if they fail to understand. If they admit that you both need to work on the relationship, then you can go from there.