At the beginning, you’re asking how to deal with him. At the end of the question, you’re asking for breakout techniques, and how to end the relationship? Those are two totally different questions. If you’re staying with him, it’s very simple- you two must get on the same page as far as how to raise your children. If you can’t , then you need counseling. You can’t raise kids together without being in agreement. Plain and simple. The kids will suffer and your relationships will be destroyed. Not only must you agree on the standards of raising children but also on how to apply those standards.